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How to Break Your Addiction to a Person: When--and Why--Love Doesn't Work
period--without going back.
How not to get caught in such a painful relationship again.
From the Paperback edition.
Product DescriptionAre you in love--or addicted? How to know when to call it quits...and how to find the courage to call it quits.
Are you unable to leave a love relationship even though it gives you more pain than joy? Your judgment and self-respect tell you to end it, but still, to your dismay, you hang on. You are addicted--to a person. Now there is an insightful, step-by-step guide to breaking that addiction--and surviving the split. Drawing on dozens of provocative case histories, psychotherapist Howard Helpern explains to
Why you can get addicted to a person.
Why and how you may try to deceive yourself. ("He really loves me, he just doesn't know how to show it.")
How you can recognize the symptoms of a bad relationship.
How to deal with the power moves and guilt trips your partner uses to hold you.
Why strong feelings of jealousy do not mean you are "in love."
How to get through the agonizing breakup period--without going back.
How not to get caught in such a painful relationship again.
How not to get caught in such a painful relationship again.
From the Paperback edition.
Product DescriptionAre you in love--or addicted? How to know when to call it quits...and how to find the courage to call it quits.
Are you unable to leave a love relationship even though it gives you more pain than joy? Your judgment and self-respect tell you to end it, but still, to your dismay, you hang on. You are addicted--to a person. Now there is an insightful, step-by-step guide to breaking that addiction--and surviving the split. Drawing on dozens of provocative case histories, psychotherapist Howard Helpern explains to
Why you can get addicted to a person.
Why and how you may try to deceive yourself. ("He really loves me, he just doesn't know how to show it.")
How you can recognize the symptoms of a bad relationship.
How to deal with the power moves and guilt trips your partner uses to hold you.
Why strong feelings of jealousy do not mean you are "in love."
How to get through the agonizing breakup period--without going back.
How not to get caught in such a painful relationship again.
505 pages, Kindle Edition
Published March 17, 2023
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June 16, 2023
I read the book Attached, by Amir Lavine a few years ago. It was amazing. Since then I've read quite a few books in the hopes of learning more about attachment disorders; anxiously attached, avoidantly attached, and securly attached people. This book dives fearlessly down that rabbit hole. It explains panic of abandonment from even the most unhealthy relationships. Why someone calls their significant other 15 times in 20 minutes. Why some people can't give up on a significant other who is repeating the same pattern of undermining or failing to support your strengths and self-confidence. It explains the emotional roller coaster kind of relationship and how it is common and a troubled love relationship. He says positive emotions, like joy, trust, and love, may alternate, sometimes rapidly with disturbing emotions such as depression, jealousy, and hate. He describes when a person feels inadequate, incomplete, insecure, and unhappy without a particular other person, he becomes dependent on the other person to make them feel adequate, complete, secure, and happy. He even explains jealousy, and how it is particularly important in to context of interpersonal addiction because it can lead you to overvalue and therefore remain with a person who is bad for you. And one of the most important steps you could take in loosening the addiction is becoming aware of how much you're jealousy can cause you to elevate your partner and to recognize that it is possible to feel jealousy towards someone you don't love, whom you don't like, and even towards someone you heartily dislike, if attachment hunger and other early feelings are at work. This is one of the best relationship and self help books I've ever read.
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