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Whining: 3 Steps to Stop It Before the Tears and Tantrums Start
Are you ready to end the whining wars in your house?
It starts with a whimper, an insistent demand, or a certain tone of voice that every parent recognizes with dread -- your child is starting to whine, and if you don't respond properly you'll have a full-blown tantrum or argument on your hands. Kids of all ages know that whining works when they want that extra hour of TV, the unplanned toy purchase, or a later curfew. But stopping such behavior without giving in to a child's demands isn't easy, and if left unchecked, whining can lead to constant disruptions at home, in school, or anywhere else your child chooses. Now the same authors who solved a common parenting problem in the national bestseller Backtalk present three proven methods for putting an end to whining, as well as information on
* The best ways to react when your child whines in a public place
* Why negotiating and giving in never work -- and what you should do instead
* What kids are really trying to tell you when they whine
* Why whining can lead to poor self-esteem and unsatisfying social relationships -- which can follow your child into adulthood -- and what you can do about it now
* How to clearly, respectfully indicate to your child what's important to you and why whining will no longer work as a means of communication
Filled with numerous real-life examples, encouraging advice, and simple steps you can start using immediately, this invaluable guide will help you end the cycle of giving in to whining only to have your child do it again, and instead replaces misbehavior with effective, meaningful, and loving parent-child communication.
It starts with a whimper, an insistent demand, or a certain tone of voice that every parent recognizes with dread -- your child is starting to whine, and if you don't respond properly you'll have a full-blown tantrum or argument on your hands. Kids of all ages know that whining works when they want that extra hour of TV, the unplanned toy purchase, or a later curfew. But stopping such behavior without giving in to a child's demands isn't easy, and if left unchecked, whining can lead to constant disruptions at home, in school, or anywhere else your child chooses. Now the same authors who solved a common parenting problem in the national bestseller Backtalk present three proven methods for putting an end to whining, as well as information on
* The best ways to react when your child whines in a public place
* Why negotiating and giving in never work -- and what you should do instead
* What kids are really trying to tell you when they whine
* Why whining can lead to poor self-esteem and unsatisfying social relationships -- which can follow your child into adulthood -- and what you can do about it now
* How to clearly, respectfully indicate to your child what's important to you and why whining will no longer work as a means of communication
Filled with numerous real-life examples, encouraging advice, and simple steps you can start using immediately, this invaluable guide will help you end the cycle of giving in to whining only to have your child do it again, and instead replaces misbehavior with effective, meaningful, and loving parent-child communication.
- GenresParentingNonfiction
168 pages, Paperback
First published March 14, 2000
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January 2, 2012
I have to cop to not reading the entire book yet. As another reviewer indicated, it does seem like a good deal of filler. It also presents children as evil little manipulators and doesn't offer a lot of help for whining toddlers. I think it is important for parents to recognize when they caused the whining behavior. For instance, I kept my one-year old out shopping a bit past lunch and naptime the other day. The fact that she started whining was not manipulation on her part, but merely her varbalization of a problem that was my fault. That said, I think some of their solutions may be helpful. It's just that the helpful part could have been stated in about 15-20 pages.
March 26, 2015
Three steps: demonstrate consequences, communicate effectively with assertiveness and teach empathy through contributions. All common sense ideas but the examples provide teachable moments. Quick easy and useful read.
May 6, 2009
This book didn't quite apply to toddlers, it addressed issues with older children and teens.
April 23, 2011
OK...got a few good tips. A lot like the Love And Logic idea. Basically, ignore whining and it will stop.
March 31, 2008
Excellent. Highly recommend.
June 1, 2018
I loved the tips in this book. My children are younger than most of the examples in the book, but I am excited to start using the strategies now. They very much align with my idea of parenting. Assertive communication is also a good thing to use in any relationship.
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