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That's My Girl: How a Father's Love Protects and Empowers His Daughter

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A father impacts every aspect of his daughter's life--for her entire life. Fathers model for their daughters how women should be treated, how men should act, and how a man shows healthy love and affection toward a woman. And, perhaps most importantly, he sets the standard for how his daughter feels she deserves to be treated by men. It's plain to see that this is a big responsibility and one that is not always easy to carry out.
In "That's My Girl," parenting expert Rick Johnson shows men how to develop the close relationships with their daughters that they both crave. Rick's plainspoken common sense, wisdom, and humor meets dads right where they are with stories and advice that will change their relationships with their daughters for life.
Any man who wants to be the best dad possible to his daughter, as well as mothers and adult daughters seeking to understand the men in their lives, will love this hope-filled book.

198 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 2012

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Rick Johnson

22 books67 followers
Rick founded Better Dads, a fathering skills program, based on the urgent need to empower men to lead and serve in their families and communities. Rick's books have expanded his work to include influencing the whole family, with life-changing insights for men and women on parenting, marriage, and personal growth. Inspiring and equipping through innovative multimedia presentations and seminars, Rick's resources, methods and personal approach have been transforming the lives of men, women, and their families for over 20 years.

Rick speaks at many large conferences across the US and Canada. He is a popular keynote speaker at men’s and women’s retreats and conferences on parenting and marriage.

He is a nationally recognized expert in several areas having been asked to deliver papers at venues such as the International Convention of Adult Children of Alcoholics, County of Los Angeles Child Abuse Prevention Conference and the State of New York Fatherhood Conference. Rick’s work with men and fathers was recognized when he was invited to the White House as part of the “Champions of Change” ceremony in 2012.

Prior to becoming a bestselling author and speaker, Rick was a small business owner for 16 years, owning and operating an environmental engineering firm. He attended George Fox University receiving a Bachelor of Arts degree in Management and Organizational Leadership, and has a Masters Degree in Education from Concordia University. He is a veteran of the United States Navy, has served on the Board of Directors for several community and business associations, and coaches high school basketball in his spare time. Rick has been featured in many national publications such as New Man Magazine, Crosswalk.com, Christianity.com, Christianity Today’s Men of Integrity, Relevant Magazine, Pentecostal Evangel, Thriving Family, and Proverbs 31 Ministries Magazine.

He is the bestselling author of twelve books and has appeared on over 300 radio programs and television shows around the United States and Canada. He is the former co-host of a live, weekly radio show and a frequent guest host of other local programs. Rick is actively involved with the men’s and family ministries as well as speaking from the pulpit at his church and various other churches.

Rick and his wife Suzanne have two adult children (one deceased) and is raising an adopted granddaughter having recently re-located to Texas.

You can find out more about Rick on his web site at www.betterdads.net .

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Profile Image for Alycia Morales.
Author 1 book35 followers
January 13, 2012
I picked up a copy of Rick Johnson's book, That's My Son, when I was on a reading binge of books concerning raising boys. I have four of them. I needed to understand what makes them tick, what my place in their lives was, and how to shepherd them when their father is busy at work. I'd heard that girls were difficult because of their emotions and feelings and such. But boys bring their own challenges, trust me.

So when the opportunity to review Mr. Johnson's newest release, That's My Girl, arose, I wondered what he had to say about raising a daughter. What I discovered was a fantastic book written from the heart of a father who only wants what's best for his "little" girl and to protect her from all this world has to offer.

Every man should read this book, whether his daughter is due in a week, twelve years old, nineteen years old, or an adult. Every man should read this book if he is married, dating, or considering either. Why? Because the statistics Rick Johnson splatters throughout the pages of his book are shocking, revolting, and will move you to protect the virtue of womanhood (and girlhood).

My stomach turned somersaults as I read the gripping statistics of what happens when a girl doesn't have a solid, trustworthy, go-to guy for a dad. Passion emerged from deep within me as I read accounts from women of what it meant when their father was there for her or what it meant when he abandoned her. Mind you, abandonment doesn't necessarily mean he wasn't physically present. Abandonment can occur when a father isn't emotionally or mentally present, as well.

I reflected on my own relationship with my father, both growing up (when he wasn't there for me emotionally and, occasionally, physically) and now (under God's grace and forgiveness, restored). I thought of the stories I could tell of what his absence caused in my life. I thought of the stories I could tell about how several of these principles apply to married life and the relationship between a husband and a wife. I thought of the stories I could tell of God's love for us as girls and women. My heart filled with more passion as I continued to turn the pages of That's My Girl.

Rick Johnson went the extra mile for us ladies when he wrote this book. It's evident he is concerned with the state of our affairs, the lack of noble men in this day and age, and the effects it will have on future generations. If you would like to feel the support of a strong father figure, I recommend reading this book. If you would like to know what a true father "looks" like, I recommend reading this book. If you are a man raising a daughter or even simply married, I recommend reading this book. If you are a woman dreaming of some understanding from her husband or dreaming of the day your husband steps up to being a father to his daughter, I recommend buying this book for him.

This is a fantastic parenting resource, one I will refer back to when ministering to parents and women. It has stirred up a fresh passion for the fatherless, and I will be looking for God opportunities to minister the truths found within it as God leads. Thank you, Rick Johnson, for writing this book. And thank you, Revell, for seeing its value and putting it into my hands and the hands of others.
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2 reviews2 followers
January 10, 2013
An excellent book for fathers that will help them understand the role they play in their daughter's lives. In his easy conversational style Rick Johnson clearly points out the long term consequences of being a marginal dad. He challenges fathers to build relational milestones that will not only change their relationship with their daughters but define the qualities they will search for in a husband. Since every father is married to someone's daughter it also provides some insight in to being an understanding husband and leader in your family. Definitely a good read for every daughter's daddy.
Profile Image for Maura.
48 reviews
May 25, 2023
Hey Rick,
It's me, Maura, I'm back.

I read this book to continue with my fanatic towards this man and all his glory. After reading That's My Son, I could only imagine and fear what he would believe, write, and publish and SELL on how fathers can protect, love, and empower their daughters. All I have to say is that they really be letting anyone publish books these days. Rick Johnson is an equivalent to podcast men in this generation. He quite often says researchers and I believe a lot of the statements he writes are just nonsense he solely believes after raising his one daughter even though he credits to be an expert on all things women, even so to educate other fathers.

With that being said, grab a glass a milk, a comfy pillow pet, and of course a stress ball,
Let's begin!

In the context of this quote, Johnson touches on what it's like being around women when they are menstruating. He says it is "much like coming face-to-face with a brown bear in the wilderness . . . They acted illogically, irrationally, and even appeared to suffer from temporary insanity" (Pg 29). It is insane how on the spot he is with this information. Anytime I am on my period I like to scream at children, eat raw 93% lean beef, and submerge my hands in a boiling pot of water with a tad of salt in it, just when I am on my period though.

"Many grown women still call their fathers 'Daddy'" (Pg 35). I mean yeah this is an obvious statement, it is not weird at all, I call many men in my life daddy.

"I've heard countless girls tell me they had sex with a boy (not even a boyfriend) simply for the physical contact, because their father never hugged them or showed them any affection" (PG 64). I think the biggest issue with the education system when making lessons for sex education is not just having every students' (female) father come in and hug them. They will be abstinent for life.

"One of the more effective ways researchers are finding to treat and even prevent eating disorders is to have daughters spend more time with their fathers" (PG 83). Yeah I heard a new rehabilitation center is throwing away cognitive therapy, firing the psychiatrists, flushing the meds, and just bringing in the patient's fathers to do a puzzle with them, they are cured and discharged within two weeks!

Another favorite of mine was how he included a poem his daughter Kelsey wrote him when she was 15. The favorite line of mine was "If I wasn't your daughter, I'd probably be a ho" (pg 102). This poem makes me wonder what his answer would be to the question "gay son or thot daughter?" he'd probably explode.

"Have you noticed how some high school girls dress these days? Frankly, some of them look like hookers or strippers. What kind of message are girls sending to males when they flaunt their bodies in that manner? I know the thoughts they evoke in me . . . It's a miracle [boys] get any schoolwork done" (pg 134). Thankgod for dressing coding children, actual children. Sending the wrong messages to adult, grown, men, god it makes me terrified these boys in school have to suffer in their education because of children wearing shorts and tank tops. GOD THE INSANITY.

This is the last one I felt was necessary to include, here is some context, his daughter was dating her boyfriend for about two years and when her boyfriend turned 19, she wanted to "give him a gift. You know--- THE gift!" and so she asked her father for permission to loose her v-card. Rick then goes onto say that he "concluded by telling her that her boyfriend was welcome to call [him], and if he could convince [him] it was a good idea, [he] would be happy to give it [his] blessing" (pg 159). If this happened I can only imagine the convincing points her boyfriend gave to Rick. "Yeah uhhh your daughter is ight, we can't soak anymore it just, it just is too painful sir uh please, like I promise I'll tell you about it after and you can throw away the condom if you want"

Okay I am done now, bye folks, bye Rick, you have run my money dry on sticky notes, broke my roommates jaws when I read them quotes, and now you will just have a comfy spot on my bedside table. Maybe I will write a book, but in the meantime I am moving onto fiction I cannot take this shiz no more.
326 reviews48 followers
January 2, 2012
That’s My Girl by Rick Johnson is one of the most comprehensive books on father/daughter relationships and how that relationship affects a daughter’s life forever. Though Rick did not become a Christian until his children were eight and ten, God has used this man to encourage dads to become deeply involved with their daughters. An earthly father’s love displays the love of God the Father to girls. This is imperative for a girl to develop confidence and empower them to become the daughter of God that she was meant to become.

Does that mean every dad should be perfect? No! It means for them to seek God and His Word to guide their daughters in Godly virtues.

The chapter titles include:

What are little girls made of–biological and psychological make-up
Her father’s influence–the power of a father words
Communicating with the female species–how to listen
Bonding with girls–time and healthy affection
What a girl needs from her father–unconditional love and truth
Danger, Will Robinson!–emotional health
Protecting her–physically, emotionally, mentally, and sexually
Uh-Oh! She’s becoming a woman–her virtue and your views on dating issues
Character training–character traits all girls need
The Father Blessing–spiritual development and the father blessing

All these titles may seem familiar, but Rick’s comments and examples address the issues much more deeply than I even expected. His book is personal and profound. This is a must-read for all men and fathers.

The only topic I would have liked to have seen included is homosexuality. It’s rampant today, and God has very strong commands on the matter.

I am also aware of another book by this author that would follow suit with this one, which I have not read yet, but will–That’s My Son. So if you need more guidance in raising your children, or your church is doing a class on parenting, I feel confident in recommending Rick’s books. My church is considering using the book in a parenting class.

This book was provided by Donna Hausler, Publicity Assistant, Baker Publishing Group, in exchange for my honest review. No monetary compensation was exchanged.
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1,240 reviews17 followers
January 5, 2012
Subtitled "How a Father's love Protects and Empowers His Daughter" this book is just that. Many father's get lost in the provisional respects of their role in the family life forgetting or never fully understanding that love is a key element.

As the Senior High Girls Youth teacher and the Sunday School teacher for younger girls I see first hand what a lack of a father's genuine love does to a girl. Few father's truly understand the magnitude of influence they have in what type of young adult emerges in their daughters. They wonder why their daughters make bad choices in careers, life style, dates, etc - it boils down to what they were taught by their fathers. A girl's worth is often tied up in what she thinks her father thinks about her.

I am impressed with Rick Johnson's book in that it not only explores the importance of a father's love and influence, or what a father should do for his daughter, but it goes a step father to empower men to be the very best fathers. In this book Johnson attempts to give men direction, encouragement and advice on how to accomplish the task of loving their daughters in a way that protects and empowers them.

Our children are faced with a myriad of decisions. They desperately need a solid foundation of love to succeed in this unstable world. After reading this as a review copy I found myself wanting to buy the book "That's My Son" and "Better Dads, Stronger Sons". As a mother I want to know firsthand how I can help my sons become godly men - and if Johnson handles the subject of sons as well as he did daughters I do not expect to be disappointed.

Although I am a mother, I would highly recommend this book for fathers (and mothers to read with your husbands). If you are a single mom - read this book to better understand what it is your daughter may be longing for - then begin to pray for godly men to step into that role.

I received this book from the publisher Revell as a review copy in exchange for my honest opinion.

“Available January 2012 at your favorite bookseller from Revell, a division of Baker Publishing Group.”
Profile Image for Laura.
Author 39 books654 followers
January 2, 2012
Title: THAT’S MY GIRL
Author: Rick Johnson
Publisher: Revell
January 2012
ISBN: 978-0-8007-3383-4
Genre: Inspirational/parenting

Fathers shape their daughter’s future. They impact every part of their daughter’s life. How you treats your wife, your daughter, will impact her relationships with men—whether you show her what healthy love and affection is, or if you don’t. Most importantly, you set the standard for how your daughter feels she deserves to be treated by men.

Rick Johnson is a parenting expert and a sought after speaker. He’s spoken at many large parenting and marriage conferences and has authored several other books on the subject of marriage and parenting. In THAT’S MY GIRL, Rick Johnson shows you how to develop a close relationship with your daughter that you’ll both crave. He writes with common sense, humor, and confidence, giving sound parenting advice that will encourage you to change your daughter’s life.

THAT’S MY GIRL gives advice on the following topics:

 Her father’s influence
 Communicating with the female species
 Bonding with girls
 Protecting her
 The truth about boys
 She’s becoming a woman!
 Character training
 And more!

This is a book that fathers will read and refer to many times whether their daughter is in her terrible two’s, her early elementary school years, or in high school. Full of useful information, this is a book that every father needs to read, and it should be in church libraries and pastor’s libraries. Discussion questions are included, making it ideal for small groups. Also notes for further study. Recommended. $12.99. 200 pages.
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Author 1 book12 followers
February 14, 2012
I didn't know what to expect when I had a chance to review "That's My Girl" by Rick Johnson.

I hoped the book would not only be a resource that dad's could use, but also one that didn't come across as preachy or obnoxious.

Well, I can safely say that I can recommend this book to the dads in my ministry.

Johnson has written a intriguing parenting book that weaves together insight from his life as a dad, along with stories from raising a strong-willed daughter (with her permission).

This book has an authentic tone. Johnson's writing style is warm and inviting. I can't explain it, but you can almost feel how much he cares for his daughter. This is especially true as he describes the different aspects of their relationship and how other dads can learn from it.

I'll admit, at times, Johnson seemed well, a bit conservative. But his tone helps keep the book from being "overbearing." It's definitely not obnoxious or preachy. Instead the reader is allowed to make their own decision and judgement about the content of the book.

I could definitely see this as a small group resource for a dad's group since each chapter ends with a couple of discussion questions.

In all, I give this book a solid four (on a scale of one to five). If you know a dad of daughters, you might want to pass this book along to them. I'm planning to give it to a friend who is raising four girls - ages kindergarten to sixth grade. I think - based upon recent conversations - he will find this a worthy resource.
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1,850 reviews76 followers
January 5, 2012
THAT'S MY GIRL: HOW A FATHER'S LOVE PROTECTS AND EMPOWERS HIS DAUGHTER by Rick Johnson is a wonderful,informative parenting non-fiction. It is a guide every parent needs to read to help in understanding and guiding their daughter's life. It is a rough time for a daughter,and this author understands the importance of a Godly father in a young girl's life."That's My Girl" is a must read for not only father's but for anyone who is interested in empowering,and protecting their daughter's. I know from experience the relationship between a father/daughters and the importance of a loving,caring father during a girl's young life. I would highly recommend this book to any parent. It gives tools needed for the growth of strength,and is told with honesty,strength,compassion,from the author's own experience with his daughter with ideas,scripture,and from the heart. "That's My Girl" should be on every Dad's nightstand for reference,and reassurance during the difficult times of today's young daughter's living and the future of our daughter's. I would dare to say if we all had a better understanding of our daughter's maybe,just maybe our daughter's would not find themselves in difficult relationships in today's world. Received for an honest review from the publisher. Details can be found at Revell,a division of Baker Publishing Group and mybookaddictionreviews.wordpress.com.




RATING: 4.5
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55 reviews
July 16, 2012


My daughters aren't old enough for this book to matter to me yet. Plus, the writing style and the "jokes" are a little old-fashioned ("Danger Will Robinson" as a heading). I think a LOT of the content could have been removed, but I still see this as a potentially good resource in 6 years when my girls get a little older.
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August 10, 2012
Haven't finished this yet, but I really like what he's saying so far. Liked it so much that I bought a copy for my son whose daughter is currently one year old. So far he's a great dad, but every parent I ever knew (including myself) could usually use some good advice, especially on raising daughters.
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January 2, 2013
This is a great book for all fathers of daughters. A good combination of research, exhortation, application, and real life examples. It's probably good for mothers as well, so they can see the importance of the father's role and hold their husbands accountable.
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June 4, 2013
Great books for dads of daughters!
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