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The Game: 41 Shades of Men: The Pursuit to Subdue and Use You
Dating, in today's market, has become increasingly more difficult for the modern day woman. No matter her approach, it seems as if she's damned if she does and damned if she doesn't. The question is, Why? After 25 years of experience, careful study and analysis, it has become very evident that women have no understanding of male psychology and behavior. They are unaware of what drives his behavior and what the ultimate functionality of a relationship is about. Unfortunately, without this knowledge, women will be left to blindly enter relationships and pick up the pieces of lost energy, time, financial destruction, and overall trauma with very little, if any gain.
In The 41 Shades of Men, The Pursuit to Subdue and Use you, male psychology expert and author, Princella Clark, removes all the mystery of the male's behavior in this short but impactful guide to decoding the hidden intentions of a male's pursuit of you. Unlike other books that focus solely on the Dark Psychology personality types and assessing the damage that has already been done, The 41 Shades of Men, shows you the 41 different motivations of male pursuit which will ultimately give you the power to level the playing field in the dating game.
Inside, you'll find out the secret to choosing better and staying one step ahead of men.
- Discover the true nature of men
- what males are and are not capable of
- Real world evidence and Scientifically backed data
- 41 different motivations of pursuit
- How the Dark Psychology Triad connects to the base nature of male
In The 41 Shades of Men, The Pursuit to Subdue and Use you, male psychology expert and author, Princella Clark, removes all the mystery of the male's behavior in this short but impactful guide to decoding the hidden intentions of a male's pursuit of you. Unlike other books that focus solely on the Dark Psychology personality types and assessing the damage that has already been done, The 41 Shades of Men, shows you the 41 different motivations of male pursuit which will ultimately give you the power to level the playing field in the dating game.
Inside, you'll find out the secret to choosing better and staying one step ahead of men.
- Discover the true nature of men
- what males are and are not capable of
- Real world evidence and Scientifically backed data
- 41 different motivations of pursuit
- How the Dark Psychology Triad connects to the base nature of male
202 pages, Paperback
Published March 17, 2023
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March 29, 2024
The insight is something talked about in circles between close friends but having all of the information laid out and backed up with psychology and examples is really eye opening. Any woman who is dating should read this and be aware of what she is dealing with while engaging with members of the opposite sex. Straightforward and brutally honest. Not for the faint of heart.
January 3, 2024
I wanted to read this just to see what all the opinions were. Not bad, for the most part, I liked the ways she simply breaks down different types of guys and the patterns they will use. I think it is important for a hook-up to be a hook-up and long term to have a 3-4 month rule. I think vetting people correctly has taken a backseat when it deserves full power to protect people from not seeing the signs of someone who is not genuine. essentially I would agree with the overall message that a guy who supports the patriarchy openly or says misogynistic things openly that he is incapable of loving a woman. they believe in ownership and that will never be love. A good portion of these men know that and this is why they will mask it with terms such as traditional and so on. In terms of the book itself, I like that it was easy to read and understand. If I had a suggestion it would be to use a ghostwriter maybe to clean up the presentation and help benefit the supporting evidence throughout the book. Overall, I think the author makes some good points here.
June 19, 2024
As a psychology student this popped up as recommended book, wish I didn't waste my time in it. The book isn't science based and it sounded like an angry female trying to empower by minimizing the male instead of understanding the power of each gender and their differences.
Want a book to hate predatory men, which I agree they are quite a lot of them, then this is your book. Want to understand male psychology go another way.
Ps. This is the first time I ever give a book such a low review or felt the need to actually write a review about it :/
Want a book to hate predatory men, which I agree they are quite a lot of them, then this is your book. Want to understand male psychology go another way.
Ps. This is the first time I ever give a book such a low review or felt the need to actually write a review about it :/
December 3, 2023
This is a must read!!!
January 5, 2024
Great book! All women should read this to protect themselves from dealing with the wrong kind of men.
May 14, 2025
the one book you should read
if you read this book, guarantee that you will understand not just men, but the world itself.
I've never had anyone put into words things that I've observed. I observed these things through personal experience, studying others, studying history, studying politics, and just plain old observation. So nothing here was new, but it was eloquently written. And for most people, most if not all of this IS going to be new. If you really understand this book, you're going to walk away radically different in your behavior. But you have to have seeing eyes, because for most people the book will challenge every single thing they've ever assumed about men, patriarchy, systems, the world.
I do want to say. I think Princella is naive about women of other races/trusts them far more than she should as black woman. Racism is in women's nature as well as men. It's something you'd only understand if you frequented certain spaces presenting a certain way. I don't call for unity there because I simply don't believe in it.
With that being said, the premise of the book is: what does a man want when he approaches you?
I think if every woman could understand this fundamentally, she wouldn't worry herself ever, ever again about male attention. It would become meaningless, empty, nothing to stress about. I think EVERY woman on earth needs to read this book. I'm not going to explain more, I'm just going to say if you're reading this review and you're here, BUY AND READ THIS BOOK.
It will change your life.
And last but not least. Everything she says is backed by science, as she painstakingly shows. I don't think there's a better argument for anything than science.
The new bible.
if you read this book, guarantee that you will understand not just men, but the world itself.
I've never had anyone put into words things that I've observed. I observed these things through personal experience, studying others, studying history, studying politics, and just plain old observation. So nothing here was new, but it was eloquently written. And for most people, most if not all of this IS going to be new. If you really understand this book, you're going to walk away radically different in your behavior. But you have to have seeing eyes, because for most people the book will challenge every single thing they've ever assumed about men, patriarchy, systems, the world.
I do want to say. I think Princella is naive about women of other races/trusts them far more than she should as black woman. Racism is in women's nature as well as men. It's something you'd only understand if you frequented certain spaces presenting a certain way. I don't call for unity there because I simply don't believe in it.
With that being said, the premise of the book is: what does a man want when he approaches you?
I think if every woman could understand this fundamentally, she wouldn't worry herself ever, ever again about male attention. It would become meaningless, empty, nothing to stress about. I think EVERY woman on earth needs to read this book. I'm not going to explain more, I'm just going to say if you're reading this review and you're here, BUY AND READ THIS BOOK.
It will change your life.
And last but not least. Everything she says is backed by science, as she painstakingly shows. I don't think there's a better argument for anything than science.
The new bible.
July 19, 2025
I decided to listen to the audiobook, and I’m glad I did. it kept me engaged throughout, which doesn’t happen to me often with audiobooks. I especially appreciated the examples drawn from masculinist and manosphere movements like red pill and incels. It felt like the author set out to create a guide to the many ways men behave and what their intentions are under a patriarchal culture.
I particularly liked the format, as it reminded me of how masculinists particularly those who are pick-up artists often write “guides” that reduce women to stereotypes. Priscilla flips that scrip offering a kind of reversal that demonstrates male behavior through a critical, feminist lens. I find this kind of analysis is important because it helps women protect themselves from narcissistic, ego-fragile men, and also encourages men to reflect on their own behavior.
I loved it.
Just a note for readers: at times, you might feel like the author is leaning toward biological determinism, but that’s not the case. She makes it clear that her analysis also considers the role of nurture particularly the lack of education—in shaping how men and women think and behave.
I particularly liked the format, as it reminded me of how masculinists particularly those who are pick-up artists often write “guides” that reduce women to stereotypes. Priscilla flips that scrip offering a kind of reversal that demonstrates male behavior through a critical, feminist lens. I find this kind of analysis is important because it helps women protect themselves from narcissistic, ego-fragile men, and also encourages men to reflect on their own behavior.
I loved it.
Just a note for readers: at times, you might feel like the author is leaning toward biological determinism, but that’s not the case. She makes it clear that her analysis also considers the role of nurture particularly the lack of education—in shaping how men and women think and behave.
April 1, 2025
This is a must read for all women! If you’re going to deal with a man, please be aware of what you may run into! I wish I had this book and the self love I have now in my 20s.
December 28, 2024
"The reason you have suffered in your life with males is because you have done little to no research, dismissed your own experiences and the experiences of other women, and choked it up to just ‘some men.’ Your faulty beliefs are the cause of your pain. Call a spade a spade. It’s not ‘some men.’ It’s the overwhelming majority of them." — Princella Clark
Women today are waking up to the reality of men’s true nature. With the proliferation of podcast bros who say what men truly think of women, women can’t delude themselves into thinking that men and women view romantic relationships the same way anymore. Men seek a wife to serve their needs; women seek a
husband to fulfill her romantic fantasies at the expense of her well-being and self-interest. This book details the different shades of men you may encounter. It also drops golden nuggets that validate the dormant theories you’ve held inside your mind but couldn’t quite articulate just yet.
This book gives you the truth about men in an unflinching manner. Clark asserts that men aren’t driven by an abstract concept of love and that their nature is rooted in self-preservation. In contrast, women have been brainwashed to sacrifice for other people, especially their romantic partner, believing that this is adequate payment to fulfill her romantic delusions. She also claims that men don’t have an internal compass, unlike women, and that they need to be trained like dogs to behave morally. For example, she believes that age of consent laws had to be created to prevent men from acting unabashedly upon their desires. I can’t help but agree with the author here. A lot of laws had to be created to restrain male nature. Many women know that some acts are immoral, but men have to be trained mentally to maintain order and peace in this world. It’s not as if that’s effective anyway, since men still commit the majority of violent crimes.
Clark believes that “love is a man’s power card” and that as long as women continue believing in a romanticized version of love and that men are capable of it, they’ll fall victim to all of his games. She also talks about how the male’s member is a weapon used to impregnate women to slow her down with children. Apparently, men that fall under the “virility man” category even use women to test the strength of his sperm. This is crazy to me, but it makes sense.
While I found Clark’s ideas to be bold and thought-provoking, the writing left much to be desired. The style is basic and straightforward, which makes the book easy to follow but doesn’t allow the author’s complex ideas to be fully fleshed out in a sophisticated way. This is the one major weakness for me, hence my 3* review.
Women today are waking up to the reality of men’s true nature. With the proliferation of podcast bros who say what men truly think of women, women can’t delude themselves into thinking that men and women view romantic relationships the same way anymore. Men seek a wife to serve their needs; women seek a
husband to fulfill her romantic fantasies at the expense of her well-being and self-interest. This book details the different shades of men you may encounter. It also drops golden nuggets that validate the dormant theories you’ve held inside your mind but couldn’t quite articulate just yet.
This book gives you the truth about men in an unflinching manner. Clark asserts that men aren’t driven by an abstract concept of love and that their nature is rooted in self-preservation. In contrast, women have been brainwashed to sacrifice for other people, especially their romantic partner, believing that this is adequate payment to fulfill her romantic delusions. She also claims that men don’t have an internal compass, unlike women, and that they need to be trained like dogs to behave morally. For example, she believes that age of consent laws had to be created to prevent men from acting unabashedly upon their desires. I can’t help but agree with the author here. A lot of laws had to be created to restrain male nature. Many women know that some acts are immoral, but men have to be trained mentally to maintain order and peace in this world. It’s not as if that’s effective anyway, since men still commit the majority of violent crimes.
Clark believes that “love is a man’s power card” and that as long as women continue believing in a romanticized version of love and that men are capable of it, they’ll fall victim to all of his games. She also talks about how the male’s member is a weapon used to impregnate women to slow her down with children. Apparently, men that fall under the “virility man” category even use women to test the strength of his sperm. This is crazy to me, but it makes sense.
While I found Clark’s ideas to be bold and thought-provoking, the writing left much to be desired. The style is basic and straightforward, which makes the book easy to follow but doesn’t allow the author’s complex ideas to be fully fleshed out in a sophisticated way. This is the one major weakness for me, hence my 3* review.
January 10, 2024
I don’t know if I feel old or important when random authors make reference to criminal cases I am intimately familiar with. Tiffany Moss was prosecuted and sentenced to death in Gwinnett County after representing herself in a homicide case where she killed her stepdaughter, Emani Moss. Her story makes an appearance in the book in chapter 14 on The Stepmother Man.
I tried to identify myself in the myriad of men who are incapable of love, confident that I would appear in the chapter on The Family Man. It wasn’t about being a family man at all. So, I never saw myself in the book or the other male attorneys that I know who have been married for 20 years.
The primary focus of the author appears to be how to not be taken advantage of by predatory men (85%?) without giving any guidance on how to find, locate and love the constructive men(15%?). The author calls Kevin Samuels a pseudo-intellectual, but her educational attainment (bachelor degree in science) mirrors his educational background. She has no degree in psychology, anthropology, sociology, or interpersonal dynamics. Her insights on men and women come from her personal relationship with “twisted” men. Yet, she raises a number of thought-provoking issues about patriarchy that caused me to pause and think.
I tried to identify myself in the myriad of men who are incapable of love, confident that I would appear in the chapter on The Family Man. It wasn’t about being a family man at all. So, I never saw myself in the book or the other male attorneys that I know who have been married for 20 years.
The primary focus of the author appears to be how to not be taken advantage of by predatory men (85%?) without giving any guidance on how to find, locate and love the constructive men(15%?). The author calls Kevin Samuels a pseudo-intellectual, but her educational attainment (bachelor degree in science) mirrors his educational background. She has no degree in psychology, anthropology, sociology, or interpersonal dynamics. Her insights on men and women come from her personal relationship with “twisted” men. Yet, she raises a number of thought-provoking issues about patriarchy that caused me to pause and think.
February 16, 2024
If you’re looking for an actual book on the psychological - scientific based - differences between men and women, this book is not it.
I’m not sure why I continued listening to this book. I think I did so out of respect for the author and curiosity about how far the author was going to take her opinions and off what ledge.
While the author is clearly passionate about this topic, her ideas are misplaced conclusions absent of scientific support.
Sure, she references some studies but fails to draw appropriate inferences from what the research actually indicates. Throughout most of the book, she relies on her experience and knowledge of me even including an awkward dialogue between her and one of her cousins, a dialogue that includes sexual relations between the two. I found this book to be uninsightful, lack a rationale based on, and irrational.
This is one of those books you’d find at a yard sale, think it sounded interesting, open the first page or so, and quickly realize it’s not with the quarter.
Put it back, don’t buy.
I’m not sure why I continued listening to this book. I think I did so out of respect for the author and curiosity about how far the author was going to take her opinions and off what ledge.
While the author is clearly passionate about this topic, her ideas are misplaced conclusions absent of scientific support.
Sure, she references some studies but fails to draw appropriate inferences from what the research actually indicates. Throughout most of the book, she relies on her experience and knowledge of me even including an awkward dialogue between her and one of her cousins, a dialogue that includes sexual relations between the two. I found this book to be uninsightful, lack a rationale based on, and irrational.
This is one of those books you’d find at a yard sale, think it sounded interesting, open the first page or so, and quickly realize it’s not with the quarter.
Put it back, don’t buy.
January 20, 2024
The dustys are not ready for this dataset ♟️
It felt refreshing to read about the recognition of feminine energy innately and abundantly within women. Too often women are not aware of how powerful & valuable they are just for existing and this is a good reminder.
The auntie advice to be aware of predatory behavior patterns in men was helpful. I don’t resonate with this perception entirely but enough to recommend to other women. Speaking openly about the uncomfortable patterns of reality takes courage and audacity and I’m glad that Princella took that risk with the intention of waking women up.
Walk in love, walk in power.
It felt refreshing to read about the recognition of feminine energy innately and abundantly within women. Too often women are not aware of how powerful & valuable they are just for existing and this is a good reminder.
The auntie advice to be aware of predatory behavior patterns in men was helpful. I don’t resonate with this perception entirely but enough to recommend to other women. Speaking openly about the uncomfortable patterns of reality takes courage and audacity and I’m glad that Princella took that risk with the intention of waking women up.
Walk in love, walk in power.
December 16, 2023
I decided to read this after coming across Princella’s YouTube channel and found her to be a really engaging speaker and it definitely translates to her authorship as well. I finished the book in a weekend and have already recommended it to a few friends. This book is necessary reading for any woman, single or attached, in my opinion. I appreciated her explanations from a sociological and psychological perspective, it’s more than a book of opinions, but truly backed up with facts.
January 4, 2025
I thought this book would be more about the psychological breakdown of men but it’s literally just a list of ways men can play you. Each chapter is dedicated to each type of man.. “the DL man”, “the hobosexual”, etc. And within each chapter, she just describes how either she, someone she knows, or someone on the internet got played by that type of man. And I get it, there are women out there, especially young ones who may need that but the majority seemed obvious to me. I’m more or less 3/4 of the way through the book and I got the point about half way through. I don’t like leaving a book Ive started unfinished so I’m going to push through in the hopes that it gets better or becomes more insightful or interesting to my personal taste.
For what it is though (for now), and now that I know the true point of the book, I’ll give it a generous four stars but it definitely wasn’t what I was expecting.
For what it is though (for now), and now that I know the true point of the book, I’ll give it a generous four stars but it definitely wasn’t what I was expecting.
July 19, 2025
I used to be a stripper, which completely changed my mindset on dating men. Seeing Married men be the biggest spenders in the club while making sure they made it home to their wives and children while using me as a therapist telling me everything they hate about their wives & girlfriends. You have men that come into the club to pay you to cosplay at THEIR OWN DAUGHTER. You have PIMPS, TRICKS, BUSINESS MEN, MOMMAS BOYS. There are a VARIETY of men that come into the club and guess what… I met every single shade of man in the book in the strip club AND outside the strip club. She told no lies and even men themselves agree with the archetypes of men in this book. It’s an amazing read I highly recommend to women so that they can be put on to game. This is also available on audible narrated in the authors voice.
January 19, 2025
Loooool this book made me laugh. Although this is not a thesis and is more focused on personal experiences and experiences told by others, I do think it gives you an insight on what women have to deal with, I would have enjoyed a more theoretical approach, a lot of the content were the authors personal beliefs (which were often not wrong).
I really enjoyed the audiobook and I do think it’s a good read, definitely not a feminist theory driven book but she does discuss inequalities between men and women. If you do want more insight on misogyny, sexism and feminism then I wouldn’t say this is “the book” for exploring and understanding those topics.
I really enjoyed the audiobook and I do think it’s a good read, definitely not a feminist theory driven book but she does discuss inequalities between men and women. If you do want more insight on misogyny, sexism and feminism then I wouldn’t say this is “the book” for exploring and understanding those topics.
August 1, 2025
Its a great book, and i support the author's message 100%. More women need to be closing their legs, and more important their wombs to losers. U just birthing more losers.
You literally perpetuate LOSER genes. We already got 8 billion humans. What are u breeding for? U not producing top notch human beings. There is wide scientific research done that in terms of IQ and physical fitness we are getting dumber and weaker.
I find it said what both genders totally lost the idea of balance between feminine and masculine. We are supposed to balance each other out, not to compete, and but now we are just garbaged mess.
You literally perpetuate LOSER genes. We already got 8 billion humans. What are u breeding for? U not producing top notch human beings. There is wide scientific research done that in terms of IQ and physical fitness we are getting dumber and weaker.
I find it said what both genders totally lost the idea of balance between feminine and masculine. We are supposed to balance each other out, not to compete, and but now we are just garbaged mess.
December 6, 2024
How I wish this book was available to me in my teens, or even before that. A great insight into male nature and male psychology, something I realised I didn't know enough of. I'd recommend this book to any woman or girl and I look forward to reading through this book again and again.
December 28, 2024
I laughed out loud so many times because the truth is funny. My big take away from this is, I do not have to behave like a man to achieve anything as that is a lowering instead of a rising up. I need to remember that! I am going to purchase her other books! A Queen!
January 13, 2025
A necessary read.
This was very eye-opening, I think as women we have met some of the men described in this book. I love how it is all broken down, especially with the science behind it. A very necessary read by all women trying to navigate dating men.
This was very eye-opening, I think as women we have met some of the men described in this book. I love how it is all broken down, especially with the science behind it. A very necessary read by all women trying to navigate dating men.
March 19, 2025
This is an eye opening yet triggering piece of work. Princella talks about the different reasons men get into relationships with women. It is mostly for selfish reasons.
I would advise young women to read this book.
I would advise young women to read this book.
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December 24, 2025Pretty good book. Some things I agree with; some I don't. Overall, she's astute. Women do have to be very careful in their interactions and exchanges with men. Forget for a minute and your life can turn into a disaster. Love yourself is the message. I do think men are capable of love.
January 12, 2024
This breaks down every man that you will encounter.
November 1, 2024
Just read it, however you walk away from it is up to you. But read it.
November 8, 2024
Yikes! This was a BLEAK read. Are there lots of bad men out there? Yes. But I disagree with the central thesis that man are not capable of love.
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November 18, 2024Beautifully written. Well organized. Introspective and informative. Worth the reread and committing to memory.
November 21, 2024
The review is good. Looking forward to understand a lot about male psychology. Good work
December 12, 2024
There can be a lot of knowledge gained if one has an open mind BUT you'll have to be willing to be disillusioned completely which will mean giving up the fantasies you have about "love" & "romance".
December 15, 2024
I haven't read it but according to what I have heard,the book helps a lot but I a still looking for ways to read it . I am too desperate right now
December 24, 2024
This is a must read for all women! Well written and not an easy read because it talks about a reality potentially many women don't want to face but knowledge is power! I highly recommend this book
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