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First published June 1, 1999
Long ago, a neighbor in the country looking at our flower garden, said, "Children and roses reflect their care." This is true of the very old as well.*****
What was served? I'm not sure, but I suspect that these unhurried rural negotiations of suggestion and advice, assertion and doubt, amount to a kind of ceremony affirming a principle that many people—including, I’m afraid, me—prefer to neglect: Nobody does anything alone. Even those people who think they do—those people especially—need help, get help, take help gratefully, but never quite on their own terms. When your helpers arrive, they give what they have, in their own way, in their own time. Your part is to receive, to accept, and to learn, so that when you come to the same ceremony in the opposite role, you’ll know what offering to bring.