Think Like a Guy

by Giuliana DePandi

How are you going to snag one if you don't know how to.... Think Like a Guy ? E! News anchor Giuliana DePandi knows that if you want a little piece of his heart, you're going to have to learn to get into his head--and she shares her knowledge as an on-the-town dater in L.A. into this funny but oh-so-practical and effective volume. DePandi knows what it's like "out there", and has done extensive field work to learn what turns guys off...and on. Here's a pop quiz: Should you ...mention your mom on a first date? ...cook a guy breakfast after your first sleepover at his place? ...pick at your food when he takes you to dinner? ...tell him how many lovers you've had before he came along? ...leave him long voicemails if you can't reach him on the phone? The resounding answer to all the questions above, according to DePandi, is: NO! You should, in fact, be busy and breezy, offer to pay for dinner, leave short voicemails (and none at all if you don't have anything concrete to say), stay well-dressed and -groomed, and make your guy feel like he's the first to introduce you to anything kinky in bed. Think Like a Guy is a hard-headed practical book for women who acknowledge that men and women simply think differently.

Genres: Self Help, Nonfiction, Relationships

172 pages, Paperback

First published June 27, 2006

Reviews

[Sena Wolfe · Rating 1 out of 5]

It was a fun book. Some of the tips just make you laugh out loud. The thing I hate about books like these, is the fact that they always assume you are looking for a random stranger to make your own. What about the people who are trying to capture a guy that they have known for a while who seems to be untouchable in the dating scene? I just can't find a book that tells me how to make that guy mine. I tried some of the tips out, and they worked on guys I had just met, but if you are reading it trying to catch a guy that you've already known for a while, it probably won't work as well.

[Melissa · Rating 1 out of 5]

I really wanted to like this book because I love Giuliana and I think these self-help dating books are hilarious and fun. However, it is not well written. And her tips are all based on lying about yourself or hiding the truth until later in the relationship. If that's what you're really supposed to do to make someone like you, I am officially depressed. It was published in 2006 and mentioned the sidekick phone, AIM, etc. so perhaps that affected my thoughts. Oh, she also used the word retard, which I found rude and distracting and no need for.

[Ellie · Rating 1 out of 5]

I didn't expect this book to be a page-turner, but I picked it up off the shelf thinking that there might be a few pointers here and there that I hadn't considered. After actually reading tips #1-9 and thinking they were either a) obvious, b) ridiculous, or c) both, I couldn't go on any longer. I skimmed the remainder of the headings, and I've come to the conclusion that this was published solely based on the name of the author (who I'm sure did not use these tips to find her husband).

[Jennifer Daniel · Rating 1 out of 5]

Horrible advice! Most of which amounted to lying and pretending to be someone you are not. What is the point of "getting" a guy if you have to be so fake? Neither one of you is goign to win there. And the author didn't have too much sucess keeping a guy since she only spoke of ex-boyfriends, not current long term keepers. Boooo! Terrible book!

[Kayleen · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is a book on dating I would give to my daughter. (Ok...I did give it to my daughter.) It is funny enough to keep your attention and although there were a few ideas of hers that made me roll my eyes, for the most part it tells a girl to stop playing games, stop acting helpless, and act like someone you would want to be with.

[Robert Beveridge · Rating 1 out of 5]

Guiliana DePandi, Think Like a Guy: How to Get a Guy by Thinking Like One (St. Martin's, 2006)

I put this on hold online, and so didn't have to check the aisles to find out where it was. Can someone please tell me that this book is classified as humor instead of self-help? Because while it's not funny, it's certainly a better fit for the humor section, in its ham-handed, idiotic sort of way. As a self-help book, I can't imagine a worse failure. Not just for the way it portrays women—as money-grubbing servile wenches who would do just about anything to land the best (or, really, any passing) man—but in general, as well. And while DePandi starts off trying to pull her punches a bit—she initially cautions women to be “evasive” in dating (though, to correct her hunting analogy a bit, after the hunter has missed the deer nine or ten times, what's he going to do? He's going to go look for another deer), it doesn't take her long to take off the gloves and tell the hapless reader what she's really advocating. When she says, “Here's the quick fix: lie.” on page 31, it's not the first time she's advocated lying in order to land a guy. Take a tip from one: when he finds out you did, he'll dump you like someone who read Giuliana DePandi's dating advice. (zero)

[Natalie · Rating 4 out of 5]

I randomly grabbed this book at the library and then when I realized it was written by Giuliana- I decided I had to read it. For me, I don't take advice from someone unless they got the proof- and she does. Her advice is very practical, some of it was hard to hear, but I think she does know what she's talking about, considering she snagged Bill Rancic (winner of The Apprentice)

I really liked that she tried to make it as opposite to "female" self help books as possible and really tried looking at love/dating through a man's view. It definitely made sense.

[Vicky · Rating 5 out of 5]

I actually learnt quite a bit from this book. I read this after reading "He's just not that into you" and I wanted to find a book that canceled that message out.This helped me realize that men are just different than women. This book has many tips on how to keep your signifcant other happy. For example don't bitch about the pettiest things. Don't nag at him if he hasn't showered, that sorta thing. By reading this book I think my relationship has improved because of it.

[Sarah · Rating 1 out of 5]

The title of this book should read: "Think Like a Guy: How to Lie and Fake Your Way into an Unsuccessful Relationship." I understand not sharing too much information on the first few dates, but almost all of this author's advice involves outright lying. You may get the guy to start with, but how strong can a relationship built of lies be?

[Magda Dopierała · Rating 3 out of 5]

A lot of good advice but at the same time I hope the book won't be read by very young unexperienced girls who will assume you have to lie much when the relationship starts to create a perfect image and you will fix it somehow later.

[Cheyenne · Rating 1 out of 5]

This is not the type of book I read. I like Giuliana (Yes, I do watch E! News. Don't judge me.) but before I even flipped it open I decided not to take this book on a serious note. Which is why I'm kinda surprised I dislike it like I do. At best I thought it would be a little funny and at worst I figured I would simply be indifferent about it. That didn't happen.

I can't say that everything about this book was bad and irritating, but most of it was. Sorry Giuliana.

The tips were mostly either obvious, pointless, or kind of stupid. Some of them were good, and definitely deserved to be in there, but then she would start talking about hypothetical situations with hypothetical people and it was annoying. Not that she was giving an example, but how she was doing it. It made me feel dislike for people. Men are men, true, but there are different kinds of men. And not all women are psychopathic, over emotional, giggling hot messes either. Also, the basis for a lot of the tips were lying. In probably 70-80% of the tips she tells you to lie about something. And at one point in the book, she flat out tells you to lie. A lot of them were focused on meeting a guy or guys you just met, and there were none about getting a guy that you've already been acquainted with either. Some I think we're just there to fill up space.

There were also things she said, in an attempt to be cool, hip, or funny I'm sure, that rubbed me the wrong way from being rude or slightly offensive. The book was written almost 10 years ago, and things were definitely different then, so I'm not holding it against her, but I am putting it against the book itself.

[bookishpoetess · Rating 2 out of 5]

MY SUMMARY:
Men are not complex creatures.
Men are hunters by nature.
Men don't like dumb girls.
Men don't like girls who come easy.
Men don't let small things bug them.
A guy wants a girl who will be able to eat at his favorite spots.
Guys prefer girls with brains.
Guys love low-maintenance girls.
Guys are stubborn and don't take rejection easily.
Guys aren't interested in girls who are bored or boring.
Guys don't like to console.
Guys do not like shopping.
Guys have much shorter attention spans.
Guys don't measure relationship in days, weeks or months—they only see years.
Guys focus on being independent and improving themselves before they fully devote their lives to someone else.

CONCLUSION:
The book has some helpful tips for me but the author and I have a different view about most of the things. First, I do not approve lying. I mean, why would you lie just to be in a relationship? For me, it is always the best to say the truth in the start of the relationship and show that you are flawed. And, if a guy truly loves you, he will accept you however imperfect you are.

I don't know why I bought this book. The title is so captivating at the moment I bought it. Maybe that's why.

[Anna Rebecca · Rating 3 out of 5]

When I learned Giuliana had written a book, I just had to get it. I really enjoy watching her show "Giuliana and Bill" and I love her happy and fun personality. I was just certain whatever she wrote would be great. I suppose to a point I was right.

The book was a lot of fun. Giuliana writes as she speaks and the book kept me laughing from start to finish. However, I can't say I completely agree with the content. It seems as though she advocates lying to snag Mr. Right. I don't know of any successful relationships that have been built on lies. That being said, if you are reading the book looking for advice, there are some good tips in the book. I just wouldn't take every single rule as the gospel truth on dating. But some are just plain common sense.

In short, if you're a Giuliana fan, you will enjoy the book simply because it showcases her quirky personality and has the feel of sitting down to chat with a girlfriend. However, if you're looking for real honest to goodness relationship advice, I'd recommend looking elsewhere.

[Erika · Rating 2 out of 5]

At a friend's insistance, I read a book about settling for Mr. Good Enough last summer. This summer I decided to read a book about snagging Mr. Perfect, and seeing as how the book cost just a quarter, I literally didn't have much to lose. If nothing else, DePandi wrote a how-to-guide that's actually funny. It's a rule book really; a rule book for that game called love, because it really is a game, of sorts. Let it be known I hate "the game" and I despise playing "the game" even more. Let me boil it down for you: it's all about the challenge. People want what they can't have. DePandi gives women 66 tips on being aloof and mysterious. (Go ME for already succeeding at two-thirds of them!) The majority of this book is commonsense: don't doodle your first name with his last name. But there are also some good tips too: avoid a purely "textual" relationship. You're worth the phone call and the conversation.

[Laura · Rating 2 out of 5]

I think a better name for this book would be "How to Get a Guy by Lying about Yourself." If I was giving advice to single girls, I wouldn't advise them to lie about everything. I mean, one of Giuliana's tips was to lie to a guy about what kind of student you were in high school/college to make yourself look smarter. I'm pretty sure a guy will eventually realize if you lie about something like your level of intelligence.

[Susabelle Kelmer · Rating 2 out of 5]

This book was fun at first, but she kind of got off on another path. I stopped reading when she insisted that we all should be clean shaven because no one likes a rug down there. Only a teenager would truly think that way...

However, that being said, the first third or so of the book is full of some decent advice. I was reading it more as research on how guys act than really for use, because I'm way beyond the dating pool at this point.

[Melissa Rochelle · Rating 4 out of 5]

So...I didn't read everything she wrote, but she did give great tips. My favorite tip: #23...Never admit you've slept with more than 5 guys. She writes, "I don't care if it's 25. When he asks, it's 4." Cracks me up!

[Kristi · Rating 3 out of 5]

A ridiculous, yet funny book with more than a couple of insightful tips for women in a relationship. Because..."We all have a freak flag...we just don't fly it!"

I borrowed this book from a friend...never would have purchased it myself.

[Krista · Rating 3 out of 5]

I noticed a lot of grammatical errors in this book. It's obvious it wasn't well put together and it would have been better-suited as a small, novelty book- but its underlying message rings true. One word: evasive!

[heather jackson · Rating 5 out of 5]

G's a published author! Read her advice.. Some of it might actually work- she's getting married in August! Also, Please note the dedication...

[Stephanie · Rating 4 out of 5]

VERY TRUE!!!!!!!

[Stephanie · Rating 3 out of 5]

Skimmed a few pages on Amazon bc I like her and her show. She writes like she speaks, so it was a fun short skimming. Good for laughs.

[Maren Fischer · Rating 1 out of 5]

This book kept saying you should lie to get a man...because once he figures out that you were lying he's going to want to stick around? I don't think so. I picked it up on a whim and regret it.

[Heather · Rating 1 out of 5]

Some pretty ridiculous stuff in here, but some of the tips made me laugh.

[Erryn · Rating 4 out of 5]

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