Finding the Right One for You: Secrets to Recognizing Your Perfect Mate

by H. Norman Wright

Finding the Right One for You is rich with guidelines and practical exercises developed by marriage enrichment expert and author of the bestseller Before You Say “I Do” Norm Wright. Designed to help people in the process of dating make the choices that will lead to the kind of marriage they’ve always longed for, this book is a must for every person involved in or hoping to be involved in a relationship. Those seeking God’s direction in their decision will appreciate Norm’s straightforward answers to questions such as... Formerly titled Finding Your Perfect Mate

256 pages, Paperback

First published April 1, 2008

About the author

H. Norman Wright is a well-respected Christian counselor who has helped thousands of people improve their relationships and deal with grief, tragedy, and other concerns. He helps couples bring vibrancy to their relationships through counseling, seminars, and more than 90 books, including Before You Say “I Do” and After You Say “I Do.” Norm also reveals insights for spiritual growth, great relationships, and success in devotionals that include Strong to the Core, Quiet Times for Every Parent, and Truly Devoted: What Dogs Teach Us About Life, Love, and Loyalty. www.hnormanwright.com

Reviews

[Sarah Vigue · Rating 3 out of 5]

2.5

[Tanya Stevens · Rating 2 out of 5]

Wasn’t what I hoped it would be

Some of the info is good, but most sounds judgmental & pious. Left me feeling very negative about many things.

[Ignacio Quintero · Rating 4 out of 5]

I heard the recommendation of this author through a podcast.

Finding the Right One for You is a practical, faith-based guide to relationships. This book offers thoughtful advice on choosing a life partner with intention. H. Norman Wright encourages readers to look beyond romance and chemistry, focusing instead on values, communication, and emotional readiness, which is something I value for a partner.

The book leans heavily on Christian principles, so it will resonate most with readers coming from that perspective. It includes helpful reflection questions and real-life examples that make it feel more like a conversation than a lecture.

It's not just for people actively dating—it’s useful for anyone thinking about what makes a healthy, lasting relationship. That said, it’s pretty conservative in its views, so readers looking for quick-built relationships might not connect as much.

If you’re looking for a grounded, spiritually guided approach to love and marriage, this book offers plenty of wisdom in a gentle, easy-to-read format.

[Vivian Wang · Rating 2 out of 5]

For some reason, it makes things even more complicated. I would say this to most of books of this kind. Although I've heard really good thing about this book as "the most practical one".