Letting Go As Children Grow: From Early Intimacy to Full Independence; A Parent's Guide

by Deborah Jackson

This book considers the inner world of the child and argues that children are more capable than many of us realize. Babies make their needs known; toddlers can walk for miles; teenagers are equipped to make their own decisions. Children need adult support, but they do not need interference, which can damage their growth. If we learn to trust our children at each stage, they are more likely to find their own balance. The author suggests ways in which parents can break their own cycle of control, which includes judgement and punishment, coaxing, and overprotection, while also considering the needs of the parents.

Genres: Parenting, Nonfiction

338 pages, Paperback

First published July 1, 2003

About the author

Deborah Jackson is an experienced journalist and bestselling childcare author. She writes for national newspapers and her articles have appeared in many magazines, including Elle and Natural Parent. Books on childcare have included Three in a Bed and Baby Wisdom. Deborah runs workshops for the Active Birth Centre in London, and has lectured on parenting in Austria. Her numerous television appearances include This Morning and the BBC's Baby Monthly. She lives in Bath.

Reviews

[Katri-Helena Allas · Rating 5 out of 5]

Võrratu teos. Räägib lapse kasvatamisest algusest lõpuni, kattes meeletul hulgal erinevaid teemasid, mille üle saaks lõputult arutada. Sain palju palju mõtteid mh kiindumussuhte loomise, potitamise, lapse toetamise, tema õnnelikkuse, vastutuse kohta. Alapeatükid on lühikesed, võimaldavad hingamisruumi. Igal juhul mind aitas oma vanemluse teekonnal metsikult palju oma sõnumiga, et ei pea olema niivõrd hands-on vanem ja konkreetsete viisidega, kuidas seda teha. Väga meeldisid viited teksti sees, erinevate teiste autorite mõtete kombineerimine enda omadega, mitmetega nõustudes, ent mõnedega ka eriaevamusele jäädes. Oiii kui hea!

[Helen · Rating 4 out of 5]

Full of loving truth, and references lots of other great material too.
I prefer the old title "do not disturb" since this is more about a whole parenting style than specifically about handling growing independence etc/

[Tiffany Billington · Rating 5 out of 5]

Every American parent needs to read this book. Not because it is necessarily the best way but because of an American parenting trend that is so hands on it is exhausting. This book is, and remains as, the most influential parenting book I have ever read.