1. Choose Your Own Man 2. Make Sure Your Friends Approve 3. No One-Night Stands 4. Trust Your Instincts 5. Never Make the Same Mistake Twice 6. After a Break-Up, Wait Six Months Before Dating Again.
Dhara, Kelly, Marta, and Wendy have been the closest of friends since college. So close, that after a series of romantic disasters, they bond together to create Rules of Relationships to keep their hearts safe.
Years later, the rules seem to have worked . . . until Marta discovers that her hot boyfriend is married, Kelly begins a risky love affair, Wendy inches closer to a pre-marital infidelity, and, most shocking of all, Indian-American Dhara suddenly agrees to an arranged marriage.
Hearts are about to be broken and the bonds of friendship are tested. Is it possible to find true love, when you're breaking all the rules?
Before she started writing novels, Lisa Verge Higgins worked toward her PhD in organic chemistry at Stanford University. She ditched all that for her true passion: Writing life-affirming, critically acclaimed women’s fiction, and, as Lisa Ann Verge, penning emotionally-intense romances about hot men and dangerous women. Published worldwide in eighteen languages, Lisa has earned a Bean Pot and a RITA nomination, and is the winner of three Golden Leaf trophies and five RT Book awards. When not writing, she hunts wild mushrooms, studies Turkish, hikes mountains, and keeps tabs on the antics of her three wild-and-talented daughters.
I got this as part of GoodReads First Reads giveaway.
I had to rate this book as just okay. I felt like the characters acted like like they were in their early to mid twenties and not late 30s. Also having graduated from a Seven Sisters school (of which Vassar is a member), the friendships seemed a bit disingenuous to me. It feels like the author was more trying to fulfill a checklist of formulaic character requirements (the Asian one, the rich one, the poor one, the Latina) instead of writing meaningful personalities. There was also quite a lot of repetition of random details
Overall, I thought this was a combination of a Degrassi Junior High episode with an Afterschool Special crossed with a pinch of wannabe Seven Sisters.
I won this book on Goodreads! Very nice, light chick-lit... Everyone deserves a good friend or 3. Dhara, Kelly, Wendy, and Marta are a trip. They have dating rules that they expect each other to follow or you may end up in the middle of an intervention but you see, they were just watching out for each other. Here's a list of their rules that I grabbed from Goodreads because I could only remember 3 or 4:
1. Choose Your Own Man 2. Make Sure Your Friends Approve 3. No One-Night Stands 4. Trust Your Instincts 5. Never Make the Same Mistake Twice 6. After a Break-Up, Wait Six Months Before Dating Again.
So will you still get the happily-ever-after if the rules are broken? This is a story about life and what it means to be a good friend no matter what. Definite recommend.
Stand back Jennifer Weiner! Watch out, Emily Giffin! Lisa Verge Higgins is taking the contemporary women's lit genre by storm! After reading her book, "The Proper Care and Maintenance of Friendship", I was sure that was as good as this genre could get. Boy was I wrong! "One Good Friend" left me wanting even more.
Four college friends bond later in life with these simple dating rules. 1. Choose Your Own Man 2. Make Sure Your Friends Approve 3. No One-Night Stands 4. Trust Your Instincts 5. Never Make the Same Mistake Twice 6. After a Break-Up, Wait Six Months Before Dating Again.
Will they be able to adhere to the rules? Friendships will be put to the test.
Lisa's typically witty writing style makes what would normally be a typical chick-lit book warm and charming and something that all women can relate to.
First Read Win!! So I finally got it and read it. It was a wonderful read. The power of friendship in this book, makes me hope I can get a close group of friends like this. I insist everyone read it if they are looking for a sweet, funny and charming book. Amazing.
This book is all about love, relationships, friendships, and the difficult decisions women have to make. It's Sex in the City meets Divine Secrets of the Ya Ya Sisterhood. Good little book.
I think it's because I never really had the closeknit group of girlfriends growing up as we always moved from place to place but I love reading novels with a strong female friendship connection. Women who have known each other for over twenty years and are still friends and they are still there for each other and their friendships are concrete, they never waiver. In the novel we meet best friends since college - Kelly , Dhara , Wendy and Marta , when in college over a weekend of heartbreaks , romantic disasters the foursome developed "The Dating Rules" , a set of six rules that they were to never break in order to perfect their happiness and the perfect relationship. Now years later, the rules are starting to fail as each of them have broken one of the 6 rules. Rule #1 ) Choose your own man - Dhara the only Indian in the group , was in love with Cole but when problems arose she ran the opposite direction , now with her biological clock ticking and the fear of being an old spinster - she has asked her parents to arrange an marriage for her. Will she go through with the marriage to Sudesh or will she discover that her heart is really yearning for Cole ? Find out which path Dhara will take and with a few unhelpful interventions with her friends. Rule #2 and #5 ) Make sure your friends approve and Never make the same mistake twice - For Kelly has a secret , she has been secretly dating Wendy's brother Trey -knowing that her friends wouldn't approve they have been doing it in private but now Trey wants things to be made public , what will the reactions of Kelly's friends be ? and back in college Kelly dated Trey once and all was going well until he publicly humiliated her by posting about their conquests. Will Kelly follow rule #5 and depart ways with Trey or will her heart be too willing to give him another shot ? Rule #4)- Trust your instincts is about to shed some light into Marta's life as for the past months her boyfriend Carlos has been shady and not wanting to take the next step in their relationship, he also keeps making excuses not to introduce her to his family. What happens when Marta walks in on Carlos skyping a woman who turns out to be his wife ? Has Marta taken the role of being a mistress ? Will she continue to play the part or will she trust her instincts and move on ? Rule #3 and #6) No one night stands and after a break-up , wait six months before dating again. Wendy is about to get married and with her wedding coming up quickly, her mind shouldn't be wandering but when she meets artist Gabriel, she is reminded of the "real" Wendy. Will she break rule #3 or will she do the right thing and break her engagement off with Parker ? Should Wendy choose Parker or Gabriel ? A fun novel that will have all in an uplifiting mood :)
Reading this book, I did have a couple of issues. One Good Friend Deserves Another jumps from one person’s story to another, with brief flashbacks to that weekend when the rules were created. The flashbacks didn’t work for me at all. I found them confusing and vague and didn’t feel that they added a lot to the story. They were supposed to give context, to explain why the “rules” were made, but I was more interested in why the four women, from such different backgrounds, became friends in the first place. That wasn’t really explained … they just were. Another thing that stood out for me was the focus on “interventions” – it’s quite an American concept. As an Aussie reader, I didn’t quite get why these women, well-meaning as they were, thought it necessary to interfere (interfere/intervene, you say po-tay-to and I say po-tah-to) as a group. It’s not the sort of action I can relate to or see happening often here. Finally, the characters seemed much younger than the mid-30s they were supposed to be. None were married or had children, which seemed a bit unrealistic for that age group. I didn’t have this sense that these women were close in age to me, as they were supposed to have been.
Setting those issues aside, One Good Friend Deserves Another was a nice enough read. It’s light and easy to read – a good book for those times when you want something that doesn’t tax you too much. The characters were likable enough, the situations the women found themselves in were believable enough, and their friendship, well let’s just say they’re lucky to have such strong and abiding connections with each other. All in all, it was, as I said, nice enough. Just not fantastic. It’s one of those books that you enjoy reading at the time, but forget about soon after. What I won’t forget is the poignant reminder that some friends are worth more than gold. I do think women need other women in their lives – more on my thoughts about that here.
The other thing I’ll point out is that all four of the women were relatively independent and well-educated, and the group represented a diverse mix (if politically correct) of cultures. Each of them had issues/hang-ups to do with their upbringing and/or familial expectations. As I read, I was glad they had such good friends to back them up, boost them and make them laugh.
One Good Friend Deserves Another is not just a book about romantic entanglements. At its core is the strong bond of friendship between the main characters. I liked that the book is told through the perspectives of each of the women. It really adds to our understanding of the characters and their struggles. Another plus for me was the age of the characters. It was nice (as someone in her mid 30s) to read about women in their late 30s who still haven't gotten it all figured out yet. My favorite characters are Dhara and Kelly. At times I was frustrated with Kelly's decisions but I thought it made her seem more real and I liked that she is an imperfect character. Dhara was easy to relate to and I enjoyed reading about her family and could understand the pressure she faced with the arranged marriage and making the right choice for herself. I liked Wendy and Marta as well though I thought the author did a better job with the chapters from Dhara and Kelly's perspectives.
At times it seemed that there was a lot going on in the story but the overall theme of friendship and support was always there. At the end of the novel, all of the characters have shown some growth and I liked that there are some open endings. I am glad that the book wasn't entirely predictable as well. There is romance but the focus is on the friendships and how the characters have been there for each other even when it is hard to do. I would suggest this book to readers who enjoy reading books with strong female friendships and a chick lit tone.
I've finally finished it! I'm glad I kept reading till the end because to be honest the beginning completely lost me. I felt there were too many characters, too many names to keep track off. It wasn't until the middle when I began to have clearer, distinct pictures of each of the women and the men they were involved in.
I think my favorite character was probably Kelly, just because she stood out the most to me. I didn't think she would be tough enough to walk away from Trey, but I'm glad she did. Who knows though if they get together in the far distant future. Dhara would have to be my next favorite; I'm glad she decided to marry Desh. That was a nice plot twist. The rest of the girls were fairly interesting as well. I feel like as the reader I didn't get to know Marta as well as the other girls.
Overall, it was an okay book. I feel like there was just too many characters and the book just touched on the surface of each of their stories. Some people might really like that, but personally, I didn't like it all that much. Maybe it's because I've been reading the book over such a long period that its effects have faded and its no longer as good as I thought it was. I would still recommend this book to those who enjoy reading about friendships though, no doubt.
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I won this book for free from a Goodreads First Reads giveaway. This was my first time reading anything by this author. This book was enjoyable but not overly impressive. The relationship between the four friends and their struggles with romantic relationships was interesting. However, some of the language in the book and the metaphors the author used bothered me. I felt the author was trying to take a basic romance type novel and make it into a literary masterpiece; which this book definetly is not. If you have read and enjoyed books by Lisa Verge Higgins in the past then I am sure you would enjoy this one because I have the feeling her books possess much of the same qualities and flow. By far not a bad read but also not one I would rave about or encourage friends to read.
Just won this book! Can't wait to read it! Update! This was a first reads give away. I really enjoyed this book. The characters were all unique and diverse. Best friends are those we treasure and that was a message the author was successfully able to display. At times, it was a little tricky to decipher between flashbacks and present day, however it didn't distract me too much. A great beach read about friends that have been through good times and bad times. I was hoping it would have a happy ending and it did in the way the author intended it to be. The women found themselves and their voices.
Enjoyed this book remind me of how my group of best friends are always there for me. Not to make decisions but stand by me in all my decisions without judging. Accepting me the way I am. Thank The Lord for them.
Totally a chick novel. Enjoyed the roller coasters amongst 4 girlfriends but was left at end feeling there was few loose ends. Who cares! I finished one more book! 10 to go before 2013!
Dhara, Kelly, Marta, and Wendy became best friends in college. After seeing each other through so many disastrous love relationships, the four of them came up with Rules of Relationships: No new relationship before 6 months have passed from the break-up. No one night stands. A new man must be approved by the other three girls. Never make the same mistake twice. Choose your own man, not someone picked for you. Trust your own instincts.
Now, years later, the four are still there for each other, living close enough to each other that when a love crisis develops, they are able to pull together, meet together, and help each other through the difficulty; even if an intervention is called for.
The problem is that their main past breakups have resurfaced and it is now up to them to remind each other of the Rules of Relationships. Interventions are called, feelings are hurt, friendships are tested to the limit.
In the end, it is up to each of the women to make their own decisions, stand by them, and hope that their friends will cheer them on...in spite of the rules.
The book went back and forth from the college days to the present. While necessary to set the stage for the present day, it was confusing to me as the reader.
I didn't become attached to any of the four women, maybe because each of them were so closely intertwined, that I didn't see any one of them as an individual. I was detached from them all.
The best thing about the story for me, was the bond of friendship that did continue long after the days in college. They truly cared for each other...maybe their rules had to change after so many years of their establishment. It was that evolution in the friendship that kept me going. Other than that, it was just an ok read.
Dhara, Kelly, Marta, and Wendy have been the closest of friends since college. So close, that after a series of romantic disasters, they bond together to create Rules of Relationships to keep their hearts safe. How many of these dating rules have you broken? 1. Choose Your Own Man 2. Make Sure Your Friends Approve 3. No One-Night Stands 4. Trust Your Instincts 5. Never Make the Same Mistake Twice 6. After a Break-Up, Wait Six Months Before Dating Again. Years later, the rules seem to have worked...until Marta discovers that her hot boyfriend is married, Kelly begins a risky love affair, Wendy inches closer to a pre-marital infidelity, and, most shocking of all, Indian-American Dhara suddenly agrees to an arranged marriage. Hearts are about to be broken and the bonds of friendship are tested. Is it possible to find true love, when you're breaking all the rules?
Even though a slow burner it kept me reading, nice for a change of pace and genre
Really fun! It was a bit hard to keep track of all the names and side story lines since the stories were so connected. It also jumped around in time a lot for the different chapters which made it tough to connect the story line. I also read it mostly on my school breaks, as I described it to my grade team teachers "a fun gossipy book".
A good chick-lit book. College girlfriends are still super close now that they are older and adulting. They come together in the good times and the bad, and their unwavering support for each tother is palpable. Some characters were much more relatable than others. Did not absolutely love the way the book ultimately came together, but it was a good read overall.
Six rules that Dhara , Kelly Marta and Wendy who have been really good friends since college decided to make the rules on dating All had disasters in their relationships and none follow the rule can you really find true love they all tried
The book is a good beach read… In fact, I finished it in one day. These four college friends remain close over many years, and all of them struggle with lasting romantic relationships. The plotline was a bit slow at points but it was an easy read by the sea.
I actually really enjoyed this book. I understand what the author was trying to do with giving us a view on love from multiple angles, in the form of character's experiences, all to boil down to "sisters before misters". This was a very easy read and I finished it in a day and a half.
Four Best Friends have experienced bad relationships and they decide to come up with six dating rules. They promise each other to follow these rules so they will not get their hearts broken again. 1. Choose Your Own Man 2. Make Sure Your Friends Approve 3. No One-Night Stands 4. Trust You Instincts 5. Never Make the Same Mistake Twice 6. After a Break-Up, Wait Six Months Before Dating Again
Dhara is a doctor who comes from a Hindu family, where tradition and custom run deep inside their core. Her family has arranged her to marry a man, Desh, that has the same tradition and custom as her family. Dhara has already broken rule number one in the six dating rules. Will she marry Desh or will she break her family's tradition in marrying a Hindu man?
Kelly was born in a low class family, and she has grown up to work in a big industry that has to do with technology. When she was a senior her heart was broken by Trey, her best friends brother, who just used her. The last time Kelly sees Trey she forgave him for what he did to her, but she did not know that seeing Trey would affect her in wanting to be with him again. Will Kelly develop a relationship with Trey without having her heart broken like last time?
Marta is a busy, independent woman that does not know how to make a relationship work. With Marta being a lawyer it takes up most of her time, and she is a woman that loves to go by the day planner. Marta keeps a plan for everything in her life, even on how she wants her relationship to work out. But once she finds out that she has been deceived by her boyfriend, Carlos, she becomes desperate on finding a great man that will follow her relationship plan. Marta will soon realize that maybe having a plan for everything is not such a great idea, and that some things just need to fall into place in their own pace.
Wendy comes from a wealthy family that want her to represent the image of a wealthy lady. Wendy has finally grown up to be the women her mother has always wanted her to be. Wendy is engaged with Parker, a wealthy man, which she has known since they were children. But in the museum Wendy meets Gabriel, an aspiring painter, who reminds her of everything that she used to be. Now, Wendy has to decide if she wants to marry Parker and become what her mother wants her to be, or not marry Parker and return to what she used to be.
One Good Friend Deserves Another exceeded my expectations, because I never thought that it was going to be this amazing! The author gives us four very different points of views in what her main characters experience in their relationships. Each characters voice is different from each other, because of the authors use of language. I really enjoyed reading this book, because it was not just emotional it was funny is some parts as well.
I recommend everyone to read this book during the summer, because it is a really fast read. Another great idea would be to get a group of friends to read this book with you, because you can definitely feel the sense of friendship in the book. It will bring you and your girlfriends together!