[Should I Stay Or Go? : How Controlled Separation (CS) Can Save Your Marriage] [By: Raffel, Lee] [September, 1999]

by Lee Raffel

Until now, couples facing the dilemma of deciding whether or not to stay in an unhappy marriage had three individual or couples therapy, separation, or divorce. Should I Stay or Go? provides these couples with a fourth option--the Controlled Separation (CS). Revolutionary in scope, CS is a compassionate process that is designed to build respect and foster advocacy between spouses. Should I Stay or Go? thoroughly explains the CS guidelines, including the 12 fundamental issues that must be resolved for a workable, orderly separation. It also contains sample contracts, along with helpful checklists and self-assessment tools.

Paperback

First published September 1, 1998

Reviews

[Anne-Marie · Rating 3 out of 5]

Last night I leaned against someone's cellar door which opened and I tumbled backwards down 10 wooden steps. The incident sums up my current state of being. My head is pounding along with my heart. I know that there are ups and downs - an ebb and a flow in all relationships - but how long do you wait it out? How long do you hold on to a mutual and tangible misery? When does one say when? I just don't know. And scratch that statement I made last week about being done with the self-help genre.



---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Read up to the chapter that said, "If you're married to a passive-aggresive, alcoholic, disloyal ASSHOLE, consider youself finished with this book and just GO". Done and Done.