The book starts out a lot different than it ends up. That whole political warzone situation is just the author's rather original way of bringing the H and h together, with their hasty marriage (in a possible life-or-death situation), night of passion and escape from danger, her temporary amnesia and their parting at the airport as he heads back into the danger zone promising a lot more intrigue and adventure than you get.
Instead, it becomes one of those "separated for several years, not married but not divorced" situations, with neither of them doing much to remedy the situation, what with him traveling all over to one danger zone after another as part of his foreign correspondent job, and her finishing college and starting her career as a music teacher.
It's only when the OM (and I'll talk about him later) pushes her to do something about her situation, after two years of not hearing from the H except for a postcard saying he'd visit at Christmas, which he didn't. It was that disappointment that made her start seeing the OM, but strictly on a friendship basis (despite his being horny for her body).
Neither the H nor the h made much of an effort to stay in touch. She tried contacting him once (hoping for a chance at a real marriage) at the agency he worked for, but he was off on another assignment, and she didn't try again after that. He didn't get in touch with her at all for well over a year until that postcard. So, it doesn't seem that either really cared very much, despite our supposed to believe they both really loved each other.
In fact, the feelings on both sides seemed rather weak to me, despite another passionate night when they finally get together again (thanks to her kindly, interfering uncle, who caused a lot of problems with his good deeds). At first the h sees him as a white night who saved her damsel self from danger in a war-torn country, then she starts thinking her feelings were all in her imagination and she never loved him, then she's intensely jealous of the OW (more about her later), then she tries to act indifferent and talks about the OM as if she may consider a future with him, then she tries to convince herself they're better off divorced, then (after a talk with her aunt about marriage) she decides she'll love him forever and lets him know it! Pretty roller coaster erratic to me!
As for the H, he was worse! After their night together (knowing that he was her first and that she had fallen for him) he gives her the old "thank you ma'am" and disappears in a hurry, as covering the counterrevolution was more important than his new wife. In fact, he tells her to forget about him and get a divorce ASAP. He excuses not contacting her by saying he was always on the go with his job, and he told her he wasn't the 9-5 domestic type, and h assumed she'd gone ahead and ended the marriage and about Christmas: well, it seems a friend of his was supposed to contact her about why he didn't show up but apparently that didn't happen. Oh, well! RIDICULOUS! Then, he has the nerve to accuse her of sleeping with the OM (a kiss she didn't enjoy much was as far as she went) as if he'd betrayed him! He later claims he always loved her (why do I have a tough time believing that??) and that the reason he hoped she'd gotten a divorce was so they could start all over again. (WHAT????) Half the time he acts moody and bad tempered, when he's not acting nonchalant about their future. He could really be ANNOYING!!
But their flaws can't compare to the toxic (and I mean TOXIC) OM and OW!! Talk about HORRIBLE people!!!
The OM is twice the h's age (the father of one of her students) who has major issues with women since his wife left him (and I don't blame her a bit). This guy was so crappy that even his money wouldn't be an incentive to be with him (and we're talking mansion and yacht)! He's pushy (keeps telling the h how much he wants to sleep with her when they've just been casually dating, then asks her to marry him (probably thinking that's the only way he'll get her in bed) and seems to take it for granted she'll say yes, keeps pushing her to end her marriage, then sabotages her chance to be head of the music department (he's on the school board and his money/power rule) by telling everyone they'll be getting married soon and she won't want to work anymore.
But MUCH WORSE, when she returns from her visit with the H, and makes the mistake of going horseback riding with the OM (mainly because he kept pestering her) she tells him she still loves the H and is pregnant with his baby (which the H didn't know about yet), he went berserk!!! He started calling her nasty names and then hit her with his riding crop!!!! She took off on the horse to get away from him, fell and got hurt and lost the baby!! He had the nerve to visit her at the hospital and act as if he hadn't done anything wrong, then when he found out she lost the baby he said good, he was glad!!! UNBELIEVABLE!!! She had the nurse throw him out and never saw him again, but she should have had him arrested!!! This guy was dangerous, and his daughter shouldn't be living with him!!!
But they just let it go! Even when the H finds out what happened, he just gets angry but that's it! You'd think after finding out the guy called his wife filthy names, hit her, and caused her to have an accident that killed their unborn baby he would have beaten him to a bloody mess!! (I would have LOVED that!!) but no dice.
As for the OW, she was a popular actress who was a longtime friend of the H but couldn't accept that statis and lies to the h about having an on-and-off affair with the H whenever it suits their purposes, being two free spirits who refuse to be tied down. It seems she was the friend he trusted to tell the h why he didn't show up on Christmas (he'd been in a car accident), and he assumed she'd written to the h (not too bright, is he?) and when he never heard from her, assumed she didn't fare that he could have gotten killed and needed a few months to recover. I guess it never occurred to him to write to her himself afterward, before making that judgment?
But (as with the OM) the OW did a lot worse, as she was the cause of his accident!!! They had gone to a party and afterward she made him stop at her place (she could be just as pushy as the OM), hoping to talk him into spending the night. When he told her he had other plans, which included paying his wife a visit, she drugged his drink, hoping she could keep him there overnight and seduce him into the bargain. Today, had she succeeded, she would have been a rapist!!!
Instead, he left before the drug could take its full effect, which happened on the road later, hence his accident! Had he died, she would have been responsible! But when the H finds out what she did, he reacts pretty much the way the h did with the OM, just lets it go! he says it explains why she was so attentive to him while he was recovering, because she felt guilty, and I guess he feels she redeemed herself??? did he stop to think that she let him leave her house knowing he was drugged and would be driving a car and didn't warn him??? There was NO EXCUSE for that!!!!
So, because the H and h were so lackadaisical about these two horrible excuses for human beings, I'm taking a star off this book, two is all it gets, for potential wasted.