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The Romeo & Juliet Delusion: Finding Freedom After Trauma: A Memoir
In this compelling memoir Lori Abbott chronicles her dangerous relationship with her ex-fiancé who was a meth and heroin addict. In addition to the overwhelming aspects of loving a drug addict, there was domestic abuse, including a series of traumatic events during the relationship that escalated to an attempt being taken on her life 2015.
Lori Abbott is an attorney who spent fifteen years of her career representing victims of domestic abuse who one day became a victim herself.
The Romeo & Juliet Delusion provides a rare and unique insight into the reality of deeply loving a drug addict, remaining in a dangerous relationship for too long, and watching one's own life deteriorate while desperately trying to save someone else. It was by divine intervention that Abbott did not die in that hotel room. She feels it is now her responsibility to share not only what she experienced in those moments when she believed that she was dying (as the man she deeply loved eerily stood by and watched), but also how she took actual aspects of her near death experience to significantly heal herself and unexpectedly find her own sobriety from alcohol along the way.
The Romeo & Juliet Delusion provides inspiration to anyone who’s life has been touched by addiction or domestic violence. Abbott relies on raw, uninhibited storytelling to convey the methods she used to explore healing and freedom from trauma.
After escaping her relationship, Abbott spent the next several years experimenting with different ways of healing from trauma. She learned to live her best life alongside PTSD every day, and discovered that to be the best version of herself and heal to the highest extent possible, she needed to show up in this world as a sober woman. In the midst of Abbott's healing journey, she dealt with the lingering knowledge that she had an issue with alcohol, which heightened to new levels after the trauma, as alcohol and PTSD are not a good combination. Ultimately, Abbott was able to begin to break the trauma bond she had with her ex-fiancé (She was as addicted to him as he was to meth and heroin) and learned to fully embrace sober living.
Individuals suffering from addiction or who are experiencing domestic violence are isolated, but reading about someone’s true life experiences provides them with the hope they are desperately seeking. In this book readers will learn how and break trauma bondsView addiction with compassion and curiosityRelease the shame associated with abuse and addictionReclaim their voicesLive an extraordinary life free from the weight of traumaThe Universe intentionally imprinted upon Abbott's soul the experience of this particular relationship and what happened in that hotel room, which forever changed the trajectory of her life and left her with no alternative for peace or purpose until she placed her message out into the world. Abbott's intention is that by authentically sharing her story, she can help to change the lives of people in similar situations and inspire others to view addiction and domestic abuse with compassion and curiosity.
Most importantly, Abbott has learned how to live an extraordinary life alongside the haunting memories, PTSD and a lingering soul connection to her ex-fiancé. It is Abbott's hope that The Romeo & Juliet Delusion will shake the glass house of those who live in their ivory towers looking down on a woman like her wondering how she could possibly find herself in the situation that she did.
Lori Abbott is an attorney who spent fifteen years of her career representing victims of domestic abuse who one day became a victim herself.
The Romeo & Juliet Delusion provides a rare and unique insight into the reality of deeply loving a drug addict, remaining in a dangerous relationship for too long, and watching one's own life deteriorate while desperately trying to save someone else. It was by divine intervention that Abbott did not die in that hotel room. She feels it is now her responsibility to share not only what she experienced in those moments when she believed that she was dying (as the man she deeply loved eerily stood by and watched), but also how she took actual aspects of her near death experience to significantly heal herself and unexpectedly find her own sobriety from alcohol along the way.
The Romeo & Juliet Delusion provides inspiration to anyone who’s life has been touched by addiction or domestic violence. Abbott relies on raw, uninhibited storytelling to convey the methods she used to explore healing and freedom from trauma.
After escaping her relationship, Abbott spent the next several years experimenting with different ways of healing from trauma. She learned to live her best life alongside PTSD every day, and discovered that to be the best version of herself and heal to the highest extent possible, she needed to show up in this world as a sober woman. In the midst of Abbott's healing journey, she dealt with the lingering knowledge that she had an issue with alcohol, which heightened to new levels after the trauma, as alcohol and PTSD are not a good combination. Ultimately, Abbott was able to begin to break the trauma bond she had with her ex-fiancé (She was as addicted to him as he was to meth and heroin) and learned to fully embrace sober living.
Individuals suffering from addiction or who are experiencing domestic violence are isolated, but reading about someone’s true life experiences provides them with the hope they are desperately seeking. In this book readers will learn how and break trauma bondsView addiction with compassion and curiosityRelease the shame associated with abuse and addictionReclaim their voicesLive an extraordinary life free from the weight of traumaThe Universe intentionally imprinted upon Abbott's soul the experience of this particular relationship and what happened in that hotel room, which forever changed the trajectory of her life and left her with no alternative for peace or purpose until she placed her message out into the world. Abbott's intention is that by authentically sharing her story, she can help to change the lives of people in similar situations and inspire others to view addiction and domestic abuse with compassion and curiosity.
Most importantly, Abbott has learned how to live an extraordinary life alongside the haunting memories, PTSD and a lingering soul connection to her ex-fiancé. It is Abbott's hope that The Romeo & Juliet Delusion will shake the glass house of those who live in their ivory towers looking down on a woman like her wondering how she could possibly find herself in the situation that she did.
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Published April 16, 2023
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July 30, 2023
interesting
I like this book for what it was, although it is definitely fall a lot of negative victim energy, it brings it around to a way that is positive and inspiring. The cover is also fairly disturbing if you look closely at what it is is.
I like this book for what it was, although it is definitely fall a lot of negative victim energy, it brings it around to a way that is positive and inspiring. The cover is also fairly disturbing if you look closely at what it is is.
February 2, 2025
A memoir that every single person who knows someone with addiction issues or domestic violence issues in their life should read!
The author’s voice throughout the book is held with dignity and strength. The chokehold of being in a trauma bonded relationship with someone she thought she could “fix” is eye opening! Many times she could have left, or should have left, but she explains again why it was so hard for her to “just leave”.
This happened to be in my recommended for you books because I enjoy the occasional memoir, but this was a sad yet captivating story with an uplifting and inspiring ending. Wishing the best for her!
The author’s voice throughout the book is held with dignity and strength. The chokehold of being in a trauma bonded relationship with someone she thought she could “fix” is eye opening! Many times she could have left, or should have left, but she explains again why it was so hard for her to “just leave”.
This happened to be in my recommended for you books because I enjoy the occasional memoir, but this was a sad yet captivating story with an uplifting and inspiring ending. Wishing the best for her!
May 16, 2023
"From Trauma to Triumph" is a mesmerizing and deeply touching book that explores the author Lori's journey through domestic violence and her loved one's addiction. Her story resonates with those who have experienced similar challenges, offering solace and empowerment. The book takes readers on a journey from the beginning of Lori's story to her present-day realizations about trauma and the healing process. It is a powerful read that sheds light on the stages of recovery and how our minds and bodies cope with trauma. The author's ability to articulate her painful experiences makes it an easy-to-read book, despite the difficult topic. Lori's story provides a wealth of knowledge and inspiration for anyone struggling to break free from shame and rebuild their lives. This book is a recommended read for those seeking solace, empowerment, and a path toward triumph over adversity.
December 21, 2023
"The Romeo and Juliet Delusion: Discovering Freedom After Trauma" offers an enlightening journey into the realm of trauma recovery. It intimately recounts the author's personal experience of finding herself in a destructive relationship and bravely emerging stronger than ever. This candid and touching narrative encourages deep introspection, inviting readers to contemplate their own lives and illusions profoundly. It is natural for some to wonder how she found herself in such a situation, which might lead others to feel ashamed if they were in a similar predicament. However, her strength lies in narrating her story as the protagonist of her own life. She courageously acknowledged her struggles with alcohol and more. The book was deeply unsettling in certain aspects, yet it effectively conveyed her intention: to caution and enlighten others.
July 6, 2024
Good book
In "The Romeo & Juliet Delusion," Lori Abbott fearlessly recounts her turbulent relationship with her ex-fiancé, battling addiction to meth and heroin. Her raw honesty and gripping narrative plunge readers into a whirlwind of emotions—pain, fear, and hope—as she navigates through the darkest moments of her life. Abbott's writing is compelling, drawing us into her world with every turn of the page. Her vivid descriptions paint a vivid picture of chaos and resilience, making this memoir an unforgettable journey of strength and survival. Once you start reading, you won't want to put it down.
In "The Romeo & Juliet Delusion," Lori Abbott fearlessly recounts her turbulent relationship with her ex-fiancé, battling addiction to meth and heroin. Her raw honesty and gripping narrative plunge readers into a whirlwind of emotions—pain, fear, and hope—as she navigates through the darkest moments of her life. Abbott's writing is compelling, drawing us into her world with every turn of the page. Her vivid descriptions paint a vivid picture of chaos and resilience, making this memoir an unforgettable journey of strength and survival. Once you start reading, you won't want to put it down.
January 18, 2025
This book was truly powerful and Abbott did a great job of writing about her life experiences in a way that can resonate with victims of domestic abuse or those in a relationship with an addict. It is dark and disturbing but balanced well with hope. It's both insightful and captivating in the way it's written. A great book to read for anyone struggling with this kind of situation or anyone who wants a better understanding of those in the situation struggling. It's a book that could encourage victims to overcome their circumstances or help them not feel alone, and it's a book that could encourage others to empathize with victims who struggle to get out of these situations.
September 1, 2023
a different tale
In general, this subject is difficult to discuss, and it is even more difficult when it involves one's own life story. As I read her story, I am inspired by the fact that this fireflower let her story serve as a vehicle for the freedom of someone else. I was able to read this book in a few hours where I was fully absorbed into the story.
On the design front, the cover says so much - that designer deserves a huge thank you for what they've created. It definitely pulled me in and wanted me to see what this story is all about.
In general, this subject is difficult to discuss, and it is even more difficult when it involves one's own life story. As I read her story, I am inspired by the fact that this fireflower let her story serve as a vehicle for the freedom of someone else. I was able to read this book in a few hours where I was fully absorbed into the story.
On the design front, the cover says so much - that designer deserves a huge thank you for what they've created. It definitely pulled me in and wanted me to see what this story is all about.
June 4, 2024
An Honest Account Which Should Inspire Others
This heartfelt and honest account offers a glimpse into a profoundly disheartening period, where an individual believes they have control over their life, only to realise they do not. This account provides a vivid depiction of the profound impact of manipulation. It can serve as a valuable guide for individuals facing similar circumstances, underscoring the crucial step of acknowledging the truth of the situation first and foremost.
Recommended!
This heartfelt and honest account offers a glimpse into a profoundly disheartening period, where an individual believes they have control over their life, only to realise they do not. This account provides a vivid depiction of the profound impact of manipulation. It can serve as a valuable guide for individuals facing similar circumstances, underscoring the crucial step of acknowledging the truth of the situation first and foremost.
Recommended!
October 4, 2024
This book really spoke to me on a deep level. The book explores how romanticized ideas of love can trap us in unhealthy relationships, especially after experiencing trauma. I found the author’s approach both compassionate and enlightening, offering practical advice for breaking free from these damaging patterns. It’s written in a way that feels like a caring conversation, helping me understand the importance of healing and self-discovery. If you’re looking to move past trauma and find real freedom in your relationships, this book is a valuable resource.
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July 25, 2023
Powerful and relevant memoir that capture the resilience and courage of the human spirit
The book is a powerful and intense memoir that delves into the harrowing journey of the author dangerous relationship with her ex, an addict. The gripping book is not only inspirational but also relevant and shedding light on the realities of abuse and trauma that many individuals face in relationshipss
The book is a powerful and intense memoir that delves into the harrowing journey of the author dangerous relationship with her ex, an addict. The gripping book is not only inspirational but also relevant and shedding light on the realities of abuse and trauma that many individuals face in relationshipss
March 18, 2024
Riveting reading
As the child of an alcoholic, I could relate, sometimes a bit too much! The autobiographical account had the effect of sometimes bringing back old difficult feelings. I also feel sad for so many adults and children caught in the web of insanity and self delusion. Very interesting (and horrifying) to learn of new ways people misuse each other. The most important take away is that you can't fix another person. Pray for them and avoid them.
As the child of an alcoholic, I could relate, sometimes a bit too much! The autobiographical account had the effect of sometimes bringing back old difficult feelings. I also feel sad for so many adults and children caught in the web of insanity and self delusion. Very interesting (and horrifying) to learn of new ways people misuse each other. The most important take away is that you can't fix another person. Pray for them and avoid them.
August 18, 2023
Sad storyline of Reality
Addiction is a very painful reality and this author poured her heart out on these pages. The storyline is sad and tragic and cathartic. The author tells the story of addiction and all of its victims. Hard to read but so happy that she is finding a better place. Reaffirms the reason I believe God's work in our lives is such a miracle.
Addiction is a very painful reality and this author poured her heart out on these pages. The storyline is sad and tragic and cathartic. The author tells the story of addiction and all of its victims. Hard to read but so happy that she is finding a better place. Reaffirms the reason I believe God's work in our lives is such a miracle.
August 23, 2023
Captivating!
This book was a page turner and had my attention through the whole thing. Lori’s story of her romance with a drug addict was heartbreaking. Her recovery and rebound and the way she found new life should be inspiring to many who have suffered through emotional and/or physical abuse. Thank you for being brave enough to share your story!
This book was a page turner and had my attention through the whole thing. Lori’s story of her romance with a drug addict was heartbreaking. Her recovery and rebound and the way she found new life should be inspiring to many who have suffered through emotional and/or physical abuse. Thank you for being brave enough to share your story!
February 10, 2024
Answers important questions and a great story.
This is a thrilling story that could easily be made into a Lifetime Network movie. It's disturbing how long she stayed with this guy but that's the reality of the trauma bond, and this author does a great job showing that reality, as well as providing a window into her recovery. Very entertaining as well as helpful!
This is a thrilling story that could easily be made into a Lifetime Network movie. It's disturbing how long she stayed with this guy but that's the reality of the trauma bond, and this author does a great job showing that reality, as well as providing a window into her recovery. Very entertaining as well as helpful!
July 2, 2024
Powerful
An extraordinary journey into an abyss of love. I was riveted by the quest the author went through as she tried to find herself through the one she thought was her true love. As she puts it so eloquently, to love someone you have to love yourself first. Brutal but honest account.
An extraordinary journey into an abyss of love. I was riveted by the quest the author went through as she tried to find herself through the one she thought was her true love. As she puts it so eloquently, to love someone you have to love yourself first. Brutal but honest account.
September 26, 2024
The epidemic scourge of addiction in all facets is always most devastating to those trying to help. Chemical addiction, especially, is the most gruesome, where the addicted individuals lose all moral inhibition and afflict their loved ones with the most egregious bodily harm without remorse. I feel for the author and think her experiences and revelation will help others—a great read.
April 7, 2025
Transformative Memoir on Healing from Trauma and Love
In "The Romeo & Juliet Delusion," the author beautifully navigates the complexities of love and trauma. Their journey of healing is both inspiring and relatable. I found profound insights on finding freedom after abuse, making it a must-read for anyone seeking hope and strength. Truly a transformative memoir!
In "The Romeo & Juliet Delusion," the author beautifully navigates the complexities of love and trauma. Their journey of healing is both inspiring and relatable. I found profound insights on finding freedom after abuse, making it a must-read for anyone seeking hope and strength. Truly a transformative memoir!
June 12, 2025
This book was a great read after getting out of a relationship with an alcoholic. I just realized I was abused and I’ve been feeling upset with myself for staying in that situation for so long. It’s reassuring to hear another women’s experience and what I can do to help myself. Thank you, I feel seen and heard.
August 12, 2023
A deeply personal look into domestic violence and drug addiction
While written in the form of a memoir this book has some great insights on healing strategies and coping mechanisms for victims of domestic abuse.
While written in the form of a memoir this book has some great insights on healing strategies and coping mechanisms for victims of domestic abuse.
January 19, 2024
Great read for those who've gone through it.
I loved this at the end of the book. "My trauma did not make me stronger. My trauma made me broken and weak. It gave me complex PTSD and dysregulated my entire nervous system. It gave me feelings and experiences that I never wanted."
I loved this at the end of the book. "My trauma did not make me stronger. My trauma made me broken and weak. It gave me complex PTSD and dysregulated my entire nervous system. It gave me feelings and experiences that I never wanted."
April 27, 2024
honest and refreshing
This was a powerful, intriguing memoir about a trauma bonded couple who both struggled with addiction. The author talks about her own struggles as well and how she was able to take responsibility and heal. I was hooked from the beginning.
This was a powerful, intriguing memoir about a trauma bonded couple who both struggled with addiction. The author talks about her own struggles as well and how she was able to take responsibility and heal. I was hooked from the beginning.
February 12, 2025
Excellent read
I can totally relate to the author, I too was in a toxic relationship with a girl who was a drug addict, crack cocaine...hey guys if you find yourself in the same sort of situation....read this book, it will help
I can totally relate to the author, I too was in a toxic relationship with a girl who was a drug addict, crack cocaine...hey guys if you find yourself in the same sort of situation....read this book, it will help
February 22, 2025
Engaging True Story With A Hopeful Ending
If you’ve ever found yourself in an erratic or abusive relationship this is a book to put on your “must read“ list. I love that it isn’t theory, it’s real and the author was brave enough to share her mistakes and triumphs.❤️
If you’ve ever found yourself in an erratic or abusive relationship this is a book to put on your “must read“ list. I love that it isn’t theory, it’s real and the author was brave enough to share her mistakes and triumphs.❤️
July 24, 2023
Insightful
This book is perfect for anyone healing from trauma from a relationship. The author tells her story in a way that the reader can learn from.
This book is perfect for anyone healing from trauma from a relationship. The author tells her story in a way that the reader can learn from.
September 28, 2023
A piece of art. No matter the hardships we face in our life, we can always make it through if we believe in ourselves, and our spirits are strong
April 26, 2024
Inspirational
This book is a riveting, page turning and frankly at times quite unbelievable journey to peace and healing. Great read!
This book is a riveting, page turning and frankly at times quite unbelievable journey to peace and healing. Great read!
April 10, 2025
Healing
Used for an unprofessional attempt as therapy for my cousins after reading it. Well done and easy to absorbed and understand.
Used for an unprofessional attempt as therapy for my cousins after reading it. Well done and easy to absorbed and understand.
September 11, 2023
Heartfelt and Raw
I always have respect for an author who wants to share their own personal story so they may help others who are or have experience something similar. Well done!
I always have respect for an author who wants to share their own personal story so they may help others who are or have experience something similar. Well done!
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