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Let's Talk About Body Boundaries, Consent and Respect: Teach children about body ownership, respect, feelings, choices and recognizing bullying behaviors
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42 pages, Spiral-bound
First published November 10, 2017
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May 16, 2024
Boundaries matter at ALL ages 🙌🏾 I can't wait to share this book with my brilliant toddler 😁
January 12, 2025
Veľmi dôležitá kniha, výborne spracovaná. Ako rodičia sa z nej tiež veľa naučíme, keďže nás nikto takéto veci neučil.
May 10, 2021
I teach four and five year olds and they're all going through the experience of learning about their bodies. This book does an excellent job explaining consent and boundaries at a developmentally appropriate level. It uses language and illustrations that speak to children in an intelligent, easy to understand way.
More than that, I really loved how this book was written like a conversation. It initiated many meaningful conversations and got my children talking about their boundaries and also the different ways to look for and listen for consent. This was an awesome introduction and useful tool for continuing these kinds of conversations.
Borrowed this book from a parent. Will be purchasing my own copy for future classes! An essential resource, if you ask me.
More than that, I really loved how this book was written like a conversation. It initiated many meaningful conversations and got my children talking about their boundaries and also the different ways to look for and listen for consent. This was an awesome introduction and useful tool for continuing these kinds of conversations.
Borrowed this book from a parent. Will be purchasing my own copy for future classes! An essential resource, if you ask me.
February 3, 2022
I highly recommend this to all parents and elementary educators! This is an excellent and fun resource for teaching boundaries to young children (recommended for ages 4-10 on Amazon) to help keep them safe. It has engaging illustrations and everyday examples of what to do when someone is in your “body boundary”. It also teaches respecting other’s body boundaries. There are professional tips for parents to use when reading.
This age appropriate book helps reinforce one of the many things parents/good adults need to teach children. I know too many people who suffered as children at the hands of evil adults. I hope books like this one will help arm parents and children against perpetrators.
I’m impressed at how easy it was for a 3 year-old to grasp the concepts explained. He uses the words respect and body boundary clearly to explain when someone is in his body boundary and he doesn’t like it. We will definitely keep revisiting this book. I strive for minimal belongings, and go to the library regularly, but I’ll be buying this book to have in my home.
This age appropriate book helps reinforce one of the many things parents/good adults need to teach children. I know too many people who suffered as children at the hands of evil adults. I hope books like this one will help arm parents and children against perpetrators.
I’m impressed at how easy it was for a 3 year-old to grasp the concepts explained. He uses the words respect and body boundary clearly to explain when someone is in his body boundary and he doesn’t like it. We will definitely keep revisiting this book. I strive for minimal belongings, and go to the library regularly, but I’ll be buying this book to have in my home.
April 18, 2024
I just got this today from a friend and had to preview read it out of the package before I read it with my son. I wanted a chance to familiarize myself with it before going over it with him, and get to know what the book was going to discuss. I am pleasantly surprised at how clear and concise the writing is for this book. I really think it will be good for children with intellectual or emotional disabilities because of this clarity. The pictures are fantastic and they display a range of emotions and body language portrayed that can help children with autism that have trouble with identifying those emotions see those visually and discuss them before hand.
If you're an adult like me who grew up in abuse or with emotionally immature parents. It can be a bit triggering but also healing to see where your emotional regulation and intelligence was hindered by lack of education but it can even help us adults relearn body boundaries and change our examples shown for our own children.
I especially like that they talk about making a safety network between family and friends. Trusted adults, at least one being outside the family, like a teacher or neighbor; because many of us got the stranger danger talks growing up but were never told about the possibility of family being a potential threat. To our detriment. Which in modern day statistics we are seeing more of a problem with family or friends then strangers. They leave a lot of these concepts age appropriate and leave it up to you to discuss those with your children like I just did here in this example. Each page or set of pages makes for a great conversation starter.
This book also tackles disagreements between children and bullying without using that language. Because not all bullying behaviors are bullying, sometimes it is a form of communication and a one off thing. It's part of teaching children emotional regulation. It's more about talking about how to handle those situations and show you your options.
This book defines consent, respect, boundaries, choices, and even rules of disengaging previously consented actions like holding hands. Because no one wants to hold hands all day, it shows kids how to be polite about disengaging.
A must read for all adults and children.
If you're an adult like me who grew up in abuse or with emotionally immature parents. It can be a bit triggering but also healing to see where your emotional regulation and intelligence was hindered by lack of education but it can even help us adults relearn body boundaries and change our examples shown for our own children.
I especially like that they talk about making a safety network between family and friends. Trusted adults, at least one being outside the family, like a teacher or neighbor; because many of us got the stranger danger talks growing up but were never told about the possibility of family being a potential threat. To our detriment. Which in modern day statistics we are seeing more of a problem with family or friends then strangers. They leave a lot of these concepts age appropriate and leave it up to you to discuss those with your children like I just did here in this example. Each page or set of pages makes for a great conversation starter.
This book also tackles disagreements between children and bullying without using that language. Because not all bullying behaviors are bullying, sometimes it is a form of communication and a one off thing. It's part of teaching children emotional regulation. It's more about talking about how to handle those situations and show you your options.
This book defines consent, respect, boundaries, choices, and even rules of disengaging previously consented actions like holding hands. Because no one wants to hold hands all day, it shows kids how to be polite about disengaging.
A must read for all adults and children.
July 11, 2019
While I haven't read a ton of books on this topic with my 3yo yet, this is our favorite so far. Manages to encourage kids to be bold and direct, talk to a trusted adult, and treat others with respect, without scaring little kids. I like that it prompts me to talk through with him exactly what he should do in different circumstances.
May 27, 2024
Muito texto. Pertinente e interessante para pais e educadores, mas muito denso
July 1, 2021
This is definitely one of the better books I've read on this topic. I like the text and the illustrations. One thing I wish would have been added, which is a part of another book on the topic by the same author, is that sometimes there are cases when for safety reasons (walking next to a busy road) a child *needs* to hold an adult's hand whether they want to or not. Also, there is a situation where an older cousin wants the child to ride in a child seat on the back of a bike but the child doesn't want to. Of course, overall this should be a situation when a child should be allowed to say "no," unless that child rode to the park that way and is now refusing to get on to go home. In that case it is not really about body boundaries and more about not being stubborn/may be the safest way home so they should comply. In other words, the author couldn't cover everything and there should be some discussion, even in addition to the discussion questions included.
An added plus is that within the illustrations there is wonderful racial diversity, two people in wheelchairs, and at least one girl wearing a hijab.
Hmm, something I just realized that this doesn't talk about is "private areas," which should, of course, also be discussed sometime. But perhaps because of the lack of that content, more people will feel comfortable using this as a read aloud in various situations, which is good.
An added plus is that within the illustrations there is wonderful racial diversity, two people in wheelchairs, and at least one girl wearing a hijab.
Hmm, something I just realized that this doesn't talk about is "private areas," which should, of course, also be discussed sometime. But perhaps because of the lack of that content, more people will feel comfortable using this as a read aloud in various situations, which is good.
June 26, 2022
A good place to start the conversation on consent, but I will say, it's a longer book. I think you should anticipate breaking this into two sessions. My kid and I managed to get through this in one bedtime, but you could tell she was lagging and losing interest.
This is more of an advanced, non-fiction look at the issue. Starting the conversation on consent early is important, but I'd say the target age here is probably 5 years old. But I could really see this working for a younger kid IF you read it WITH an older one, as well. For example, at certain parts, the book asks how you can tell someone is unhappy, and the answer is supposed to be their body language. My kid had a hard time spotting this, but I think a kid that's older would pick it up much more easily.
One thing not covered in the book, which might be good to add to a second edition, is what to do if someone who you were told was part of your Safety Network breaks consent or body boundaries. There's certainly plenty of children who find that a parent or other supposedly trustworthy adult isn't actually safe.
I'll be returning to this book with my kid in a year or two, when she can pick up on the ideas a bit better, but it also gave me great a great starting point for these conversations.
This is more of an advanced, non-fiction look at the issue. Starting the conversation on consent early is important, but I'd say the target age here is probably 5 years old. But I could really see this working for a younger kid IF you read it WITH an older one, as well. For example, at certain parts, the book asks how you can tell someone is unhappy, and the answer is supposed to be their body language. My kid had a hard time spotting this, but I think a kid that's older would pick it up much more easily.
One thing not covered in the book, which might be good to add to a second edition, is what to do if someone who you were told was part of your Safety Network breaks consent or body boundaries. There's certainly plenty of children who find that a parent or other supposedly trustworthy adult isn't actually safe.
I'll be returning to this book with my kid in a year or two, when she can pick up on the ideas a bit better, but it also gave me great a great starting point for these conversations.
February 18, 2018
Excellent book to teach younger kids about body boundaries. I would say this is great to start in pre K and possibly up to second or third grade (depending on maturity level), but after that this book may seem a little too young for the bigger kids.
June 2, 2021
H Jayneen Sanders, εκτός από συγγραφέας, είναι δασκάλα δημοτικού και υποστηρίκτρια της συναίνεσης, της ασφάλειας του σώματος και της ισότητας των φύλων. Είναι η επικεφαλής συγγραφέας του Engage Literacy, του βραβευμένου προγράμματος στη Βρετανία για την καθοδηγούμενη, την ανεξάρτητη και την κοινή ανάγνωση. Δουλειά της είναι να μιλάει σε παιδιά, γονείς και εκπαιδευτικό προσωπικό για την εκπαίδευση σε θέματα σωματικής ασφάλειας των παιδιών. Μέσα από τα δεκάδες βιβλία που έχει γράψει θέλει να ενημέρωσει παιδιά και γονείς για τη συναίνεση, τα ατομικά σωματικά όρια και τον σεβασμό απέναντι στον άλλο. Το “Εγώ, το σώμα μου και οι άλλοι” είναι ένα πολύχρωμο εικονογραφημένο βιβλίο – οδηγός πάνω στα συγκεκριμένα θέματα, που μπορεί να γίνει εύκολα κατανοητό από παιδιά μικρής ηλικίας και να αποτελέσει σημείο έναρξης πολλών συζητήσεων ανάμεσα σε παιδιά και γονείς/εκπαιδευτικούς. Στα υπέρ του βιβλίου, η εικονογράφηση της Sarah Jennings με την ποικιλία των χαρακτήρων που έχει δημιουργήσει, με διαφορετικά εξωτερικά χαρακτηριστικά, ανθρώπους από διάφορες φυλές, ενώ συμπεριλαμβάνει και χαρακτήρες ΑμΕΑ.
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August 16, 2024
I’m writing this review tonight because this book played a crucial role in helping my daughter navigate an uncomfortable situation at summer camp. A few months ago, I purchased *Let's Talk About Body Boundaries, Consent, and Respect* on Amazon and read it with my children. This week, someone at camp wasn’t respecting my daughter’s personal space, and she not only stood up for herself but also defended another camper. She used the specific knowledge and language she learned from this book to address the situation confidently.
When she came home, she shared what happened with me, allowing me to follow up with the camp director to ensure the matter was handled appropriately. I’m truly impressed that this book resonated with her so much that, even months later, she was able to recall and apply its lessons in a real-life situation—and she’s only five years old! I’m incredibly glad I bought and read it with my kids. It not only reinforces what I’ve always taught them about boundaries but also presents these concepts in a way that leaves a lasting impression and offers practical help for real-life scenarios.
When she came home, she shared what happened with me, allowing me to follow up with the camp director to ensure the matter was handled appropriately. I’m truly impressed that this book resonated with her so much that, even months later, she was able to recall and apply its lessons in a real-life situation—and she’s only five years old! I’m incredibly glad I bought and read it with my kids. It not only reinforces what I’ve always taught them about boundaries but also presents these concepts in a way that leaves a lasting impression and offers practical help for real-life scenarios.
November 3, 2021
There's a lot going on in this one. It's well done and written right at kid level. Illustrations are simple and inclusive and back matter is great. My kid followed it easily and understood the concepts.
A couple of small nit picks:
It feels like it covered too much. I kinda wished it had doubled down on consent and respect and left conversations about what to do when you are angry with a friend to different books.
I don't love the call and response question and answer format in books meant to be read aloud. Like ask the question but then don't start the next sentence with a yes. It's awkward if your kid reads to themselves and also doesn't leave room for them to give different answers...which kids for sure do.
Very useful book.
A couple of small nit picks:
It feels like it covered too much. I kinda wished it had doubled down on consent and respect and left conversations about what to do when you are angry with a friend to different books.
I don't love the call and response question and answer format in books meant to be read aloud. Like ask the question but then don't start the next sentence with a yes. It's awkward if your kid reads to themselves and also doesn't leave room for them to give different answers...which kids for sure do.
Very useful book.
October 4, 2019
This was a pretty good one. I appreciate that it addresses consent, and brings everything down to a matter of boundaries. Whether you hug someone when they don't want a hug, or it's something even more serious, it's all about boundaries and consent and they have to be addressed at this young age. If we can get kids realizing their boundaries sooner (and that other people have boundaries to respect), maybe they will have a stronger foundation for healthy sexual relationships when they get older.
June 14, 2022
Bản tiếng Việt của cuốn sách này ngắn gọn hơn, do Nhã Nam xuất bản tên là "Chúng minh tôn trọng cơ thể và cảm xúc của nha".
Sách giải thích cho trẻ về vùng giới hạn cơ thể của bản thân và của người xung quanh, cách tôn trọng vùng giới hạn của nhau và bảo vệ bản thân khỏi sự xâm phạm vùng giới hạn đó. Sách đưa ra các tình huống rất thực tế trong giao tiếp hàng ngày với bạn bè, người lớn, người khác giới... và có hướng dẫn cha mẹ/ người giám hộ các đặt vấn đề và hướng dẫn trẻ hiểu từng tình huống.
Rất thiết thực và nên có trong mỗi gia đình đang nuôi lớn một em bé từ 4~8 tuổi.
Sách giải thích cho trẻ về vùng giới hạn cơ thể của bản thân và của người xung quanh, cách tôn trọng vùng giới hạn của nhau và bảo vệ bản thân khỏi sự xâm phạm vùng giới hạn đó. Sách đưa ra các tình huống rất thực tế trong giao tiếp hàng ngày với bạn bè, người lớn, người khác giới... và có hướng dẫn cha mẹ/ người giám hộ các đặt vấn đề và hướng dẫn trẻ hiểu từng tình huống.
Rất thiết thực và nên có trong mỗi gia đình đang nuôi lớn một em bé từ 4~8 tuổi.
October 17, 2024
I know a lot of adults who would really benefit from paying heed to this book!
Especially the ones who coerce their children to pose for photos, that children have expressed they don't want to have taken 🤢 This is just one of the many ways children (girls more particularly) are taught that their wishes and comfort are unimportant.
This book is a beautiful antidote, that would be a great gift to school classrooms. Excellent representation of our diverse communities, and just so wholesome and delightful.
Especially the ones who coerce their children to pose for photos, that children have expressed they don't want to have taken 🤢 This is just one of the many ways children (girls more particularly) are taught that their wishes and comfort are unimportant.
This book is a beautiful antidote, that would be a great gift to school classrooms. Excellent representation of our diverse communities, and just so wholesome and delightful.
June 22, 2019
This book was fantastic for teaching kindergarten and first graders about boundaries, consent, and appropriate behavior. It uses great verbiage that is explained well, and allows you ask questions about what's happening in the pictures ("look at his face. Does he want to share his bucket?")
Read it to my daughter's Kinder class and it was an instant teacher favorite and very appropriate for kids just learning how to handle themselves around others.
Read it to my daughter's Kinder class and it was an instant teacher favorite and very appropriate for kids just learning how to handle themselves around others.
September 12, 2022
An in-depth primer on boundaries, consent, and communication. I learned some things too (I’d never heard the term safety network, for example).
I liked tying heavier themes into more low stakes situations like someone grabbing your toy in the sandbox or getting mad at a sibling. A lot of discussion questions are included at the back of the book. I think this has a lot of uses and parents and teachers could both find it to be a good resource for breaking down important topics.
I liked tying heavier themes into more low stakes situations like someone grabbing your toy in the sandbox or getting mad at a sibling. A lot of discussion questions are included at the back of the book. I think this has a lot of uses and parents and teachers could both find it to be a good resource for breaking down important topics.
October 10, 2023
A wonderful book to introduce your child about personal boundaries, respect for others, having an adult safety network, and the importance of saying No when you don’t feel like saying yes.
There is a helpful message to adult readers in the beginning, and a number of questions in the end to facilitate dialogue in each spread.
The 36 pages can provide meaningful conversations between parent and child. We have identified who my daughter’s adult support network is.
There is a helpful message to adult readers in the beginning, and a number of questions in the end to facilitate dialogue in each spread.
The 36 pages can provide meaningful conversations between parent and child. We have identified who my daughter’s adult support network is.
May 1, 2021
A great book to use as starting point to discuss personal boundaries and consent with young children. This is especially important to do with kids with ASD and other disabilities as they are more at risk for abuse and exploitation. Looking forward to using this material with my clients and their families.
December 15, 2023
This book was recommended to me by another mom, and I can see why. This book is so great and breaking down consent and respect and how to make sure kids understand they can say 'No' to anyone if they are no comfortable. I got this from my local library, but I do plan on buying a copy. Every family should have a copy of this book.
March 27, 2019
This book is great to use for young children in a therapy setting. You can easily take bits and pieces to cater to a specific situation. I would love to see coloring pages and activities tied to this book, especially the body bubble concept.
July 19, 2019
Credit! This book was actually rather well done. The book explores consent through body boundaries. What was most impressive about this book is the attempt to get children to recognize that when someone is giving a non-verbal no! Nice job!
February 23, 2020
This book dealt with the topic of consent pretty thoroughly, but it was really dry. My six-year-old paid attention, but then didn’t remember anything because it didn’t really engage her. I did appreciate that it mentioned that consent can be withdrawn at any time, and we have to respect that.
February 29, 2020
Consent is an extremely important thing to teach to children and adults too. This book does a nice job of making it relatable for children. Just the right amount of information on a page for the intended age group. But adults could certainly learn from this too.
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February 18, 2021Nice book. One thig I did not really like it was the expression was quite simple and repeated.
It could be intentional approach to make the kids will simply think the word.
20 mins reading with Gio in the morning.
It could be intentional approach to make the kids will simply think the word.
20 mins reading with Gio in the morning.
September 7, 2021
Children can learn and understand the importance of respect also can learn how to be direct and straight forward communicating to a trusted adult. This would also be a confidence booster for many children to learn from this book.
December 6, 2022
Jayneen Sanders has created many books along this subject line that are agreat to share with children. Boundaries consent and Respect is a helpful read that can be taken in chunks or one, long read through.
September 14, 2024
Another parent recommended this book for me to read my preschooler, and I think it's a good one. We have been teaching our preschooler that if they don't want to hug it's okay. Understanding this through pictures and other examples was helpful.
January 17, 2025
My kids absolutely love the book. It is clear and easy to go through but very in depth for a variety of ages. Start with a book like this for your kids to educate about their body and the changes it goes through.
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