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The Primal Wound
The Primal Wound is a seminal work which revolutionizes the way we think about adoption. It describes and clarifies the effects of separating babies from their birth mothers as a primal loss which affects the relationships of the adopted person throughout life.. It is a book about pre-and perinatal psychology, attachment, bonding, and loss. It gives adoptees, whose pain has long been unacknowledged or misunderstood, validation for their feelings, as well as explanations for their behavior. It lists the coping mechanisms which adoptees use to be able to attach and live in a family to whom they are not related and with whom they have no genetic cues. It will contribute to the healing of all members of the adoption triad and will bring understanding and encouragement to anyone who has ever felt abandoned..
278 pages, Kindle Edition
Published February 27, 2023
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August 3, 2023
I found the author, went into too much detail about the process, and describes it very well on in the book. But she reiterates her premise every few pages throughout the book, and the repetition becomes tedious and irritating.
Then there are her descriptions of how this trauma manifest itself in the child as he, or she grows to maturity. Problem and difficulties she sites are so vague and non specific that they could fly to any child adopted or not, for example, some adopted children, she says, are compliant and conformist, while others are defiant and rebellious . It’s fair to say that not only adopted children, but all children fall somewhere along the spectrum.
As an adoptee, the biggest problem I find with this book is that the blurb states all three parties within the adoption Triad, that is, the birth mother, the adopted, and the adoptive parents can benefit from this book. There was nothing in this book that would help the adoptees deal with trauma from alleged primal, or understand how they’ve been affected by adoption in any specific way.
This book is about avoiding the pitfalls that can have for success, adoptions for all concerning the process, and it does offer some reason along those lines. But it does not provide any information about how One recovers from poorly handed adoptions.
Then there are her descriptions of how this trauma manifest itself in the child as he, or she grows to maturity. Problem and difficulties she sites are so vague and non specific that they could fly to any child adopted or not, for example, some adopted children, she says, are compliant and conformist, while others are defiant and rebellious . It’s fair to say that not only adopted children, but all children fall somewhere along the spectrum.
As an adoptee, the biggest problem I find with this book is that the blurb states all three parties within the adoption Triad, that is, the birth mother, the adopted, and the adoptive parents can benefit from this book. There was nothing in this book that would help the adoptees deal with trauma from alleged primal, or understand how they’ve been affected by adoption in any specific way.
This book is about avoiding the pitfalls that can have for success, adoptions for all concerning the process, and it does offer some reason along those lines. But it does not provide any information about how One recovers from poorly handed adoptions.
August 5, 2024
Excellent at identifying the problem of the primal wound but so much at solving it.
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