I don't usually write reviews for books, and I usually just toss out a five-star rating if I make it to the end. I love this book. I finished it in pretty much one sitting. I don't really know why it affected me so much more the second time of reading. This book really doesn't have anything to do with raising children, but it made me want children, badly. This book doesn't really have a lot to do with love, but it reminded me of being in love, and perhaps what that looks like through arduous tasks.
I never pull quotes from books, but four here really stuck out to me, so I am sharing them below.
"But I realize now what I didn't know then: I'd no notion what love is. Not the faintest hint. Sure I was ready to jump off a bridge for her, or slap any man who dishonored her. Big deal. I'd lie with her all night and labor the next day to give her what she wanted. So what? That's not love, that's commerce, that's taking care of your property, ensuring your investment pays a profit, but it's not love by a good many spans. So what is? Love, strange as it may seem, is what you feel when you watch your wife emptying slop buckets she's collected from some demon-spawn lions and wolves and then tottering away for more, so skinny you can practically see the sun through her, and that's when there's no sun. Knowing she'll keep doing it, no complaining, because it needs to be done, no, scratch that, you demand to be allowed to do the same, for her, with anything that keeps you from lightening the burden just an obstacle that's expendable."
"I must be the only woman alive whose husband thinks it's good luck to get the hardest task assigned. That's what you think, right? We're blessed because we're being asked to do the most?"
"That's not what I meant at all. It's good news the others will have it so easy."
"And we'll suffer. And suffering is good."
"It's not that suffering is good, he sulks. - Though it is true that - that -"
"Being asked to do a great deal gives you the chance to show you're willing to do a great deal."
"I have a husband who is concerned with doing the right thing, and unconcerned with what it costs him."
"I don't wish to sound ungrateful: People who don't start over, die."
"Sometimes the hardest things for people to see are the things that are right in front of them."
Please read this book.