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The Body Language of Dating: Read His Signals, Send Your Own, and Get the Guy
Nationally renowned body language expert Tonya Reiman turns her attention to romance—explaining how to read the signals of your date, your mate, or that cutie across the bar—and never get rejected again!
Attraction : It’s biological. It’s physical. It’s chemical. It’s mental. But it doesn’t end there. It’s Detectable. Manageable. Maneuverable.
In The Body Language of Dating , Tonya Reiman tackles the question of whether human attraction and seduction have changed over millions of years, drawing lines of flirting symmetry that span millennia, cultures, species, and continents. By looking at the evolutionary purpose of every part of the male and the female body, The Body Language of Dating chronicles the evolution of each major human bodily feature—why it is considered attractive or unattractive, good for longevity or detrimental to the gene pool, indicative of sexual success or failure.
Reiman crumples the timeline that separates us from our ancient ancestors to ask, “What has never changed? What attracts opposite sexes to one another, why does it work, and how has it contributed to the longevity of our species?” The Body Language of Dating provides the tools needed for success in today’s dating scenarios, offering practical tactics for seduction, conversation, connection, and enduring romance.
Attraction : It’s biological. It’s physical. It’s chemical. It’s mental. But it doesn’t end there. It’s Detectable. Manageable. Maneuverable.
In The Body Language of Dating , Tonya Reiman tackles the question of whether human attraction and seduction have changed over millions of years, drawing lines of flirting symmetry that span millennia, cultures, species, and continents. By looking at the evolutionary purpose of every part of the male and the female body, The Body Language of Dating chronicles the evolution of each major human bodily feature—why it is considered attractive or unattractive, good for longevity or detrimental to the gene pool, indicative of sexual success or failure.
Reiman crumples the timeline that separates us from our ancient ancestors to ask, “What has never changed? What attracts opposite sexes to one another, why does it work, and how has it contributed to the longevity of our species?” The Body Language of Dating provides the tools needed for success in today’s dating scenarios, offering practical tactics for seduction, conversation, connection, and enduring romance.
400 pages, Hardcover
First published January 3, 2012
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August 18, 2012
I received this book as a free advanced reader copy from here on Goodreads. I did a horrible job reading it in advanced, but I'm finished now!
I think this book is great if you're a novice about body language. I've read about body language before and interested in it in general, so not everything was new to me, which is fine. She gave good ideas of what some behavior that would indicate being approachable or unapproachable. There are pictures and it ranges from expressions that you make, to your posture, to where your feet are pointing to and some other minute actions that you're not even really conscious that you're doing. There are pictures and the take home items are in handy little blurbs. There's even a nice little summation of what she talked about as a refresher for if you're going out.
The book is a little longer than it needs to me, because I don't understand why so much time is spent in the first half of the book talking about traits being passed on, such as long hair has been passed on because it showed that a woman was healthy and more likely to have healthy offspring. That's all fine and dandy, but I don't know what it has to do with body language, when she explains that playing with your hair can attract suitors because of promotes an image of youthfulness, pheromones, etc. That makes more sense with the title of the book. I still found it interesting though.
She makes a lot of culture references and uses colloquial terms so it's not like your standard scientific paper. It was occasionally a little off putting to me, but there are only so many times I can handle reading the words a cutesy nickname for the male your attracted to in a scenario. Who knows? You might be giggling in delight.
I think this book is great if you're a novice about body language. I've read about body language before and interested in it in general, so not everything was new to me, which is fine. She gave good ideas of what some behavior that would indicate being approachable or unapproachable. There are pictures and it ranges from expressions that you make, to your posture, to where your feet are pointing to and some other minute actions that you're not even really conscious that you're doing. There are pictures and the take home items are in handy little blurbs. There's even a nice little summation of what she talked about as a refresher for if you're going out.
The book is a little longer than it needs to me, because I don't understand why so much time is spent in the first half of the book talking about traits being passed on, such as long hair has been passed on because it showed that a woman was healthy and more likely to have healthy offspring. That's all fine and dandy, but I don't know what it has to do with body language, when she explains that playing with your hair can attract suitors because of promotes an image of youthfulness, pheromones, etc. That makes more sense with the title of the book. I still found it interesting though.
She makes a lot of culture references and uses colloquial terms so it's not like your standard scientific paper. It was occasionally a little off putting to me, but there are only so many times I can handle reading the words a cutesy nickname for the male your attracted to in a scenario. Who knows? You might be giggling in delight.
September 11, 2019
This one is a DNF for me. I made it to chapter six before giving up. Somewhere around the time that I got tired of her repeatedly saying that women are scatterbrained and can’t drive or read maps. Also men with five o’clock shadows will be cheaters. That was after a seemingly endless description of the evolution of our bodies. Do I really need to know about the evolution of the shape and texture of men’s toes? No. No I don’t. Also I was listening to the audio book and the narrator’s pronunciation of words was driving me insane. For example, she kept saying “withdraral” for withdrawal.
Anyway, there was very little in here that was actually about body language, so I gave up.
Anyway, there was very little in here that was actually about body language, so I gave up.
July 11, 2017
Not as vapid as it sounds; talks about the scientific basis of attractive signals.
December 30, 2011
The Body Language of Dating is a comprehensive analysis of the role of the anatomy in dating behaviors.
Written primarily for women, Reiman devotes the first half of the book to the various body parts of the two genders and how they have developed over time to fill a specific function.
Using a light writing style for a very in-depth subject, Reiman captivates the reader by peppering information with photos, blocks of separate information and sections called "body watch", which are specific tidbits of body language information.
She discusses communication differences between men and women providing scenarios to explain the roles of body language in meeting a man.
Her information is supported by scientific studies and personal experience.
Chemistry, conversation, and dressing to impress are just a few of the in-depth topics that she thoroughly explores.
The final chapter is a brilliant wrap-up of the entire book, providing a type of cheat sheet for using body language to get an acceptable date in 10 easy steps.
I recommend this for all of the single ladies....
(This book was provided to me free of charge by the publisher for pre-release review. No guarantee of a favorable review was made in any way.)
Written primarily for women, Reiman devotes the first half of the book to the various body parts of the two genders and how they have developed over time to fill a specific function.
Using a light writing style for a very in-depth subject, Reiman captivates the reader by peppering information with photos, blocks of separate information and sections called "body watch", which are specific tidbits of body language information.
She discusses communication differences between men and women providing scenarios to explain the roles of body language in meeting a man.
Her information is supported by scientific studies and personal experience.
Chemistry, conversation, and dressing to impress are just a few of the in-depth topics that she thoroughly explores.
The final chapter is a brilliant wrap-up of the entire book, providing a type of cheat sheet for using body language to get an acceptable date in 10 easy steps.
I recommend this for all of the single ladies....
(This book was provided to me free of charge by the publisher for pre-release review. No guarantee of a favorable review was made in any way.)
June 27, 2020
The book is written mainly for women, but I'm a man who was curious enough about women's perspectives and thoughts, so I gave it a read.
I've read both of Tonya's 2 Body Language Books: "The Power of Body Language" and "The Yes Factor". I gave them both 5/5 stars. This one however I gave 3 stars. It's very lengthy (close to 400 pages), and drags at times (in the middle and right at the beginning). I think you could compact the whole book into a few chapters with just the key elements and have a great book!
There is some valuable insight and tips to learn for both men and women. However, I don't think I'd read it again, except for what I highlighted.
This book has definitely shed some new light to me on clothing, color, attraction, and the way men and women are wired differently.
Thank you Tonya.
-2012 Review
I've read both of Tonya's 2 Body Language Books: "The Power of Body Language" and "The Yes Factor". I gave them both 5/5 stars. This one however I gave 3 stars. It's very lengthy (close to 400 pages), and drags at times (in the middle and right at the beginning). I think you could compact the whole book into a few chapters with just the key elements and have a great book!
There is some valuable insight and tips to learn for both men and women. However, I don't think I'd read it again, except for what I highlighted.
This book has definitely shed some new light to me on clothing, color, attraction, and the way men and women are wired differently.
Thank you Tonya.
-2012 Review
November 18, 2012
The book talks a lot about what the author thinks of as evolution. Well and it suggests men pass on their genes only to their sons and women also only produce baby girls that are carrying on their genes. Here and there, she makes some points about dating and how to dress up and be approachable which is good. I wish she had stuck with that throughout the book and left the science to the scientists.
February 2, 2012
I wish I had this book yrs ago and then I would have not married the jerk I'm married to now!
I just got done monday and I'm planning reading it again! I think it helps with every relationship not just dating. On how to read people and what signs your putting out there! Great book!
I just got done monday and I'm planning reading it again! I think it helps with every relationship not just dating. On how to read people and what signs your putting out there! Great book!
February 11, 2012
This book was a fun and interesting read. I studied body language in the past, but this book covers more than I had learned. The book is an enjoyable read and should be kept on your shelf. It should be kept for ready-reference.
April 18, 2012
Well, girls if you didnt have the "game" before now you can have it. This book is also amazing if you want to understand why you are attracted to certain things in a guy and pretty amazing if you love body language :D
January 23, 2013
It was okay --- I didn't think her dating advice was anything new or novel, but I did like the research on why men and women are different on an evolutionary level. If the research is correct, it was very enlightening. If not, it was at least fun to think about and the author used good examples.
January 24, 2012
This book is god-awful!
June 13, 2014
It was an adjustment to hear her pronounce "human" as "yoo-man" nearly every other word in the first chapters, but once I got past that, it was an overall interesting listen.
September 27, 2014
It was interesting. I liked learning about how man has developed through the millenia to get where we are today.
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