Kid Confidence: Help Your Child Make Friends, Build Resilience, and Develop Real Self-Esteem

by Eileen Kennedy- Moore

Help kids cultivate real, lasting confidence. In Kid Confidence, a clinical psychologist and parenting expert offers practical, evidence-based parenting strategies to help children build satisfying relationships, embrace personal growth, and discover the freedom that comes with a quiet ego-a deeply rooted sense of competence, confidence, and compassion for oneself and others.

Genres: Parenting, Nonfiction, Psychology, Childrens, Audiobook, Self Help

328 pages, Paperback

Published June 16, 2022

Reviews

[Cari · Rating 5 out of 5]

I found this book on my library's parenting shelves, and it was a great discovery. My child struggles with many of the concepts in this book. I loved the approach through cognitive behavioral therapy, which I have also engaged in. Many of the tips were things I am already doing, but there were many to help enhance the work at home, including scripts for parents to use. I don't think parents can actually control how a child behaves, but these tips will help encourage your child so they can work on building their own confidence.

[Ann T · Rating 4 out of 5]

Thank you New Harbinger Publications and Netgalley for an ARC In return for my honest review.

This book is a really useful book giving actionable ways to assist in helping your child’ increase their confidence. It was easy to read and a book I will refer back to over time.

Thank you for the opportunity to read and review this book.

[Kshitij Dewan · Rating 4 out of 5]

3.5 stars

really like the worksheets & sample questions

[Tarsila Krüse · Rating 5 out of 5]

Kid Confidence is a gem of a book covering the fundamental needs of every child to thrive.
It is divided into three sections: Connection, Competence and Choice, and offers comprehensive explanations about each with dialogue examples and plenty of strategies to improve with a wide myriad of situations.

Through CONNECTION children can develop meaningful kind relationships. Through COMPETENCE - children can recognise their limitations while giving themselves opportunity for growth and love to learn. Through CHOICE children can understand their own voices, choices and values and make choices that matter to them.

What I personally found very interesting is that this book has been helping me not only to be a a more conscious and supportive parent to my son but also to myself, aiding in developing a better understanding of my own personal frictions with self-esteem.

A wonderful read for parents or anyone who has contact with children (up to teenage years) to support them become more confident, caring, empathetic and competent within themselves.

[GONZA · Rating 3 out of 5]

Interesting, mostly because it compares old theories about self esteem and recent studies focused on children and adolescents. Moreover there are very easy to comprehend tips and suggestions to apply immediately in our relationship with the children.

Interessante, specialmente perché paragona vecchie e nuove teorie sull'autostima, basandosi su recenti studi effettuati su bambini ed adolescenti e non persone in generale. Inoltre ci sono dei suggerimenti che si possono mettere subito in pratica nella relazione con i bambini, siano essi i nostri figli o alunni o etc.

THANKS NETGALLEY FOR THE PREVIEW!

[Lilly Guirguis · Rating 3 out of 5]

I liked it but I didn’t love it.

Why?

Good parts:

Organization and good psychology research for children
Relatable for parents and people who work with kids

Bad parts: repetitive stuff
Lengthy and some scenarios were a bit exaggerated.

[Julise · Rating 3 out of 5]

It provides some techniques to help kids to practice and gain the confidence, self-esteem. It is helpful and workable.

[Aubrey Bass · Rating 3 out of 5]

There was some good things to learn and consider but I didn't find it as insightful as I was hoping it would be. I could have been in a non-fiction reading funk that contributed to that though.

[Book Him Danno · Rating 5 out of 5]

As a mother, aunt, friend I am surrounded by kids pretty much every single day of my life. Being around kids of all ages and metal status I watch see which of the kids have confidence and which ones pretend to have confidence but struggle with negative talk or self doubt.

I am always looking for way to help my kids become confidant without putting others down or bring rude to those who didn't accomplish the same reward.

This book is a breath of fresh air. I am sick of children being reward for things they have not accomplished. This book will help parents feel confidant as they send their kids out into the world knowing they have a health self esteem that is based on who they are, their capabilities and their desires.
This book is a guide for kids as well to help their friends who might struggle with negative talk and self esteem issues.

That being said if you have a A typical kid this book might not be the best guide but it will have helpful information for you.

Thank you to netgalley and the publisher New Harbinger Publications for the advance copy of Eileen Kennedy-Moore and Michela Borba Kid Confidence.
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[Scarlet · Rating 5 out of 5]

Kids need Connection, Competence and Choice to cultivate confidence in themselves.

The idea is to turn down the harsh critic, if they develop one. Encourage positive friendships. Stop shame and encourage guilt.

With real self-esteem, the kids are too busy living to get stuck on judging themselves.

Concentrate on cultivating a quiet ego, which is defined as a state in which ‘ the volume of the ego is turned down so that it might listen to others as well as the self in an effort to approach life more humanly and compassionately.’

- Awe
- Mindfulness
- Flow
-Compassion
-Elevation

[Mrs C · Rating 5 out of 5]

I got a lot of useful tips from this book on how to handle your child's self-esteem issues, i.e. when your child doesn't take compliments well, they put themselves down, and they can't see their talents/achievements. Right off the bat, I found a checklist of what to look for in different age groups (2-4 yrs, 5-7 yrs, 8-10 yrs, 11-13 yrs, 14-16 yrs). I also appreciated the fundamental needs for developing self-esteem. This book is a keeper.

[Meli Rivera · Rating 3 out of 5]

Has a lot of practical applications for children in the elementary to middle school age group.

If you have younger children, still a good read to get you in the habit of saying and doing these things.

I felt like some of it seems common or obvious but I read and study a lot of this topic. I read this hoping to help my kiddo realizing a few chapters in the my child is more anxious and doesn’t have low self esteem.

[Anindya Phalita · Rating 5 out of 5]

Menurut saya ini one of #MustRead book mengenai parenting yang berkaitan dengan Self-Esteem pada anak. Di setiap part dijelaskan contoh-contoh kasus yang sering muncul pada anak beserta beragam strategi yang mudah dipahami dan dipraktikkan langsung oleh orangtua.

Part 1: Terkait perubahan Self-Esteem di setiap tahap perkembangan anak dan bentuk-bentuk afirmasi yang dibutuhkan olehnya.

Part 2: Terkait cara membangun strong and satisfying relationships antara anak-orangtua, mengatasi sibling jealousy, dan cara mendampingi anak yang merasa friendless.

Part 3: Terkait cara mendorong anak untuk mempertahankan usaha, resiliensi, dan membantunya melepaskan unhealthy perfectionism.

Part 4: Terkait cara membantu anak meluaskan sudut pandang, membuat keputusan dengan tepat dan menemukan personal value dalam diri mereka, terutama pada anak yang merasa dirinya "berbeda" dari anak-anak lain.

Part 5: Terkait cara membantu anak coping with bullying, teasing, and other meanness.

“When children are able to fulfill their fundamental needs for connection, competence, and choice, they’re less apt to fret about their worth as a human being.” -Eileen Kennedy-Moore, Phd

[Tiffany · Rating 4 out of 5]

Really good, useful strategies I will reference! Spells out specific reactions to specific situations, with explanations that really make sense and aren’t necessarily what you would assume (Some of these types of books give advice that seems obvious).

Focuses on ages 6-12 — Recommend to any parent

[Erika · Rating 4 out of 5]

I wish every adult (parent or not) would read this book and stop this “everybody gets a trophy” culture. Constant praise doesn’t do anything to help build a child’s confidence. It is actually more damaging because the child feels pressure to always be perfect.

[Denisa Ostas · Rating 5 out of 5]

Wonderful book!
This was such an enlightening book for me as a parent. I found useful all the given exemples that easily are met in every family.
This is a book I would also recommend to teachers.
I loved this book so much I ordered a copy for myself.

[Bihter Özkıranartlı · Rating 5 out of 5]

Such a wonderful book!
Sheds light on deeper side of self-confidence in kids & shares a lot of actionable tips. It will take its place in my library to refer back any time. 🤍

[Lindsay · Rating 3 out of 5]

Would be worth rereading when kids are older. It wasn’t geared toward the preschool parent

[Amy K · Rating 5 out of 5]

One of the better parenting books I've listened to and one I would buy a hard copy of.

[Heather Friel · Rating 4 out of 5]

Has good tips and advice on how to respond to your child. I enjoyed it. It was a quick audio listen.

[Taryn · Rating 3 out of 5]

3.5

[Koray Koyunpinar · Rating 5 out of 5]

Özgüven konusuna farkli, ama tutarli ve dogru buldugum bir yaklasim. Maalesef Türkce cevirisini pek begenmedim.

[Rhiannon Morris · Rating 4 out of 5]

I have always disliked the everybody gets a trophy for showing up mentality.

It was a breath of fresh air to read a book about building confidence in kids that doesn't insist on constant praise.

Praise is good when warranted but overdoing it has negative reactions.

Kid Confidence focuses on developing the areas in a kids life that can produce negative self talk and explores how to minimize it.

The book is a little dry but for a parent trying to help their child it is a great resource!

[Pammy · Rating 5 out of 5]

Kid confidence is a very well written book. It explains a lot about children and the age groups at what age a child would be doing/developing. This book was very interesting and I think every person that is up close and personal to children should read this. You’ll get great info and advice. I highly recommend. Enjoy! :)