You Can Be the Wife of a Happy Husband

by Darien B. Cooper

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Genres: Marriage, Self Help

156 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 1977

Reviews

[Marilyn Mariah · Rating 1 out of 5]

If this is the design for marriage. I don’t want it.

[K.N. · Rating 1 out of 5]

This is the most ass-backwards, sexist drivel I've ever read. I can't believe it's been translated and is still in print! The copy I read had been given to my mother as a wedding gift back in the 70s and even back then she was offended!

There is an entire chapter devoted to how a wife must be well-groomed. All woman should be feminine and all men masculine. Home-making is the ideal role for all Christian women. A wife must never complain; if something about her husband is troubling her, she must tell it to her BFF (Jesus Christ). The list goes on... Honestly, I find it appalling that there are people who believed AND STILL BELIEVE in this bull!

I laughed out loud at the stupid diagrams in here, and I laughed at a lot of the other stupid things in here, but by the time I finished, I was just annoyed and angry. The author still is available to speak to groups, but she requires all her travel and lodging expenses be provided for her (HA, SHE'S GOT A HIGH OPINION OF HERSELF).

I had to make a new Goodreads shelf just for this garbage. It didn't belong anywhere else.

[Kim · Rating 1 out of 5]

This book is a disgrace to women. My husband and I bought it as a joke at a used book sale. We truly read it and laughed at the ridiculous information inside. A marriage is about partnership, not making your husband happy and holding your tongue. I can't believe people abide by this garbage.

[C · Rating 1 out of 5]

I put it on my list to acknowledge that a book like this exists and that there's a certain segment of the population like my ex-step-mother-in-law that like to give this to newly married young women.

The title is optimistic because it's true: you CAN be the wife of a happy husband. But this book is not the guide. This is the guide: get help and heal your psychological wounds. Find someone who has also healed their wounds. Don't even think to try to be the person that heals someone's wounds. Even if you are a doctor, you are not your partner's doctor. Ok, now get on out there - you're ready to go find a (already) happy husband.

What my former husband actually needed for his happiness were preceding years of love and acceptance and kindness from his parents. Compassion. Validation. Emotional connection and support. Presence. Advocacy. Things that help a young child build self-esteem and know within themselves that they are safe and loved and that they are worthy. That sense of worthiness leads to making decisions that lead to happiness - and the personal agency to take ownership of that journey.

Since he did not get that, he needed a qualified psychotherapist to help him help him heal the wounds of neglect and emotional abuse.

The Ex-sMIL outsourcing the responsibility for the healing (the damage she helped create - and continued to perpetuate) to an emotionally immature and equally damaged 23 year old girl made good sense. As was expecting this 150 page manual of dogmatic ideology to get her ready for the job. Who could blame her for being so disappointed?

[Amanda · Rating 5 out of 5]

Don't ignore this book because it looks outdated. God's plan for marriage hasn't changed in the 6000 years since he created Adam and Eve, and so this book is still appropriate for today, too, because it is fully grounded on the Word of God. It was a great reminder and instructor on what we women need to do and be in order to be the wives God intended us to be. I recommend it for any woman who is open to hearing what God says to us.

[Shelley · Rating 3 out of 5]

This is a seemingly cheesy old-fashioned book I took off my Mother-in-law's shelf when she moved. I started to read it with a jaded, knowing grin on my face and finished it quite soberly. Prepare to swallow your pride and be humbled. I'm a happier wife for it.

[Pamela Poole · Rating 5 out of 5]

i read this book years ago and it helped me so much when my marriage. was falling apart. i have recommended it to many people. the sequel we became wives of happy husbands is equally as good. just because it is an older book dont overlook it. it is different than others out there.

[Anna Chviedaruk · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is the best book on a wife’s role I’ve ever read. It’s so biblical and practical, with lots of nuances that the author looks deep into. It has really set me free.

[Wendy Kendrick · Rating 1 out of 5]

One of the worst books I’ve ever read. Zero stars. She extols making an idol of one’s husband, advocates lying to him to stroke his ego, going to a strip club on his orders, etc.
Wives are always to blame for the husbands’ bad behavior. She excuses abuse and basically tells the reader to try harder and do better so he might stop.
Staring at the wall would be more helpful than reading this irresponsible book.

[Brittany Dalomba · Rating 4 out of 5]

While this book had some funny outdated parts like "try on wigs" & "get an extra long phone cord" it was full of excellent truths to consider.

[Henrietta · Rating 5 out of 5]

amazing

[Rachel Schultz · Rating 3 out of 5]

Pretty close

[Debbie · Rating 3 out of 5]

Here we have christian marriage advice from the 1970's for wives or perhaps also wives-to-be. It is a bit dated, but the truths of the scriptures are the same regardless of the year. I overlooked a reference or two about "self-esteem" that I don't agree with, but otherwise it is pretty solid.

In case you are wondering, her opinion is that "acting in love does not mean you are to be a doormat or have an apathetic or passive attitude." (page 117)

[renata]

an amazing addition to a women-only slumber party... not for the faint of heart [or the weak of mind:]! there are some priceless diagrams in the book that still have us giggling...

[Stephanie Smith · Rating 4 out of 5]

Old fashioned, but a helpful read.