The Marriage Code: Discovering Your Own Secret Language of Love

by Bill Farrel, Pam Farrel

Why is it so hard for married couples to get in sync with each other? How is it that one’s mate can be a source of joy and of frustration all on the same day? Marriages operate by a code—a collection of key words, actions, insights, and attitudes that determine how a couple’s relationship works. When that code is uncovered, love grows and flourishes. If that code remains a mystery, love gets buried behind misunderstandings and irritations. Bill and Pam Farrel, authors of the bestselling Men Are Like Waffles, Women Are Like Spaghetti (more than 180,000 copies sold), offer biblical and practical insight into this code that God has programmed into His unique design for each married couple. Laced with the Farrels’ trademark humor, The Marriage Code is packed with ideas for creative code–breaking so couples can connect at a richer, deeper level, enabling them to The Marriage Code is for every couple who wants to know just how good their relationship can be. As both partners grow in relationship with God and rely on the Spirit for insights into the heart of their mate, they can replace their old, selfish codes with a new one that leads to greater intimacy in every area of life.

Genres: Marriage, Nonfiction, Parenting, Christian

256 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 2009

Reviews

[Justin Nichols · Rating 4 out of 5]

3.9/5 - Wifey and I read it together. We liked it alright.. Thought it made many terrific points, even though it was a little heavy on the code analogies and metaphors. It dragged a tad, but we liked the overall tone, the honesty and vulnerability permeating throughout from both Bill and Pam, the helpful example stories, and the jokes thrown in at the end of each chapter.

[Rachel · Rating 3 out of 5]

The basic premise makes a lot of sense-men need to feel successful in their relationships or why keep trying, "I can never please her", and women need security. I found it dragged in places though, too many jokes, too American for me and maybe too tritely Christian in parts.

[Sarah · Rating 2 out of 5]

Some of the points were good and probably helpful, but the code analogy/subsequent imagery and language seemed strained and didn't really work for me.

[Greg & · Rating 5 out of 5]

Hands down the best book we read!