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Welcome to Your Body #2
Поговоримо про згоду!
Унікальний путівник, який неодмінно допоможе вам осягнути правила культури згоди.
Ця цікава, пізнавальна й легка для сприйняття книга стане в пригоді й кмітливим одинадцятирічкам, і допитливим чотирнадцятилітнім, і батькам, які хочуть допомогти своїм дітям знайти відповіді на безліч складних запитань.
Ця цікава, пізнавальна й легка для сприйняття книга стане в пригоді й кмітливим одинадцятирічкам, і допитливим чотирнадцятилітнім, і батькам, які хочуть допомогти своїм дітям знайти відповіді на безліч складних запитань.
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Yumi Stynes
14 books27 followersYumi Stynes is an Australian writer, broadcaster, television presenter, food fanatic, fitness enthusiast, and mother of four—including two teenage girls. She is the presenter of the award-winning ABC Radio podcast Ladies, We Need to Talk, about female health and sexuality. Yumi Stynes lives in Sydney.
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May 7, 2024best book ever
January 26, 2022
This would surely have to be the most thorough hand book written on consent that is targeted at teens. For a topic that can be complex at times, the authors have done a great job navigating it and have produced a highly informative hand guide addressing consent in all kinds of situations. I really appreciate that they don’t just focus on consent when it comes to intimate relationships, but also address consent in many different areas of life. If I were reading this book as a teenager, I believe I would finish it feeling empowered and more confident in my ability to advocate for myself and my bodily autonomy in particular.
The authors were aware of their target audience when writing and designing this book, including the friendly and relaxed prose and brightly illustrated pages. My one major criticism is that it may be too thorough for the target audience- at times it feels a bit repetitive or goes into too much detail. There are also a couple of minor things that don’t sit super easy with me (like one spot that features a quote from a teenager that implies an age that people should be having sex by), that are then addressed really well later in the book…but will a teenager realistically read far enough to get to that part? Although, I also understand the onus on any reader is to read the whole book if you want to get the whole message the author is trying to share.
It is worth noting that the author’s approach to sex, sending nudes, alcohol etc is that teens are probably going to do it and so therefore teach them how to do it safely. If that’s not your jam, perhaps consider whether this is the right book for you and your context. Otherwise, what a great resource to have on hand to help educate and engage teenagers in discussions about consent.
The authors were aware of their target audience when writing and designing this book, including the friendly and relaxed prose and brightly illustrated pages. My one major criticism is that it may be too thorough for the target audience- at times it feels a bit repetitive or goes into too much detail. There are also a couple of minor things that don’t sit super easy with me (like one spot that features a quote from a teenager that implies an age that people should be having sex by), that are then addressed really well later in the book…but will a teenager realistically read far enough to get to that part? Although, I also understand the onus on any reader is to read the whole book if you want to get the whole message the author is trying to share.
It is worth noting that the author’s approach to sex, sending nudes, alcohol etc is that teens are probably going to do it and so therefore teach them how to do it safely. If that’s not your jam, perhaps consider whether this is the right book for you and your context. Otherwise, what a great resource to have on hand to help educate and engage teenagers in discussions about consent.
November 19, 2024
This book is aimed at teens and tweens, and I found it to be enlightening and easy to read. The world has changed considerably in the 40+ years since I was in that age range, and what was acceptable back then is not always the case now, and it was good to have this refresher.
I bought this book, and three other similar titles by the same authors*, for the library, in the hopes that they would find an audience. Sometimes the library manager (me) needs to read a book and talk about it for that to happen, so here we are.
In my library, you'll find these books on the adult non-fiction shelves, under 613 KAN.
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Welcome to your period!: your complete, no-nonsense guide to going with the flow
Welcome to sex!: your no-silly-questions guide to pleasure, sexuality & figuring it out
Welcome to your boobs!: your easy, no-dumb-questions guide to your breast friends
I bought this book, and three other similar titles by the same authors*, for the library, in the hopes that they would find an audience. Sometimes the library manager (me) needs to read a book and talk about it for that to happen, so here we are.
In my library, you'll find these books on the adult non-fiction shelves, under 613 KAN.
*
Welcome to your period!: your complete, no-nonsense guide to going with the flow
Welcome to sex!: your no-silly-questions guide to pleasure, sexuality & figuring it out
Welcome to your boobs!: your easy, no-dumb-questions guide to your breast friends
October 9, 2021
This book is extremely informative and feels extremely current with issues around consent today. I would recommend this to anyone who wants a more clear defined line of consent and anything that goes with it, especially anyone under 18.
December 26, 2022
A must read. It's written specifically for teens. But even if you aren't a teen at this point, if you haven't read it before, go for it.
September 29, 2023
Wish I had this book in my hands when I was a teen.
September 4, 2021
A great little resource that unpacks what consent means in different situations, and goes into lots of detail about sex and consent in particular.
This is an excellent introduction to concepts such as bodily autonomy, self awareness and privacy. And it gives really practical advice and examples of how to think through and respond in different situations, in a way that you are most comfortable. The parts on consent and alcohol, and consent and the law are helpful too!
I'd recommend this most of all for readers between 12 and 18.
This is an excellent introduction to concepts such as bodily autonomy, self awareness and privacy. And it gives really practical advice and examples of how to think through and respond in different situations, in a way that you are most comfortable. The parts on consent and alcohol, and consent and the law are helpful too!
I'd recommend this most of all for readers between 12 and 18.
April 9, 2023
Дуже класна книжка, яку, на відміну від «Поговоримо про місячні» з тієї ж серії купують чомусь рідше. Можливо, тому, що через назву вважають, буцімто тут про суцільний секс та інше розбещення.
Це не так.
«Поговоримо про згоду» насамперед книга про повагу, кордони, критичне мислення (сюрприз😉) та самопізнання. І кожна з цих складових важлива. Складно сприймати бажання та кордони інших, якщо не знаєш власних кордонів та бажань. Складно розуміти, що тобі подобається, а що ні, якщо ніколи про це не замислюватися і тільки плисти за течією суспільної думки. Складно змінюватися і змінювати світ на краще, якщо не вміти обозначити проблему і проговорити її.
Мені подобається, як на самому початку авторки пояснюють про активну згоду на прикладі футболки — якщо ти згодна позичити її подрузі чи родичці, це зовсім не означає, що:
- ти віддала футболку назавжди;
- разом із нею можна взяти ще й шорти;
- у цій футболці можна взяти участь у боротьбі у багнюці;
- ти не можеш передумати.
Також якщо ти згодилась позичити футболку зі стражданням на обличчі та млявим ледве чутним «ну-у-у... добре» — це аж ніяк не активна згода.
Бачите? Простий та зрозумілий приклад про згоду, повагу і вміння слухати. А також складати зважені угоди😉
Так само просто і зрозуміло авторки розкажуть про безліч інших речей, наприклад, про те, що доктор має проговорювати і пояснювати свої маніпуляції і що таке лікарська таємниця; чому часто треба поводитися «правильно», навіть якщо це марудно; чому іноді твоєї згоди не спросять і будуть праві — наприклад, якщо треба накласти турнікет на відірвану кінцівку.
Бачите? Все ще не про секс.
(Та чи буде тут про секс взагалі?!
Так, звісно, буде. Не спойлеритиму, але вам сподобається. )
Окромо відмічу згадку, що людям з аутичними розладами та людям зі слабким зором важко зчитувати невербальні сигнали і вміти проговорювати свої наміри щодо них вголос крітично важливо: «Зараз я візьму тебе за руку і допоможу обійти крісло» або «Можна тебе обійняти?». Не задумувалась про такий аспект, а варто було б.
Книга написана для підлітків, але дорослим теж буде цікаво й пізнавально.
Крім шикарного змісту «Поговоримо про згоду» ще й гарно видане: кольори, ілюстрації, шрифт, розміщення інфи та додаткових вставок, якість паперу. Обкладинка хоч і паперова, та цупка і приємна на дотик. Книжка маленького розміру (18х14см), але дуже насичена.
Видавництво збиралося видавати й третю книгу серії, про груди, дуже сподіваюся, що це таки вдасться.
Це не так.
«Поговоримо про згоду» насамперед книга про повагу, кордони, критичне мислення (сюрприз😉) та самопізнання. І кожна з цих складових важлива. Складно сприймати бажання та кордони інших, якщо не знаєш власних кордонів та бажань. Складно розуміти, що тобі подобається, а що ні, якщо ніколи про це не замислюватися і тільки плисти за течією суспільної думки. Складно змінюватися і змінювати світ на краще, якщо не вміти обозначити проблему і проговорити її.
Мені подобається, як на самому початку авторки пояснюють про активну згоду на прикладі футболки — якщо ти згодна позичити її подрузі чи родичці, це зовсім не означає, що:
- ти віддала футболку назавжди;
- разом із нею можна взяти ще й шорти;
- у цій футболці можна взяти участь у боротьбі у багнюці;
- ти не можеш передумати.
Також якщо ти згодилась позичити футболку зі стражданням на обличчі та млявим ледве чутним «ну-у-у... добре» — це аж ніяк не активна згода.
Бачите? Простий та зрозумілий приклад про згоду, повагу і вміння слухати. А також складати зважені угоди😉
Так само просто і зрозуміло авторки розкажуть про безліч інших речей, наприклад, про те, що доктор має проговорювати і пояснювати свої маніпуляції і що таке лікарська таємниця; чому часто треба поводитися «правильно», навіть якщо це марудно; чому іноді твоєї згоди не спросять і будуть праві — наприклад, якщо треба накласти турнікет на відірвану кінцівку.
Бачите? Все ще не про секс.
(Та чи буде тут про секс взагалі?!
Так, звісно, буде. Не спойлеритиму, але вам сподобається. )
Окромо відмічу згадку, що людям з аутичними розладами та людям зі слабким зором важко зчитувати невербальні сигнали і вміти проговорювати свої наміри щодо них вголос крітично важливо: «Зараз я візьму тебе за руку і допоможу обійти крісло» або «Можна тебе обійняти?». Не задумувалась про такий аспект, а варто було б.
Книга написана для підлітків, але дорослим теж буде цікаво й пізнавально.
Крім шикарного змісту «Поговоримо про згоду» ще й гарно видане: кольори, ілюстрації, шрифт, розміщення інфи та додаткових вставок, якість паперу. Обкладинка хоч і паперова, та цупка і приємна на дотик. Книжка маленького розміру (18х14см), але дуже насичена.
Видавництво збиралося видавати й третю книгу серії, про груди, дуже сподіваюся, що це таки вдасться.
October 7, 2023
They didn’t make books like this when I was a kid. I can’t tell you how relieved I am that this is no longer the case, that kids now have easy access to information that empowers them and teaches them about boundaries.
I love that this book doesn’t even get into consent specifically related to dating and sexual activity until about halfway through. The focus before that is teaching about how consent relates to all aspects of our lives, beginning with using the example of whether you are willing to loan a t-shirt to someone.
There’s information about how other people need to seek your consent but it also talks about your responsibility in making sure you obtain consent as well. Consent is clearly explained as a two way street.
Sex education at my school consisted of a single awkward class where an embarrassed teacher put a bunch of slides on the projector in front of students who were also embarrassed but busy pretending they knew everything there was to know already. Outside of that, I had Dolly Doctor, which was great when they answered questions I had but not so great when they didn’t. I needed more than one avenue for finding this information.
I would have absolutely benefited from reading this book as a kid and then again as a teenager.
Given the authors are Australian (and one is Dolly Doctor herself!), I was surprised when I was presented with American helplines at the end of the book. While I’m thrilled that my library purchased this book, it would be been even better if they’d purchased the edition that was published in Australia.
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I love that this book doesn’t even get into consent specifically related to dating and sexual activity until about halfway through. The focus before that is teaching about how consent relates to all aspects of our lives, beginning with using the example of whether you are willing to loan a t-shirt to someone.
There’s information about how other people need to seek your consent but it also talks about your responsibility in making sure you obtain consent as well. Consent is clearly explained as a two way street.
Learning how to ask, being ready to hear the answer (whatever it is), and saying yes or no yourself are all big skills.Through multiple examples, you learn what is and isn’t consent, and how a pressured yes isn’t a yes at all. It’s about enthusiastic consent.
Enthusiastic consent looks beyond words and takes into account how someone really feels about a situation, even if they’re not comfortable expressing it.Consent education in Australian schools only became mandatory in 2023 and there are entire generations who grew up with no one telling them that even thinking about what was and wasn’t okay with them was an option.
Sex education at my school consisted of a single awkward class where an embarrassed teacher put a bunch of slides on the projector in front of students who were also embarrassed but busy pretending they knew everything there was to know already. Outside of that, I had Dolly Doctor, which was great when they answered questions I had but not so great when they didn’t. I needed more than one avenue for finding this information.
I would have absolutely benefited from reading this book as a kid and then again as a teenager.
Given the authors are Australian (and one is Dolly Doctor herself!), I was surprised when I was presented with American helplines at the end of the book. While I’m thrilled that my library purchased this book, it would be been even better if they’d purchased the edition that was published in Australia.
Blog - https://schizanthusnerd.com/
January 17, 2023
Even though I'm a fully grown adult, like many I've grown up and not necessarily been explicitly taught about consent in clear and uncertain terms. This book is everything I wished I could read as a teenager, but earlier chapters are suitable for a younger audience, only the last few chapters talk about consent with regards to relationships and sex.
As a disabled person, I hugely appreciated the intersectional discussions regarding bodily autonomy and how medical/disability aids are often extensions of our bodies. It's also great if you're like me and struggle with asserting boundaries, particularly with people you don't know well, this book gives tons of examples of "scripts" you can use to ensure your voice is being heard.
I highly recommend anyone of any age and gender to read this book. You may assume you know what consent is, but it's so helpful to have a verbal and explicitly clear reminder of exactly what that means and how it applies in all the different areas of your life. And if you're planning on having kids, or have kids already you have to read this book so you can make sure you're raising kids that understand what consent means, and maybe even read passages of it to your children (age appropriate of course). The younger the topic of consent is introduced the better! And I think people forget consent isn't just about relationships, it's about every aspect of our lives. It can help you be a better colleague, coworker, friend and partner.
As a disabled person, I hugely appreciated the intersectional discussions regarding bodily autonomy and how medical/disability aids are often extensions of our bodies. It's also great if you're like me and struggle with asserting boundaries, particularly with people you don't know well, this book gives tons of examples of "scripts" you can use to ensure your voice is being heard.
I highly recommend anyone of any age and gender to read this book. You may assume you know what consent is, but it's so helpful to have a verbal and explicitly clear reminder of exactly what that means and how it applies in all the different areas of your life. And if you're planning on having kids, or have kids already you have to read this book so you can make sure you're raising kids that understand what consent means, and maybe even read passages of it to your children (age appropriate of course). The younger the topic of consent is introduced the better! And I think people forget consent isn't just about relationships, it's about every aspect of our lives. It can help you be a better colleague, coworker, friend and partner.
June 16, 2023
Wonderful book, goes into enough detail whilst keeping it age appropriate. This is such an important topic and you did it justice. I love your message, it's well written, and this will change children's and adult's lives for the better.
If I had this book when I was a kid... well, my life would have turned out significantly better. It is vital that children and adults of all genders read and understand this book. Well done. Thankyou for writing this book. Thankyou for empowering people to learn about bodily autonomy and consent. This is life-changing.
I would say this book is appropriate for anyone whose reading skills are developed enough to be able to read it. That could be age 7 or 9 or somewhere around there.
Kids are learning about sex from their friends and the internet anyway. And they rarely get to see messages about consent and bodily autonomy. So it's really important to let kids learn this early on, so that, when their gymnastics coach, swimming teacher, family friend, tutor, relative, babysitter, anyone... does anything inappropriate to the child... the child will KNOW that it's inappropriate and tell their parents about what happened. They're far less likely to be manipulated into "keeping it a secret", if they know about consent and bodily autonomy.
If I had this book when I was a kid... well, my life would have turned out significantly better. It is vital that children and adults of all genders read and understand this book. Well done. Thankyou for writing this book. Thankyou for empowering people to learn about bodily autonomy and consent. This is life-changing.
I would say this book is appropriate for anyone whose reading skills are developed enough to be able to read it. That could be age 7 or 9 or somewhere around there.
Kids are learning about sex from their friends and the internet anyway. And they rarely get to see messages about consent and bodily autonomy. So it's really important to let kids learn this early on, so that, when their gymnastics coach, swimming teacher, family friend, tutor, relative, babysitter, anyone... does anything inappropriate to the child... the child will KNOW that it's inappropriate and tell their parents about what happened. They're far less likely to be manipulated into "keeping it a secret", if they know about consent and bodily autonomy.
September 19, 2021
As a school teacher, I'm always talking to the students about consent - so when I saw this book I jumped at the chance to read an early review copy.
I wasn't expecting the book to be so long!! When it says it's about consent - literally that is it - for almost 200 pages!! I think this book really dragged at times, and would have been so much better if it was 100 pages, and just more concise. The book is aimed at 9-12 year olds, and I honestly can't see this age group reading every page!
The book is informative - but just so repetitive because of how long it is!
The illustrations are great, and do help somewhat to break up all the text.
Overall this is a good book - but just think it's far too long and draggy. More precise and concise would have been a lot better!
I wasn't expecting the book to be so long!! When it says it's about consent - literally that is it - for almost 200 pages!! I think this book really dragged at times, and would have been so much better if it was 100 pages, and just more concise. The book is aimed at 9-12 year olds, and I honestly can't see this age group reading every page!
The book is informative - but just so repetitive because of how long it is!
The illustrations are great, and do help somewhat to break up all the text.
Overall this is a good book - but just think it's far too long and draggy. More precise and concise would have been a lot better!
April 16, 2023
This book is geared for young audiences, but I even learned a lot. I appreciated the frank, inclusive, and insightful discussion around consent in every situation. Two-thirds of the book focuses on consent in every day life and how it can change over time, and the last third of the book focuses specifically on consent within romantic relationships. All references to sensitive topics are clinical and textbook, but it is fairly constant throughout the text. I think this would be a great resource for parents and health teachers, especially as children start going through puberty throughout teenagehood.
March 12, 2024
4.5 stars
This is an excellent book introducing young people to the concept of consent. It is all about how to say no, when to say no, why to say no - but also when to say yes, how to say yes, and why to say yes. basically, how to be in control of your own body! It has fun and colorful illustrations throughout that make this heavy topic more accessible and approachable. It also acknowledges that different people will be ready for different topics at different times and so you can pick this up and come back to it when you are ready for different sections which are clearly delineated. Highly recommend
This is an excellent book introducing young people to the concept of consent. It is all about how to say no, when to say no, why to say no - but also when to say yes, how to say yes, and why to say yes. basically, how to be in control of your own body! It has fun and colorful illustrations throughout that make this heavy topic more accessible and approachable. It also acknowledges that different people will be ready for different topics at different times and so you can pick this up and come back to it when you are ready for different sections which are clearly delineated. Highly recommend
October 7, 2022
While obviously directed at tweens and teens, I read this as an adult and found it quite helpful. It's respectful, easy to understand, and not too explicit. A good start to understanding not just consent in intimate situations, but consent and healthy boundaries in all areas of life... particularly as that relates to young people navigating through new experiences as they start to become more independent in their early teens and beyond (sports, school, peer pressure, doctor's appointments, drinking, boyfriends/girlfriends, etc).
March 24, 2024
Every kid of every gender needs to read this inclusive book. Like most reviewers, I do believe there were a few repetitive parts. However, anyone living with age range knows you need to repeat important information in different ways for them to really hear you. Read this before giving it to your kids and start that conversation - this book is appropriate for 5th graders, but they might want to revisit it in a few years as a refresher before seriously dating, and to read the "For When You Are Ready" section that talks about consent more specifically within romantic situations.
December 27, 2025
Si tienes hijos/as, cómpraselo y leedlo.
Obligatorio para todos los miembros de la familia.
Completísimo: principio de autonomía corporal, prevención del abuso sexual infantil, comunicación, límites, gestión de las relaciones sexuales, de las relaciones online, relaciones de poder, redes de apoyo, cómo evitar y solucionar situaciones de potencial riesgo…
Toda la colección (Consentimiento-Menstruación-Tetas-Sexo) me han parecido de 10. Muy por encima de unos que se han hecho muy populares y que presumen de molar y no molan tanto.
Obligatorio para todos los miembros de la familia.
Completísimo: principio de autonomía corporal, prevención del abuso sexual infantil, comunicación, límites, gestión de las relaciones sexuales, de las relaciones online, relaciones de poder, redes de apoyo, cómo evitar y solucionar situaciones de potencial riesgo…
Toda la colección (Consentimiento-Menstruación-Tetas-Sexo) me han parecido de 10. Muy por encima de unos que se han hecho muy populares y que presumen de molar y no molan tanto.
July 26, 2022
Creo que es el libro que todos los adolescentes deberían leer (y deberíamos haber leído), ¡nos ahorraríamos tantas violaciones y abusos! ¡Tan solo entendiendo lo que es el conocimiento!
Puede ser una buena herramienta educativa para los jovenes.
Como única cosa mala, diria que el libro es bastante largo, lo que da un aspecto de ser pesado, pero en las paginas no hay mucho texto, se lee fácil y hay muchas ilustraciones.
Puede ser una buena herramienta educativa para los jovenes.
Como única cosa mala, diria que el libro es bastante largo, lo que da un aspecto de ser pesado, pero en las paginas no hay mucho texto, se lee fácil y hay muchas ilustraciones.
June 23, 2023
DISGUSTING!!!!! REMOVE THIS BOOK!!!! THIS IS NOT A CHILD'S BOOK !!!!!
The books that are sold to children should be taken off the shelves as it is inappropriate forms of education and grooming of children, absolutely disgusting. Children should be learning abc's numbers, geography, developing friendships and social skills, life skills, not LGTBIQ+A-Z
* Welcome to Sex * Welcome to consent * Queer Chameleon and Friends
The books that are sold to children should be taken off the shelves as it is inappropriate forms of education and grooming of children, absolutely disgusting. Children should be learning abc's numbers, geography, developing friendships and social skills, life skills, not LGTBIQ+A-Z
* Welcome to Sex * Welcome to consent * Queer Chameleon and Friends
September 24, 2021
This is an excellent book. Accessible, informative, and presents incredibly important concepts in an affirming and non-threatening way. This would make a wonderful resource for not only the children and teens that it’s aimed at, but also for professionals working with these groups (and with adults who struggle to understand concepts such as consent and bodily autonomy). Highly, highly recommend.
October 13, 2022
Love the illustration which depicts the variety of teens (the pimples are the part I barely saw in any manga productions). Also, love how consent is explored in everyday scenarios rather than just about sex. To a ‘yes person’, several highlighted messages about learning how to refuse and accept refusion seems quite reassuring.
January 1, 2023
A book with a subtitle and #1 for 52 Book Challenge - how to say no, when to say yes and everything in between. This a great non fiction title for children and younger teens about consent. Also good for adults wanting to talk to their children and/or students about this topic.
May 3, 2023
Welcome to Consent written for an upper middle and high school audience about consent, sexual feelings, privacy and setting boundaries. The book is set up in a graphic format that might appeal to a middle school and high school age group. This book is definitely not appropriate for elementary kids. This could be a good resource for a school nurse or guidance counselor.
June 21, 2023
Buku panduan kepada anak remaja untuk menjaga maruah dan keselamatan diri. Sangat baik jika ada satu buku seperti ini bagi anak remaja beragama Islam. Disampaikan dalam bahasa dan gaya yang sangat engaging dan telus seperti buku ini
January 30, 2025
This book was really helpful to know more about how to consent other people and what to say in situations. I would really recommend this book if you are going into your teen years or you are in your teen years or even if you are an adult.
May 4, 2025
I absolutely loved this book, especially listening to the beautiful Australian accent.
A great way of explaining concepts we usually struggle to explain to teenagers. Give this to your teenage children!
A great way of explaining concepts we usually struggle to explain to teenagers. Give this to your teenage children!
June 25, 2021
Excellent book.
July 6, 2021
I wish this book was available 20 years ago!
So much valuable information, I highly recommend this to anyone with children going into puberty.
So much valuable information, I highly recommend this to anyone with children going into puberty.
March 13, 2022
Beautifully written, perfectly pitched. An essential read that should be on every tween/teen's bookshelf (and a lot of adults too)
July 28, 2023
I had a hard time getting through this book. Consent was thoroughly covered. Sexual consent was its own chapter.
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