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Homo-Work
Homo-Work
is a laugh-out-loud, loud-and-proud, lewd-and-literate joyride!
This fearless memoir is equal parts Broadway musical treasure hunt, masturbation manifesto, pop culture extravaganza, coming out comedy of errors, anonymous sex fest, mystical mind-bender, gay love story, dysfunctional family drama, Queer culture chronicle, and high-camp tour de force.
In his intriguingly weird and irresistibly witty confessional, meet Wynward Hextor Oliver, a mixed-up, middle-aged Mexican-Syrian homosexual born with hexadactyly, which means he has six fingers on each hand and six toes on each foot. An admitted oddball and jack-off of all trades, this failed actor, former floral designer, and retired college teacher comes to grips with his sex-crazed, checkered past.
Meanwhile, Wynward’s present life is going to hell in a hand job.
Join Wyn on his hedonistic, hysterical, heartfelt journey, wherever his mind and his member lead him; as he learns how to jerk off with his boyhood playmate, grows ravenous for phone sex and poppers, then haunts the restrooms, beaches, bathhouses, and gay discos of Los Angeles during the height of the AIDS crisis.
As Wynward writes, “If you’re not going full out with your fetishes, why bother?”
Chronic masturbating and manhunting soon meet metaphysics, however, when his parents catch young Wynnie spying on their lovemaking, a random hookup on his sixteenth birthday turns into a night of terror and transformation, and his husband of twenty-four years nearly dies in his arms—twice.
Come for the smut, stay for the stories! Ranging from the pervy to the pithy, these well-told tales of a wild gay life well lived will enthrall and deeply move every reader.
Consider Homo-Work your literary glory hole, where what awaits you on the other side of each page will either have you on your knees begging for more or leave you weak-kneed from heady gratification.
Whether he’s being irreverent or insightful, Wynward H. Oliver's blend of authenticity, art, and artifice will become your new favorite way to self-pleasure.
(Your support of the glorious diversity of Queer indie authors encourages these creative, impassioned voices to continue telling their stories; which, of course, are our stories. Thank you.)
This fearless memoir is equal parts Broadway musical treasure hunt, masturbation manifesto, pop culture extravaganza, coming out comedy of errors, anonymous sex fest, mystical mind-bender, gay love story, dysfunctional family drama, Queer culture chronicle, and high-camp tour de force.
In his intriguingly weird and irresistibly witty confessional, meet Wynward Hextor Oliver, a mixed-up, middle-aged Mexican-Syrian homosexual born with hexadactyly, which means he has six fingers on each hand and six toes on each foot. An admitted oddball and jack-off of all trades, this failed actor, former floral designer, and retired college teacher comes to grips with his sex-crazed, checkered past.
Meanwhile, Wynward’s present life is going to hell in a hand job.
Join Wyn on his hedonistic, hysterical, heartfelt journey, wherever his mind and his member lead him; as he learns how to jerk off with his boyhood playmate, grows ravenous for phone sex and poppers, then haunts the restrooms, beaches, bathhouses, and gay discos of Los Angeles during the height of the AIDS crisis.
As Wynward writes, “If you’re not going full out with your fetishes, why bother?”
Chronic masturbating and manhunting soon meet metaphysics, however, when his parents catch young Wynnie spying on their lovemaking, a random hookup on his sixteenth birthday turns into a night of terror and transformation, and his husband of twenty-four years nearly dies in his arms—twice.
Come for the smut, stay for the stories! Ranging from the pervy to the pithy, these well-told tales of a wild gay life well lived will enthrall and deeply move every reader.
Consider Homo-Work your literary glory hole, where what awaits you on the other side of each page will either have you on your knees begging for more or leave you weak-kneed from heady gratification.
Whether he’s being irreverent or insightful, Wynward H. Oliver's blend of authenticity, art, and artifice will become your new favorite way to self-pleasure.
(Your support of the glorious diversity of Queer indie authors encourages these creative, impassioned voices to continue telling their stories; which, of course, are our stories. Thank you.)
299 pages, Kindle Edition
Published April 6, 2023
About the author
Wynward H. Oliver
2 books12 followersWynward H. Oliver is the pen name of a writer and retired educator living in Los Angeles with his husband of thirty years and their two adorable doggies. Wyn could tell you more about himself, but that's what his memoir is for.
For you gooners and curious new-cummers, Wyn recommends The Gooner's Handbook. It'll take your bate to the next level--and beyond!
Wyn enjoys interacting with his readers and welcomes their questions and comments. Contact him by email at hextor@att.net and follow him on Twitter (@WynwardOliver), on Facebook (Wynward H. Oliver), and on Instagram (wynwardoliver).
Thank you for supporting this queer indie author by reading his work and posting a review.
For you gooners and curious new-cummers, Wyn recommends The Gooner's Handbook. It'll take your bate to the next level--and beyond!
Wyn enjoys interacting with his readers and welcomes their questions and comments. Contact him by email at hextor@att.net and follow him on Twitter (@WynwardOliver), on Facebook (Wynward H. Oliver), and on Instagram (wynwardoliver).
Thank you for supporting this queer indie author by reading his work and posting a review.
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May 25, 2023
Homo-Work by Wynward H. Oliver is an exemplar of what a memoir can, and should, be. Oliver presents a no-holds-barred examination of a gay life lived to the fullest including the low points that other memoirists might shy away from sharing. As a memoirist myself, this book encourages me to be braver, and it stands in stark contrast to memoirs where it feels like the author perhaps has too much to lose by being completely naked and real in their writing.
Oliver accomplishes what lesser writers could not dare and that is to write of the highs and lows of his life, his loves and his unapologetic sexuality with a talent for jeu de mots, wordplay that is dazzling and can, at the same time, be a fascinating juxtaposition when he writes of the toughest of life’s trials. His irrepressible giddiness is so often laugh-out-loud hilarious but also underscores a way of coping that we all could learn from.
The author grabs hold of the memoir genre, discussing both the limits and the expansive possibilities of it. Limits are deliciously pushed, and truths abound that are so refreshing in a time when we are so careful in how we present ourselves to the world. Would that all autobiography be this exploratory and rich, both in content and style. This is a book to both fiercely treasure and to share.
Oliver accomplishes what lesser writers could not dare and that is to write of the highs and lows of his life, his loves and his unapologetic sexuality with a talent for jeu de mots, wordplay that is dazzling and can, at the same time, be a fascinating juxtaposition when he writes of the toughest of life’s trials. His irrepressible giddiness is so often laugh-out-loud hilarious but also underscores a way of coping that we all could learn from.
The author grabs hold of the memoir genre, discussing both the limits and the expansive possibilities of it. Limits are deliciously pushed, and truths abound that are so refreshing in a time when we are so careful in how we present ourselves to the world. Would that all autobiography be this exploratory and rich, both in content and style. This is a book to both fiercely treasure and to share.
December 31, 2025
⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Review of Homo‑work by Wynward H. Oliver
A holiday read that felt like stepping into a friend’s living room
I came to Homo‑work already knowing Wynward Oliver as a steady friend and a generous creative companion—someone who has offered me sharp editorial advice, encouragement, pricing help and the kind of grounded presence that makes writing feel less solitary. We were born just five months apart—me in May, him in October—and that shared generational wavelength means we get the same references, the same cultural signals, the same humor. It’s refreshing, and it explains why our email exchanges have always felt so effortless and alive.
I’d been on a binge of holiday stories, so I smiled when Homo‑work opened in the glow of the Christmas season. It slid seamlessly into my read‑a‑thon, but with a different kind of warmth—less tinsel, more truth. Wynward has a way of writing that makes you feel as if you’ve been invited right into his apartment, settling into a chair while he introduces you to the people who shape his world. Charity the landlord, Luis his spouse, even that strange man he encounters—they’re rendered with such clarity and presence that I felt like I was meeting them myself.
What struck me most was how Wynward’s voice carries the same qualities he brings to friendship: honesty, craft, humor, and a deep respect for the interior lives of queer men. His writing style is immersive without ever feeling forced. You’re not observing scenes; you’re inhabiting them. You’re not reading about his life; you’re being welcomed into it.
I found myself chuckling out load as I thought that I was the only person in the modern era who gets the reference to the Akashic records. A harkening back to the New Age Movement of the 70s through the 90s.
As someone who shares his era, his sensibilities, and the privilege of his friendship, reading Homo‑work felt like both a gift and a homecoming. It’s a book that speaks to craft, to queer self‑construction, and to the quiet rituals of everyday life. And for me, it also speaks to the joy of recognizing a kindred voice across the page.
Also I must confess that the similarities between Latino-Americans and Italians-Americans is astounding. I truly believe that the only difference is rice v. pasta. I am honored to count him among my friends. And him being part Syrian only adds to his fullness. I’ll have to ask him if he was raised in the Syriac Orthodox Church or Roman Catholic faith. Honestly after P. Leo’s call for unity among the Catholic Church, the Orthodox Church and the Non-Caledonian Churches does it even matter anymore? But, I digress. But I also discovered that we share the same faith as we are both Quakers. I honestly didn’t know that fact.
A beautiful, resonant, and deeply human read.
A holiday read that felt like stepping into a friend’s living room
I came to Homo‑work already knowing Wynward Oliver as a steady friend and a generous creative companion—someone who has offered me sharp editorial advice, encouragement, pricing help and the kind of grounded presence that makes writing feel less solitary. We were born just five months apart—me in May, him in October—and that shared generational wavelength means we get the same references, the same cultural signals, the same humor. It’s refreshing, and it explains why our email exchanges have always felt so effortless and alive.
I’d been on a binge of holiday stories, so I smiled when Homo‑work opened in the glow of the Christmas season. It slid seamlessly into my read‑a‑thon, but with a different kind of warmth—less tinsel, more truth. Wynward has a way of writing that makes you feel as if you’ve been invited right into his apartment, settling into a chair while he introduces you to the people who shape his world. Charity the landlord, Luis his spouse, even that strange man he encounters—they’re rendered with such clarity and presence that I felt like I was meeting them myself.
What struck me most was how Wynward’s voice carries the same qualities he brings to friendship: honesty, craft, humor, and a deep respect for the interior lives of queer men. His writing style is immersive without ever feeling forced. You’re not observing scenes; you’re inhabiting them. You’re not reading about his life; you’re being welcomed into it.
I found myself chuckling out load as I thought that I was the only person in the modern era who gets the reference to the Akashic records. A harkening back to the New Age Movement of the 70s through the 90s.
As someone who shares his era, his sensibilities, and the privilege of his friendship, reading Homo‑work felt like both a gift and a homecoming. It’s a book that speaks to craft, to queer self‑construction, and to the quiet rituals of everyday life. And for me, it also speaks to the joy of recognizing a kindred voice across the page.
Also I must confess that the similarities between Latino-Americans and Italians-Americans is astounding. I truly believe that the only difference is rice v. pasta. I am honored to count him among my friends. And him being part Syrian only adds to his fullness. I’ll have to ask him if he was raised in the Syriac Orthodox Church or Roman Catholic faith. Honestly after P. Leo’s call for unity among the Catholic Church, the Orthodox Church and the Non-Caledonian Churches does it even matter anymore? But, I digress. But I also discovered that we share the same faith as we are both Quakers. I honestly didn’t know that fact.
A beautiful, resonant, and deeply human read.
June 17, 2023
This memoir, written by a gay college professor who, as a young Mexican-Syrian man, spent his twenties during the AIDS crisis, sounds like it would be depressing. It’s anything but! This often campy, sex-positive, joyous romp does contain bittersweet and dark memories (as well as present sadness), but the author is so resilient, so full of life that he never lingers too long in tragedy. Wynward’s unrelenting determination and humor always lead to a new adventure.
This memoir is a celebration of life in all of its forms. In a tale that cleverly weaves past events and present into a page-turning web, the author shares with his readers an unflinching look at growing up gay in the ‘70s and 80’s in Los Angelas, California. We follow the funny, closeted boy who adores musicals as he fumbles through an adolescence peppered with innocent forays into sexuality and moments of terror. The pages capture his boyish curiosity and lead into the adult explorations of bath houses, anonymous sex on sandy beaches, and a first love besieged by the AIDS crisis. One of the things I appreciated most was Wynward’s honesty. He doesn’t preach or act like everyone in the AIDS crisis stopped having sex. Men didn’t simply don their hair shirts and become saints. They lived, loved, and thrived despite the plague, mourning the lost while living life to its fullest.
The book is full of zingers and some hard-won wisdom. Although I loved all of the camp and humor, I found myself highlighting text (something I rarely do) to help me as an activist fighting today’s renewed threat against our LGBTQ community. I read this book at a difficult time in my life, and those nuggets kept me going as much as Wynne’s infectious humor. (I’m sure he would have something lascivious to say about the word ‘nuggets’).
As an added bonus, there’s a game you can play with the chapter titles—almost all of which are also the titles of songs from musicals. I quickly realized I’m merely a tourist when it comes to musicals. If you’re like me, fret not, because the answers are in the back. If you’re an aficionado, enjoy the fun!
I can’t recommend Homo-Work highly enough!
This memoir is a celebration of life in all of its forms. In a tale that cleverly weaves past events and present into a page-turning web, the author shares with his readers an unflinching look at growing up gay in the ‘70s and 80’s in Los Angelas, California. We follow the funny, closeted boy who adores musicals as he fumbles through an adolescence peppered with innocent forays into sexuality and moments of terror. The pages capture his boyish curiosity and lead into the adult explorations of bath houses, anonymous sex on sandy beaches, and a first love besieged by the AIDS crisis. One of the things I appreciated most was Wynward’s honesty. He doesn’t preach or act like everyone in the AIDS crisis stopped having sex. Men didn’t simply don their hair shirts and become saints. They lived, loved, and thrived despite the plague, mourning the lost while living life to its fullest.
The book is full of zingers and some hard-won wisdom. Although I loved all of the camp and humor, I found myself highlighting text (something I rarely do) to help me as an activist fighting today’s renewed threat against our LGBTQ community. I read this book at a difficult time in my life, and those nuggets kept me going as much as Wynne’s infectious humor. (I’m sure he would have something lascivious to say about the word ‘nuggets’).
As an added bonus, there’s a game you can play with the chapter titles—almost all of which are also the titles of songs from musicals. I quickly realized I’m merely a tourist when it comes to musicals. If you’re like me, fret not, because the answers are in the back. If you’re an aficionado, enjoy the fun!
I can’t recommend Homo-Work highly enough!
April 22, 2023
Wynward H. Oliver snatches you into to this roller coaster of a memoir from the title page. He laces extraordinarily difficult subjects with humor in such a magnificent way, you find yourself laughing through tears. I didn't want to put it down, ever. Thank goodness there was a reference at the end of the book for all the musicals, as I had forgotten many, and I won't spoil the surprise at the end, I'm still laughing.
Wynward doesn't tell his story in an unimaginative chronological order, he mixes themes and event in such a way as to show his growth and change. It isn't a memoir of someone who is a celebrity to worship, but of a man journeying through his own self-discovery that causes the reader to question their own entrenched perceptions.
Wynward blows in like a whirlwyn, spreading himself across the pages without leaving any topic hidden. I appreciated so much his unique telling of his story, I only wanted more. Wanted to pick up a phone and discuss each individual chapter and experience. Read Homo-Work, celebrate Wynward Oliver's gift of storytelling, and most importantly, absorb his words internally. You will be transformed by the time you finish reading for the better.
Wynward doesn't tell his story in an unimaginative chronological order, he mixes themes and event in such a way as to show his growth and change. It isn't a memoir of someone who is a celebrity to worship, but of a man journeying through his own self-discovery that causes the reader to question their own entrenched perceptions.
Wynward blows in like a whirlwyn, spreading himself across the pages without leaving any topic hidden. I appreciated so much his unique telling of his story, I only wanted more. Wanted to pick up a phone and discuss each individual chapter and experience. Read Homo-Work, celebrate Wynward Oliver's gift of storytelling, and most importantly, absorb his words internally. You will be transformed by the time you finish reading for the better.
April 20, 2023
Provocative, Profound, Profane
What becomes a memoir most?
A legend, of course!
Author Wynward H. Oliver, a Queer, retired educator, provides a Master Class in engaging readers into a story. Beautifully written, with unforgettable characters leading their lives through the complexities of gay life, we ride along with the author as he explores his past, discovering more about himself as he observes, analyzes and reveals intimate details and universal truths.
It was the deceptively sly author, with his trusty word processor, slaying us in the orgy room at the bathhouse. (Read the book, and you'll know exactly what I mean.)
While the book can be read as a straightforward story, the OCD crowd can become immersed in the search for 339 Easter eggs (by my count) embedded within this Garden of Unearthly Delights.
In any memoir, the author must determine the right mix of introspection and exhibitionism. This author has found the perfect recipe for success.
This reviewer is also a Queer, retired educator. I have to come out of my retirement to give one final piece of Homo-Work: read this book. It has my highest recommendation.
What becomes a memoir most?
A legend, of course!
Author Wynward H. Oliver, a Queer, retired educator, provides a Master Class in engaging readers into a story. Beautifully written, with unforgettable characters leading their lives through the complexities of gay life, we ride along with the author as he explores his past, discovering more about himself as he observes, analyzes and reveals intimate details and universal truths.
It was the deceptively sly author, with his trusty word processor, slaying us in the orgy room at the bathhouse. (Read the book, and you'll know exactly what I mean.)
While the book can be read as a straightforward story, the OCD crowd can become immersed in the search for 339 Easter eggs (by my count) embedded within this Garden of Unearthly Delights.
In any memoir, the author must determine the right mix of introspection and exhibitionism. This author has found the perfect recipe for success.
This reviewer is also a Queer, retired educator. I have to come out of my retirement to give one final piece of Homo-Work: read this book. It has my highest recommendation.
January 18, 2025
"Homo-Work" by Wynward H. Oliver is a brilliantly bold memoir that captures the essence of gay life with humor, heart, and a healthy dose of hedonism.
Wyn’s writing is a whirlwind of whimsy and wit, characterized by clever wordplay and a vibrant voice. His knack for alliteration adds a lyrical quality to his storytelling. Each chapter captivates with a combination of comedic charm and candid confessions.
The author doesn’t shy away from the steamy side of his story. His descriptions of passionate encounters are both titillating and a total turn on. Combining humor and honesty to create a vivid tapestry of his sexual adventures.
Additionally, Wyn’s reflections on the bliss of his current relationship are heartwarming, showcasing the beauty of love found after a series of missteps. The juxtaposition of humor and intimacy makes for a compelling read that keeps you turning the pages.
Wyn’s writing is a whirlwind of whimsy and wit, characterized by clever wordplay and a vibrant voice. His knack for alliteration adds a lyrical quality to his storytelling. Each chapter captivates with a combination of comedic charm and candid confessions.
The author doesn’t shy away from the steamy side of his story. His descriptions of passionate encounters are both titillating and a total turn on. Combining humor and honesty to create a vivid tapestry of his sexual adventures.
Additionally, Wyn’s reflections on the bliss of his current relationship are heartwarming, showcasing the beauty of love found after a series of missteps. The juxtaposition of humor and intimacy makes for a compelling read that keeps you turning the pages.
July 1, 2023
A seminal tale, Oliver’s Homo-Work redefines the coming-out genre. Unabashedly sexual, it’s not porn.
Delving from the depths of despair to the heights of finding love, Oliver exposes us to his most exquisite experiences, his pain, and his flourishing, all accompanied by a veritable lexicon of gay references and
show tunes. Don’t miss this one!
Delving from the depths of despair to the heights of finding love, Oliver exposes us to his most exquisite experiences, his pain, and his flourishing, all accompanied by a veritable lexicon of gay references and
show tunes. Don’t miss this one!
August 22, 2023
Right from the opening paragraph, I was drawn into this memoir thanks to Oliver’s wit and wordsmithing as well as his excellent command of storytelling. Yes, there is a mix of laughs and drama in this extremely entertaining outing, which is loaded with amazing references and fantastic turns of phrase, but this memoir also maintains a strong and driving heart that is difficult to ignore.
The author delivers an insightful reflection of his life, yet uses several different approaches that make his work stand apart from (and above) the typical memoir formula…
Unlike other memoirs, Oliver tells a gripping and engaging tale in a well-executed, non-linear style that leads to emotional cliffhangers with perfectly placed reveals later – right up to the very end. Although other memoirs may focus on one theme and/or one trauma or one period of time, “Homo-Work” moves out in several directions from its foundation of a coming-of-age story.
The reason the entire narrative works is because this “coming-of-age” element is on-going. A lifelong learner, one can argue that the author is still “coming-of-age” as he ventures through the stages of life. Oliver learns, reassesses, and learns some more, and shares those often relatable experiences with the reader. In this respect, we have a memoir that incorporates the best elements of autobiography in an expert manner.
Of his life experiences, Oliver does not circumvent or water down those negative moments he has endured. This does not simply mean the traumatic or sad events that had happened to him which are sometimes gasp-worthy, but when the author was not at his best and may have hurt others on an emotional level. These reflections allow readers to experience the growth of Oliver, which makes for one of the most honest and open memoirs I have ever read. The author is not only brave by revealing his mistakes and weaknesses, but he is “aware”, which proves that he is continually “coming-of-age” because he pays attention to the world around him, as well as himself, and moves forward with new knowledge and sensibilities.
One of the greatest features of the memoir is that Oliver does not whine or cry or seek pity. Instead, he shares much wisdom that is quite illuminating. Finding several similarities to the author’s life (mostly regarding self-deprecation and thoughts regarding the world), have helped me feel more connected to others besides feeling more grounded as I continue my own journey. And for that, I am most grateful.
Oliver is an amazing writer and entertainer and I cannot wait for his next work, regardless of subject matter, because he knows how to tell a story and keep readers engaged.
Start your own “Homo-Work” right here regardless of your orientation. Once finished with the memoir, I am sure you will indulge in much thought and reflection as it has compelled me to do.
The author delivers an insightful reflection of his life, yet uses several different approaches that make his work stand apart from (and above) the typical memoir formula…
Unlike other memoirs, Oliver tells a gripping and engaging tale in a well-executed, non-linear style that leads to emotional cliffhangers with perfectly placed reveals later – right up to the very end. Although other memoirs may focus on one theme and/or one trauma or one period of time, “Homo-Work” moves out in several directions from its foundation of a coming-of-age story.
The reason the entire narrative works is because this “coming-of-age” element is on-going. A lifelong learner, one can argue that the author is still “coming-of-age” as he ventures through the stages of life. Oliver learns, reassesses, and learns some more, and shares those often relatable experiences with the reader. In this respect, we have a memoir that incorporates the best elements of autobiography in an expert manner.
Of his life experiences, Oliver does not circumvent or water down those negative moments he has endured. This does not simply mean the traumatic or sad events that had happened to him which are sometimes gasp-worthy, but when the author was not at his best and may have hurt others on an emotional level. These reflections allow readers to experience the growth of Oliver, which makes for one of the most honest and open memoirs I have ever read. The author is not only brave by revealing his mistakes and weaknesses, but he is “aware”, which proves that he is continually “coming-of-age” because he pays attention to the world around him, as well as himself, and moves forward with new knowledge and sensibilities.
One of the greatest features of the memoir is that Oliver does not whine or cry or seek pity. Instead, he shares much wisdom that is quite illuminating. Finding several similarities to the author’s life (mostly regarding self-deprecation and thoughts regarding the world), have helped me feel more connected to others besides feeling more grounded as I continue my own journey. And for that, I am most grateful.
Oliver is an amazing writer and entertainer and I cannot wait for his next work, regardless of subject matter, because he knows how to tell a story and keep readers engaged.
Start your own “Homo-Work” right here regardless of your orientation. Once finished with the memoir, I am sure you will indulge in much thought and reflection as it has compelled me to do.
September 7, 2025
As a 30-year-old gay man who grew up in a very conservative family in India, Wynward H. Oliver’s Homo-Work felt like someone's handed me the unedited, uncensored guide to surviving queer life and told me it’s okay to be gloriously messy along the way.
This book isn’t just a memoir, it’s like being trapped in the juiciest, gayest WhatsApp group chat with your favorite wild uncle. Wyn spills everything: the lust, the heartbreaks, the hilariously bad decisions, the moments of pure filth (yes, I blushed), and the stuff that made me cry into my chai at 2 a.m.
Growing up, I thought I was the only one hiding crushes, deleting search history faster than a hacker, and trying to look straight while humming Chhamma Chhamma in my head. Wyn's stories about cruising, queer love, the AIDS-era fear, the whole deal made me feel SEEN across oceans, languages, generations and even decades. And he doesn’t sugarcoat a damn thing. He’s equal parts philosopher, pervert, and poet, like if Oscar Wilde had Grindr XD
And let’s talk about the humor. It’s sharp, it’s camp, and sometimes it’s just plain dirty, the kind that makes you spit-laugh and then wonder if you need to go to confession (or at least delete your browser history).
Reading Homo-Work felt liberating. It reminded me that being gay isn’t just about surviving — it’s about thriving, laughing, getting laid (consensually and creatively), and telling your truth even when it’s messy. It’s about finding joy in our bodies, our desires, our mistakes, and our communities - even if our parents still think we’re just “very good friends” with our partners.
So here’s my verdict: buy this book, read it, gift it to your closeted cousin, your friend, or even your ex. Wyn has written something that is bold, filthy, tender, and necessary.
⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ (five scandalous stars, one for each dozenth time I said “oh my god SAME” out loud)
This book isn’t just a memoir, it’s like being trapped in the juiciest, gayest WhatsApp group chat with your favorite wild uncle. Wyn spills everything: the lust, the heartbreaks, the hilariously bad decisions, the moments of pure filth (yes, I blushed), and the stuff that made me cry into my chai at 2 a.m.
Growing up, I thought I was the only one hiding crushes, deleting search history faster than a hacker, and trying to look straight while humming Chhamma Chhamma in my head. Wyn's stories about cruising, queer love, the AIDS-era fear, the whole deal made me feel SEEN across oceans, languages, generations and even decades. And he doesn’t sugarcoat a damn thing. He’s equal parts philosopher, pervert, and poet, like if Oscar Wilde had Grindr XD
And let’s talk about the humor. It’s sharp, it’s camp, and sometimes it’s just plain dirty, the kind that makes you spit-laugh and then wonder if you need to go to confession (or at least delete your browser history).
Reading Homo-Work felt liberating. It reminded me that being gay isn’t just about surviving — it’s about thriving, laughing, getting laid (consensually and creatively), and telling your truth even when it’s messy. It’s about finding joy in our bodies, our desires, our mistakes, and our communities - even if our parents still think we’re just “very good friends” with our partners.
So here’s my verdict: buy this book, read it, gift it to your closeted cousin, your friend, or even your ex. Wyn has written something that is bold, filthy, tender, and necessary.
⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ (five scandalous stars, one for each dozenth time I said “oh my god SAME” out loud)
November 6, 2023
This incredible, brave man had me on the edge of my set throughout the entire book. Never fully knowing what was coming next. So much of Wynward's wonderful life is a mirror of my own from the flower shop work, to the cruising bars, disco's and the baths and all at the very beginning of the AIDS Crisis. HIs word choices and alliteration is the very best I've read in a long time, and I'm beyond thankful at times I was looking up words he used. Not many authors make us do that these days and that in it self is a pity. HIs wit, his camp and his many drag persona names throughout this great book has me giggling one minute and crying the next as husband battles two major health scare. HIs honesty, openness, and even frankness made me feel like I was sitting at his kitchen table and we were chatting over iced cafe mocha's. The VERY best book I've read this entire year and a must read for every LGBTQIA+ person. Highly recommended, incredible writing, incredible story telling and I'm so beyond grateful that this incredible man is my friend.
The honesty about the AIDS Crisis, the loss, the suffering and even the deaths are handled beautifully and his insight into this era of Crisis brought back some very wonderful memories as well as some very painful ones. But his wisdom shines through this darkest of times for people battling this disease, myself included.
I CAN NOT praise this book enough, it is that DAMN good....
The honesty about the AIDS Crisis, the loss, the suffering and even the deaths are handled beautifully and his insight into this era of Crisis brought back some very wonderful memories as well as some very painful ones. But his wisdom shines through this darkest of times for people battling this disease, myself included.
I CAN NOT praise this book enough, it is that DAMN good....
June 9, 2023
A wonderfully written memoir with witty humor, exceptional prose and a true emotional roller-coaster, this book will grip you from start to finish. "Come for the smut, stay for the stories" as the tag line states is exactly what you will get in this one-of-a-kind book which will indeed make you want more, and turn the pages. A fascinating read, with an exceptional style and writing which is such a rare gem nowadays. An unapologetically queer story, so-so important in today's world, one which you definitely need on your bookshelf, and is worth many re-reads to savor it in full.
June 4, 2024
There could not have been a gay life more diametrically opposed to mine than that of Wynward H. Oliver's. The book gave me an insight to a culture that I've never been part of. Eye-opening a lot of the time, but engaging, sophisticated writing that had this author himself re-reading passages just because of the prose. It's beautifully written. It also provided me a window into the gay culture of the United States, the Mexican-Hispanic world and the life of someone who really lived his life and who I hope continues to do so.
What a pleasure to read this book. HIghly recommended.
What a pleasure to read this book. HIghly recommended.
April 19, 2023
I absolutely loved this memoir-and-a-half. A real rollercoaster of a read that had me laughing out loud one minute, tears in my eyes the next. It’s occasionally harrowing, frequently hilarious but always gripping. Alongside the outrageously fun and fruity recollections, there are lots of thoughtful and deeply moving reflections, interspersed with some refreshingly sane and salutary philosophy on life. All in all, a beautifully written, engaging and highly entertaining memoir. Fabulous.
March 28, 2024
A truly fabulous book . It's ostensibly a memoir, although it feels like a very embellished one, and it's glorious. At several points the author's wordplay left me gasping, it was so surprising and delicious.
I don't like the title much, and the image on the cover is hardly enticing, but this book is absolutely wonderful.
c.t.h.
I don't like the title much, and the image on the cover is hardly enticing, but this book is absolutely wonderful.
c.t.h.
January 10, 2024
This is not your usual queer memoir. It is not by-the-numbers or sanitized, and it is not P.C. This is an account, variously raucous and bittersweet, of a life lived on one's own terms.
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