One of the wisest old horsemen I've ever known, a professor of equine science I had in college, once remarked that "everything worthwhile in life I learned from training horses." He was one of those old, grizzled, cowboy types, not unlike the author, apparently, who states something similar: "all I really need to know I learned from a horse." I guess that came from somewhere, or someone, probably earlier generations of horsemen, whose knowledge and wisdom is dramatically underappreciated, and increasingly being lost. They don't call it "horse sense" for nothing.
Grant Golliher, one of the most famous "horse whisperers," is also one of the most celebrated life coaches, and has traveled the country and the world, in some cases, holding clinics for Fortune 500 executives, celebrities, supreme court justices and ordinary folks to teach them about leadership, and themselves, by learning to Think Like a Horse. That entails many life lessons he includes in this book - words to live by - which are:
1) You Can't Lie to a Horse;
2) Feel Can't Be Taught, but It Can Be Learned;
3) Give Him the Name You Want Him to Live Up To;
4) Clear Boundaries Make Happy Horses (and People);
5) Make The Right Thing Easy and the Wrong Thing Hard;
6) Be Slow to Take and Quick to Give;
7) It's Not About Today; It's About the Rest of Their Life;
8) If You Deal with an Attitude, You Won't Have to Deal with an Action;
9) Don't Be Afraid to Move Your Feet;
10) Every Horse (and Person) Needs a Purpose; and
11) Show Your Other Side
Grant's worldly wisdom began with his upbringing, on a ranch in Colorado, where he was tasked with breaking in the mules his father raised, at age eleven, which, you know, if you've ever worked with a mule, is a pretty tall order for a youngster at that tender age. Back in the day, this involved the old, cowboy way of "show 'em who's boss," which, for an eleven-year-old, often meant the mule! However, as time progressed and after the accumulation of a few scars, Grant learned a new way, how to communicate and convince a horse to trust and cooperate rather than to simply submit: the former would ensure loyalty and a genuine working relationship. Subsequently, Grant's invaluable life experiences have been used to train others, by teaching them what the old timers called "horse sense," for good reason.
In a collection of anecdotes, stories and life lessons, Grant imparts his unique outlook on life, which you're likely not going to encounter from teachers in the present-day, to even laypersons who have never sat astride a horse. Like most other cowboy-types I've met, Grant's a gifted storyteller, who really has developed a gift for communication, including written communication, so this book is easily accessible for neophytes to the horse world. What may be surprising to readers is how transmissible the lessons are from horse to human. There's another old cowboy saying I've heard innumerable times which says that "the outside of a horse is good for the inside of a human."
Horses are likewise gifted communicators, brutally honest beings who are a mirror of the person interacting with them, and, admittedly, they show us all our foibles: impatience, arrogance, laziness, sloppiness, and many other characteristics we wish we could just keep concealed. Perhaps that's the greatest value they offer us - the chance to confront out weaknesses, and our demons, and to develop into the kind of person we want to be. Grant said it best himself, I think: "I've often wondered what qualifies me - a cowboy with barely a high school education - to be teaching these accomplished leaders anything. The truth it, it's the horses who do the teaching - I just try to translate."
Even if you're not into horses, Grant offers easily digestible life lessons and advice for communicating with the people in your life, and a new way in which to view leadership, for those invested in supervising others. If nothing else, the way in which he has built his business, and its longevity and popularity, are a testament that his methods work, and appeal to a variety of people. Highly recommended reading for just about anyone, not just equine aficionados, but for those fortunate few, his words will resonate all the more clearly.
I included here one of his examples of "Cowboy Poetry," because it's one of the best I've ever read. It goes as follows:
I'd rather see a sermon than hear one any day;
I'd rather one should walk with me than merely tell the way.
The eye's a better pupil and more willing than the ear,
Fine counsel is confusing, but example's always clear;
And the best of all the preachers are the men who live their creeds,
For to see good put in action is what everybody needs.
I soon can learn to do it if you'll let me see it done;
I can watch your hands in action, but your tongue too fast may run.
The lecture you deliver may be very wise and true,
But I'd rather get my lessons by observing what you do.
I might misunderstand you and the high advice you give,
But there's no misunderstanding how you act and how you live.
When I see a deed of kindness, I am eager to be kind.
When a weaker brother stumbles and a strong man stays behind
Just to see if he can help him - then the wish grows strong in me
To become as big and thoughtful as I know that friend to be.
All travelers can witness that the best of guides today
Is not the one who tells them, but the one who shows the way.
One good man teaches many - men believe what they behold;
One deed of kindness witnessed is worth hundreds that are told.
Who stands with men of honor learns to hold his honor dear;
Right living speaks a language which to everyone is clear.
Though an able speaker charms me with his eloquence, I say:
I'd rather see a sermon than to hear one, any day.
-Edgar A. Guest
"You can't force them to trust you... All you can do is create an environment in which they feel safe, be patient and consistent, and give them the freedom to choose." This quote reminds me of something Einstein once said, that "I never try to teach my students, just provide conditions under which they can learn."
"Most people I know have a 'good' side and a 'bad' side, too. There's the side of us that we want to show the world - the side of us that's confident and has it all figured out. And then there's the side we want to hide - the side where we've been hurt or scared or ashamed or made to feel like a fool... I her from the young people in my life that this is even more true these days, with social media. Everyone posts pictures of their best side, with perfect lighting, sharing the highlights of their life, but they don't show the people in their lives their struggles and setbacks."