This book challenges the common cultural expectations surrounding grief and encourages readers to accept and embrace their feelings of sadness and pain, rather than trying to suppress them. Throughout the book, Jerry Solomon emphasizes that having problems is acceptable and that experiencing grief and loss is a normal and natural part of the human experience. He provides readers with a supportive and compassionate voice, and his insights and advice are sure to be of great help to anyone who is struggling with the challenges of grief and loss. Overall, "having problems is acceptable" is a must-read for anyone looking for a compassionate and empathetic guide to navigating the complex emotions of grief.