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Sexperiment: 7 Days to Lasting Intimacy with Your Spouse
The predominant message in our culture is that it's okay to have sex whenever, wherever, and however we want. Sex has become just sex. But while society has taken sex too far, the church hasn't taken it far enough.
God wants couples to make love in marriage-with passion, with purpose, and with pleasure. Marriages aren't experiencing all the benefits that come from a healthy sex life. Couples are facing a barrage of influences that keep them from connecting with each other regularly-the kids, the career, the house, the errands, etc.
SEXPERIMENT shows people that sex in marriage is more than just sex, and it's more than a chore. The Youngs believe it's time to get back to understanding the context of sex in marriage and that it's time for couples to break the barriers keeping them from a healthy sexual relationship. Couples ought to experience the benefits of having sex regularly, intentionally, and creatively. SEXPERIMENT will allow couples to discover that the intersection of God and sex can lead to a life punctuated by exclamation marks!
224 pages, Hardcover
First published January 1, 2012
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About the author
Ed Young
52 books45 followersEd Young is the founding pastor of Fellowship Church and a New York Times bestselling author. Ed and his wife Lisa have been married for over 40 years and have four children, one who is in Heaven. Fellowship Church is known for creatively and boldly communicating the Bible and equipping people for the challenges of everyday life.
Through his leadership as founding and Lead Pastor of Fellowship Church, the church has been consistently ranked as one of the most attended churches in North America over the past decade. Since 1990, Fellowship has grown from 30 families to multiple campuses in Dallas/Fort Worth (TX) and an online campus as well.
With a passion to equip and train leaders in the church, Ed began C3 Global, CreativePastors.com and the Creative Church Conference (C3) in order to provide resources to thousands of pastors and leaders around the world.
Ed has also had the opportunity to publish several books on the topics of leadership, Christian living, marriage and parenting.
Ed is a New York Times best-selling author and his books include: Sexperiment: 7 Days to Lasting Intimacy with Your Spouse. His other books include: The Marriage Mirror; The Creative Leader; and Outrageous, Contagious Joy, The Fear Virus.
Through his leadership as founding and Lead Pastor of Fellowship Church, the church has been consistently ranked as one of the most attended churches in North America over the past decade. Since 1990, Fellowship has grown from 30 families to multiple campuses in Dallas/Fort Worth (TX) and an online campus as well.
With a passion to equip and train leaders in the church, Ed began C3 Global, CreativePastors.com and the Creative Church Conference (C3) in order to provide resources to thousands of pastors and leaders around the world.
Ed has also had the opportunity to publish several books on the topics of leadership, Christian living, marriage and parenting.
Ed is a New York Times best-selling author and his books include: Sexperiment: 7 Days to Lasting Intimacy with Your Spouse. His other books include: The Marriage Mirror; The Creative Leader; and Outrageous, Contagious Joy, The Fear Virus.
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January 25, 2012
There really is nothing here I haven't seen many times before.
I think it was 2008 when churches started issuing "30 day sex challenges" to their congregations. This book show no awareness that it's following, less ambitiously, in their footsteps.
The seven-days-of-sex thing, by the way, isn't exactly integral to the book; it's just something they keep bringing up -- "the challenge" -- but there's never a point in the book where I feel like there's a clear vision or plan for how those seven days should go, what should be accomplished, what difficult questions need to be asked, etc. It mostly feels like a gimmick to get press attention for a book that repeats a lot of often-repeated conventional Christian sex book themes.
The Youngs come right out and say they've written the book for couples who have a functioning sex life, but feel like they're drifting apart. There's maybe a page worth of material dealing, as non-specifically and unhelpfully as possible, with serious sexual problems like low libido and broken sexual history.
The Bible has a great deal to say about sex, and not much of it is reflected here, and what little did make the cut is presented with very little reflection or exposition.
The book is packed with weak analogies; sex is, for example, like a Ferrari. It also often reads like a seeker sermon -- "wouldn't you want to?". And it would have benefited from another round of careful editing -- I found at least one pair of sections (not phrases or paragraphs, but whole sections) that are practically identical.
As a work of exhortation for someone who's not familiar with many other helpful Christian resources in this area, I imagine this book could be a helpful starting point, but it fails to rise above any of the complaints I raised in my "Christian Sex Book Rant" several years ago. If you are helped by this book, then that's wonderful; in the more likely case that you're looking for help and this book doesn't provide it, try Real Marriage: The Truth About Sex, Friendship, and Life Together, and other books listed on my website.
I think it was 2008 when churches started issuing "30 day sex challenges" to their congregations. This book show no awareness that it's following, less ambitiously, in their footsteps.
The seven-days-of-sex thing, by the way, isn't exactly integral to the book; it's just something they keep bringing up -- "the challenge" -- but there's never a point in the book where I feel like there's a clear vision or plan for how those seven days should go, what should be accomplished, what difficult questions need to be asked, etc. It mostly feels like a gimmick to get press attention for a book that repeats a lot of often-repeated conventional Christian sex book themes.
The Youngs come right out and say they've written the book for couples who have a functioning sex life, but feel like they're drifting apart. There's maybe a page worth of material dealing, as non-specifically and unhelpfully as possible, with serious sexual problems like low libido and broken sexual history.
The Bible has a great deal to say about sex, and not much of it is reflected here, and what little did make the cut is presented with very little reflection or exposition.
The book is packed with weak analogies; sex is, for example, like a Ferrari. It also often reads like a seeker sermon -- "wouldn't you want to?". And it would have benefited from another round of careful editing -- I found at least one pair of sections (not phrases or paragraphs, but whole sections) that are practically identical.
As a work of exhortation for someone who's not familiar with many other helpful Christian resources in this area, I imagine this book could be a helpful starting point, but it fails to rise above any of the complaints I raised in my "Christian Sex Book Rant" several years ago. If you are helped by this book, then that's wonderful; in the more likely case that you're looking for help and this book doesn't provide it, try Real Marriage: The Truth About Sex, Friendship, and Life Together, and other books listed on my website.
March 22, 2012
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What I got the most out of this book was the needed reminder that marriage is about service and giving. I needed that reminder. It is easy to fall into comfortable patterns with your spouse. That doesn't mean that "comfortable" is necessarily bad, it just means that sometimes we need the reminder to not take our Spouses for granted. I don't necessarily agree with Mr. Young on everything he says, like about half of the Ten Commandments of Marriage, but I can see where they would be useful in a marriage that shares the same religious beliefs as Mr. & Mrs. Young.
If I have learned anything in my two years of marriages it is this, marriage is hard. It is not all breakfast in bed and pretty flowers. Work is required to make your marriage successful. Work on yourself and work on your marriage. Sexperiment offers you the chance to work on both.
What I got the most out of this book was the needed reminder that marriage is about service and giving. I needed that reminder. It is easy to fall into comfortable patterns with your spouse. That doesn't mean that "comfortable" is necessarily bad, it just means that sometimes we need the reminder to not take our Spouses for granted. I don't necessarily agree with Mr. Young on everything he says, like about half of the Ten Commandments of Marriage, but I can see where they would be useful in a marriage that shares the same religious beliefs as Mr. & Mrs. Young.
If I have learned anything in my two years of marriages it is this, marriage is hard. It is not all breakfast in bed and pretty flowers. Work is required to make your marriage successful. Work on yourself and work on your marriage. Sexperiment offers you the chance to work on both.
May 22, 2012
If you want to have a good understanding of the point of this book, read the last three pages. Seriously. Although the concepts it covers are very basic, it could be a good reminder of some important relational truths. However, there were two things that bugged me about this book. 1. There are several instances where he covers the same concept over and over again. Sometimes in almost identical wording. 2. It is filled with annoying little cliches, silly puns and irrelevant stories from his personal life.
I would have appreciated a book that was a more in depth study of what God says about sex. Aside from the actual 7-day challenge, I didn't get much of anything out of it. And that idea could have been covered in a tweet.
I would have appreciated a book that was a more in depth study of what God says about sex. Aside from the actual 7-day challenge, I didn't get much of anything out of it. And that idea could have been covered in a tweet.
December 18, 2020
Took me a long time to learn some of these things, wish I had read this earlier. Especially in the porn culture we live in, this book is really necessary.
August 18, 2012
This was an interesting read. It's about more than sex...it has a lot of great insight on how to have a stronger marriage! Glad I read it, and my hubby read it too!!
February 18, 2019
Enjoyed the biblical references. It did feel a bit misogynistic at times.
To have & to hold. Become One. One flesh.
2 But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband.
3 The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband.
4 For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.
5 Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control."[1Corinthians 7]
To have & to hold. Become One. One flesh.
2 But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband.
3 The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband.
4 For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.
5 Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control."[1Corinthians 7]
January 12, 2025
The book was different than other books on this topic, and their premise of 7 days in a row of sex can change your marriage intrigued me. Their chapters were not what I expected. It really wasn't a chapter a day. They tackled things that could hinder you from wanting to do the exercise and why you should. But that is pretty much it. Not really wrote for a chapter a day to do with each other and ideas of how to make it happen or different things to try. They had a section at the end of each chapter for a couple not yet married, which seemed weird. Why would a non married couple be reading this book? Especially if they say on the cover "spouse"? That was weird. Write a separate book for that and give better practical advice.
May 28, 2024
An excellent read on sex in the christian marriage. Some great ideas to work toward having the marriage God wants you to.
August 15, 2012
I really appreciated this book - obviously my husband and I felt the need to read it otherwise, it'd be a little pointless. It had a lot of good points in the beginning - mainly remembering now to let yourself go after marriage, romance needs to stay alive, creativity is good - don't be stagnant in what/how you interact, etc. I didn't always agree with some of the things the author says and having it be from a Christian view was a little uncomfortable at first (even though I'm a Christian - none of the churches I've been to talk about sex at church) but I got over that. I would agree with another reviewer though that you could get about everything you need from the book in the last chapter since things are repetitive but I liked that too - it helped me to remember some of the points!!!
April 2, 2013
Well written book with the premise that 7 striaght days of sex with your spouse will draw you closer in a Oneness relationship - what God intended. Plainly written with biblical references and stories from the author who is a pastor.
December 26, 2012
This was advertised on Good Day Atlanta today and looks awesome! This couple is in a bed on the top of a church in Texas talking about this book.
April 3, 2014
I read this book a couple of times as it was written by the Pastors of my church. I recommend this book to everyone; whether you are in a relationship or thinking about someday being in one.
August 4, 2012
Great marriage book.
August 15, 2014
This book was quite informative and insightful. Unfortunately I am not quite at this stage in my life and it wasn't quite what I was expecting. I did a lot of skimming.
August 19, 2013
This is a great marriage book! How could sex for a week straight not draw you closer to your spouse?
March 3, 2014
I would recommend this book to any newlywed or anyone who wants to re-spice up their sex life!
April 12, 2016
probably a better book to read not when you're single but married.
Although they have suggest for both singles and married.
Although they have suggest for both singles and married.
April 7, 2018
When I saw that this book was available for review I thought it sounded like an interesting twist on your typical marriage help books and I was eager to read it. While I sincerely believe that my husband and I have a very good marriage, I figured that there would still be something that we could gain from this book. I started reading the book and it did not disappoint. While yes, the book does definitely focus on having an intimacy with your spouse - it goes beyond that! It covers so many excuses that we let crop into our lives that lead us away from "becoming one" in our marriages.
One of my favorite chapters was actually the first chapter because it covered the differences between men and women and how we think. I couldn't believe how accurate it was! I guess I shouldn't have been too surprised since this is written from a husband and wife team that have been married for over 30 years, but it still amazed me.
I think that this book would be very helpful for any marriage. Even if you have a solid marriage - it will help to solidify your marriage. If your marriage seems to be shaky - it can help you to get it back on track. This book even has a section at the end of each chapter called "Action Steps" for couples that are reading this together and are getting ready to embark on the "Sexperiment". While this book is written for married couples, it also has a section at the end of the chapter called "Before You Do" for engaged couples and "The Yoke is Not a Joke" for those that are still dating. I really appreciated the fact that over and over in these sections they made a point to say that this experiment is only for you once you are married, but there are things that you can consider before you are in that situation.
I received this book for free from FaithWords in exchange for an honest review. I was not required to give a positive review. All words and thoughts in this review are my own.
One of my favorite chapters was actually the first chapter because it covered the differences between men and women and how we think. I couldn't believe how accurate it was! I guess I shouldn't have been too surprised since this is written from a husband and wife team that have been married for over 30 years, but it still amazed me.
I think that this book would be very helpful for any marriage. Even if you have a solid marriage - it will help to solidify your marriage. If your marriage seems to be shaky - it can help you to get it back on track. This book even has a section at the end of each chapter called "Action Steps" for couples that are reading this together and are getting ready to embark on the "Sexperiment". While this book is written for married couples, it also has a section at the end of the chapter called "Before You Do" for engaged couples and "The Yoke is Not a Joke" for those that are still dating. I really appreciated the fact that over and over in these sections they made a point to say that this experiment is only for you once you are married, but there are things that you can consider before you are in that situation.
I received this book for free from FaithWords in exchange for an honest review. I was not required to give a positive review. All words and thoughts in this review are my own.
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