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Let. It. Go.: How to Stop Running the Show and Start Walking in Faith
Many women are wired to control. You’re the ones who make sure the house is clean, the meals are prepared, the beds are made, the children are dressed, and everyone gets to work, school, and other activities on time. But trying to control everything can be exhausting, and it can also cause friction with your friends and family. This humorous, yet thought-provoking book guides you as you discover for yourself the freedom and reward of living a life “out of control,” in which you allow God to be seated in the rightful place in your life. Armed with relevant biblical and current examples (both to emulate and to avoid), doable ideas, new thought patterns, and practical tools to implement, Let. It. Go. will gently lead you out of the land of over-control and into a place of quiet trust. A companion video-based study for small groups is also available.
224 pages, Paperback
First published November 13, 2012
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Karen Ehman
54 books367 followersKaren Ehman is a speaker, a New York Times bestselling author, a contributing writer for Proverbs 31 Ministries Encouragement for Today online devotions and a teacher in the First 5 Bible study app. She has written 21 books and Bible studies including Keep It Shut: What to Say, How to Say It, and When to Say Nothing at All and the 2020 ECPA devotional book of the year Settle My Soul. She is a graduate of Spring Arbor University and serves as President-Elect of their Alumni Board of Directors. She has been featured on TODAY Parenting, Redbook.com, Foxnews.com, Crosswalk.com, YouVersion.com, and is a monthly columnist for HomeLife Magazine. Her passion is to help women live their priorities as they reflect the gospel to a watching world. Karen is married to her college sweetheart, Todd, and is the mother of six children: three biological and three in-laws by marriage—although she forgets which ones are which. She enjoys collecting vintage Pyrex kitchenware, cheering for the Detroit Tigers, and spending her days feeding the many people who gather around her mid-century dining table to process life and enjoy her county fair blue-ribbon winning cooking.
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March 10, 2013
I enjoyed the stories from the Old Testament that reminded me of women who had to walk in faith. The rest of the book seemed like anecdotes about how women need to let it go. I understand the whole concept of letting things go, but would have liked some more tangible ideas on ways to learn to step out in faith a bit more. Plus, in my kindle version of the book--I think there were a few typos?!? Could that be? Maybe that was part of the lesson...I couldn't get past them, maybe I need to just let that go.
March 18, 2017
Aspects of Let. It. Go. were good reminders to trust God, but I honestly struggled reading this book. Ehman tried way too hard to be cute and funny in a modern "Hey, Girl" way that did not work for me. I don't know if it was the topic or her tone, but I found myself rushing through the book so I could finish it. Usually I love my bookclub choices, but this missed the mark.
January 19, 2015
Not radically new in principles, but does offer some helpful perspective.
We fret and worry and waste unnecessary time trying to remedy situations in which we have no business and where our perfectly powdered noses don’t belong.
What we must do is determine the difference between being conscientious (our part) and being in control (God’s job).
We intellectually believe he does what is best for the world in general, but practically we behave as if in our individual situations, we still know what’s best.
there is vast freedom in pursuing a life lived out of our own control.
As Jesus went through his earthly life, he had a plumb line— a solid starting point of reference on which he based all of his decisions. It was straightforward and uncomplicated: he came to do his Father’s will by glorifying him while on earth (John 17:1).
So when it comes to a purchase, an activity, an event, a friendship, a hobby, or a pastime, I ask myself, “Is this a tool, a toy, or a tangent?”
After more than forty years of being female, I have come to a bold and harsh realization: Someone is always going to rearrange my building blocks. Or move my dolls. Or alter my circumstances. Or disappoint my child. Or mess with my schedule. Or paint a picture of my character, however false. And oftentimes I really have no say in the matter.
Our only solution is to cultivate the gentle art of acceptance, of learning not to ask “Why me?” but rather “What am I supposed to learn at this junction of life that will make me a better person and draw me closer to God?” We shouldn’t pout, asking God to get us out of the circumstances. Instead of crying, “Lord, get me out of here!” we should instead be praying, “Lord, why have you brought me here?”
When we willingly accept our lot in life, welcoming all that God is trying to teach us through it, we lose the drive to over- control, to micromanage in an all- out attempt to appear perfect and ensure everything in our lives is “just so.”
As a result, our nerves will be calmed. Our stress level will deflate. Our tasks will be less about work and more about worship. Our decisions will become easier. We will experience more joy and be strapped with less worry. Past experiences will begin to make sense. Our present will seem more doable. Our future will actually begin to come into focus. The pretense of perfection will fade away, and a stunningly striking authenticity will be reflected instead. Life becomes not about self but all about the Savior.
I’ve learned that it’s more important to recognize and praise effort and diligence than outcome and performance.
We can mentally ask ourselves questions that will empower us to maintain calm emotions and keep a healthy perspective. Questions like … “Does it matter now?” “Will it matter tomorrow?” “Will it affect eternity?” “Is God trying to teach me something? If so, what?” “Can I pause and praise instead of interrupt and instigate?” “Is there really an issue here that needs addressing with my child?” “Am I just being a control freak, and do I need to let it go?”
Counsel is giving advice and guidance in a gentle but direct way that helps the person seeking the instruction. Counsel is not barking. Counsel is not belittling.
Yes, we should be conscientious, giving counsel; but we should not be controlling, or complaining with criticism.
The fire doesn’t ignite suddenly when the question is posed or the rule is broken or the household way isn’t followed. Its kindling goes waaaaay back— back to expectations and perceptions.
Amy Carmichael first uttered this concept: “If a sudden jar can cause me to speak an impatient, unloving word, then I know nothing of Calvary love. For a cup brimful of sweet water cannot spill even one drop of bitter water, however suddenly jolted.” 3
Say yes because you feel called, not because you consider yourself capable .
Seek margin. And space.
changing our circumstances rarely changes us.
Esther is the scriptural role model for how to control what you should and trust God with what you can’t. And, more importantly, how to decide which is which!
When we even subconsciously think we can control the situation and the outcome but fall short, we may succumb to situational depression. We must remember that God is God and we are not. We must look to him for our role in the scenario being played out. How should we respond? What should we do? How should we pray?
fast from other things— like talking about the people involved in the situation,
Decide where to glance and where to gaze
God is waiting eagerly to respond with new strength to each little act of self- control, small disciplines of prayer, feeble searching after him. And his children shall be filled if they will only hunger and thirst after what he offers. Richard Holloway
there is the real issue. What is best? Do we always know? And how do we know the difference between what we should try to control and what we should let go of?
Soul control is when we speak God’s truth to ourselves. Soul control is when we recognize that life isn’t fair— that others who seem evil prosper, while the righteous seem to flail about. Soul control is when we pause to remember our place. And God’s. Soul control is learning to idle our brains before we engage our mouths, thereby saving ourselves a boatload of heartache, wounded relationships, and regret. Soul control is when we stop— sometimes midsentence— and realign our thinking and resulting actions with God’s Word. Soul control is when we finally realize that it is only God who has sole control over the universe. We do not. And even though it appears that sometimes people, or even Satan, control the situation, they don’t. Soul control is a fresh dose of perspective amid the turmoil of life that can transform a control- freak woman (who has wounded only with her words perhaps, but killed nonetheless) into a woman who, like transformed David, follows hard after God’s heart.
What does God want me to learn about him that I might never discover if he were to suddenly pluck me out of this situation? • What Christlike character traits is he trying to grow in me— patience, trust, compassion, faith? • Who is watching— either up close or from afar— and discovering what God is like by my reactions to my current situation? • How might my empathy for others deepen if I go through this current trial with grace and acceptance? • What is God trying to say to me, not by the outcome, but through the voyage?
Father, may I learn the secret Paul knew and live it well. I want to be content in whatever circumstances you place me instead of trying my best to wiggle out of them. Teach me to look for you in the midst of what might seem a less- than- lovely situation. I want my heart to no longer be disturbed or disquieted but instead to be confident in and content with you and you alone. I know you already know what is best for me. Help me to see and know it too. Amen .
We fret and worry and waste unnecessary time trying to remedy situations in which we have no business and where our perfectly powdered noses don’t belong.
What we must do is determine the difference between being conscientious (our part) and being in control (God’s job).
We intellectually believe he does what is best for the world in general, but practically we behave as if in our individual situations, we still know what’s best.
there is vast freedom in pursuing a life lived out of our own control.
As Jesus went through his earthly life, he had a plumb line— a solid starting point of reference on which he based all of his decisions. It was straightforward and uncomplicated: he came to do his Father’s will by glorifying him while on earth (John 17:1).
So when it comes to a purchase, an activity, an event, a friendship, a hobby, or a pastime, I ask myself, “Is this a tool, a toy, or a tangent?”
After more than forty years of being female, I have come to a bold and harsh realization: Someone is always going to rearrange my building blocks. Or move my dolls. Or alter my circumstances. Or disappoint my child. Or mess with my schedule. Or paint a picture of my character, however false. And oftentimes I really have no say in the matter.
Our only solution is to cultivate the gentle art of acceptance, of learning not to ask “Why me?” but rather “What am I supposed to learn at this junction of life that will make me a better person and draw me closer to God?” We shouldn’t pout, asking God to get us out of the circumstances. Instead of crying, “Lord, get me out of here!” we should instead be praying, “Lord, why have you brought me here?”
When we willingly accept our lot in life, welcoming all that God is trying to teach us through it, we lose the drive to over- control, to micromanage in an all- out attempt to appear perfect and ensure everything in our lives is “just so.”
As a result, our nerves will be calmed. Our stress level will deflate. Our tasks will be less about work and more about worship. Our decisions will become easier. We will experience more joy and be strapped with less worry. Past experiences will begin to make sense. Our present will seem more doable. Our future will actually begin to come into focus. The pretense of perfection will fade away, and a stunningly striking authenticity will be reflected instead. Life becomes not about self but all about the Savior.
I’ve learned that it’s more important to recognize and praise effort and diligence than outcome and performance.
We can mentally ask ourselves questions that will empower us to maintain calm emotions and keep a healthy perspective. Questions like … “Does it matter now?” “Will it matter tomorrow?” “Will it affect eternity?” “Is God trying to teach me something? If so, what?” “Can I pause and praise instead of interrupt and instigate?” “Is there really an issue here that needs addressing with my child?” “Am I just being a control freak, and do I need to let it go?”
Counsel is giving advice and guidance in a gentle but direct way that helps the person seeking the instruction. Counsel is not barking. Counsel is not belittling.
Yes, we should be conscientious, giving counsel; but we should not be controlling, or complaining with criticism.
The fire doesn’t ignite suddenly when the question is posed or the rule is broken or the household way isn’t followed. Its kindling goes waaaaay back— back to expectations and perceptions.
Amy Carmichael first uttered this concept: “If a sudden jar can cause me to speak an impatient, unloving word, then I know nothing of Calvary love. For a cup brimful of sweet water cannot spill even one drop of bitter water, however suddenly jolted.” 3
Say yes because you feel called, not because you consider yourself capable .
Seek margin. And space.
changing our circumstances rarely changes us.
Esther is the scriptural role model for how to control what you should and trust God with what you can’t. And, more importantly, how to decide which is which!
When we even subconsciously think we can control the situation and the outcome but fall short, we may succumb to situational depression. We must remember that God is God and we are not. We must look to him for our role in the scenario being played out. How should we respond? What should we do? How should we pray?
fast from other things— like talking about the people involved in the situation,
Decide where to glance and where to gaze
God is waiting eagerly to respond with new strength to each little act of self- control, small disciplines of prayer, feeble searching after him. And his children shall be filled if they will only hunger and thirst after what he offers. Richard Holloway
there is the real issue. What is best? Do we always know? And how do we know the difference between what we should try to control and what we should let go of?
Soul control is when we speak God’s truth to ourselves. Soul control is when we recognize that life isn’t fair— that others who seem evil prosper, while the righteous seem to flail about. Soul control is when we pause to remember our place. And God’s. Soul control is learning to idle our brains before we engage our mouths, thereby saving ourselves a boatload of heartache, wounded relationships, and regret. Soul control is when we stop— sometimes midsentence— and realign our thinking and resulting actions with God’s Word. Soul control is when we finally realize that it is only God who has sole control over the universe. We do not. And even though it appears that sometimes people, or even Satan, control the situation, they don’t. Soul control is a fresh dose of perspective amid the turmoil of life that can transform a control- freak woman (who has wounded only with her words perhaps, but killed nonetheless) into a woman who, like transformed David, follows hard after God’s heart.
What does God want me to learn about him that I might never discover if he were to suddenly pluck me out of this situation? • What Christlike character traits is he trying to grow in me— patience, trust, compassion, faith? • Who is watching— either up close or from afar— and discovering what God is like by my reactions to my current situation? • How might my empathy for others deepen if I go through this current trial with grace and acceptance? • What is God trying to say to me, not by the outcome, but through the voyage?
Father, may I learn the secret Paul knew and live it well. I want to be content in whatever circumstances you place me instead of trying my best to wiggle out of them. Teach me to look for you in the midst of what might seem a less- than- lovely situation. I want my heart to no longer be disturbed or disquieted but instead to be confident in and content with you and you alone. I know you already know what is best for me. Help me to see and know it too. Amen .
September 24, 2019
Humorous and easy to read, was useful in a small group study and contained some gems of wisdom. On the other hand, I was bothered by the way the author addressed women in a belittling sort of way. She described manipulative ways women try to get their own way. She failed to even recognize that groups who have traditionally lacked power or authority have needed to resort to other methods. Many of the author's examples seemed dated and weirdly misogynistic. Her examples were so extremely petty that she seemed to be describing clinical personality disorders. It is helpful to remind modern humans that we don't need to control everything in our lives. It is much less useful to specifically criticize one gender or assume the very worst motivations in others.
Sandi G.
Sandi G.
September 28, 2019
While I definitely agree that all of us sometimes add stress to our lives by trying to control things instead of trusting God to be in charge, I didn’t agree with the hypothesis that all women seek control. Plus, there are times when we need to take control; more needed to be said about discerning when we should do that or when we should let it go.
May 7, 2014
Wonderful book that applies to all women all the time and I should probably read regularly, but the style and humor were very...trying. Learned a lot and was definitely challenged though!
June 5, 2017
I loved this book.
And yes, letting go is a problem for me :)
The most useful thing I learned was the difference between tools, toys and tangents, and knowing when to use each of them.
I love the fact that she addresses letting go in all areas of life - home, husbands, kids, etc.
"There are many ways to get to four" and the fact that you have shoes lying around, means you have children who can walk, and so on.
Very freeing... but I still say to have your spaces that are neat to keep your sanity!
And yes, letting go is a problem for me :)
The most useful thing I learned was the difference between tools, toys and tangents, and knowing when to use each of them.
I love the fact that she addresses letting go in all areas of life - home, husbands, kids, etc.
"There are many ways to get to four" and the fact that you have shoes lying around, means you have children who can walk, and so on.
Very freeing... but I still say to have your spaces that are neat to keep your sanity!
January 21, 2021
Here’s a few of my highlighted thoughts from this book:
- Why are we women compelled to control? The answer is simple: because we have a false notion that it actually works.
- we must be trained to embrace this dichotomy of a truth: in order to get a grip, we have to let go.
- instead of crying, “Lord, get me out of here!” We should instead be praying “Lord, why have you brought me here?”
- every need isn’t necessarily our calling. Don’t chime in with a hearty yes because you can perform the task with ease.
- only when we learn to drop the reins will we finally be able to walk in faith.
- True godly contentment is unavailable in microwave form; it needs to be patiently and purposefully cultivated.
- we must cease making odious and odorous comparisons and instead embrace our current lot in life - our past, present and future
- what matters isn’t that I get my own way. What matters is people. Human beings, plain and simple.
- Will you loosen your grip on life and grab tightly to the edge of His [Jesus’] garment? He will see and respond.
- Why are we women compelled to control? The answer is simple: because we have a false notion that it actually works.
- we must be trained to embrace this dichotomy of a truth: in order to get a grip, we have to let go.
- instead of crying, “Lord, get me out of here!” We should instead be praying “Lord, why have you brought me here?”
- every need isn’t necessarily our calling. Don’t chime in with a hearty yes because you can perform the task with ease.
- only when we learn to drop the reins will we finally be able to walk in faith.
- True godly contentment is unavailable in microwave form; it needs to be patiently and purposefully cultivated.
- we must cease making odious and odorous comparisons and instead embrace our current lot in life - our past, present and future
- what matters isn’t that I get my own way. What matters is people. Human beings, plain and simple.
- Will you loosen your grip on life and grab tightly to the edge of His [Jesus’] garment? He will see and respond.
January 8, 2018
I found that this book did not give enough specific, actionable advice. The advice was more general. I also had not realized that the book was heavily focused on women who are wives and mothers, so I could not relate to many of her examples. There were a few parts that I found hard to align with my personal thinking (such as a woman's role is to follow, and a man's is to lead).
January 6, 2014
By far this is one of the best books I have read! Karen Ehman shows you the ropes with lots of humor, how to stop being a control freak! She makes it easy to understand, and give great encouragement along the way. By the time you get to the end of the book you are 100% sure you can do this!
February 25, 2017
If I could give this book 0 stars I would. This is superficial Christianity. It reads like a "how-to" label. It does not speak "real life experiences" to me at all. For those who have NOT experienced deep, profound, life changing pain - this book is for you.
March 23, 2013
Very quick. Not as "deep" as I'd hoped, but some good advice in parts.
March 6, 2024
If you're a woman who doesn't like other women, just like this author, this book is for you! Welcome to a severely antiquated and misogynistic book, even for 2012!
In my reading, I took into account this book is almost twelve years old, and many societal things have changed. However, it is clear very early in this book is not based on much scripture and is largely personal anecdotes from the author. The writing style is excessively descriptive on redundant and irrelevant topics. There is a line between being relatable with a personal anecdote here and there, and 90% of the book being all about the author in agonizing detail.
The author tries extremely hard to be relatable to, I'm assuming, any good-ole midwestern mother in such a "pick-me-girl" manner.
The biggest issue is how the author attempts to justify her misogyny by misinterpreting Genesis 3:16. Essentially claiming women are destined for this unsatiable control over their husbands as a result of Eve eating the apple and tempting Adam. In the original Hebrew text it uses the word "Teshuqah," which is only used three other times in the bible, all relating to the English word "desire." While translators disagree on whether it means "desire" or "turning to/from" the most recent and biggest consensus is that this word means "desire." Ehman's interpretation is just like any other in the unfortunate majority of people who very blindly take passages at face value.
Much of scripture is for interpretation and NOT to be taken literally.
Adam and Ever were created equally, and until Eve had consumed the apple and offers it to Adam, this was the case. It becomes obvious that this is no longer true during Genesis 3:16. It does not seem that now women are destined to be subservient forever, but rather now men and women must wrestle with an unfamiliar relational imbalance.
Another interpretation lends the idea that the desire is for a husband and family DESPITE the pains and troubles that can accompany childbirth.
Even in 2012, spreading the notion of female subservience and twisting scripture as evidence is extremely harmful. It allows and perpetuates abuse in relationships and in societal culture.
Furthermore, Ehamn seems to completely disregard mental health in every aspect, but claims she struggled with anxiety. While people can exhibit manipulative, controlling behaviors, people-pleasing certainly isn't one of them. A constant desire to keep others happy despite oneself can be as a result of trauma or anxiety. Ehman seems to completely ignore this.
In general, Ehman speaks about women in an extremely poor fashion. Even though this is based in Western culture, there are still numerous ways women are treated less than every day. Women in Western society certainly do not "have it easy" as Ehman claims. It is a very blind and privileged claim to make, without any basis. She is also spreading poverty porn regarding her experiences in other countries and "how simple" their lives are.
There are some useful notes for walking in faith and trusting in God that we are on His path, but otherwise this book made me physically cringe. I opted to finish it hoping for some sort of redemption (after taking a break) and for the fact I don't like not finishing books.
In my reading, I took into account this book is almost twelve years old, and many societal things have changed. However, it is clear very early in this book is not based on much scripture and is largely personal anecdotes from the author. The writing style is excessively descriptive on redundant and irrelevant topics. There is a line between being relatable with a personal anecdote here and there, and 90% of the book being all about the author in agonizing detail.
The author tries extremely hard to be relatable to, I'm assuming, any good-ole midwestern mother in such a "pick-me-girl" manner.
The biggest issue is how the author attempts to justify her misogyny by misinterpreting Genesis 3:16. Essentially claiming women are destined for this unsatiable control over their husbands as a result of Eve eating the apple and tempting Adam. In the original Hebrew text it uses the word "Teshuqah," which is only used three other times in the bible, all relating to the English word "desire." While translators disagree on whether it means "desire" or "turning to/from" the most recent and biggest consensus is that this word means "desire." Ehman's interpretation is just like any other in the unfortunate majority of people who very blindly take passages at face value.
Much of scripture is for interpretation and NOT to be taken literally.
Adam and Ever were created equally, and until Eve had consumed the apple and offers it to Adam, this was the case. It becomes obvious that this is no longer true during Genesis 3:16. It does not seem that now women are destined to be subservient forever, but rather now men and women must wrestle with an unfamiliar relational imbalance.
Another interpretation lends the idea that the desire is for a husband and family DESPITE the pains and troubles that can accompany childbirth.
Even in 2012, spreading the notion of female subservience and twisting scripture as evidence is extremely harmful. It allows and perpetuates abuse in relationships and in societal culture.
Furthermore, Ehamn seems to completely disregard mental health in every aspect, but claims she struggled with anxiety. While people can exhibit manipulative, controlling behaviors, people-pleasing certainly isn't one of them. A constant desire to keep others happy despite oneself can be as a result of trauma or anxiety. Ehman seems to completely ignore this.
In general, Ehman speaks about women in an extremely poor fashion. Even though this is based in Western culture, there are still numerous ways women are treated less than every day. Women in Western society certainly do not "have it easy" as Ehman claims. It is a very blind and privileged claim to make, without any basis. She is also spreading poverty porn regarding her experiences in other countries and "how simple" their lives are.
There are some useful notes for walking in faith and trusting in God that we are on His path, but otherwise this book made me physically cringe. I opted to finish it hoping for some sort of redemption (after taking a break) and for the fact I don't like not finishing books.
January 24, 2023
Read this with a group of women and found it to have great talking points and tips. Many seemed to enjoy the book in the group.
I felt like the book has some depth but also lacks it in very important areas, as well. It felt like it was between surface level and deep for most of the book. It's very hit or miss.
For at least the first few chapters, I felt like it was talking about a very stereotypical "white, busy, American mom" who's taking her kids to church every Sunday, every sports game, and cooking every meal, has to plan out every detail, and make everyone happy, etc.
There's nothing wrong with that, but I didn't feel like it was written in a way that connects with me and many others who don't fit that stereotypical description. This is why, for me and I feel like many others, this book is a miss and lacks connection to a broader audience.
I only finished this book to keep up with the group. There were a couple of chapters that I thought were more powerful and thought-provoking than others so I was glad I finished it.
I felt like the book has some depth but also lacks it in very important areas, as well. It felt like it was between surface level and deep for most of the book. It's very hit or miss.
For at least the first few chapters, I felt like it was talking about a very stereotypical "white, busy, American mom" who's taking her kids to church every Sunday, every sports game, and cooking every meal, has to plan out every detail, and make everyone happy, etc.
There's nothing wrong with that, but I didn't feel like it was written in a way that connects with me and many others who don't fit that stereotypical description. This is why, for me and I feel like many others, this book is a miss and lacks connection to a broader audience.
I only finished this book to keep up with the group. There were a couple of chapters that I thought were more powerful and thought-provoking than others so I was glad I finished it.
November 28, 2018
Karen uses the story of Adam and Eve to show why a woman is prone to over control and also why she should not.
Throughout the book, Karen is our control recovering mentor urging us to a more peaceful experience of a life lived out of control. I know what you're thinking. How can a life out of control be more peaceful?
Let’s put it this way: imagine a world where you didn’t have to be in charge of everything. Where things could be done by other people the way they envision it… scared? Me too. But let’s push past that fear of not having our way and imagine the joy that people in our circle will feel when they are empowered to do things as they see fit.
Can you see it? No more arguments about the “right” way of doing things. No more hurt feelings because of inflexibility.
Let. It. Go. is not just a book advising women about how to let things go. It’s a manual that shows us how to take ourselves out of the driver’s seat in every aspect of our lives.
Throughout the book, Karen is our control recovering mentor urging us to a more peaceful experience of a life lived out of control. I know what you're thinking. How can a life out of control be more peaceful?
Let’s put it this way: imagine a world where you didn’t have to be in charge of everything. Where things could be done by other people the way they envision it… scared? Me too. But let’s push past that fear of not having our way and imagine the joy that people in our circle will feel when they are empowered to do things as they see fit.
Can you see it? No more arguments about the “right” way of doing things. No more hurt feelings because of inflexibility.
Let. It. Go. is not just a book advising women about how to let things go. It’s a manual that shows us how to take ourselves out of the driver’s seat in every aspect of our lives.
November 3, 2023
I received this book from a friend who had read it. I believe her response was "It's pretty good."
My response is "It's okay."
The book was published in 2012 but it actually felt older than that at points. The popular events sited as examples may have been good at the time, but they are very dated now. Trying to remember what she was referencing took my concentration away from what I was reading.
Also, there were many sections that specifically spoke to being a mom of young children or children living at home. While that is a very important topic for many people, it no longer applies to me.
I could have, and should have, just skipped those parts but I slogged through. My suggestion, if you read this book and those chapters don't apply to you, definitely skip them.
The author does have some good suggestions in other chapters that would apply to most over-controlling women and I do believe most women will learn something from it.
My response is "It's okay."
The book was published in 2012 but it actually felt older than that at points. The popular events sited as examples may have been good at the time, but they are very dated now. Trying to remember what she was referencing took my concentration away from what I was reading.
Also, there were many sections that specifically spoke to being a mom of young children or children living at home. While that is a very important topic for many people, it no longer applies to me.
I could have, and should have, just skipped those parts but I slogged through. My suggestion, if you read this book and those chapters don't apply to you, definitely skip them.
The author does have some good suggestions in other chapters that would apply to most over-controlling women and I do believe most women will learn something from it.
July 26, 2018
I purchased this book from Amazon to #buddyread with @kaylasonlyheart. Let It Go by Karen Ehman. 🌟🌟🌟🌟 Karen walks us through her humorous life and guides us to let go of the control women seem to possess. It isn't always a bad thing for a woman to control but how you wield that sword determines a certain aspect of your walk in faith, the way your family perceives your behavior, and may cause friction with friends. Not to mention the tool is plays on the stress factor in your daily life. Sometimes its ok to not have it done your way. Learning when and where to just let it go and let it be is rewarding in so many more ways in our journey for Faith. Review also posted on Instagram @borenbooks, Library Thing, Go Read, Goodreads/StacieBoren, Amazon, Twitter @jason_stacie and my blog at readsbystacie.com
May 17, 2017
This book was just what I needed! I happened upon this book by browsing, no recommendation was given or anything like that, but it was meant to be.
Ehman has a beautiful way of writing, humble and down to earth, that really resonated with me as a busy wife and mother. For a Christian writer, too, it was very kind, gentle, and nowhere near as "preachy" as many I have read. Her focus is on her opinions and experiences, and she calls them just that.
As part of a 12 step program, I found so many interrelated ideas and themes between this book and what we discuss in meetings. Truly, this book was so special to me. I loved it!
Ehman has a beautiful way of writing, humble and down to earth, that really resonated with me as a busy wife and mother. For a Christian writer, too, it was very kind, gentle, and nowhere near as "preachy" as many I have read. Her focus is on her opinions and experiences, and she calls them just that.
As part of a 12 step program, I found so many interrelated ideas and themes between this book and what we discuss in meetings. Truly, this book was so special to me. I loved it!
November 10, 2017
This took me longer to get through than I originally thought, but that's because I got sidetracked binge watching Grey's Anatomy! Lol
This book is pretty awesome. Some of the stuff I could really relate to, and then other things were very astutely aligned with other women in my life. There are many thought provoking ideas here, and overall, I would recommend it to anyone who is trying to let go of the things in life you cannot control (which is probably more than you think it is or realize.)
It gets a little repetitive in the middle, but the beginning and end were definitely worth the whole read!
This book is pretty awesome. Some of the stuff I could really relate to, and then other things were very astutely aligned with other women in my life. There are many thought provoking ideas here, and overall, I would recommend it to anyone who is trying to let go of the things in life you cannot control (which is probably more than you think it is or realize.)
It gets a little repetitive in the middle, but the beginning and end were definitely worth the whole read!
December 13, 2023
Not the kind of Christian I aim to be
There's so much of this book that is exactly what people think of when they say things "one of those Christians" and roll their eyes. Antiquated concepts, still in my opinion very controlling and closed minded. And when she was telling the story of the little girl who got whipped, literally right next to her, and she didn't do anything, say anything, didn't even say how she regrets that...this is not the kind of person I want to be like, take advice from, and not someone who is a good example of showing Gods love. I tried, but I couldn't finish the book after that chapter, and it was a struggle prior to that.
There's so much of this book that is exactly what people think of when they say things "one of those Christians" and roll their eyes. Antiquated concepts, still in my opinion very controlling and closed minded. And when she was telling the story of the little girl who got whipped, literally right next to her, and she didn't do anything, say anything, didn't even say how she regrets that...this is not the kind of person I want to be like, take advice from, and not someone who is a good example of showing Gods love. I tried, but I couldn't finish the book after that chapter, and it was a struggle prior to that.
January 14, 2018
This book is geared towards mothers and home makers, especially of the micro-managing and image conscious variety. It sometimes focuses too much on the minutia and gripes more powerfully than it displays and reveals where God is in the details. While the book is preachy, it sometimes places the Christian context of the challenges of motherhood and marriage as more afterthought than focus. It also rotates between clever and snarky/trite to varying effect; at times the tips and strategies are useful and at other times, simply a witty and amusing anecdote.
February 17, 2020
While looking though my digital collection of Christian books, I came upon this title and knew this had to be read immediately- and proceeded to finish it in one day. I've read from Karen Ehman before and appreciate her straightforward writing style, which serves as motivation to strengthen my obedience to God while providing practical ways to focus on the topic at hand. This book was the kick in the pants I needed to look at my own actions and begin to make changes rooted in the Word. I already know I'll be revisiting this book again many times!
November 12, 2021
Women have been wired from birth to control. It seems we all inherited the ‘bossy gene.’
Sometimes we wish we had ‘do-overs’ in life so we could go back and choose a better outcome for ourselves.
Are you ever a control freak about your house or the actions of someone who lives there? Remember one thing – kindness.
Sometimes situations in life occur that rattle our souls.
Comparisons kill our contentment. We are all usually content with our own red Schwinn hand-me-down bike until we spy our neighbor riding by on her brand new, bright blue Mud Puppy.
Sometimes we wish we had ‘do-overs’ in life so we could go back and choose a better outcome for ourselves.
Are you ever a control freak about your house or the actions of someone who lives there? Remember one thing – kindness.
Sometimes situations in life occur that rattle our souls.
Comparisons kill our contentment. We are all usually content with our own red Schwinn hand-me-down bike until we spy our neighbor riding by on her brand new, bright blue Mud Puppy.
January 16, 2024
Karen Ehman did a great job presenting ways in which people struggle to release control of aspects of their lives, handing them over to God. This struggle is real. Great examples and analogies representing this. However very limited in HOW to stop running the show and start walking in faith. I would have enjoyed more in that category.
Great storytelling as well as Biblical references, and my husband enjoyed parts that I read out loud to him. I will say it is definitely more relatable as a woman but some can still be gleaned by men.
Great storytelling as well as Biblical references, and my husband enjoyed parts that I read out loud to him. I will say it is definitely more relatable as a woman but some can still be gleaned by men.
January 25, 2018
I really wanted to love this book. I did enjoy parts of it, and Ehman offers some insight on how to "let go" but ultimately, it seems like she is more concerned about trying to be funny and giving shout outs to her many friends (e.g. "my friend, so and so," etc.). Letting go is important because it forces us to trust God in all circumstances, but I wish Ehman would have focused more on that than trying to be light-hearted and cute. I needed more meat.
December 19, 2017
I was trying to listen to this book, but between the author reading the book and the chapter on submission to husbands... I just couldn't. She spent a lot of time trying to be funny, and it just felt like there was no real content. Who knows, maybe the rest of the book is solid but I couldn't handle it any more after about 1/3 of the book. DNF.
January 6, 2019
I thought Let It Go would be a great read for this *slight* control freak before the schedule, school, and sports start again tomorrow. And it is a book I already had on my bookshelf, so I am also helping fulfill one of my New Year's resolutions. 🎉 I love reading Karen's books; it is like listening to a good friend giving you the best advice.
April 23, 2019
Soulful and heart warming
Another great read by Karen Ehman. Her work is funny, well spoken, and most of all truthful and insightful. She knows just how to keep you looking deeply at yourself, but states it without making you angry when the show fits. I look forward to reading more from this great writer of the truth.
Another great read by Karen Ehman. Her work is funny, well spoken, and most of all truthful and insightful. She knows just how to keep you looking deeply at yourself, but states it without making you angry when the show fits. I look forward to reading more from this great writer of the truth.
April 19, 2020
Trying to be in control at all times is something i struggle with. The freedom of letting God have control as I follow Him is refreshing and calming. It’s not easy to do, but reading this book gave me some ideas of where to let go and to let God. However hard it is to let go, I am going to surrender control to God.
March 20, 2023
The book was okay with a lot of fun anecdotes from the writer’s life; however, I didn’t realize when I got the book that it was a book with a lot of references from the Bible. I do not resonate with it and so I didn’t resonate with most of the book. I wish there were some more practical tips on how to let go.
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