I read this awhile ago but seems I forgot to add it here, despite commenting on Alan's review.
Now, post-the big reveal, I'm feeling so sad. There are many diverse and penetrating commentaries on her identity, many layers of analysis, and I feel for indigenous peoples in all of this. For my part, what I'm thinking is that this is such a lesson in basic truth-telling, an illustration of how what might be a spontaneous, small, seemingly innocent comment/lie in any particular moment can grow into a monster, a monster you have to feed with more lies and protect with threats. Why so hard for individuals, groups, institutions to walk back inaccuracies, mistakes, and lies?
I wonder, does she believe her lie, or did she live in fear of it being revealed? Oh Buffy, you're human, and I still love you.