The night she told her mom she was pregnant, Sachi felt crushed by anxiety and loneliness at her unexpected reaction. Sensing the presence of the child inside her, though, one thing became she doesn’t want to have an abortion. Now the day of the joint meeting between her and Takara’s families has arrived and tensions are high. Will Sachi be able to express her mixed feelings about having an abortion even though people keep pushing her to go through with it? Or will she cave under the pressure?
Sachi and Takara were having enough trouble dealing with the teen pregnancy thing, but now their families have gotten into the mix. It might not get any easier, but it’s sure going to get a lot louder.
This story means very well, but if I had to describe it in one word, it would be histrionic. On the one hand, this makes for a fantastic tonal difference when the cast come up against the patient and understanding health care providers who are portrayed as practically godly.
On the other, it means that spending time with the people the story is ostensibly about can be positively grating. Takara’s mother, in particular, is so ridiculous as the antagonist that she’s only outshone by Sachi’s asshole brother, who is not even Sachi’s dad and should mind his damned business.
I get that this is a fraught situation, and one where emotions are going to be heightened, to say the least, but they have time to sort this out which somehow translates into ‘let’s get together and yell like we’re debating starting a war’. Maybe it’s a cultural thing I’m not aware of.
Having one person in this heavy role would be okay, you want to have a variety of perspectives here, but the brother/mother combo raises the volume far more than the stakes. It just escalates endlessly to see who can be worse.
By the time bro has nearly started a fistfight with Takara and Takara’s mom throws Takara out of the house THEN later pivots to revealing her own past abortion in an attempt to persuade Sachi that she’ll miss out on… fun… I guess? It’s way, way too much. The world is just pounding these poor kids.
Once we get into the burden of the child on their lives as it strains their schooling, their finances, and their relationships, it becomes pretty clear that this is perilously close to misery porn for my money. I’m not even rooting for anybody here, or looking for a strong ending. I just wanted out.
This has some good notes buried in here, but it just keeps turning into a telenovella by way of an afterschool special. It’s not like this is a minor issue, far from it, but it’s not exactly being handled subtly either.
Which is a me thing, I suspect. Some people will see this as raw and emotional and important and they’re probably right. I just think the kids have it hard enough without everybody trying to go at them. It’s overkill.
And, bluntly, I think Sachi’s reasons for keeping the baby are fine, but part of me also thinks that she had to because otherwise there wouldn’t be a story to continue here. It’s entirely possible I am too cynical for this material.
3 stars - if this is your jam, probably add a star. I liked the first two volumes, but I think I have gotten my fill of these people and then some. The thought of another volume of this leaves me absolutely cold, so not a series for me, clearly.
We're keeping the baby. But with that choice, family members begin to choose what they believe in. Leaving our two leads, very confused, and hurt. It's great to see young characters try to fix things together instead of needless drama and the family moments are both touching, but also sad, and might make you angry.
I really enjoy the realistic feel to this. Sometimes a bit "This is how the process works" but it has enough human moments to not feel like it's teaching you how this works. A 4 out of 5.
What another fantastic volume in this incredible series!
I once again felt all the emotions and even more so this time because as Takara’s mom said, how can a kid raise a kid? I don’t mean that offensive as she did, but in a way where the realization is sinking deeper and deeper that Fuku IS young and that it WILL be hard to raise a child. Goodness, I got pregnant with my oldest just after I graduated from community college and that was hard enough!
However, I LOVE the emphasis on saying thank you for having X character. This volume really showed and captured the beauty of life and how important a name is. A child being born may not seem like the “right time” or a hardship compared to other things in our life, but that doesn’t take away the beauty of new life growing. Very touching message!
Takara continues to be absolutely amazing! I love his persistence and diligence in supporting Fuku’s choice, regardless of what their parents and family may feel about her being pregnant.
I also loved how even if Fuku felt frustrated or even overwhelmed, she diligently tried to learn all she could in regards to having a baby. When her brother thought he could knock her down with facts about “reality,” she begrudgingly(?) said thank you and then did research on it. I deeply admire her courage!
When it comes to the art, there were MANY panels where no words were on the panel or page and instead lets the art convey the emotion behind characters' actions. It was very powerful and one of the first reads I’ve experienced like this!
Overall, another excellent volume that isn’t necessarily a happy read, but one that is deeply touching and thought-provoking!
Embarazo adolescente. Un tema que, al menos en la ficción (pero la realidad no dista apenas), ha sido tratado como motivo de vergüenza, de señalamiento o de escarnio, cuando no de forma idealizada, dulcificada y claramente ideologizada. Es por esto que no me lancé automáticamente a por El bebé de mi novia, esperando a escuchar pareceres sobre volúmenes posteriores para intuir el tratamiento de la cuestión, sobre todo teniendo en cuenta que esta es una serie shōjo, es decir, orientada en origen a un público femenino juvenil. Pero mis sospechas eran infundadas.
El enfoque de Mamoru Aoi parte de la comprensión y la empatía, sin dejar de lado el didactismo, hacia la pareja protagonista, poniéndose especialmente en el lugar de la joven Sachi, aunque el título lleve a pensar que el foco se pondrá en su novio, Takara. La autora no deja de lado cierta idealización (el embarazo es fruto de accidente y no de imprudencia; el chico es hiperatento, consciente y empático, además de tener ahorros suficientes...), pero la médula espinal de El bebé de mi novia está en las emociones (variables, contradictorias, intensas) que, puntualmente, también se muestran inmaduras, recordándonos que hablamos de una situación que puede resultar traumática y la está viviendo una niña. Y aunque podamos tener un punto de vista propio y tajante sobre lo que "debería" hacer una estudiante de bachillerato con toda su vida por delante, Aoi se esfuerza en exponer las opciones de abortar o llevar a puerto el embarazo con la misma comprensión y con sus potenciales consecuencias siempre sobre la mesa. Para ello, emplea de manera muy inteligente dos herramientas: la cuenta atrás, según la cual la protagonista tiene 3 semanas para que el aborto pueda llevarse a cabo de forma segura, y los personajes secundarios, con sus distintos familiares sosteniendo sus posturas personales con distinto grado de vehemencia.
A este innegable pulso narrativo, reforzado por reflexiones realmente interesantes y más sopesadas, se le suma un apartado gráfico que, si bien no destaca en sus formas, tampoco parece pretenderlo. Abundan, así, los rostros y las expresiones, punto fuerte de la mangaka, por sobre escenarios y detallismos, dejando claro que el peso de su narración recae sobe el discurso. No obstante, la ligereza de sus páginas, en las que apenas hay masas de negro y sí mucha blancura y línea fina, acentúa el frío de la época del año en que ambienta la historia. El tiempo parece haberse congelado, ralentizado por las bajas temperaturas, como lo ha hecho de repente el cálido curso de sus vidas antes del embarazo.
Así pues, El bebé de mi novia resulta en un didáctico y muy humano drama adolescente que, por estar dirigido inicialmente a chicas jóvenes, podrá responder a muchas de sus preguntas (literalmente, el tomo 3 incluye a modo de epílogo un consultorio con una sexóloga para adolescentes) así como derribar mitos sobre la menstruación y el embarazo. Pero el público adulto podrá ver también sus ideas preconcebidas e inamovibles acaso sacudidas o, al menos, recontextualizadas, haciéndose preguntas nuevas y, sobre todo, empatizando con una pareja protagonista a la que es difícil no querer proteger.
Although it has some moral flaws, Aoi’s novel is a quick read, depicting an ordinary Japanese teen experiencing the doubts and joys of being pregnant with her teen lover.
This graphic novel, written in Japanese manga style, can appeal to American teens who often do not read words but may be adept at "reading" the emotional power of images in cartoons, online games, or other material.
Two moral objections to the book should be discussed. The first concerns one character who says, “There’s no right or wrong here” (60), which may say more about the character’s amorality than a recognition that abortion harms women, kills unborn babies, and alienates fathers—truths which, since they are based on natural law, apply not only to Jews and Christians in the West, but also to Japanese presumably steeped in Shinto and Buddhist traditions.
Similarly, the main character’s litany of questions about the source for moral authority [“What are the criteria for what we should do? Is it how the people around us feel? Common sense? Popular opinion?” (83; italics in original)] could be a string of questions formed not so much by the character’s amorality, but by any teen faced with an untimely pregnancy.
These questions could also generate great discussion among teen students, thus serving not only a rhetorical function, but a didactic one to encourage any teen contemplating abortion to determine the reasons why abortion is always morally wrong, let alone not reproductive or somehow beneficial.
The second moral objection to the book can be located in the “Sex and Pregnancy Q&A” section, where three items of bad advice are provided to teens about sexuality and abortion. “The easiest methods for teens are condoms and the pill”, the advice suggests, ignoring the benefits of abstinence and respect for male and female sexuality which a couple enjoys in the covenant relationship called marriage. Also, abortifacients are misnamed “emergency contraception”; sophisticated modern Japanese young people know that an abortifacient is not contraceptive, but the chemical means to perform an abortion, which is the killing of an unborn child. Finally, the advice that “nobody should have a say in what you want to do with your body or mind” is not only ambiguous, but also illogical; Japanese and American teens cannot avoid knowing moral restraints on sexuality coming from natural law, a divine source, or from their parents or guardians, mature people who know more about sexuality than hormone-fevered teens.
When looking up spoilers for later volumes and discovering that the plot was going to go down the route of pregnancy rather than abortion, I was initially concerned that the series could be headed in a unfortunate ‘pro-life’ direction, becoming a series depicting a teenage girl keeping an unwanted pregnancy out of a sense of guilt.
Having finally caught up with the most recent instalments, I am pleased to report that this is decidedly not what happens. Rather, this is a story about a teenage girl exercising her own agency to make her own decision during one of the most frightening experiences of her life. I’m not sure that the word ‘empowering’ would be a exactly fitting for Sachi’s story, but there is a respect shown by the author towards the series’ teen characters, and teenagers in general, that feels rare and genuinely quite touching.
Reading this series as an adult, it is incredibly difficult not to feel immensely protective over Sachi and Takara, Sachi especially. Scenes such as Sachi trashing her room in anger in the previous volume while agonising over whether or not to get a termination, or struggling to grasp the logistics of wage taxs in this volume, really drive home how young and vulnerable she is.
This, ultimately, is the story of a child having a child, and the bittersweet nature of its subject matter is handled with absolutely mastery by Mamoru Aoi. As I’ve already said, I’ve developed such a sense of protectiveness towards Sachi now, and I’m on absolute tenterhooks waiting to see what will happens next. There does, unfortunately, look set to be a big break before volumes now (volume 4 is set to be published in the UK in April 2024), but as soon as it release date approaches I will immediately be ordering my copy.
I love the next steps in this journey and Sachi's mother's support along with Takara's. The backstory with Takara's mom what leads to her opinions. The Q&A at the end is so important for the youths that do find their way to this series. I feel these stories are needed to make an impact. They need to be told.
This continues to be a very sweet and educational series. The author’s note makes it clear that she’s tackling these issues intentionally. I would def recommend this to teens.
What another fantastic volume in this incredible series!
I once again felt all the emotions and even more so this time because as Takara’s mom said, how can a kid raise a kid? I don’t mean that offensive as she did, but in a way where the realization is sinking deeper and deeper that Fuku IS young and that it WILL be hard to raise a child. Goodness, I got pregnant with my oldest just after I graduated from community college and that was hard enough!
However, I LOVE the emphasis on saying thank you for having X character. This volume really showed and captured the beauty of life and how important a name is. A child being born may not seem like the “right time” or a hardship compared to other things in our life, but that doesn’t take away the beauty of new life growing. Very touching message!
Takara continues to be absolutely amazing! I love his persistence and diligence in supporting Fuku’s choice, regardless of what their parents and family may feel about her being pregnant.
I also loved how even if Fuku felt frustrated or even overwhelmed, she diligently tried to learn all she could in regards to having a baby. When her brother thought he could knock her down with facts about “reality,” she begrudgingly(?) said thank you and then did research on it. I deeply admire her courage!
When it comes to the art, there were MANY panels where no words were on the panel or page and instead lets the art convey the emotion behind characters' actions. It was very powerful and one of the first reads I’ve experienced like this!
Overall, another excellent volume that isn’t necessarily a happy read, but one that is deeply touching and thought-provoking!
i read this manga in one sitting - a lovely and realistic view of teenage pregnancy and the pressures placed on women when it comes to motherhood. i wish i could find the rest of the manga translated but can’t find it anywhere, i’ll just hope it gets updated soon!