I got this book for free last year for completing the grownup library summer reading program. The choices for the free book were limited, but I had read and enjoyed a couple others in this series in the past. My adult child laughed at my selection, though, said that culinary fiction books should be banned and started listing all the stereotypes in the subgenre. It was funny to me how many she guessed right, including that the main character had a failed romantic relationship in the past and that there's a sort of motherly advice figure in the series (an aunt.)
So, after the adult child's put-downs of it (who had not read it), it's taken me nearly a year to pick it back up and actually read it. I wanted to read it before said child comes home from college and caught me reading it. I suppose I've skipped over several books in the series. For the most part, I did enjoy it, stereotypes or no. For one thing, Lee was no longer asking for romantic advice, although perhaps she needed it, and the aunt herself was neither giving advice nor acting informative. She wanted Lee's sleuthing help on old high school friends, to a point, but then, of course, Lee couldn't stop.
I don't think the stereotypes bother me as long as there's a mystery worth trying to solve.
I did guess one of the whodunits, but not the other, although maybe I should have.
Unlike the others I've read, this particular book in the series did not make me want to eat chocolate. I don't know if that's because the chocolates were less central to the theme, although still present, or if it was because it's after Easter, when, yes, I'd already eaten some chocolate.
In Lee's argument with her husband, Joe, and the resulting hurt feelings, it's not apparent whether Lee's too busy investigating the crime to pursue reconciliation, or whether they simply don't know how to do it. Another reviewer thought that the way Lee handled the argument - pouting, not talking to her husband about it - was more like an adolescent than an adult, married woman. That made me laugh, because yes, while that's true, unfortunately some real-life married women haven't developed emotionally beyond that state.
In the end, Lee ... SPOILER ... just decided to drop the argument and not hold it against Joe. That's definitely a valid way of ending an argument, if one can do so emotionally honestly, without inner resentment and turmoil. And I think that Lee could, because she seemed to understand what the trigger was and why it affected her so and because Joe was caught doing something equally as stupid, which, perhaps, eased Lee's self-recriminations.
I was a little concerned over them about it, though, wondering if they knew how to talk through a difficulty, especially as Lee never told Joe why it had hurt her so, or at least not in this book. It made me wonder if he'd unknowingly stumble into that trap again. Or maybe have some vague notion of it's being taboo without understanding why.
Not that calling someone stupid is ever OK, and that was something he'd never apologized for, but seemed happy to move past it. I don't think he intended to hurt Lee, but got caught up in the fear of the moment of what she'd done. I haven't read enough of these books in the series to know if put-downs were a continual problem with him, but I don't think they were. I think it was just a one-time slip-up. I do realize that some families tend to think that name-calling is more normal or okay than ours, but we tend to hold that it's not a valid part of any argument. It doesn't work through the issues but brings unnecessary hurt. It doesn't lead towards reconciliation but away from it.
A different reviewer thought that Joe's one-time slip-up added some realism to their relationship, because, to this point, Joe had been "overly accommodating" of Lee and the dangerousness of her sleuthing. I had not considered that before, that perhaps his frustration with Lee over these types of incidents had been mounting, and that perhaps his slip-up uncovered a greater fear and frustration than this single instance. We won't know whether this reviewer's right unless we read further along in the series and see if it becomes a deeper theme or underlying current. I did know a police officer's wife whose continual fear for his safety eventually got the better of her, and they ended in divorce. So it could be a real concern and with significant repercussions.
Margo's relationship with her sister Kathy also troubled me some and annoyed me some, but as I didn't fully understand Kathy's mental difficulties, I don't feel I can comment knowledgeably on the subject. It did make me wonder, however, if the author didn't fully understand them herself. It was not Kathy's mental problems that annoyed me, but Margo's handling of them.