Healing the Hurts of Your Past: A Guide to Overcoming the Pain of Shame

The Overcoming Series #1

by F. Remy Diederich

How are readers impacted by this book?
"I was blown away at how accurate it describes the mind and the way shame affects so many areas of our lives from perfectionism to the way we raise our kids. The biggest takeaway for me was discovering how the shame I'd lived with had actually influenced the way I parented my child."

"This has been the best purchase I have made this year. I wish I would have come across it sooner. An extremely good read and very helpful. I would recommend it and have recommended it to many of my close friends."

"I can't say enough about this book, I wish I could give it a ten. Well written and right to the point. Everything you need to know about healing your past and moving on."

Don't Let Your Past Hurt Define You
Many people let the hurt from their past define them. As a result, they live in a world of depression, often trying to medicate their pain with drugs, alcohol and various self-destructive behaviors. Why is that? The answer, in a word, is shame.

The Role of Shame in Your Life
Shame declares you to be worthless. Once you believe that lie, you will live as if it’s true. With your self-esteem in jeopardy, you scramble to find value in three primary ways: you seek to prove your worth, you seek to hide your worthlessness, or you simply express the pain of your worthlessness in self-destructive ways, which can include suicide.

A Biblical Approach to Self-Esteem
F. Remy Diederich connects the dots to your shame based behavior, helping you understand why you do what you do. Then he gives practical advice on how God's love can free you to live the life you've always wanted.

Remy roots his help in a strong biblical case without being religious or preachy. Even non-believers will find help. You will learn:

What shame is.
How the lies you believe control and defeat you.
The roots of shame: what events from your past lead to shame.
The fruit of shame: how shame manifests in your life in self-destructive ways.
How God’s love is the antidote for shame, giving you the self-esteem and purpose you've longed for to live a new life.

Questions at the end of each chapter help you to process the material personally or to discuss it in a small group setting.

Take the First Step to Change
If you have been looking for the first step to Christian counseling, addiction treatment, or just repairing the damage from your past, then "Healing the Hurts of Your Past" might be for you. Read all the reviews to see how the book has helped the readers live a new life.

Note: The three books in the Overcoming Series can be read in any order. They each stand alone, although when read together, complement each other, helping the reader to find freedom from a variety of emotional issues.

Overcoming Shame: "Healing the Hurts of Your Past"
Overcoming Anger: "STUCK"
Overcoming Loss: "Return From Exile"

Genres: Religion

208 pages, Kindle Edition

First published November 1, 2011

About the author

Author of several faith-based counseling books. Founding Pastor of Cedarbrook Church in Menomonie, WI. Currently writing and guest speaking. Based in Minneapolis, MN.

Reviews

[Meredith]

I love the author's style of writing. It is conversational and he has the ability to break down concepts into bite-size and understandable explanations. Each chapter has journal/discussion questions that are helpful to process what was just read. He breaks the book into 4 parts: shame defined and the lies of shame, the roots of shame, the fruit of shame, and cutting down the shame tree. He gives very practical advice on how to reprogram the lies one has believed. There are great resources in the back of the book for other books to read, and Bible verses to help retrain one's thinking about who you are. The author is a pastor and addiction counselor, so he has real life experience dealing with many people who are paralyzed by shame. Having come from a church background that did nothing but shame from the pulpit, this book was so helpful in reframing my perspective of who I am. He has helpful diagrams as well. Well worth the read!

[Lisa]

This is a really helpful, practical book that clearly explores the various ways shame can appear in our lives, then how to identify and heal the lies that cause it. The book is thoroughly biblical but not dismissive, which unfortunately I find a lot of Christian books on emotional issues to be. This book is worth reading slowly, perhaps alongside a trusted friend, and going through the exercises together to reveal where you struggle with shame and how it can be healed.

The only reason it’s not 5 stars for me was that I didn’t love the extended Lion King metaphor in one part of the book as much as the author did, and there were also some significant typos in that part of the book.

[Antigone Walsh]

The author does an excellent job outlining the roots of shame and the way it infects your self-esteem and life. Each chapter has some journaling exercises that are quite helpful. There are biblical references. although it is written from a Christain perspective, it does not batter the reader with religion. the references and suggestions are useful to those of all or no faith. Helpful and inspiring.

[Alison Eastwood]

A refreshing and eye-opening book. Definitely recommend.

I think anyone with any type of issue would benefit from reading this book. Very inspiring and down to earth. There is a focus on God and the bible but God means do many different things to different people so even if youre not a spiritual person you still might get something out of it. Loved it.

[AJ Franco]

The healing book I was waiting for!

This book has changed my life. Like many, many people in the world we have issues stemming from childhood. This book has giving me the tools and Power to heal my childhood hurt. I have already recommended this book to friends and family.

[Elise]

I cried through this book and then felt better than I have in years.

[Jedediah Gorham]

Quite helpful to me in a rather bleak time.

[Trish Johnson]

A life without a lonely place, that is, a life without a quiet center, easily becomes destructive…In solitude we can slowly unmask the illusion of our possessiveness and discover in the center of our own self that we are not what we can conquer, but what is given to us…It is in this solitude that we discover that being is more important than having, and that we are worth more than the result of our efforts…In solitude we become aware that our worth is not the same as our usefulness.

About.


The book, Healing the Hurts of Your Past is a guide to overcoming the pain of shame. Purchase at http://bit.ly/yVXEs4. This page features posts from Remy's blog readingremy.com where he discusses how to overcome pasts with God's help.


Company Overview
F. Remy Diederich is the author of Healing the Hurts of Your Past, pastor of Cedarbrook Church and spirituality consultant at Arbor Place Treatment Center. Blogging at readingremy.com.

Description

Healing the Hurts of Your Past helps you discover the source of nagging hurts, habits and hang-ups in your life and connects the dots to your self-defeating behavior. It then offers a solid Christ-centered approach to find the freedom you've always wanted. This book is not a "feel-good" story but a "roll up your sleeves" look at the pain of shame and what to do about it. Questions are offere
d along the way to help you process the material at a deeper level.

Healing the Hurts of Your Past is a great first step before you seek out counseling or a companion once you start. It's refreshingly "real" without the typical psychological or religious jargon. A special appendix gives you forty scripture verses that directly address the pain of shame to help you retrain your mind in regard to how you view yourself.

Review:

Remy Diederich has done a masterful job of weaving theological and psychological concepts together in a way that makes sense. His concepts ... are easily grasped... I recommend this material to anyone desiring to know how to walk in freedom and truth. Julianne S. Zuehlke, MS. RN, CS, Co-author with Neil Anderson of Christ-Centered Therapy.

From a reader:
A must read...this book plants a seed. As I incorporated the thoughts and ideas from this book into my life, I began to notice small changes. After some time, which would be different for everyone, I noticed significant differences in my relationship with God and how I felt about myself as a person.


General Information
The book is available in paperback and Kindle from amazon.com. Bulk orders of the paperback are available from crosspointpublishing.com

Visit the blog... http://readingremy.com/
YouTube videos: http://youtu.be/6okDzxQ7N4Q
Twitter - @FRemy

[David Smith]

This is the best simple introduction to shame from a Christian perspective that integrates well contemporary psychology. The roots of shame are: abuse, ridicule, your name, neglect, secrets, and traumatic events. The fruits of shame are: control, denial, and expression. The goal is to cut down the shame tree by understanding which lies you have believed and replacing them with God’s truth about who you are. The fruit of truth is joy and peace. The only downside of this well-organized, self-help book is that the focus is on American shame and is occasionally oversimplified. I read the third and revised edition.

[Pamela]

This is a book that works as a guide and tells us how to heal the suffering from past actions. It shows us a list of things that we should make rearranges in our way of thinking in order to change the things that hurts us inside.

¨there is no one response to the pain of shame. Every person handles it in a different way.¨
page 13.

The author expresses six typical reactions to the pain. Denial, suppression, cover up, medication, suffering and suicide.

¨men tend to deny their shame more than women to. I thin it is harder for men to admit that they hurt emotionally.¨ page. 13