First things first: I know Aisha Sabatini Sloan. Not only that, I love her.
I had the honor for a time to be her teacher (of Buddhism and mindfulness meditation) and as her teacher I have learned so very much from her. I also have the honor of being her preceptor, and though I've not seen her in way too long a time, I hold her in my heartmind - as I do many of those students who have touched me in ways they do not know.
SO, you may think I'm biased and that this review couldn't possibly be "impartial." But as someone who used to write music reviews, if I really didn't like this book; if I weren't stirred, moved, sometimes overwhelmed by the strength and beauty in this book, I'd just not write anything. I only wrote about music I loved. I tossed the albums of mediocrity and focused on what had impacted me. Except once, but that's another story…. So, I will admit to being partial to great art that moves me, and this book most certainly does.
Dreaming of Ramadi in Detroit is Aisha's second collection of essays. The Fluency of Light, published by the University of Iowa Press in 2013 is as brilliant and splendid and full of light as well. There she focused on interpenetrating essays on art, music, and identity as a mixed-race daughter. Here too, a confession. I've had the pleasure to meet her mom and dad and I got to see where she comes from and it is truly from love and devotion; creativity and intelligence and kindness. I have such a deep respect for both of them and wish we lived near each other so we could meet for coffee and conversation.
In Dreaming of Ramadi in Detroit, Aisha's dad plays a recurring role and as a father myself of two daughters, I found it comforting to see how the love shines through even the most tense moments between them. At times even humor breaks through at the most tense moments like the time, in the title essay, when as father and daughter are driving through the streets of Detroit and gunshots are heard. Aisha shouts out to her father who is driving, "DAD, GO. THERE WERE GUNSHOTS. KEEP DRIVING. DRIVE FASTER." But her dad stops the car instead! As they drive away from the scene, the vivid aliveness of them "reenacting the conversation and laughing harder each time" feels like a memory rather than someone else's story. "I was like, 'GO FASTER,'" "And I was all, 'You want me to stop?'"
And speaking of stopping. Great art - like serious meditation practice - makes the mind stop. It has to if we're ever going to be able to think differently; to feel differently. I am not exaggerating to say that on every page - sometimes more than once - Aisha writes something that just makes my mind stop. I have to breathe and completely re-form an image in a different way; a different light. Re-read and then re-read again the sentence or paragraph. Like in meditation, this stopping of the mind is not a dullness but a breaking in of light. The train of thoughts gets derailed and in that liminal mind space, a new vision; a new way of thinking and the possibility of a new way of loving, living, relating opens up.
Finally, as I know her, I keep hearing her voice in my mind as I read her words on the page, and it strikes me that some of these essays, like the title essay, "'D' Is For the Dance of Hours," and the gripping closing essay, "Caldera," would make wonderful monologues. Her essays often start off with a concrete image, then seem to spin out in myriad directions and you wonder what is the connection; what's the point? Then seemingly effortlessly, everything comes to a focused pin-point in the final sentence that - stops the mind and takes the breath away. I remember having such experiences back in the late 70s and early 80s when I'd attend performances by monologists like Spalding Gray or Laurie Anderson.
Kiese Laymon's back cover blurb puts it way more succinctly than I have: "Aisha Sabatini Sloan manages to produce a collection of essays that are at once innovative, inspiring, sobering, and absolutely terrifying while daring every other essayist in the country to catch up."