This book lost to Bebang Siy's "It's a Mens World" in Philippine ReaderCon 2012. I was in the audience with Bebang Siy accepted the award for the best in essay category. This year, five years later, Bebang Siy's husband, Ronald Verzo recommended this book to me as a possible book for the month by a woman author. We have been reading books by mostly male authors in Pinoy Reads Pinoy Books this past 5 years. For 2018, we'd like to interview and interact more female local authors. Thus, I had to look for my copy of this book by Tweet Sering despite the fact that this lost to Bebang Siy's bestseller book.
From reading this book, I learned that Tweet Sering spent 3 years writing the essays (creative non-fiction) in this book while living with her parents. During these three years, when she was 38-40 years old, she did not contribute financially to the household and tried living like a teenager. This was in line with what she missed as teenager trying to please everyone around her. She did not mention whether she had the income but she just chose not to give money to her parents specifically to her mom. I have a 22 year old daughter who is graduating from college in the next 12 months. If at the age of 38 and she comes back or if she is still living with us (my wife and I) and chooses not to contribute, that's fine especially if I have enough money to support them. No big deal.
I also reckoned that Tweet Sering espouses feminism. In particular, as a woman, she wants to be able to pursue her art despite being in a relationship with a man she loves. In her past relationships, this did not work. I am not against this. However, most of the women around me (my wife, my mom, my mom-in-law, my sister, my sisters-in-law) are non-artists. When I met my wife, she claimed to be a painter but it turned out that she loves painting walls and windows so it is more of a household chore rather than art. I know Bebang Siy is good at her art which is writing and she is being encouraged to continue by Ronald Verzo. So, I guess that instead of writing a long essay entitled "The Girl of the Guy with the Camera," I think what Tweet Sering has to look for a man like Bebang Siy did to find Ronald Verzo who is also into writing and, like what Tweet Sering dreams about, film making.
Tweet Sering's writing reminded me of Jessica Zafra's. Middle-class articulate woman. Graduated from good schools. Has passion for traveling, reading and writing. Sering's problems are far and above those of my female friends: how to be accepted to New York University (NYU) Film School. At 38 (when the book came out), she even included a list of what she truly wants in a partner. It includes 42 characteristics that her ideal man must have. I asked myself if I have those in me. I guess I lack a couple of them. If I were still a bachelor, now 53 (to her 45), would I court Tweet Sering? My candid answer is no because Tweet Sering seems to be too smart for me. I have many smart female friends who are still single or by now have chosen to be single. Jessica Zafra is still single, right?
Easy read. Interesting read. Well-written. I am not surprised if this self-published book is a hit to 20's, 30's or 40's single female especially those who are into some arts. Especially those who adore Elizabeth Gilbert's "Eat, Pray, Love." I'll see if I can "sell" the idea of this book to my female book friends.
Thank you, Tweet Sering for pouring out yourself to us through this book. This is my last book read in 2017 and I chose this because I knew I would learn a thing or two and bring them with me in 2018.
Next time that I pass by Uno Morato, I will surely look for more books written by you.