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BDSM for Writers
Join world-renowned Clinical Sexologist Dr. Charley Ferrer as she provides authors with valuable information about Dominance and submission and the various power exchange relationships. This book addresses the emotional and psychological connections men and women make in this uniquely erotic lifestyle, dispelling many of the misconceptions perpetuated by Hollywood and the media. BDSM for Writers provides authors with a valuable tool to assist them in developing stronger and more realistic characters, plots, and scenes. Not only does this book cover the basics every author must know when writing in this particular genre, but it also provides insight into individual characteristics, personality traits, and lifestyle etiquettes that adds realism to any fictional BDSM work. Discover the integral techniques and foundations necessary to train a slave, the benefits and pitfalls of rewards and punishment, and the various methods of how to use punishment and humiliation on a male versus a female submissive/slave to achieve optimum results. There is even a BDSM Checklist created specifically for authors to assist in developing characters and those deliciously wicked scenes.
- GenresBDSMWritingNonfiction
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First published July 24, 2011
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About the author
Charley Ferrer
23 books46 followersA world renowned Clinical Sexologist, TV/Radio Producer and Talk Show Host. Award winning author of 8-books on sexuality.
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BDSM FOR WRITERS & BDSM THE NAKED TRUTH
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New books now available:
BDSM FOR WRITERS & BDSM THE NAKED TRUTH
www.bdsmthenakedtruth.com
www.bdsmforwriters.com
www.instituteofpleasure.org
http://blog.bdsmforwriters.com
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August 4, 2011
I created this book to teach writers who were not completely familiar with ALL the dynamics of Dominance and submission as well as for those that aren't actually in the BDSM Lifestyle but writer/want to write about it. I hope this book dispels many of the misconceptions that Hollywood and the media have perpetuated about D/s being all about "whips and chains". Well ok, we do love our toys but it's much more than that. D/s is about respect, love, honor, connection and the sensual craving and thrills that come along with it. This book is NOT a "how-to". You won't learn how-to throw a Whip nor play with candle wax, etc. However you will learn WHY a submissive craves to surrender and WHY a Master/Mistress thrills and honors sharing that connection.
I love this book...but then I am bias. What do you think? I'd love to hear your comments: The Good, The Bad, and The Naughty
Live with passion,
Dr. Charley Ferrer
I love this book...but then I am bias. What do you think? I'd love to hear your comments: The Good, The Bad, and The Naughty
Live with passion,
Dr. Charley Ferrer
August 4, 2011
'BDSM for Writers', is an invaluable exploration for erotic romance authors, delving deep into the physical and emotional relationship responsibilities of the Dominant/Submissive life-style.
The author opens doors and gives us a guide complete with terminology, equipment, and scenes. It is written in a way that transcends a writer's usual tool resource. There are touches of humor, checklists, discussions of protocol and ritual, and examples that reach into the depths of the extraordinary trust and loving commitment BDSM involves.
For romance authors wishing to add this delicious element to their novels, this book is a must read. I know I will be incorporating dominance and submission into my future novels with much more attention to emotional bonding and a better understanding of the unique and extreme methods employed to accommodate a most satisfying pleasure for both partners. This is the perfect companion book to 'BDSM - The Naked Truth', by the same author.
The author opens doors and gives us a guide complete with terminology, equipment, and scenes. It is written in a way that transcends a writer's usual tool resource. There are touches of humor, checklists, discussions of protocol and ritual, and examples that reach into the depths of the extraordinary trust and loving commitment BDSM involves.
For romance authors wishing to add this delicious element to their novels, this book is a must read. I know I will be incorporating dominance and submission into my future novels with much more attention to emotional bonding and a better understanding of the unique and extreme methods employed to accommodate a most satisfying pleasure for both partners. This is the perfect companion book to 'BDSM - The Naked Truth', by the same author.
August 19, 2012
This review was originally posted at MM Good Book Reviews.
Written in an engaging, talkative style which gives the impression you’re actually holding a conversation with a friend rather than reading a book on writing, BDSM for Writers captures attention from the first words of Joey W. Hill’s preface. However, the chatty writing style quickly becomes detrimental in a non-fiction reference book as there are no footnotes or endnotes attributing any of the quotes made along the way. This same fault occurs when reference examples of kinds of behavior in the BDSM community. An example is given, yet there is no note of any kind saying – personal conversation with so-n-so, even if the name used is a pseudonym to protect the individual’s identity. Additionally, things are stated as fact with no attribution to outside research. Yes, many of these facts are common knowledge within the BDSM community; however, an author should never assume that all their readers share the same knowledge base.
Often an acronym or term is introduced, used repeatedly and only later defined as to its exact meaning. Luckily, many times these terms are again common knowledge which anyone doing a bit of online research into the BDSM lifestyle will already have been exposed to; however, again, this lack of immediate explanation is a determent to the context of the book. For example, Dr. Ferrer begins to discuss the basic rules of a BDSM relationship by defining the term ‘safeword’ in the context of ‘SSC/RACK’ relationships but doesn’t explain the later term until two paragraphs and one page later! If you don’t already know the anagram, you will have no idea why Dr. Ferrer is using the term in her definition. It’s not until the third chapter of the book – after pages of generalized discussion – that Dr. Ferrer actually takes the time to fully define many of the terms she’d already been using. Thankfully, many of the terms are either in common usage, are understandable from context or are casually defined whenever they are mentioned in the text.
Additionally, there are some formatting issues with the book. The copy I read for this review would shift back and forth between one inch margins all around the text to inch-and-a-half left margins with one-inch right, top and bottom margins. Many of the errors are easily ignored – such as missing periods at ends of sentences, misplaced periods and a repeatedly used non-traditional spelling of ma’am – but partial parenthetical phrases where the beginning/ending parenthesis is missing and common, easily noticed spelling errors quickly became irritating.
BDSM for Writers suffers from an inherent bias on the part of the author toward heterosexual relationships, specifically, female dominant/male submissive relationships. From the beginning of the book through to the final pages, the reader is constantly reminded that this is the preferred relationship for the author and that – all gender pronouns could be switched as needed – as if the dynamics of BDSM relationships are completely interchangeable. While this could indeed be the case, it is difficult to ascertain from the text. Only twice – once in the section discussing anal sex and once in the resource list – does the book directly reference male/male authors. And then only to refer these authors to other books.
After all of the hype surrounding this book in the writing community, I must admit to being extremely disappointed in it. None of the material was really new to me, nor was it something I hadn’t found in other BDSM non-fiction books. The resource list was very short, mostly links to sites or groups known directly to the author, a few non-fiction general information books, and a few movies and fictions books. Again, the authorial bias was shown in this list. As an extremely basic introduction to BDSM, this book is passable though I feel it is greatly flawed due to authorial bias. Even the much vaunted BDSM Checklist for Writers is just a variation of similar checklists and instructions for filling them out easily located via a Google search.
Written in an engaging, talkative style which gives the impression you’re actually holding a conversation with a friend rather than reading a book on writing, BDSM for Writers captures attention from the first words of Joey W. Hill’s preface. However, the chatty writing style quickly becomes detrimental in a non-fiction reference book as there are no footnotes or endnotes attributing any of the quotes made along the way. This same fault occurs when reference examples of kinds of behavior in the BDSM community. An example is given, yet there is no note of any kind saying – personal conversation with so-n-so, even if the name used is a pseudonym to protect the individual’s identity. Additionally, things are stated as fact with no attribution to outside research. Yes, many of these facts are common knowledge within the BDSM community; however, an author should never assume that all their readers share the same knowledge base.
Often an acronym or term is introduced, used repeatedly and only later defined as to its exact meaning. Luckily, many times these terms are again common knowledge which anyone doing a bit of online research into the BDSM lifestyle will already have been exposed to; however, again, this lack of immediate explanation is a determent to the context of the book. For example, Dr. Ferrer begins to discuss the basic rules of a BDSM relationship by defining the term ‘safeword’ in the context of ‘SSC/RACK’ relationships but doesn’t explain the later term until two paragraphs and one page later! If you don’t already know the anagram, you will have no idea why Dr. Ferrer is using the term in her definition. It’s not until the third chapter of the book – after pages of generalized discussion – that Dr. Ferrer actually takes the time to fully define many of the terms she’d already been using. Thankfully, many of the terms are either in common usage, are understandable from context or are casually defined whenever they are mentioned in the text.
Additionally, there are some formatting issues with the book. The copy I read for this review would shift back and forth between one inch margins all around the text to inch-and-a-half left margins with one-inch right, top and bottom margins. Many of the errors are easily ignored – such as missing periods at ends of sentences, misplaced periods and a repeatedly used non-traditional spelling of ma’am – but partial parenthetical phrases where the beginning/ending parenthesis is missing and common, easily noticed spelling errors quickly became irritating.
BDSM for Writers suffers from an inherent bias on the part of the author toward heterosexual relationships, specifically, female dominant/male submissive relationships. From the beginning of the book through to the final pages, the reader is constantly reminded that this is the preferred relationship for the author and that – all gender pronouns could be switched as needed – as if the dynamics of BDSM relationships are completely interchangeable. While this could indeed be the case, it is difficult to ascertain from the text. Only twice – once in the section discussing anal sex and once in the resource list – does the book directly reference male/male authors. And then only to refer these authors to other books.
After all of the hype surrounding this book in the writing community, I must admit to being extremely disappointed in it. None of the material was really new to me, nor was it something I hadn’t found in other BDSM non-fiction books. The resource list was very short, mostly links to sites or groups known directly to the author, a few non-fiction general information books, and a few movies and fictions books. Again, the authorial bias was shown in this list. As an extremely basic introduction to BDSM, this book is passable though I feel it is greatly flawed due to authorial bias. Even the much vaunted BDSM Checklist for Writers is just a variation of similar checklists and instructions for filling them out easily located via a Google search.
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December 10, 2015
A great resource for writers, no matter what genre. You'll never look at relationships between characters quite the same way again. I keep this book in my car for when I'm writing on the go. A definite MUST READ!
August 21, 2022
This book is fantastic!
I plan to read more of Charley's books after this one is finished. She is so informative and puts things down in a way it's easy to understand. This book is great for writers and people interested in the BDSM world in general.
I plan to read more of Charley's books after this one is finished. She is so informative and puts things down in a way it's easy to understand. This book is great for writers and people interested in the BDSM world in general.
December 31, 2018
Good
I would recommend this book if you would want to write erotic books. A little bit but most of the book I knew about it. Thank you.
I would recommend this book if you would want to write erotic books. A little bit but most of the book I knew about it. Thank you.
July 22, 2012
This book was of enormous value. I really enjoyed Dr. Charley's window into the psychology and situations belonging to the BDSM culture. I will be keeping this book in my e-book library for a long time to come and it is a valuable reference!
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June 7, 2012I am excited to read this book. After the 50 Shades trilogy, I want to find out more about this so I can write a story that makes sense.
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