can i be so honest? i wanted to love this book. i am DESPERATE for good polyamorous/non-monogamous romance novels, especially queer ones, and i had such high hopes for this book b/c of that. unfortunately, i felt let down at every turn, and i promise you, i gave the book SO many chances to impress me!!
the book's biggest sin is the way it deals with the main couple and their relationship with the MC. you should basically just call this "How Not To Do Queer Polyamory (Yes, Even When You Think You're All Cute, Harmless Queer Activists)" which can be said for a LOT of polyam romance books, but this one grates on me even more b/c it makes a mention of their bad behavior as a sort of after-thought, hand-waving away their incredibly dysfunctional communication patterns with both each other and the main character--and hey, if the book was ABOUT that, and DEALT with that, i think i would've really found that engaging! if the book had said, "here are the ways in which charlie idolizes buffy + buffy's and hayden's relationship, dehumanizing everyone in the process" and "here are the ways in which buffy and hayden treat charlie like free child labor, a fun addition to their family but not a whole person on their own" (but also tbh, IS charlie a whole person on their own?? none of the characters felt three dimensional at ALL so that might even be a moot point!!)--well, then maybe we'd have an engaging and thoughtful drama about couple's privilege, unicorn hunting, and parasocial relationships! instead, we have a romance novel that wants you to believe so, so badly that there are no red or even orange flags in this couple's relationship and life, despite the incredible evidence to the contrary. (also, the book seems to believe polyamory is just picket-fence monogamy with a third added in, but that's another conversation!)
i just. guys. i cannot stress enough that the book doesn't even bring up polyamory until SEVENTY PERCENT of the way through. charlie spends a CRAZY amount of time thinking that the couple is cheating on each other with him, which is ?????!? ABSOLUTELY WILD?!???, and the infuriating explanation they give for that when questioned is, "but we each thought the other person had told you we're polyamorous! uh-oh, how silly of us to get that mixed up!" like oh my fucking goddd you guys have a child together you CANNOT be doing this and bringing a third into it this way!!!
also they have absolutely no boundaries despite claiming that they are so thoughtful and mindful of other's feelings, and they even make a comment about "understanding the power dynamics" with him living in their house for a week -- okay so you understood that but not why it was so fucking weird to allow him to get so close to and involved with your child's life and your marriage within the span of like ?!? a week?!? HELLO???
anyway this book really got to me in a way no book has in a LONG time. i am so tired.