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Pray For Them: The True Story of a Racist White Christian Called to Black Seminary

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2023 “BOOK OF THE YEAR” AWARD, SILVER MEDAL (North American Book Awards)

2023 EDITORS' PICK & "BOOK OF THE YEAR" AWARD, SEMI-FINALIST (Indies Today)


Trisha Fenimore had a long list of things she never wanted to become. By her early twenties, she had become most of them.

Racist.

Hate-filled.

Addicted.

Poor.

And finally… Christian.

More than anything else, Trisha vowed she would never become a Christian. One day she realized the very thing she was running from might actually be her escape route, away all the rest.

In 2014, while riding the New York City subway to a dead-end job, it dawned on the young woman that, despite all her best efforts, she had nevertheless become racist, herself. Following this profound realization, Trisha sought guidance from an older Christian mentor and received advice which was simple, though far from easy.

After over a year of prayer, practice and failures too numerous to count, she felt God call her to the most unlikely place of a predominantly black seminary school in Harlem, New York.

Trisha’s time as the only white student in her class proved revelatory. But she soon learned that when you’ve danced with the devil for so long, you don’t get to choose when the music stops.

From becoming an atheist at age eleven in the rural Midwest, to attending a historically black seminary in Harlem, to bringing the gospel to convicts in America’s most notorious prison, Pray For Them is a gritty, searingly honest coming-of-age memoir about a young American woman’s struggle through the good and evil which reside in all of us, as well as her desperate search to find God… and herself.

449 pages, Kindle Edition

Published May 23, 2023

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Trisha Fenimore

12 books19 followers
Trisha Fenimore is an award-winning writer, speaker and poet. She is a New York Theological Seminary alumna, and all of her work contains philosophical, spiritual and religious themes. Fenimore lives in the USA with her husband and kids.

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56 reviews5 followers
June 28, 2023
I wasn’t planning on reading this book in a single day, but once I picked it up, I really couldn’t put it down. I was expecting it to be a slow read, something I had to sit down and think about between chapters, but one chapter flower into another and I read through my tears.

I’m going to need SO much more time to fully sit with my thoughts on this book, but it’s something that everyone needs to read. Raw and honest, eloquent and thoughtful, Trisha Fenimore tackles a complex topic with so much faith, grace, and forgiveness for herself and others.
Profile Image for Emily Hoisington.
Author 6 books12 followers
October 19, 2023
I was hesitant to read this book.
Just as Trisha shares she was hesitant to write it.

The subject of racism is such a touchy one in our society. Toucy because it's been so mishandled and touchy because many are afraid to even talk about it, due to the mishandling.

However, I never want to shy away from hard things so I gladly accepted when Trisha reached out to me and asked me to read and review it and have spent the last couple months digesting her moving story.

Pray for Them is the memoir of a relatable twenty-something woman's journey out of addiction, racism and prejudice into the freedom and light of Christ.

One of my favorite quotes from the book is a prayer Trisha shares saying "Lord, please remove anything from my life that is not in service to You and Your purpose for me." Some may argue that Trisha is a little too hard on herself at times and that some of her racist thoughts are just inconsequential judgements or cautionary feelings. But those seemingly "small" judgements and thoughts are seeds that can take root if not carefully managed and eliminated by the work of the Holy Spirit.

God calls us higher than the status quo. He commands us to be holy as he is holy. Our thoughts and actions towards others, even if they are just "on the line" of being racist, hateful, lustful, or bitter are deeply serious to him and offensive to the ones he made. We are to follow the example of Jesus, who laid down his life for all- sinner, saint, man, woman, jew, gentile, black, white, slave, and free.

Trisha's transparency throughout her story will make you examine your own heart and cause you to be more aware of thoughts that are displeasing to the Lord and disrespectful toward others- especially in the area of race.

Praying God uses it mighty for his kingdom!
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562 reviews4 followers
November 9, 2025
This is a difficult review for me to write. As someone who reads many books, and is always quick to want to read new authors and enjoys memoirs, I think a fair review is important. So, here's my attempt...

First, there were specific things I did not agree with in the book. I felt the book began by giving me a false perception in the title. If you'd like to read a great review about all of that, please see the review written by Devon in Goodreads.

Second, I definitely connected with things that the author had to say. I, too, remember the first time I heard a racial slur from a "Christian" relative. I remember it distinctly and how it made me feel. I applaud Fenimore for her honestly in admitting her struggles and for modeling the way she prayed to God for help.

Third, this book is like reading an unedited journal of moments in time. Like a diary. Some words, like describing what she's wearing in a moment or what her eyes look like, are just unnecessary and throw off the tone of the point she's making. I think a good editor and a little research (when it came to quotes and such) would've helped.

As a well-read person, I don't like to "throw the baby out with the bath water," so I don't regret reading the book, if only to hear her point-of-view. However, books shouldn't be written like a series of Instagram reels, which is what it also reminds me of. It IS honest, but it lacks the depth I was hoping for.
3 reviews
December 16, 2024
Disingenuous at best, dangerous precedent at worst.

When I invest in a Christian book, I expect theologically sound insights from the author, especially when they claim pastoral authority. Unfortunately, Tricia Fenimore falls short of this standard in Pray for Them. Despite presenting herself as a pastor, we learn 80% into the book that she has only taken one course at NY Theological Seminary—The Art of Biblical Storytelling. While storytelling is valuable, it doesn’t equip someone to shepherd others in sound doctrine.

The subtitle of the book suggests a narrative of overcoming racism, which is commendable. Fenimore shares her journey of recognizing her biases and working toward change, a process many Christians can benefit from. However, her conclusion raises significant concerns. At the end of the book, she reveals that she has gone no contact with her parents because they remain racist. While distancing oneself from toxic or harmful relationships may sometimes be necessary, her decision seems to hinge on a self-righteous standard rather than a Christlike approach to reconciliation.

Fenimore claims to have been saved from her racism, yet this decision to cut ties with her parents reflects a works-based theology, the polar opposite of the gospel message. Christ calls us to love our enemies, forgive seventy times seven, and humbly recognize our own need for grace. Cutting off her parents for their sin feels less like a display of Christ’s transformative love and more like moral posturing.

As Christians, we are called to confront sin with truth and love, trusting God to change hearts. Fenimore’s story leaves readers with a troubling implication: that salvation is evidenced by morality rather than by reliance on God’s grace. This is a dangerous and misleading message, especially for readers seeking spiritual growth.

While Fenimore’s acknowledgment of racism is admirable, her theological framework is problematic and undermines the redemptive power of the gospel. Pray for Them offers a personal story but lacks the theological depth and humility needed for true spiritual guidance.
27 reviews
June 20, 2023
Gritty reality

I have so enjoyed this book. It does not shy away from the truth of Trisha's story. So much Christian literature feels wrapped up in a nice bow; Pray For Them is a look into the struggles a lot of us face on our path to follow Jesus wherever He leads. Just like in God's Word, you find flawed people doing their best to follow a Holy God. I have learned so much from this and I had already affected my prayer life in a positive way. I honor your obedience, Trisha.
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34 reviews
January 5, 2024
Great book, very well written.

I absolutely loved this book. It’s so well written and Trisha has a real way with words that paints a very vivid picture of what she’s talking about. The biggest thing I took away from this book was how to pray. Very simple, honest prayers that will change you from the inside out.
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3 reviews
June 1, 2023
A mirror or a window

I often read books and think it's either a mirror (self) or a window (YOU) and I can honestly say that at times I felt that it was me writing this book. It helped me to see imperfections in myself I didn't know I had. Thank you Tricia.
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Author 7 books3 followers
September 17, 2023
Tricia’s very honest introspective look at racism in her own life will certainly cause you to do the same to yours. She is candid about her thoughts and judgements, but she also shares her prayers for God to change her heart. This book will be making me think for a while. So glad I read it!
20 reviews1 follower
December 30, 2024
This was a great book, that, despite the length, was a fairly quick read . I applaud Trisha for her honesty and her hard work to take a chance in writing this book. Her love for the Lord shines through.
1 review
July 3, 2023
A blessing to read!

EXCELLENT! True depiction of racism and how God can work in someone’s life through and for anything! God is GOOD
263 reviews1 follower
July 21, 2025
More than a typical memoir, this is a deep dig. Starting at the surface? Yes, of course, but refusing to let well enough alone. Hers is a peeling of layer after layer to let the light of Jesus shine into every dark and dusty corner of her heart and mind. A determined desire to shine bright so as to share the love that more than saved her, more than rescued her, gave her a purpose and a hope. Through this memoir the reader is allowed access into the process of self-examination, according to the author an ever continuing process to renew her mind, to become more and more like the one who brought her out of the deepest darkness and despair into his glorious light.
Do not be totally annoyed at her unusual way of writing as I was at first. Hold on to her honest probing as it comes forth until you see that her unique style is perfect for the honesty of her revelations. Perhaps the Lord will send you also, as he did her, as he is now doing me, on a journey into the deeper recesses of your heart of hearts to discover the more subtle hints of sin that need rooting out.
I have been weeding on my son's organic regenerative farm while reading this book. Some weeds are easily rid by just a scrape off at the surface. Others have roots that go deeper than a look at the surface would indicate so need a longer probe. Racism is one of those.
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August 19, 2023
This memoir was written with vulnerability; the author is refreshingly transparent in recounting her journey, her sin, and the sanctification of the Spirit on her life. Though, I would’ve loved to see a clear presentation of the gospel for her readers - a missed opportunity there! I loved reading about her truth-speaking mentor Stacey, and she showed an authentic struggle between the Flesh and the renewed Spirit. She also seemed to embody “pray without ceasing” very well!

Apart from that, the author and I have some theological and ideological belief differences that left me disagreeing with some of the points emphasized. I also had a hard time reconciling the intended Christian message of the book with the harsh content, language, and making light of sin expressed.

Otherwise, here is a thought provoking section that I copied down:
“At a certain point, we all must take responsibility for our beliefs. And, if we don't like what we've been given, it's up to us to change it before we pass the poison on.”

I received a copy of this book from the author. Opinions expressed are entirely my own.
Profile Image for Susan S. Bentsen.
1 review
January 7, 2024
Trisha Fenimore’s book, Pray for Them, embodies the hallmarks of a compelling and captivating read. Her gift of storytelling, in a refreshingly honest and sometimes humorous manner, draws us in to her soul-searching odyssey of finding peace and purpose. As she uniquely writes a quick-paced narrative that is relatable, gripping, and hope-filled, the reader feels a sense of kinship with a woman who, after hitting bottom, is courageously compelled to do the next right thing. Despite mounting challenges in her personal and professional life, Fenimore is doggedly persistent in moving toward her calling that inspires the reader to do the same. Even if our struggle isn’t primarily racism, the author’s confession of her own foibles and regrets, open wide the door of self-examination to whatever “ism” holds us captive from loving our neighbor well. The beautiful conclusion is that we are all sinners who need Jesus. And He provides the way to transform our past painful behaviors toward others into a movement that is truly life-giving and restorative. An inspiring read that breathes life to a cynical world.
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July 30, 2025
Pray For Them by Trisha Fenimore is one of the most honest and powerful books I’ve ever read. It’s raw and unfiltered in the best way—it doesn’t shy away from pain or failure but meets them head-on with truth, grace, and the redemptive power of God. It made me look inward in ways I didn’t expect and reminded me that no matter how deep the pit, His mercy goes deeper.

Even if your story looks nothing like Trisha’s, this book will still hit home. It speaks to the human condition—our flaws, our shame, our need for something greater than ourselves. It’s relatable, convicting, and ultimately full of hope.

I read all 508 pages in just 2.5 days and didn’t want it to end.

Huge thank you to Trisha for sharing her story so openly. If you follow her on social media, you already know this book wasn’t written for attention or ego—it’s just who she is: honest about her flaws, real about her journey, and constantly pointing back to God. If you’re not following her yet, you should be. She’s the real deal
1 review
July 17, 2023
This was a very quick read for it’s size. Pleasantly surprised.

This documents the author’s healing from racism, which is a lifelong journey, really. The personal vignettes were wonderful and really helped get the author’s personality across. She’s a doll. I was impressed by the work she’s done, and challenged by the work I have to do.

I appreciate her honesty throughout the book. The racism, the relationships, the uncomfortable situations, the clear eyed analysis-all wonderfully explained. LOTS of uncomfortable situations, but no spoilers here. The chapters were each dedicated to various victims of racism, and there are lots of very short ones. So yes, there are lots of victims, even in the last decade.

This is a book that is vital for our time.
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62 reviews17 followers
August 31, 2023
I really enjoyed Trisha’s story and if I’m honest, it opened my eyes to how what we think the simplest of thought is, can be either stereotypical or racist. I love how open and transparent Trisha was in telling her story. She didn’t make it “sound pretty” just please the readers, she was her authentic self not only in her writing, but in the way she portrayed herself in the past and in the present. She really has a powerful testimony that needs to be shared and listened to. The only reason I rated this a 4.5 star was because of the (very) mild language, but as I shared in my stories a few days ago, I appreciate the author telling her story the way it was and not sugarcoating by making things sound nicer.

Thank you to the author, Trisha, for sending me a free copy in exchange for my honest review.
2 reviews
January 14, 2024
Unintended, but fitting, that I just finished this wonderful book as we begin the MLK holiday weekend. The title may make make you think it’s mostly about @trishafenimore ‘s change from atheism to Christianity, but it is really an honest and compelling essay on overcoming addiction & racism….. racism that I think most people don’t even believe they embody. If you follow Trisha on Insta, you quickly see her authentic, honest, humble, & grateful heart. After reading her book, you see intro-inspection, accountability, reliance on God’s strength, and unrelenting courage. She has a very really good writing style that keeps you interested & is an easy read (I read it in 4 days!). I also love the example she sets through her honest prayers. I highly recommend!
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44 reviews
February 20, 2024
4.5 stars. I ordered this book because I follow Trisha on Instagram and have enjoyed her little devotions. Based on those I think she should write a devotional book! That being said, I quite enjoyed this book and love the author's style of writing. It is quite a lengthy book..over 500 pages but I read it within a few days. It was hard to put down. Trisha is very open, honest and transparent as she shares her story. Honestly it's quite eye opening and made me stop and think. Great reminders to pray!! And she shares some of her beautiful prayers.
The only reason I didn't give it five stars was because of some "language" sprinkled throughout. It didn't detract from the story and I guess made it even more real and true to life. I just wasn't expecting it and it kind of caught me off guard.
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55 reviews1 follower
July 20, 2024
I truly enjoyed reading this book. Ms. Fenimore's level of transparency and authenticity is heart felt. Viewing our country's history through the perspective of a web search of each of the chapter dedications was an added benefit to reading the ebook. I truly believe that thought, word, and deed all carry energy. Ms. Fenimore is to be commended for reflecting on whether her thoughts truly live up to the tennants of her faith and for having the courage to share that journey with others.
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5 reviews1 follower
September 30, 2025
The best book about a realistic walk with Christ I have read since becoming a Christian. Highly recommend, could hardly put the book down once I started it because it is written in such an authentic, engaging way. It also helped to reflect and let the Holy Spirit convict me of my own ways of thinking I am better then others, and ways of not leaning on the Lord, but in such a loving, Christ-like way that it hardly even felt like conviction. Cannot recommend this book enough!!
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November 17, 2025
This book is wonderfully written- honest, raw, heartfelt, and inspiring. Trisha Fenimore writes with her heart and faith on her sleeve, never afraid to own the flaws of her humanity, because through the cracks in our armor, God shines through... and God is shining through her writing. Her faith permeates the pages. An interesting and engageing story, even nonbelievers could enjoy.
God bless you for all your work, Trisha- and may your book bring glory to Him.
1 review
January 1, 2024
A great read that beautifully describes walking in the spirit.

I loved reading your progress and all the lessons you learned along the way. I learned not to just pray for friends and family but to pray for people I come across in day to day life. 🙏
16 reviews
January 11, 2025
Wonderful book. It opened my eyes about myself. I am guessing that is the intent of this book. Opening the eyes of the blind! Thanks so much for putting yourself out there like this, Trisha! You're an inspiration! God bless you!
3 reviews
September 13, 2024
Couldn't put it down!

Thank you for opening my eyes of areas I too need to work on! We are not perfect, but we can be better.
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1 review
October 26, 2024
Started this book this morning……508 pages later…..DONE!!!!!!

SUCH AN EXCELLENT BOOK by Trisha Fenimore!!!!!!!!!!

So insightful, thought provoking and convicting!!!!

Wow!!!!!
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7 reviews
January 9, 2025
Interesting and thought provoking book on how we think / treat others
Profile Image for Tiff Christine  Miller.
19 reviews
January 24, 2025
Raw, real, convicting page turner

I follow Trisha on Instagram and had to get her book. I was not expecting all that I got from this memoir. ❤️‍🩹
205 reviews
March 3, 2025
A fascinating read and a very introspective author.
Check Trisha Fenimore out on Facebook for her Christian perspective on everyday circumstances.
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14 reviews
November 17, 2024
Such a great read. Trisha is so relatable and real. Even though my story is not the same as hers I found myself identifying with so much. Highly recommend.
1 review
December 15, 2024
Inspirational and Convicting

I have followed Trisha on IG for a while now. She always has incredible Biblical teachings taken from every day life. I look forward to all her posts. I finally got her book Pray for Them and just finished reading it. What a page turner! I was mesmerized and personally convicted with each story. It made me look into my own heart and search my soul for the truth about me. I didn’t feel I was “that bad” but always felt guilty. Now a grandmother to two precious mixed race children I’m even more sensitive to the hate in this world. I thank Trisha for her bravery in writing her story. It is a must read for every person. Don’t let Satan win!!
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