Resolve Your Differences: Seven Steps to Coping with Conflict in Your Relationship

by Andrew G. Marshall

Do you have arguments that go round and round in circles? Do you and your partner keep picking at each other over stupid things? Can things turn nasty when you disagree? Despite all the falling out, making up and promises to try harder, do you find that nothing really changes? If all this sounds familiar, it is time for a fresh approach. In this down-to-earth book, marital therapist Andrew G Marshall draws on twenty-five years of counselling couples to explain how to deal with conflict and find lasting solutions. - Why avoiding arguments stores up long-term problems. - What really drives those petty squabbles. - How to stop things spiralling out of control. - Five useful things to argue about. - The tools to have productive and positives disagreements. - How to learn and move on.

224 pages, Paperback

First published February 7, 2011

About the author

Andrew has been a marital therapist for almost thirty years. He trained with RELATE the UK's leading couple counselling charity. He now has a private practice in London and Sussex (England), gives workshops on relationship and inspirational talks. His books have been translated into twenty languages (including French, German, Spanish, Japanese, Chinese and Italian). He also writes for UK newspapers Daily Mail and Mail on Sunday.

Andrew is also the host of the podcast "The Meaningful Life with Andrew G Marshall" where each week I interview therapists, academics and people with a story to tell about making better relationships, deeper connections understanding yourself and what makes life meaningful.

Reviews

[Hessaa561 · Rating 5 out of 5]

Resolve your differences, by Andrew G. Marshall, this book gives us advices and steps to maintain a good and successful relationship. Almost all couple in relationships loves each each other, but the problem is with communicate and understand each other. By reading this book you will be able to build a bridge of communication between you and your partner, you will find that being flexible is the key for a good relationship. Finally, I recommend all people who face obstacles dealing with their partners to read this book.

[Abdallah Bustami · Rating 5 out of 5]

Even though I'm not married, nor in a relationship, but my eyes caught this book and I wanted to read it for two reasons:
1) To get to know what kind of problems couples might have during their life.
2) To avoid such problems with my future partner, or to at least have a view of how problems are handled in a couple's life.
The book is pretty small, but don't let that fool you! The author, with his 25 years of experience in marital therapy, made sure everything you need is in there.
The book walks you through all different types of behaviors, how each one affects the relationship, and which is being good and helpful and which is being destructive.
It also gives you a great insight into good communication skills and some couples techniques.
It's literally filled with exercises, real practical ones that include a pen and a piece of paper, and they usually include both partners.
I liked the way the author summed up every important note at the end of each chapter, and lastly, at the end of the book.
You could go through these notes without having the need to go through each chapter.
He did a real good job collecting these notes for you, especially the ones at the end, which summons the whole book!
I only give a rate of 5 stars when I feel I really learned something important, and this book nailed every single star of the 5 stars!