I was reading a journal and came across a recommendation for this book. The topic of the article was discipeship, and this book entered the discussion as a model of relational, non-programing disciple-making.
I am always looking for models because disciple making is foreign and forgotten in my circles. This book lived up to its recommendation. I have bought two copies for the church library and already handed out copies to read.
The book gives an account of one year's discipleship between Ted Kluck and Dallas Jahncke. Ted is not a theologian or a pastor; he serves and participates in his church. He understands the essentials of disciple making, although he does not tell us where he learned or witnessed it.
Ted is a straight shotter. He does not sugar coat or talk in Christian-ese. He is a common guy with a common family, living life with the same common temptations and swings of good and bad events. I like him for his realness and openness.
Dallas is a felon with a record and only 21 years old. God miraculously saves him and we witness the continued work of God in Dallas over this one year period. His spiritual life begins in a rescue mission where he lives under 24-hour supervision for one year. This book does not chronicle that year, but the year following.
So, Dallas spends the first two years in highly relational disciple making enviroments, finding freedom from the chains of sin. His story would make a good "Unshakled" drama.
What I enjoyed about the book is the necessity of relationship in disciple making. By this, I mean: Dallas needs to attend church, and he does. He also needs to attend a small group, and he does. But, Dallas needs more than this because his besetting sins require diligence and daily accountability.
At one point Ted says, "Dallas needs a father." This is the height of relational language. Ted shows us what it means to father (disciple). He stays awake at night worrying about Dallas. He wants to bale Dallas out of difficult settings. He wants him to know the consequences, but allows Dallas to make his own choices.
This book has stirred my thoughts about how to disciple one man in my sphere of influence. He does not have any of the baggage Dallas has, but he needs a father. His emotional swings rages from day to day, and it reeks havoc in his family situation. Getting him to church and to small group has been a chore, but what if I stopped by his house each day? What if I called or texted him, several times a day? What if we had his family over several times a week?
Discipleship is not a program; it is a relationship. It means that I as a man must add into my life one (or more) relationships, not of the blood family type. This is counter-inuitive in this culture. Our churches are good talkers about loving God and loving others, but we refuse to add that one more relationship into our social dynamics. This failure is our disobedience to the Great Commandment and to the Great Commission.
I began reading this book at a difficult stage in church. The church declined to continue in DisciplePath training, and I was wounded in my spirit. Psalm 23 was a great encouragement, and I plodded along. My Shepherd was restoring my soul, but I remained in an emotional funk that I could not explain to my wife or myself. I was functional as long as I had something to focus my attention. But, if I had free moments, then I would stall emotionally.
Reading through this book, I came across an answer to prayer. On page 133, Ted is speaking about spiritual warfare and the constant vigilence necessary to fight temptations. Ted shares one of his own battles: cynicism. He says, "I like protecting my heart from pain...cynicism dulls our emotions and kills our ability to dream and hope." Bingo.
Then, Ted quotes Paul Miller (A Praying Life). "Shattered optimism sets us up for the fall into defeated weariness and cynicism. You would think it would leave us less optimistic, but as humans we do not do neutral well. We go from seeing the bright side to seeing the dark side. We feel betrayed by life." Bingo.
My experience both to the reactions within church and to the decisions of the church left me with a shattered optimism and a defeated weariness. I lost my ability to dream and to hope. This is my test and it makes it very hard to lead. Practically speaking, trying to lead from a position of defeated weariness without dreams or hope is impossible. Yet. Jesus Christ is not finished with me, and has simply removed the crutches. In my weakness (cynicism), he can be my strength (optimism). Oh, Savior, restore my soul.