Vénus en feu et Mars de glace

by John Gray, Corinne Dewandre (Translator)

Les femmes se demandent : "Pourquoi est-il si froid ?" et les hommes s'interrogent : "Pourquoi est-elle en colère contre moi ?" Les différences entre les hommes et les femmes existent bel et bien.Spécialiste mondial de la vie conjugale, John Gray nous explique ici pourquoi les hommes et les femmes ne pensent ni ne réagissent de la même façon.Dans Vénus en feu, Mars de glace, il nous révèle le lien qui existe entre le corps et l'esprit et nous montre comment il est possible, par des méthodes simples, efficaces et naturelles, de se libérer du stress et d'accéder au bonheur.

Genres: Nonfiction, Self Help, Psychology, Health, Relationships, Science, Love

320 pages, Pocket Book

Published March 1, 2014

About the author

Librarian Note: There is more than one author in the GoodReads database with this name.

John Gray is an American relationship counselor, lecturer, and author. In 1969, he began a nine-year association with Maharishi Mahesh Yogi before beginning his career as an author and personal relationship counselor. In 1992 he published the book Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, which became a long-term best seller and formed the central theme of his subsequent books and career activities. His books have sold millions of copies.

Reviews

[Linda Irvine · Rating 5 out of 5]

I say the book is amazing for the chapter on managing blood sugar. I literally had no idea how crucial managing blood sugar is to a healthy relationship. When we eat smaller meals with the PGX fibre supplement Gray mentions, and watch what we eat and how often, our moods are sunny and even tempered.

This quote follows me every day: "...we don't need stress to stimulate the release of cortisol that then causes sugar cravings. Eating a candy bar can do the same. You could be completely stress-free when you decide to eat a candy bar with too much sugar, and your body will begin to react as if you're being chased by a bear."

I have had intense sugar cravings my entire life, and have ridden the proverbial blood sugar roller coaster. Gray's book is going a long way to helping me correct this vicious cycle.

[Maridimi · Rating 2 out of 5]

This book is not to be taken seriously. (The second half is nothing but product advertisement, so don't even bother.) The first half claims that with hormones you can explain male and female behaviour, but does not take into consideration any other factor such as age, character, working conditions, family background, habits, individual traits etc. It's a generalisation of "most women/men act like this because of HORMONES" and offers advice on how to raise their levels by following or avoiding behavioral patterns: if you're a man, you shouldn't talk about your day, that's a female characteristic, you want to come home to relax, so do that. Sit in front of the TV and let your mind go blank, this will help you replenish your levels of testosterone. If you're a woman, even if you come home you have an implicit need to share details about your day and be listened, also you will want to clean the house before being able to relax (whereas man is not bothered by mess). The explanations are way too convenient and the examples only show the wanted side. I feel that if this had been a reasearch paper, it was done innacurately and in a non-scientific way, just to present the wanted results.

[Sarah · Rating 1 out of 5]

It makes a few valid points in gender differences (as far as stereotypical traits being matched with valid possible physical chemistry) but for the most part this is beaten to death. I have read better books. TY anyway, Paige. :)

[Prakash · Rating 3 out of 5]

This book covers most of the men/women relationship problems and provides a hormonal or endocrinology based explanation. My advice to readers is to read this book with a pinch of salt. Dr. Gray is not an endocrinologist. If you are looking for a solution or want to improve your relationship this book can help provided that you are not looking for a scientific explanation to justify the proposed change in your behaviour. A person's behaviour is controlled by a combination of neurological and endocrinology action. This book is somewhat short on neurological explanations.

People go to India and sit at the feet of a renowned guru. The advice given is usually based on spiritual or philosophical beliefs or they join the followers of Deepak Chopra. The outcome is always the same: "For those who believe, there is no need for proof."
John Grays book falls into the category of behavioral change by altered or influenced beliefs. It works because whether you go to India or just visit your local library in North America, you can use your source of motivation to change your behaviour in order to improve your relationships with the opposite sex.
If you think my views are somewhat cynical, I urge you to look into recent research on the prescription of well known pharmaceutical products and the Placebo effect.

[Monique · Rating 3 out of 5]

آیا به عنوان یه خانم گاهی لجتون گرفته که چرا همسرتون خیلی بیخیال با وجود کلی کار انجام نشده به محض رسیدن به خونه میشینه پای تلویزیون؟
یا گاهی وقتا همه کاری رو میارن برای دقیقه نود!؟
چرا به نظر میرسه مردا وقتی تو جمع دوستاشون هستن خیلی سرحالن, و گاهی وقتا یه جوری میرن تو خودشون انگار با همه دنیا قهرن؟!
خب، این کتاب جواب شما رو میده!
همچنین یادتون میده چطور با همسرتون حرف بزنید که هم حرفتون رو زده باشید و هم از حیطه حوصله ی شنیداریش! خارج نشید...
هورمون ها خیلی تو تنظیم خلق و خوی خانوما و آقایون موثره و این کتاب خیلی خوب بهتون یاد میده که چطور میشه خلق و خوی خودتون و همسرتون در وضعیت مطلوب تنظیم شه!
+خواندن این کتاب برای من خیلی زمان برد و چون من کلا کتابهای روانشناسی رو آهسته میخونم،اما یه دلیل دیگه این بود که گاهی به نظر می‌رسید خیلی حرفای نویسنده تکراری شده
++نکته منفی دیگه کتاب اینه که گاهی وقتا جنبه تبلیغاتی برای یه سری قرص ها و مکمل ها داشت
در کل خوندنش خالی از لطف نیست و به بعضی سوال ها جواب میده:)

[Seth Taplin · Rating 4 out of 5]

I loved the fact that finally we have a "relationship" book that ties in to actual science and biology of how and why humans run into many of the problems we see today. Here's a dead-on analysis that describes so many people and relationships I've seen in my own life, and why those relationships are different in the last few generations than they have been in generations past. Definitely worth the read!

[JP · Rating 2 out of 5]

Enough already. I do see some merits to the discussion about cortisol and other hormones, but the examples grow old, too often portraying men as incompetent half-wits that need constant coddling. This book was also 1/3 product sales..

[Andrea · Rating 3 out of 5]

Sarà una sensazione del momento, ma anche questo libro, come altri che recentemente ho letto anche di altri autori, mi pare si dilunghi troppo in spiegazioni superflue.
L'argomento trattato è interessante e, richiamando diversi concetti già affrontati nei precedenti libri, tocca un tema nuovo relativo al contributo giocato dagli ormoni nel rapporto tra uomo e donna, non necessariamente vincolato da un legame sentimentale.
Però mi pare comunque che gli stessi argomenti avrebbero potuto essere affrontati in un numero minore di pagine, spesso ripetitive e quasi finalizzate a formulare in diversi modi uno stesso contenuto.

[Fabia Romano · Rating 4 out of 5]

Dopo "Gli uomini vengono da Marte e le donne da Venere" dello stesso autore - del quale consiglio prima la lettura - ho deciso di leggere questo manuale. Ho trovato passaggi illuminanti, argomenti utili, che meritano approfonditi, parti ridondanti e parti che non mi appartengono, ma che possono essere molto utili per qualcun'altro. Ne appoggio appieno la lettura, in modo particolare l'attenzione al vivere sano e all'azione subdola dello stress. Mi ha affascinato scoprire il diverso meccanismo di riduzione dello stesso di uomini e donne (non senza un certo fastidio di fondo).

[Francesca Teresi · Rating 2 out of 5]

Interessante, ma privo di dati scientifici concreti anche se sicuramente rielaborati in modo più fruibile per il lettore. Il discorso è forse un po' datato e poco applicabile al giorno d'oggi. Alcune considerazioni forse sono leggermente sessiste, per avvalorare la tesi di Gray nella sua visione del rapporto di coppia che viene preso in considerazione solo se è matrimoniale.

[Kayla Browning · Rating 1 out of 5]

do yourself a favor and skip this one, unless you're looking for stereotypes of both women and men, as well as lots of product placement. some stuff in the appendix seemed mildly helpful (emphasis on some), but other than that... find a better book or have a talk with the one you're struggling to see eye to eye with.

[Monika · Rating 4 out of 5]

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[Antonio Meridda · Rating 4 out of 5]

Anche in questo libro si parla di "Marte e Venere", intendendo più "alla larga" il ruolo ormonale, che rende gli uomini "freddi" e le donne "calde".

[Gabriela LLeras · Rating 5 out of 5]

Wonderful book everyone should read.

This book should be a manual for adult daily life. Easy to read and full of wisdom, a pleasure to read!

[Catherine · Rating 4 out of 5]

Yet again, JG does a great job explaining the differences between men and women. In this title, he talks alot about biochemistry which is important in this early 50s stage of life.

[Alyson Craig · Rating 5 out of 5]

Who knew?

This book gave me many “aha moments” and I look forward to trying out what I have learned from Dr. Gray.

[Elizabeth Drake · Rating 4 out of 5]

Good foundation for hormones and their influence and difference they create between men and women in long term relationships.

[Shubham Natu · Rating 3 out of 5]

An interesting read, but the continuous mention of certain facts makes it a bit overwhelmed.

[Tammy · Rating 5 out of 5]

Another master piece

I've read nearly every book in this series, and each one has its take awaits for me. I always re-read to help ground myself and refocus!!

[Malvina · Rating 3 out of 5]

E' una lettura leggera e un refresh per chi apprezza il classico "Marte e Venere", anche se non è alla sua altezza.

[Emily · Rating 4 out of 5]

The first half of this book I found really interesting and insightful. I loved learning about the hormone and brain differences that cause men and women to act differently and need different things. It was fascinating. The second half of the book wasn't as interesting for a couple of reasons:
1. Some chapters just we aren't applicable to our relationship right now. So while I read them to get an idea it was as "eye opening".
2. He gets more into promoting specific diets and supplements and such and I feel like I need to do more research in order to see if I agree and that wasn't really the kind of information I was looking for right now. So it wasn't as interesting.
Over all though, I would recommend this book just for the first half and for all my friends where the woman is working or they aren't necessarily in traditional roles as I feel like he really gives good advice on how to make relationships work in a world where roles are changing as women become more independent. Great book.

[Naomi Bellina · Rating 5 out of 5]

John Gray has a wonderful writing style. It's easy to understand, yet he doesn't talk down to the reader. This book was extremely helpful in pointing out the differences between men and women, particularly in regard to hormones. As always, Dr. Gray offers much good advice. I now don't get so irritated when my honey behaves a certain way, because I know why he does these annoying things, and understand how to deal with them. A good, easy, informative read.

[Farhana Faruq · Rating 4 out of 5]

Finished reading this a while ago but didn't have time to review it. Overall a really good book. Other than the section on "Nutrition" - supplements right?! ...nothing worse than getting close to the end of a book only to realize the author is selling some random supplement that will 'help' you, and the 'right' mix is only available on his site.

....but the rest of the book is pretty entertaining... apparently I'm from Mars :/

Happy reading and if all else fails - go find a cave :P

[John · Rating 5 out of 5]

Lifesaving information...

We have struggled for years wondering how to get the energy and enthusiasm we had when we first married 47 years ago and began raising children. Much of our experience has been a gradually waning of these factors EXACTLY as John Gray describes when hormone depletion sets in. His understanding of the problems and lifetime of treatment give great optimism that we can improve our relationship and finish with renewed strength!

[Sheri Byrd · Rating 5 out of 5]

Only 1 chapter in, and if every one, or even every woman, in a relationship or marriage would read this, a lot of pain would be spared! Excellent advice, with the medical research to back it. (Gray's earlier books stress the same behaviors,but are often criticized for the lack of traditional research.)

[Yadhira · Rating 4 out of 5]

Lo que mejor destaco de este libro son las ilustraciones, DIOS, que cosas hermosas.
Sí es verdad que ayuda muchísimo al momento de enseñar sobre lo bueno de la comunicación y de lo bien que podemos llegar a entendernos unos con otros a base del entendimiento.
No es menor el comentario de que, LITERALMENTE, lo llené de post-its.

[Noella · Rating 3 out of 5]

leuk, kon er zelfs inkomen wat hij schreef, tot hij probeerde aan te tonen dat met de voedingssupplementen die hij verkocht, alle problemen op te lossen zijn. Dat was voor mij een afknapper. Anders waren het 4 sterren geweest.

[Arlene · Rating 4 out of 5]

Praying that I'll remember what I've read. So far Dr. Gray has hit the head on the nails..lol

[Angela · Rating 4 out of 5]

Like reading emotions on steroids--er, hormones. Stages of hormonal productivity and stagnation for males and females, and how that affects marital relationships. Helps in reading your partner.

[Beverly · Rating 4 out of 5]

Lots of practical, useful information.