Gay Dating 101: Finding Men, Sex and Love in A Complicated World

by Jonathan Cohen

Finding men, sex and love don’t have to be complicated. In fact, it can be a lot of fun if you know how. Through tips, strategies and exercises in Gay Dating 101, you will discover who you are, why and what to look for in men. You will also learn how to present yourself (body, mind, and soul) so that you can draw and attract men to you. This book shows you just where to go to meet the kind of guy you like, how to read and use body language and the power of attraction to make the first move, and ultimately to seal the “deal”.This isn’t a book about changing your personality, but about bringing out the best of it so that you can shine. Regardless of your background, your income, or your looks, gay men are out there and you can find them – honestly, without manipulation or playing games. After you finish Gay Dating 101: Finding Men, Sex and Love in A Complicated World, you will have the tools you need to go out and find that perfect bedmate, date, or partner - and all the exciting sex, romantic dates, and passionate relationships you deserve.Table of IntroductionA Note on the Word "Gay"The Gay CommunityWhat Do You Want from Dating?How to Use This BookKeep Your Heart Open -- MostlyLet's Get Started!Chapter The Dating Scene - What Do You Want?The Dating SceneWhat Are Your Dating Goals?TakeawayChapter In or Out -- Should You Come Out (Further)?What Does "In the Closet" Really Mean?How In Or Out Are You?Should You Come Out Or Come Out Further?Coming Out Of the ClosetMixed Closets - Can It Work?TakeawayChapter Your Field Guide to Eligible Gay MenYour Ideal Guy - the "Laundry List"Nine Mr. Wrongs - and the One Mr. RightWhere to Meet GuysTakeawayChapter Overcoming Barriers to Dating SuccessNo Matter What You Look Like…Barriers #1 and #2: Shyness and Lack of Self-EsteemBarrier #3: Lack of Self-ConfidenceTakeawayChapter Developing Your Power of AttractionThe Science of AttractionSix Steps To Developing Your Power of AttractionPart Who You Are - Being Yourself and Being Irresistible.Part What You Do - Doing the Prep Work, Being Confident, and Being Positive.TakeawayChapter How to Meet and Pick Up GuysTo Approach or To be ApproachedPick your VenuePrepare YourselfMake Eye ContactOr, if you want to say more, “Hi, I’m Frank.” Then smile and extend your hand.Being SubtleYour Signature Move - Putting your best foot forwardMaking him LaughSpecial Flirting for Shy Guys and PessimistsMaking the Right Physical ContactDeepening the Encounter – Isolating and MovingCompleting the Pickup – Closing the DealAbsolute rules for Absolute Pickup SuccessAdvanced Dating From Gaydar to "The Game"Overcoming rejection fastSpecial SituationsTakeawayChapter Unlocking the Dating CodeReviewing Your Dating GoalsFollowing Up From an EncounterFirst Setting the DateDating with Sex in MindDating with a Relationship In MindDating EtiquetteIs This Going Anywhere?Make Or Break Issues - When to Walk Away, When to StayTakeawayChapter How to Have Dynamite Sex&l

268 pages, Kindle Edition

First published January 21, 2012

About the author

Librarian Note: There is more than one author by this name in the Goodreads database.

President and co-founder of the National School Climate Center (formerly, Center for Social and Emotional Education).

Reviews

[Elisa Rolle]

There are various reasons why the two men on the cover are very right for this “how to do” book: first of all they are Tony Gibble and Clint Shields, i.e. a real life gay couple you can see also in some Dylan Rosser’s photo shoots, second they are raising Tony’s son in a same-sex marriage environment, and third they are ordinary guys. True, if you see them naked you notice that they are well-build and really handsome, but in a room full of guys they would on the average crowd. Now don’t get me wrong, this is not a criticism, on the contrary, I appreciated that since I had the feeling Jonathan Cohen is very much like Tony and Clint, and moreover, I think the author was also a shy guy and what he is writing in this manual is probably what he experienced first-hand.

If I have to be 100% true, he didn’t catch me at first; he was pretty generic, and I felt like what he was saying was really not “real” enough, not “lived” enough. But then Jonathan Cohen starts to dive into details, all the main milestones for a gay boy and man, from coming out to meeting partners to having sex. The author maybe is shy in life but he is not shy in giving advices, and while the manual is not an health-care essay (and maybe when talking about diseases and safe sex he is a little high level), he touches many important issues.

Another point I think I understood of the author is that he is a romantic at heart, but that heart was probably broken once or twice. Jonathan Cohen has hope into long-term relationships and if he is not into one he is probably hoping for. And so some of his advices sounded sometime like those of a worried parent who wants to be sure his children will be able to find that happiness he is sure it’s waiting for them.

Gay Dating 101 is maybe high-level on some point but that could be a vantage: it’s not boring and for this world of fast-and-furious it can be useful to have something easier to drive you through the jungle of dating.

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[Fletcher Landrum · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a good effort: written in a simple but not simplistic style it is readable by not overly educated men as well without annoying more educated ones.
I never used gay dating sites, what I use is this dating app for straight people.

[Christy Stewart · Rating 1 out of 5]

The book reads like a Sparks Notes version of a book written by someone who doesn't have the professional style enough to distinguish between blog material and nonfiction publication.

One pet peeve...

Cohen opens with a brief history of the modern gay community in the US and it's just unnecessary; so general that it's almost disrespectful. Cohen believes his book might be used by those individuals entering the gay community and offers this quick history lesson for their benefit but if someone picks up a dating guide in order to learn about and preparing to enter a culture foreign to them Cohen would have been better off telling them they are too ignorant to be dated.