Are you sick of walking on eggshells or chasing after an unattainable partner in your relationships? Do you feel like you're always chasing the people in your life? - Do you find it difficult to trust others? - When in a relationship, do you constantly worry about being abandoned by your partner? - Do you frequently experience the feeling of overwhelming others? - Do you often find yourself attracted to partners who are distant, unresponsive, or even dismissive? - Are you known for sending multiple messages in quick succession and becoming upset if a response is not received quickly? I totally get it - that was me too. This book is for Open Hearted individuals that struggle with anxiety in push-pull relationships, who are ready to start calling in a soul-shaking partnership, without having to spend a ton of money on experts and gurus, or spend years in therapy with no tangible results. If you experience anxious attachment - always wanting more from your partner, feeling dissatisfied with your relationship connection, and feeling unsettled or worried when you are apart, I want you to know I totally get it. I understand how stressful it is to experience anxious attachment moments, and I want to support you in healing those old patterns so you can experience more ease, calm, and joy in your relationships with others. This book - Discuss the origin of your anxious attachment style. - Clearly explain what anxious attachment is, where it comes from, and why we have it. - Practical steps to move towards secure attachment. - Discuss what is needed to heal anxious attachment. - Provide suggestions for healthy communication in relationships - Reduce anxious attachment experiences - Provide practices to increase self-soothing, resilience, self-esteem, and boundary-setting - Support you in becoming aware of lifelong patterns This book is for those of you who want - Heal your painful past and attachment survival strategies so that you can live more fully in the present. - Learn to be your own Safe Haven through self-soothing practices so that you can feel more centered, grounded, and at ease in your nervous system. - Use inner parts work to reparent and care for yourself so that you can experience the love, acceptance, and understanding that you didn’t feel as a child or in the ways you needed in your adult attachment-based relationships. - More fully embody your Awake Awareness and Authentic Expressions of Self. - Feel more internally rooted and sovereign instead of withdrawing, clinging, or acting out in ways that interfere with you experiencing an authentic and heartfelt life. - Transform the inner voices of Criticism and Shame as well as the ways you try to escape or avoid your discomfort. Why do we chase unavailable people? Why do we start to feel like we’re going crazy if someone doesn’t text back? This book will give you clarity. It will give you concrete tools, strategies, tips, and a structured way of addressing your old relationship patterns and guide you toward more security. The more you show up, the more you will get from this book. Ready to stop clinging and start healing? Changing how you relate to your anxiety can change your relationships and transform your life!
Rounding up from 2.5; anxious attachment seems to have become one of the trendy, self diagnosed thing but I was interested in learning more about what causes people to have it. This was actually broader than I thought and can be caused not only by abandonment issues from childhood but also overprotective parents that inadvertently make their own fears and anxieties about their child's safety turn into their child's anxiety.
While this is a short read, the second half very much felt like it was written for SEO and was a bit meh.
I feel like this is one of the most insightful books I've read on relationships. Worth reading if you want to better understand the dynamics that often underpin difficult emotional behaviors, whether from yourself or others.
This book is an absolute must-read for anyone who has struggled with relationships. Do yourself a favor and give this book a chance the way you gave all those terrible romantic relationships a chance.
This book is super basic and disorganized. The same information is just repeated in fluffed up bullet points throughout the book. There is very little information about actual healing. Terrible read. Skip it.