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From Shy To Social: The Shy Man's Guide to Personal & Dating Success
“Engaging, well-researched and frequently hilarious, From Shy To Social is one of those rare self-help books that feels like you’re being coached and encouraged by a trusted friend. An absolute must-read for all of the love shy men out there.”
– Sofi Papamarko, Relationship Columnist & Contributor to
The Huffington Post and The Globe & Mail
If your reserved nature is making it difficult for you to date and form friendships, here is some good
• Your shyness isn’t entirely your fault
• You can improve in ways you never thought possible
From Shy To The Shy Man's Guide to Personal & Dating Success goes far beyond simple dating pointers by providing practical assignments and cutting-edge advice for the love shy man to build social aptitude and improve dating success. An extensive reference manual on social improvement, From Shy To Social teaches you how to gain confidence in everything from telephone manners to group interaction to directly approaching women for conversation. Each assignment builds on the skills learned previously to lift your social and dating ability to an exciting new level.
Follow the advice & practical assignments
• Improve style, body language and voice tone
• Eliminate passivity and become confidently assertive
• Build one-on-one and group conversational skills
• Reduce anxiety when talking to women
• Increase your online dating success
• Build friendships and get invited out more often
• Open conversations and talk to women of different nationalities
• Learn approach skills for the street, bars, bookstores, and more
• Learn proper dating behavior so you no longer get the brush-off for a second date
Also included is a discussion of female psychology and actual transcripts of conversations that led to phone numbers and dates with women. The real-world assignments will help you become the better man you want to be, getting the social life you deserve.
– Sofi Papamarko, Relationship Columnist & Contributor to
The Huffington Post and The Globe & Mail
If your reserved nature is making it difficult for you to date and form friendships, here is some good
• Your shyness isn’t entirely your fault
• You can improve in ways you never thought possible
From Shy To The Shy Man's Guide to Personal & Dating Success goes far beyond simple dating pointers by providing practical assignments and cutting-edge advice for the love shy man to build social aptitude and improve dating success. An extensive reference manual on social improvement, From Shy To Social teaches you how to gain confidence in everything from telephone manners to group interaction to directly approaching women for conversation. Each assignment builds on the skills learned previously to lift your social and dating ability to an exciting new level.
Follow the advice & practical assignments
• Improve style, body language and voice tone
• Eliminate passivity and become confidently assertive
• Build one-on-one and group conversational skills
• Reduce anxiety when talking to women
• Increase your online dating success
• Build friendships and get invited out more often
• Open conversations and talk to women of different nationalities
• Learn approach skills for the street, bars, bookstores, and more
• Learn proper dating behavior so you no longer get the brush-off for a second date
Also included is a discussion of female psychology and actual transcripts of conversations that led to phone numbers and dates with women. The real-world assignments will help you become the better man you want to be, getting the social life you deserve.
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214 pages, Paperback
First published November 30, 2011
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July 20, 2018
A good self-help/dating book with great tips and tricks. it's a fast-read and the writing style is easy and clear.
February 10, 2013
If this is one of the first books you've read about success with dating, you'll enjoy it and get some good information. For others like me, that have read many books on the topic - there's not anything new here. At least the author gives credit to Mystery and Neil Strauss for their ideas. Curiously though, no credit to David DeAngelo for the cocky & funny chapter. If you're looking for an in-depth analysis of shyness you'll want to find another book.
April 2, 2012
If you're a guy having a hard time meeting women, I suggest you pick up this book. Bear in mind this is not the type of book to pick up women for that one night stand, but rather someone you'd like to have a relationship with. Although I'm married now I wish I had this book many years ago! Always been shy and the material I read would have helped years ago!
May 2, 2017
I've conquered social anxiety before and dated quite successfully so feel I can assess these books correctly (I'm actually in the process of writing a book on dating and social anxiety).
Overall this is one of the better books on shyness but it still falls very far short of where it could be. It has some good points - like the author, I've worked in marketing having previously had stilted social skills, so can relate to the improvements it brings. However the author misses the point of such experiences ie developing social skills without thinking too much - a point missed sorely throughout a book filled with analysing every little detail of body language and social rules.
The author also wastes a lot of time longwindedly trying to change people's outlook using grand statements like 'even Holywood stars feel ugly' - the correct way to do this is to ask readers to challenge their beliefs NOT by indoctrinating them. Finally, the author makes little mention of how desperation could be causing the reader to let opportunities slip through their fingers.
I would say first deal with social anxiety through therapy if you have social anxiety, then **maybe** try books like this. These days many therapists are much more on the ball with anxiety and the evidence base is there, unlike with PUA. Some would say that bookreading can never help with dating for the painfully shy, but I disagree. Without making it a crash course in CBT one could create a book with experiments to test out the reader's core beliefs and tricks and tips eg when going out having fun should be the goal and not to go out 'to score', confidence exercises etc. It mightn't sound like much, but it could help enormously, especially if written more concisely than this tiresome read.
In any case, this isn't such a book. Because this book gives great tips on getting into work that improves social skills I felt like giving it 3 stars but it is a long drawn book. So I agonised over it - 2 stars or 3? I asked myself would a reader that's done succesful therapy but still not dating improve. Answer is not necessarily, so it's 2 stars.
Overall this is one of the better books on shyness but it still falls very far short of where it could be. It has some good points - like the author, I've worked in marketing having previously had stilted social skills, so can relate to the improvements it brings. However the author misses the point of such experiences ie developing social skills without thinking too much - a point missed sorely throughout a book filled with analysing every little detail of body language and social rules.
The author also wastes a lot of time longwindedly trying to change people's outlook using grand statements like 'even Holywood stars feel ugly' - the correct way to do this is to ask readers to challenge their beliefs NOT by indoctrinating them. Finally, the author makes little mention of how desperation could be causing the reader to let opportunities slip through their fingers.
I would say first deal with social anxiety through therapy if you have social anxiety, then **maybe** try books like this. These days many therapists are much more on the ball with anxiety and the evidence base is there, unlike with PUA. Some would say that bookreading can never help with dating for the painfully shy, but I disagree. Without making it a crash course in CBT one could create a book with experiments to test out the reader's core beliefs and tricks and tips eg when going out having fun should be the goal and not to go out 'to score', confidence exercises etc. It mightn't sound like much, but it could help enormously, especially if written more concisely than this tiresome read.
In any case, this isn't such a book. Because this book gives great tips on getting into work that improves social skills I felt like giving it 3 stars but it is a long drawn book. So I agonised over it - 2 stars or 3? I asked myself would a reader that's done succesful therapy but still not dating improve. Answer is not necessarily, so it's 2 stars.
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