A typical day when I met my close friends and then started to pour my grievances out towards life. This was when I just got back from living abroad for a year, and my biorhythms were a little disrupted from the drastic environments of both cities I were in. (working in Sweden vs studying in Singapore)
My friend's mum overheard me ranting and decided to pass this book to me, making the situation semi-awkward but I'm 100% appreciative of the gesture. As Lunar New Years rolls round the corner, I picked the book and decided to skim it.
Written by a 70+ year old man, Ikeda's writings are full of wisdom. I can tell however, that the language is not written in English. It feels as if it were written in Chinese, then translated. Since I know the Chinese language, I translated the English writings in my mind and thought that the meaning was a lot more profound.
Some of the insights that I have gotten:
1. Hold fast to your identity regardless of how others may appear to change
💐💐💐💐this!💐💐💐💐
2. If you are snubbed or let down by others, have the strength of character to vow that you will never do the same to anyone else.
3. when you have arguments and disagreements w your friends, there should always be an underlying spirit of respect and consideration for each other
4. Once you are addicted to something, your true independence is stripped from you. You become bound by your emotions and cravings for more of these substances. Those who become victims of their own natures and cravings are, strictly speaking, no different from beasts.
5. Become the master of your mind rather than let your mind master you.
6. Essentially, addictions can be pegged to one underlying condition - a lack of foresight and determination toward the future. 🔮
So many people have been robbed the chance to fulfill their great potential because they did not maintain a focus on their goals. Pursuing "fun" in the moment instead led them to ruins.
7. The most attractive person is one who can continue to make steady efforts to fulfil his dream even if others do not recognise their dedication.
Be a person who choose to keep their dreams in sight, be a person of self-control and not immediate gratification.
As I was thinking about friendship recently, these words particularly called out to me:
True friendship is a relationship where you emphatise with each other when they are suffering and encourage them not to lose heart. They, in turn, do the same for you.
Deep friendships are supported by a spirit to grow and advance. Between you and your friends, there must be a commitment to always be there to encourage and help one another as you work toward your respective goals in life.
To have ambition, such as making a meaningful contribution to society, is important. Those who lack a clear, positive purpose or direction in life tend to have friendshios that lead nowhere or are based on dependency. In some cases, these types of friendships actually encourage destructive behaviour. Friendships among people who cheerfully encourage one another while striving to realise their dreams are the kind that deepen and endure.
The book is helpful if you are seeking for certain answers in life. Otherwise, it might not be as relevant.