Taking Charge of Anger: Six Steps to Asserting Yourself without Losing Control

by W. Robert Nay

This straight-talking book―grounded in over 25 years of experience―has already helped many tens of thousands of readers understand and manage destructive anger in all its forms. Anger expert Dr. Robert Nay guides you to:

 

*Figure out which of the five "faces of anger" are a problem for you, from passive–aggression to all-out rage.

*Recognize the early warning signs of anger in your physical sensations and thoughts.

*Master cooling-off strategies that work in the heat of the moment.

*Identify and change unrealistic expectations you have for yourself and other people.

*Communicate effectively when differences arise.

*Practice your new skills in everyday life―until they become second nature.

 

The second edition includes a new chapter on forgiveness, plus updated examples and resources. If anger is getting in the way of your goals―or disrupting the relationships most precious to you―the time to make changes is now.


See also Dr. Nay's Anger Management Workbook: Use the STOP Method to Replace Destructive Responses with Constructive Behavior , which helps you build core anger management skills using interactive exercises, and Overcoming Anger in Your Relationship: How to Break the Cycle of Arguments, Put-Downs, and Stony Silences .

Genres: Psychology, Nonfiction

289 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 2003

Reviews

[Erika · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book was pretty good and actually rather helpful. I had no clue of all the warning signs and faces of anger. Heck, sarcasm is a type of anger, who knew?
Either way I found this book to be pretty interesting as far as understanding your anger and where it comes from. As far as some of the practices, I can see how they might help but I felt the book didn't talk much about accountability and not just passing the blame.
Overall, it was informative, educational, and rather intriguing (for a self-help book).

[Ricardo Shimoda · Rating 5 out of 5]

During my whole life I've dealt, lived with, and created several situations of anger - while I can't change the past, I know that the present has to be different.

I also have gone through many interpretations of this feeling, from the cartoonish (yet quite accurate) volcano-shaped creature in Inside Out (a must-see for people who really love wandering around the emotional landscape) to religious interpretations (the temptation of the devil?) to emotion atlases and other views.

However, when compared to all the things I've read and done, this book is transformative, in the sense that several situations shown in it are extremely relatable - where I would either be the victim or the perpetrator of anger - and it has several good techniques to deal with it - by reading it I think I'm changing my daily life and I'm sure I'll re-read it from time to time to relearn.

Highly recommended!

[M.A USman Jr · Rating 5 out of 5]

Powerful guidance to really be in charge about your anger.

[Amani Mikati · Rating 4 out of 5]

Liked it. Easy to read. Provides good techniques for anger management.
The quizzes inside are not sufficient though.

[Evan Cato · Rating 5 out of 5]

Most helpful anger management book I have read

I highly recommend this book for everyone. I did not realize how often anger affected me, friends, and loved ones. Very effective for controlling anger in the workplace, for the reader and those we engage with every day. Easy to understand, and provides much needed tools to defuse anger & improve communication.

[Sheambelly · Rating 4 out of 5]

well i learn alot from thid book, and i realice how deep is my problems, it also helping me how to control my anger, i will tell you more latter..

[lita]

dikasi temen yang masih tetap tabah meski sering gua marahin..hihihi..thank you my friend!

[Reza Putra · Rating 4 out of 5]

Seru dibaca; manfaat akan terasa begitu perkataan si Nay benar-benar diterapkan. Jangan tergesa-gesa, baca buku ini secara perlahan :P

[Michelle · Rating 5 out of 5]

2nd edition is a great resource. When I go back to work this book will definitely be on my shelf.