It's Not Your Fault, Koko Bear: A Read-Together Book for Parents and Young Children During Divorce

by Vicki Lansky

KoKo Bear Can Help Children

* learn what divorce means
* deal with changes in their everyday lives
* talk about their feelings
* recognize that their feelings are natural
* be assured that their parents still love them and will take care of them
* understand that divorce is not their fault

Genres: Divorce, Picture Books, Parenting, Nonfiction, Family

33 pages, Kindle Edition

First published December 15, 1997

Reviews

[Madi Ekholm · Rating 5 out of 5]

This very easy to read follows Koko who is a young bear that is caught in the
middle of her parents divorce. She doesn’t understand why she has to have different homes and talks about how the emotions that are evoked at this hard time are not at all a sign of weakness.This type of book is one that is good to have in a classroom for students who are or have gone through their parents divorcing. Reading this book could help start a discussion on how to help a friend going through this emotional time.

[Molly · Rating 4 out of 5]

Despite the amateurish illustrations, this is one of the best read-together books I have found so far about divorce. It's really for both the kids and the parent; there's the "story", but then there are little boxes at the bottom with advice for the parent. It's worth looking at if you're searching for books on the topic.

[Samantha · Rating 3 out of 5]

This book does almost seem a little too nice, but I think that if this is an extreme, it's still a good modeling agent for families about how to best talk to a child about divorce.

[Kelley · Rating 5 out of 5]

Even though it was a little long for my 3 year old. It did help him cope with the divorce.

[Muhajjah Saratini · Rating 4 out of 5]

"It's okay to cry, Koko."

Crying is not a sign of weakness for a child-or a parent. Leaving or being left by someone you love hurts and crying is an honest and natural reaction to feeling sad. --p. 6

Buku ini untuk anak.
Buku ini sekaligus untuk orang tua anak yang hendak atau sedang dalam proses perceraian.

Divorce can be difficult and painful, but divorce itself doesn't damage children. How you handle your divorce, however, can.--p. 30

Sungguh menarik melihat perhatian mereka terhadap perkembangan psikologi anak yang orang tuanya bercerai. Saya harap, di Indonesia juga akan ada buku serupa. Karena ketika sedang diterpa masalah, orang tua tidak jarang butuh pedoman mengenai apa yang harus dilakukan, tapi terlalu cemas atau malu untuk bertanya-tanya bagaimana sebaiknya tindakan yang dilakukan.
Atau, yang lebih mengkhawatirkan, merasa tidak peduli dengan perasaan anak karena sedang merasa terlalu tersakiti. Jadi, kali ini, anak-anak yang harus mengerti.

Buku ini berisi petunjuk bagaimana perasaan anak, proses penerimaan mereka terhadap perceraian, dan bagaimana sebaiknya menghadapi emosi anak agar mereka tidak terluka. Karena tak jarang, anak merasa merekalah penyebab kedua orang tuanya bercerai.

[Michelle · Rating 4 out of 5]

Though the book is a bit wordy for my 4-year-old, we skimmed and discussed it over two nights. This is a thoughtful and useful book. The thing I will take from it and use in my relationship with my son is the concept that his "family" doesn't all live in one house (grandma, cousins, aunts and uncles, even consider those who have died) so it's not so hard to envision his father, still part of his family, not living in his house. It's full of great affirmations and the bottom of each page has tips to parents on how to thrive during this change in your life. Definitely a keeper.

Recommend for every elementary school library and public library, and for parenting centers.

[bookworm22 · Rating 5 out of 5]

Very good book illustrating children's needs during/after divorce. Written for the children and his/her parents. This is a very thorough book to illustrate many many issues that can arise in divorce and other situations were a child is separated from his/her parent (s). The book has simple and yet a lot of language (difficult to read to a very young reader) and has some very insightful pointers and information for parents of children of divorce...etc.

[Paul · Rating 3 out of 5]

Each page contains tips for parents.
800-255-3379 Publisher

[Monica Willyard Moen · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book was so helpful when I had to talk with my little girl 15 years ago. It reassured her and helped me find the words to talk about some painful subjects.

[Peacegal · Rating 3 out of 5]

It's never easy to put difficult subjects like divorce into a children's book.