男人这东西

by Jun'ichi Watanabe, 渡辺淳一, 陆求实 (Translator)

　　《男人这东西》：“渡边淳一•两性关系读本”之一。作者从自身的感性经验出发，以医学和心理学作为理论基础，详尽剖析了男性从少年期到壮年期的生理与心理发展历程，他们在社会角色与情感生活中所呈现的与生俱来的优势与弱点，以及因此而导致的两性在价值观、情爱观上的歧异和冲突，旨在帮助男性更正确地认识自己、女性更深入地了解男人。
　　《男人这东西》是渡边淳一的“男性自供状”，也是他最畅销的作品之一。

Genres: Japan, Nonfiction

263 pages, Paperback

First published January 25, 1999

About the author

Junichi Watanabe ( 渡辺淳一, Watanabe Jun'ichi, October 24, 1933 – April 30, 2014) was a Japanese writer, known for his portrayal of the extra-marital affairs of middle aged people.

His 1997 novel 'A Lost Paradise' became a bestseller in Japan and over Asia, and was made into a film and a TV miniseries. He has written more than 50 novels in total, and won awards including Naoki Prize in 1970 for 'Light and Shadow' (Hikari to kage), New Current Coterie magazine prize for Makeup, the Yoshikawa Eiji Prize in 1979 for 'The Setting Sun in the Distance' (Toki rakujitsu) and 'The Russian Brothel of Nagasaki' (Nagasaki roshia yujokan).

He was born in Sunagawamachi (present-day Kamisunagawa) and died on April 30, 2014 of prostate cancer in Tokyo.

Reviews

[Bouillialcool · Rating 1 out of 5]

same, without any convincing scientific argument. Always narcissist, but brave to write.🙂

Principal idea of the two books:
1-man and woman are two different species, just like monkey and humain-being
2-man as “monkey” is biologically more developed than woman
3-modern society has biologically weakened the man’s ability.

It’s all ok. No problem. But you can not just say it by your experience and some theory from the 19th🙂since you are a book from 20th-21th , without any serious general scientific proof. Empiricism could not used to make a conclusion.
Quit.

[Eugenie · Rating 4 out of 5]

渡边纯一是我很喜欢的日本作家，因为他能把东西写透，让人拨开云雾看到本质。这本书里他从男性从出生到成熟一点一点剖析在现代社会里的为什么男性呈现出目前这个状态。这里有生理和心理相结合的因素。男性和女性既为异性，就有了本质区别，对于婚姻更抱有不同的观念。减少二者之间的差别也是提升幸福的一个指数，这种时候需要靠当事人的智慧，不仅仅是说头脑的聪明，而是保持包容的心态，同时“不要忘记温柔和忍耐”，“更不要淡漠‘自己是谁’这种自我觉醒意识”。

[Andee S · Rating 4 out of 5]

Men know what this book is about.

[Ning · Rating 4 out of 5]

I think this book is helpful for understanding the physical and psychological difference between men and women.

[P M · Rating 4 out of 5]

值得深思。了解本质而后善待生活。

[Carpenter Liu · Rating 4 out of 5]

渡边老头还是一如既往的唠叨啊哈哈哈

[Yadi Yang · Rating 3 out of 5]

渡边纯一大概说出了99%男人想说的话。

而借用书中俵万智在文末“原来是这样”中写到的最后一句话：
“我以一个女人的感性，终于意识到了我为什么远离婚姻的理由，那就是：我喜欢恋爱。”

[Xovee Xu · Rating 4 out of 5]

很多人说作者大男子主义，但作者确实是在描述一定程度上普遍的事实，并给出了某些解决办法。再者，我认为读者一定要以“作者是在日本社会的基础上写的本书”来理解作者的用意，不能单纯的套用在中国男女身上。

[Ray · Rating 4 out of 5]

幾十呢前的觀察，在今天（2024 1月）依然具前瞻性。

[Grace · Rating 1 out of 5]

some views are ridiculous.

[Tong · Rating 4 out of 5]

看完以后觉得自己的下限又下去了一点。觉得男人结婚以后不出轨这件事几乎不可能，精神上或者肉体上总得占一样。

觉得一夫多妻或者一妻多夫才比较符合人类需求。既然一辈子只爱一个人那么难，干嘛那么为难自己呢。图什么呢。

[Franco · Rating 4 out of 5]

”我有一種危機感，我感到人類已經迷失了自己的原點，他們不知道在高度發達的文明社會的反向極上，我們人類充其量不過是動物，我們與地球上的其他生物並沒有什麼不同，既然作為有生命的物體生到了這個世界，我們就應該讓自己的生命更加燦爛，重新換回作為生物本應特有的雄與雌的生命光輝。“ ⋯ 男人這東西

[Skywalker Hu · Rating 4 out of 5]

I think this is a fairly accurate description of men, although not everything applies to everyone apparently.

[Lucerooo123 · Rating 3 out of 5]

话好多

[Đào Kiên · Rating 5 out of 5]

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