Even if it Costs me my Life: Systemic Constellations and Serious Illness

by Stephan Hausner

Family constellations work has broadened and developed in many different fields as a method of counseling and therapy. In addition to constellations in organizations and schools, applying this approach to working with illness and disease has expanded the potential for healing effects in the field of medicine as well. A view of transgenerational entanglements and family dynamics casts a new light on health and disease, and the insights gained from constellations with illness and health problems have led to a more holistic view of those who are ill. In Even if it Costs me my Life , Stephan Hausner aims to provide a picture of the healing potential of systemic constellations, entering into the reciprocal effects of family dynamics and illness. Extensive use of case studies demonstrates this technique in action, revealing how existing illnesses and pathologies are rooted within the family dynamic, and setting up healing postures to facilitate growth, development, and direction.

Genres: Psychology, Spirituality, Health

362 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 2010

Reviews

[David Jordan · Rating 4 out of 5]

If you are interested in Family Constellations, this is a must-read. Taking a practical approach, Hausner goes through one practical case after another in this book.
As I am not into the field, at some point the book seemed repetitive but if you are a therapist, this should be a guide and inspiration 👌

[Elīna Grantiņa · Rating 3 out of 5]

Vērtīga grāmata, lai labāk izprastu sistēmisko sakārtojumu procesu. Lasītais ļāva dziļāk skatīt slimību cēloņus,kas bieži nav saistīts ar to ko redzam acu priekšā.

[Sergiusz Golec · Rating 2 out of 5]

"Games" to cure a mind & body.
At first, I considered seeing that book as a collection of creepy fairy tails. Finally, as a healing Role Playing Game(s) (RPG). Game(s) aiming for "Peace of mind" (mainly with examples in intimate areas of family issues).

"Chessboard" theatre with the web of bio-psycho-socio connections.
Conflict(s), unfulfilled expectations, tough cases, traumas, speaking with the family member(s) and/or significant other(s), the disease, death, dead and/or unborn.

Bringing the cases from the edge or beyond of the awareness.
That "Game" help to translate difficult aspects into a deeper feeling of inner peace.
That "RPG" game helps to experiment with new combinations, dynamics and feelings, a new configuration of relationships. (Among others, reviewing belonging, inclusion and exclusion.) Analysing the locations and positions of the avatars, their words and behaviours.
That "self-help" book can help the reader and/or the game participant.


Big minus is for the book "Readability". There are fragments which can be entitled "Look how smart I am". Sections with unnecessary jargon, and/or long sentences. Three examples: "8-lines-long" sentence (p. 300) followed by 4 "5-line-long" sentences (p. 301) or "13-lines-long" sentence (p. 312).

P.S. As an IT guy, for me the closest known term is "RPG" (Role Playing Game). I wonder why "RPG" games have so many labels in that book, like: "Family Constellations", "Orders of Love", "Constellations", "Systemic Constellations", "Systems Constellations"; (and/or TA, and/or Gestalt "family reconstruction"), etc.
As for me, the added value of the variety of the labels here is as tiny as a single hair. It would be more valuable to show more examples. Even if the chapter #2 " Case Studies, Feedback, and Comments" is already bigger than all the other chapters combined.

[Guna · Rating 4 out of 5]

Labi izskaidro Helingera metodes būtību, ar precīzi noformulētiem jēdzieniem un bagātīgiem piemēriem. Lasīt gan būtu jālasa tikai tiem, kam ir iepriekšēja pieredze ar sakārtojumiem.

[Anita Gāga · Rating 5 out of 5]

Par to, kā ģimenes samezglojumi (par kuriem neviens nevēlas runāt, bet visi tāpat "jūt gaisā" notikumu, ap to saistītās negācijas) ietekmē cilvēka dzīvi un ne reti rada veselības traucējumus. Perfekti izstāstīts!

[Susana Ferrel · Rating 3 out of 5]

Interesante como aborda la conexión de enfermedades con sistemas y relaciones familiares intergeneracionales. Un libro que invita a reflexionar, hacernos cargo de nuestras decisiones, soltar para poder avanzar en la vida, desde la aceptación y gratitud

[Miiira · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is one of the best books about family constellation out there. Very easy to understand but at the same time gives a deep and detailed knowledge and understanding especially on case studies. If you are interested in detailed constellations and explanations this is your book.

[Antonio · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great book, friendly reading, suggested to all those who have previous experience at systemic constellations for a better understanding.

[Urban Healers of LA · Rating 5 out of 5]

Teachings in Family Systems Constellations

[Kelli Kiipus · Rating 5 out of 5]

Väga hea lugemine! Kuna olen perekonna konstellatsioonidega pidevalt kokku puutunud, siis arvan et see on hea eeldus sellest raamatust veel paremini aru saada.

[Kurtlu · Rating 3 out of 5]

önemli fizyolojik hastalıkları olan danışanlarla yapılan aile dizimi örneklerinin olduğu kitabın maalesef felaket bir çevirisinin var. Aynı paragraf içinde art arda yapılan geniş zamandan şimdiki zamana, sonra da di'li geçmiş zamana geçişler göz ve kafa yorucu. Mesela otommün hastalıkların genellikle ebeveynlerden birinin ihmaliyle ilgili olduğu gibi bilgiler berbat bir anlatıma kurban edilmiş. Daha iyi bir çeviriyle çok ilginç bir kitaba dönüşebilir.

[Guida Al·lès · Rating 3 out of 5]

Relats d’històries reals de pacients de malalties cròniques on es veu l’arrel emocional-familiar-sistèmica que les ha originades. Interessant.

[Birgit · Rating 5 out of 5]

Makkelijk leesbaar boek met veel voorbeelden.