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Without You: A Memoir of Love, Loss, and the Musical "Rent"
The New York Times bestselling memoir of Anthony Rapp, star of Broadway's Pulitzer Prize–winning musical Rent .
Anthony Rapp had a special feeling about Jonathan Larson's rock musical Rent as early as his first audition, which won him a starring role as the video artist Mark Cohen. The Pulitzer Prize-winning Rent opened to thunderous acclaim off-Broadway—but even as friends and family were celebrating the show's first success, they were also mourning Jonathan Larson's sudden death from an aortic aneurysm. And when Anthony's mom began to lose her battle with cancer, Anthony found himself struggling to balance his life in the theater with his responsibility to his family.
In Without You, Anthony tells of his exhilarating journey with the cast and crew of Rent as well as the intimacies of his personal life behind the curtain. Marked by fledgling love and devastating loss, Without You is an exceptional memoir of the world of theater, the love of a son for his mother, and maturity won far too early.
Anthony Rapp had a special feeling about Jonathan Larson's rock musical Rent as early as his first audition, which won him a starring role as the video artist Mark Cohen. The Pulitzer Prize-winning Rent opened to thunderous acclaim off-Broadway—but even as friends and family were celebrating the show's first success, they were also mourning Jonathan Larson's sudden death from an aortic aneurysm. And when Anthony's mom began to lose her battle with cancer, Anthony found himself struggling to balance his life in the theater with his responsibility to his family.
In Without You, Anthony tells of his exhilarating journey with the cast and crew of Rent as well as the intimacies of his personal life behind the curtain. Marked by fledgling love and devastating loss, Without You is an exceptional memoir of the world of theater, the love of a son for his mother, and maturity won far too early.
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Anthony Rapp
4 books1,957 followersAnthony (Deane) Rapp is an American stage and film actor and singer.
Rapp first performed on Broadway in 1981 in the flop The Little Prince and the Aviator, a musical based on Antoine de Saint-Exupéry's novel The Little Prince. The show closed during previews. He also appeared in the 1987 movie Adventures in Babysitting, which was directed by Chris Columbus. Columbus would later direct Rapp in the film version of Rent.
Rapp has gone on to appear in several movies and Broadway shows, most notably as intellectuals. His notable work includes films Dazed and Confused, A Beautiful Mind, School Ties, Road Trip, the stage and film versions of Six Degrees of Separation, and An American Family.
Rapp is probably best known for playing Mark Cohen in the off-Broadway and original Broadway casts of Jonathan Larson's musical Rent. For his audition for the musical, Rapp sang R.E.M.'s "Losing My Religion." He reprised that role in the film adaptation, which was released in November of 2005. Rapp has embraced his role as an unofficial spokesperson for the musical and has given numerous television and print interviews regarding the show and its development. Some of Rapp's photographs from rehearsals of Rent have been published.
In 2000, Rapp released a solo CD, entitled Look Around.
Rapp and Pascal, along with fellow original cast member Gwen Stewart, reprised their roles of Mark and Roger in a national tour of Rent beginning January 6, 2009.
Rapp recently worked on a production of Without You, a one man show based on his memoirs concerning Rent, the death of Jonathan Larson and the death of his mother. It premiered at City Theatre in Pittsburgh, PA. He recently presented this piece in New York at Joe's Pub on September 29, 2009.
Rapp first performed on Broadway in 1981 in the flop The Little Prince and the Aviator, a musical based on Antoine de Saint-Exupéry's novel The Little Prince. The show closed during previews. He also appeared in the 1987 movie Adventures in Babysitting, which was directed by Chris Columbus. Columbus would later direct Rapp in the film version of Rent.
Rapp has gone on to appear in several movies and Broadway shows, most notably as intellectuals. His notable work includes films Dazed and Confused, A Beautiful Mind, School Ties, Road Trip, the stage and film versions of Six Degrees of Separation, and An American Family.
Rapp is probably best known for playing Mark Cohen in the off-Broadway and original Broadway casts of Jonathan Larson's musical Rent. For his audition for the musical, Rapp sang R.E.M.'s "Losing My Religion." He reprised that role in the film adaptation, which was released in November of 2005. Rapp has embraced his role as an unofficial spokesperson for the musical and has given numerous television and print interviews regarding the show and its development. Some of Rapp's photographs from rehearsals of Rent have been published.
In 2000, Rapp released a solo CD, entitled Look Around.
Rapp and Pascal, along with fellow original cast member Gwen Stewart, reprised their roles of Mark and Roger in a national tour of Rent beginning January 6, 2009.
Rapp recently worked on a production of Without You, a one man show based on his memoirs concerning Rent, the death of Jonathan Larson and the death of his mother. It premiered at City Theatre in Pittsburgh, PA. He recently presented this piece in New York at Joe's Pub on September 29, 2009.
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January 15, 2016
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I’ve wanted to read this for a while, but not before seeing at least the movie version of Rent. Off to the library I went and borrowed a copy of both film and book. I’m certain I would have appreciated this story, loosely based on Puccini's La Bohème, a lot more in its original version as a play, and had I been about 30 years younger. Back then I probably would have been able to empathize with a cast of talentless characters who wanted to succeed as artists, but who could barely keep a roof over their heads. Now, I just look at them with disdain and wish they would find a job.
If the characters were likable, I may have been able to forgive their flaws. They were miserable, whiny, self-indulgent, irresponsible and lazy. The story took place in New York, but nothing in the film reminded me of the city. The songs, while sung with passion, were loud and repetitive, and by the film’s conclusion, I could barely remember a single song or any of the lyrics. There are other films that deal with drug addiction, homosexuality, poverty and AIDS much more sensitively. Sadly, this was not one of them.
Even though I didn’t care for Rent, I enjoyed reading of the hard work, love, passion and joy that went into making the play.
Anthony Rapp, who played Mark Cohen in the play and film, wrote a very powerful, touching and honest memoir detailing his theater experiences, his relationships with cast members, family and friends, his sexuality, and his mother’s battle with cancer. Even if you haven’t seen, or are not a fan of Rent, this engrossing memoir is well worth reading. Anthony writes so candidly, openly and personally about his life and work, that I often felt I was sitting across a table from him rather than reading his book.
Very well done.
I’ve wanted to read this for a while, but not before seeing at least the movie version of Rent. Off to the library I went and borrowed a copy of both film and book. I’m certain I would have appreciated this story, loosely based on Puccini's La Bohème, a lot more in its original version as a play, and had I been about 30 years younger. Back then I probably would have been able to empathize with a cast of talentless characters who wanted to succeed as artists, but who could barely keep a roof over their heads. Now, I just look at them with disdain and wish they would find a job.
If the characters were likable, I may have been able to forgive their flaws. They were miserable, whiny, self-indulgent, irresponsible and lazy. The story took place in New York, but nothing in the film reminded me of the city. The songs, while sung with passion, were loud and repetitive, and by the film’s conclusion, I could barely remember a single song or any of the lyrics. There are other films that deal with drug addiction, homosexuality, poverty and AIDS much more sensitively. Sadly, this was not one of them.
Even though I didn’t care for Rent, I enjoyed reading of the hard work, love, passion and joy that went into making the play.
“Chills shot up my arms and spine and the back of my head. I had never heard a song like it, especially in a musical; there was a directness and a simplicity and a groove to it that were thrillingly new to my ears. I felt everyone in the room lean forward into the music.”
Anthony Rapp, who played Mark Cohen in the play and film, wrote a very powerful, touching and honest memoir detailing his theater experiences, his relationships with cast members, family and friends, his sexuality, and his mother’s battle with cancer. Even if you haven’t seen, or are not a fan of Rent, this engrossing memoir is well worth reading. Anthony writes so candidly, openly and personally about his life and work, that I often felt I was sitting across a table from him rather than reading his book.
Very well done.
February 3, 2020
If I could give this book ten stars I fucking would.
May 9, 2023
I am grateful to Anthony for having written this book. His writing is eloquent and revealing. He is brutally honest about the less savory aspects of his personality and events in his life and he comes out the other side, if not elegantly, with a sort of grace that comes with growth.
As a (albeit much less successful) performer myself, and being almost exactly the same generation as Anthony and also from a midwestern Catholic family, there were many many things I felt I could directly relate to.
Despite being a straight female I find it wonderful how Anthony has bravely become a champion and role model of gay rights. I think of my best friend in High School who suffered greatly as the only open gay boy at our school and wished that he had had a role model like Anthony to look up to and contact and speak to.
I love how humbly Anthony speaks of his work as a performer and how engagingly he shows that he is just a regular guy who also struggles with life and death and success and failure. Thank you, Anthony.
What I (happily?) have no connection to is losing a parent. Mine are both alive. I know that everyone deals with grief in their own way, so even though I can’t really relate to Anthony’s grief, he makes it so tangible that it works for the reader as a catharsis as well.
Edit (May 2021): This came up on my feed and rereading my review I realize that a few short months after I read this (March 2020) my own mother died (August 2020). The circumstances were much different to Anthony’s though. My mother died after a few days in the hospital and I was on another continent. I will listen to Anthony’s recounting because I’m sure there’s something new I can relate to now.
As a (albeit much less successful) performer myself, and being almost exactly the same generation as Anthony and also from a midwestern Catholic family, there were many many things I felt I could directly relate to.
Despite being a straight female I find it wonderful how Anthony has bravely become a champion and role model of gay rights. I think of my best friend in High School who suffered greatly as the only open gay boy at our school and wished that he had had a role model like Anthony to look up to and contact and speak to.
I love how humbly Anthony speaks of his work as a performer and how engagingly he shows that he is just a regular guy who also struggles with life and death and success and failure. Thank you, Anthony.
What I (happily?) have no connection to is losing a parent. Mine are both alive. I know that everyone deals with grief in their own way, so even though I can’t really relate to Anthony’s grief, he makes it so tangible that it works for the reader as a catharsis as well.
Edit (May 2021): This came up on my feed and rereading my review I realize that a few short months after I read this (March 2020) my own mother died (August 2020). The circumstances were much different to Anthony’s though. My mother died after a few days in the hospital and I was on another continent. I will listen to Anthony’s recounting because I’m sure there’s something new I can relate to now.
July 22, 2020
The most profoundly honest story of personal growth I've ever read. There's bravery in sharing such intimate moments of your life without flinching from your own flawed, achingly human reactions and thoughts. I wouldn't want to trivialize those moments with my own comments. I'm sure there will be more chapters added some day, and I look forward to experiencing them. Preferably with more happy tears.
May 11, 2019
Re-read 2019/5/11:
This time I listened to the audiobook read by the author himself and I would love to give this an extra star. Yet since I'm already at 5 .... The reading is so good!
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I picked up the book, cause I liked the casting photo of Anthony Rapp on the Discovery announcement. Weird reason, but sometimes I see somebody I don’t know the slightest bit of and get curious, cause something in the facial expression speaks to me. I had no idea of Anthony Rapp and of Rent and just wanted to learn a bit about both person and show.
What I didn’t expect, was to find my own personal therapeutic book here. When my mother died of cancer my two boys were still very young. It was the first death they witnessed and I wanted to move heaven and earth to bring it to them in a way that death was a natural thing, that it was nothing to be afraid of – well, the usual stuff a mother thinks best for her kids. What I didn’t do – and what I didn’t even fully realise until I read these memoires – was to give myself time for my loss and my anger.
When I came across the line where Rapp states, that he didn’t want to get any more phone calls like that from home (a message that his mother was worse again), git hit me in the guts. This feeling I came to know so intimately and at the same time I always felt ashamed of, cause the ones who really suffered the most were the folks back at home. To read this line was like a revelation – I was not alone.
This book first opened scars I didn’t know I had and then allowed me to let them heal. Allowing myself for the first time to be angry, to feel self pity, to go through all the contradictionary feelings – to finally cry (a lot). And being told that everything was okay. That it was completely okay how I felt. There is beauty and deepest sadness side by side at the same time – and both are true, both are me.
I very much enjoyed the rough and authentic prose of the book, the insight into the stage life and into a young, rebellious mind – but what made this novel so precious and so personal for me was indeed the honest recounting of the slow cancer dying of Rapp’s mother. Listening to Rapp perform these memoires on CD is even more intense. The feeling he is able to bring to his voice is overwhelming.
I started reading, because I wanted to learn a bit more about the author, and I ended up learning a lot more about myself. I can not thank you enough for that, Anthony Rapp!
(And, BTW, this book also made me watch the Rent-movie, buy the musical score and play the songs on my piano …)
This time I listened to the audiobook read by the author himself and I would love to give this an extra star. Yet since I'm already at 5 .... The reading is so good!
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I picked up the book, cause I liked the casting photo of Anthony Rapp on the Discovery announcement. Weird reason, but sometimes I see somebody I don’t know the slightest bit of and get curious, cause something in the facial expression speaks to me. I had no idea of Anthony Rapp and of Rent and just wanted to learn a bit about both person and show.
What I didn’t expect, was to find my own personal therapeutic book here. When my mother died of cancer my two boys were still very young. It was the first death they witnessed and I wanted to move heaven and earth to bring it to them in a way that death was a natural thing, that it was nothing to be afraid of – well, the usual stuff a mother thinks best for her kids. What I didn’t do – and what I didn’t even fully realise until I read these memoires – was to give myself time for my loss and my anger.
When I came across the line where Rapp states, that he didn’t want to get any more phone calls like that from home (a message that his mother was worse again), git hit me in the guts. This feeling I came to know so intimately and at the same time I always felt ashamed of, cause the ones who really suffered the most were the folks back at home. To read this line was like a revelation – I was not alone.
This book first opened scars I didn’t know I had and then allowed me to let them heal. Allowing myself for the first time to be angry, to feel self pity, to go through all the contradictionary feelings – to finally cry (a lot). And being told that everything was okay. That it was completely okay how I felt. There is beauty and deepest sadness side by side at the same time – and both are true, both are me.
I very much enjoyed the rough and authentic prose of the book, the insight into the stage life and into a young, rebellious mind – but what made this novel so precious and so personal for me was indeed the honest recounting of the slow cancer dying of Rapp’s mother. Listening to Rapp perform these memoires on CD is even more intense. The feeling he is able to bring to his voice is overwhelming.
I started reading, because I wanted to learn a bit more about the author, and I ended up learning a lot more about myself. I can not thank you enough for that, Anthony Rapp!
(And, BTW, this book also made me watch the Rent-movie, buy the musical score and play the songs on my piano …)
January 7, 2009
Very good. I was inspired to read it because I'm going to see Rent this weekend, starring original Broadway (and movie) cast members Rapp and Adam Pascal. Rapp was very open and honest in this book, sharing primarily his memories of his journey as one of the original members of the Rent cast, through Jonathan Larson's death and opening on Broadway, and most of all through his mother's life and death. Having lost my mother to cancer as well, I really identified with a lot of what he went through. My favorite line is a quote from one of his brother, Adam Rapp's Plays (Nocturne), "Grief does not expire like a candle or the beacon on a lighthouse. It simply changes temperature."
August 25, 2011
Overshare? Why, yes I will, thank you. For a condensed review: This is a great memoir, not just about Rent, but about grief and love and honesty. For way more information about most-likely-irrelevant-to-you connections I made to my own experience, read here...
January 22, 2020
I didn't get to fully immerse myself in RENT until the movie was released in 2005. After seeing it at the movie theater, I quickly bought the dvd and consumed all the extras, getting to learn more about the cast and how RENT made it to the stage. This love of RENT led me to Anthony's book. I was intrigued by him because he was with the show from the beginning and because I was curious about his journey as Mark. I remember first reading this book around 2008. I loved it at the time - mostly because I got to learn more about Anthony and the "making of" RENT. Since then, I was lucky enough to see him perform in the show while on tour (2009).
I reread the book earlier this year, and I appreciated it even more this time around. I've been lucky enough not to experience much loss and grief in my life. However, I can fully appreciate Anthony's honesty and openness, not only about his grief, but throughout the book. I can also relate to the moments when he shared some truly "out of body" episodes as he was going through both the best and worst experiences of his life. Anthony does an excellent job at expressing himself and I found myself crying many times throughout this poignant story.
Lastly, I heard good things about the audiobook and decided to give it a try. I just finished it, so this is fresh in my mind. Listening to this book made me experience it on another, deeper level. Anthony himself narrated it, making it much more personal. His grief and emotions throughout are palpable and often left me feeling very emotional. *Bonus: He has an excellent voice and is lovely to listen to.*
This book is a great read to learn more about RENT and it's history of becoming a big hit. However, it is MUCH more that that. It's a story about grief and working through it, as well as about Anthony's life - growing up in the business, his sexuality, and about family struggles. I have so much respect for Anthony Rapp and what he's gone through in his life. I've recommended this amazing book to many others in my life.
I reread the book earlier this year, and I appreciated it even more this time around. I've been lucky enough not to experience much loss and grief in my life. However, I can fully appreciate Anthony's honesty and openness, not only about his grief, but throughout the book. I can also relate to the moments when he shared some truly "out of body" episodes as he was going through both the best and worst experiences of his life. Anthony does an excellent job at expressing himself and I found myself crying many times throughout this poignant story.
Lastly, I heard good things about the audiobook and decided to give it a try. I just finished it, so this is fresh in my mind. Listening to this book made me experience it on another, deeper level. Anthony himself narrated it, making it much more personal. His grief and emotions throughout are palpable and often left me feeling very emotional. *Bonus: He has an excellent voice and is lovely to listen to.*
This book is a great read to learn more about RENT and it's history of becoming a big hit. However, it is MUCH more that that. It's a story about grief and working through it, as well as about Anthony's life - growing up in the business, his sexuality, and about family struggles. I have so much respect for Anthony Rapp and what he's gone through in his life. I've recommended this amazing book to many others in my life.
August 22, 2009
My advice to Anthony Rapp would be to stick to acting and not writing. Either that, or don't be ambiguous about the contents of what he is writing.
This book should not have included "and the Musical Rent" in the title, because I honestly felt that he touched very little on the subject. I was under the impression upon going into this book that it would have been more focused on his time working with the show, especially since he was there since the start, and his experience through it all and NOT a 300 page rant about his teenage sex life and how he felt his mother was never truly accepting of his sexuality. It started out strong, opening on his audition day for the role of Mark Cohen, and from there it went downhill. I almost felt that Rapp was trying to justify his lifestyle not to the readers, but to himself. The whole writing style was forced and insecure, and quite frankly a bit dramatic.
I was let down. I feel that he could have written a better book if he had merely focused more on RENT and his mother's last few years and left out all unnecessary details of his many relationships from high school to present time. I would have been much more interested in hearing about all the behind the scenes work and stories from his time with the musical instead of all the time he met a cute guy and couldn't commit.
This book should not have included "and the Musical Rent" in the title, because I honestly felt that he touched very little on the subject. I was under the impression upon going into this book that it would have been more focused on his time working with the show, especially since he was there since the start, and his experience through it all and NOT a 300 page rant about his teenage sex life and how he felt his mother was never truly accepting of his sexuality. It started out strong, opening on his audition day for the role of Mark Cohen, and from there it went downhill. I almost felt that Rapp was trying to justify his lifestyle not to the readers, but to himself. The whole writing style was forced and insecure, and quite frankly a bit dramatic.
I was let down. I feel that he could have written a better book if he had merely focused more on RENT and his mother's last few years and left out all unnecessary details of his many relationships from high school to present time. I would have been much more interested in hearing about all the behind the scenes work and stories from his time with the musical instead of all the time he met a cute guy and couldn't commit.
May 19, 2008
Let me preface this review by saying that I absolutely love the musical Rent...and I've loved it for a long time. In fact, although I'm certainly not as hardcore as some Rentheads, I've even seen the musical three times.
That being said, I found the actual writing of this memoir almost painful to digest...perhaps for the simple fact that Anthony Rapp is an actor, and a very talented one at that. But he's not a writer. And while I found his stories about how he became involved in Rent, his struggles/hurdles as a gay man, and his devastation at losing his mother incredibly interesting at heart, his prose was a bit too self-involved and self-indulgent. I mean, I guess a certain degree of that is just inherent in the memoir genre.
My overall opinion: If you love Rent, this book is worth the read as it gives you lots of fun insights into how the musical was born, morphed, and became the phenomenon that it is today. But try not to have any expectations for the prose; it certainly won't knock you off your feet. And be warned, the dialogue gets pretty painful to read in places.
That being said, I found the actual writing of this memoir almost painful to digest...perhaps for the simple fact that Anthony Rapp is an actor, and a very talented one at that. But he's not a writer. And while I found his stories about how he became involved in Rent, his struggles/hurdles as a gay man, and his devastation at losing his mother incredibly interesting at heart, his prose was a bit too self-involved and self-indulgent. I mean, I guess a certain degree of that is just inherent in the memoir genre.
My overall opinion: If you love Rent, this book is worth the read as it gives you lots of fun insights into how the musical was born, morphed, and became the phenomenon that it is today. But try not to have any expectations for the prose; it certainly won't knock you off your feet. And be warned, the dialogue gets pretty painful to read in places.
September 21, 2015
So if you go in to this hoping for funny behind the scenes vignettes from working on RENT for so long, this will disappoint you. This is much more a memoir and less a light hearted tell all.
Some things you should know before reading this: 1) this review is deeply personal so if you could avoid flaming or trolling it, it would be even more appreciated than usual, and 2) I am a massive RENThead and have been since I was fourteen so I might be a teensy bit biased. That said I am giving it four stars because I went in to it expecting something different than what I got, so call it a star sacrificed on the altar of dissonance.
Death is one of the most heartbreaking things you will ever experience. Much is made of love being the strongest emotion a human can experience, but that is false. It is grief. There are so few words to describe the feeling that comes over you when your best friend in this entire world, the friend that made you finally believe you deserved love, dies, and dies after suffering. But even his death was a gift because now I don’t shy away from mortality. I won’t be Anthony, trying to find out what to say to my dying mother or maybe another friend with a terminal illness.
One thing people don’t tell you about death is that when the person you loved most in the world, a person you would call a soul mate even though your relationship never had the slightest hint of romance, dies…everyone comes to pick his corpse. People take pieces away. His heart, his lungs. His eyes. His face (prompting his young son to ask "does daddy have a face?". But the worst thing is when they take his voice, his mouth, and make his fleshless jaw move. Suddenly my sweet friend who had only raised his voice to me once in our entire relationship was made to say things, for example, in support of homophobia. Suddenly people’s opinions, no matter how divergent from his, were followed with “and he would have agreed.” When Anthony speaks about seeing his mother’s picture at the funeral, how it looked nothing like her, that familiar heavy shroud pressed on my chest. Suddenly she wasn’t his mother anymore, but a patchwork quilt of memories, a delicate thing of spiderwebs and shadows that could no longer be said to resemble a person. People remembered selectively, in ways that benefited them.
Anthony also talks about the emotional affair he had with one man while being trapped in an abusive relationship with another. This played out in my life a couple of times. You’re too afraid to leave so you find an outlet in someone else. Everyone leaves broken. And even though it is Anthony who finally throws a punch, it’s Todd who is the abuser. It’s Todd who presses Anthony over and over, besetting him with jealousy and paranoia and neuroticism until Anthony becomes everything the abuser tells him he is. He cheats. He lashes out. He has been told for so long that he is sick and fucked in the head that he slowly becomes the monster his abuser tells him he is. And then when Anthony finally snaps and hits Todd after days of abuse, Todd gets to tell everyone that Anthony hit him, you see, and therefore Anthony is really the abusive one. It’s a neat little series of tricks that all abusers know by heart.
And then when his mother finally dies, the culture of silence in his family is heartbreaking to watch. At a time when people should be honest, they can't figure out what to say to each other. They deprive one another, Anthony and his siblings, of the comfort that could be given in such a life changing moment.
Really, Anthony's life is the story of RENT itself, in a way. He plays Mark, an emotionally detached film maker and one of the only characters not struggling to find meaning even as they fight AIDS. He's a hypocrite too, "preaching not to be numb, when that's how you thrive." So even though his personal life orients around his mother's cancer and not a friend with AIDS, the association is there. When the show's creator drops dead (quite literally, a weak valve in his heart knocking him to the ground and finishing him off) on opening night, the only way Anthony can even attempt to process his grief and shock is by pouring it in to his performance.
Therefore this book is powerful, particularly if you've ever struggled with any of these issues. Anthony is queer, too, at a time even more hostile to alternative sexualities than now. His alienation is all over the pages of this little book, and anyone who knows the sting of isolation will find something to relate to here. While you won't find many RENT stories, you will find something better: honesty.
Some things you should know before reading this: 1) this review is deeply personal so if you could avoid flaming or trolling it, it would be even more appreciated than usual, and 2) I am a massive RENThead and have been since I was fourteen so I might be a teensy bit biased. That said I am giving it four stars because I went in to it expecting something different than what I got, so call it a star sacrificed on the altar of dissonance.
Death is one of the most heartbreaking things you will ever experience. Much is made of love being the strongest emotion a human can experience, but that is false. It is grief. There are so few words to describe the feeling that comes over you when your best friend in this entire world, the friend that made you finally believe you deserved love, dies, and dies after suffering. But even his death was a gift because now I don’t shy away from mortality. I won’t be Anthony, trying to find out what to say to my dying mother or maybe another friend with a terminal illness.
One thing people don’t tell you about death is that when the person you loved most in the world, a person you would call a soul mate even though your relationship never had the slightest hint of romance, dies…everyone comes to pick his corpse. People take pieces away. His heart, his lungs. His eyes. His face (prompting his young son to ask "does daddy have a face?". But the worst thing is when they take his voice, his mouth, and make his fleshless jaw move. Suddenly my sweet friend who had only raised his voice to me once in our entire relationship was made to say things, for example, in support of homophobia. Suddenly people’s opinions, no matter how divergent from his, were followed with “and he would have agreed.” When Anthony speaks about seeing his mother’s picture at the funeral, how it looked nothing like her, that familiar heavy shroud pressed on my chest. Suddenly she wasn’t his mother anymore, but a patchwork quilt of memories, a delicate thing of spiderwebs and shadows that could no longer be said to resemble a person. People remembered selectively, in ways that benefited them.
Anthony also talks about the emotional affair he had with one man while being trapped in an abusive relationship with another. This played out in my life a couple of times. You’re too afraid to leave so you find an outlet in someone else. Everyone leaves broken. And even though it is Anthony who finally throws a punch, it’s Todd who is the abuser. It’s Todd who presses Anthony over and over, besetting him with jealousy and paranoia and neuroticism until Anthony becomes everything the abuser tells him he is. He cheats. He lashes out. He has been told for so long that he is sick and fucked in the head that he slowly becomes the monster his abuser tells him he is. And then when Anthony finally snaps and hits Todd after days of abuse, Todd gets to tell everyone that Anthony hit him, you see, and therefore Anthony is really the abusive one. It’s a neat little series of tricks that all abusers know by heart.
And then when his mother finally dies, the culture of silence in his family is heartbreaking to watch. At a time when people should be honest, they can't figure out what to say to each other. They deprive one another, Anthony and his siblings, of the comfort that could be given in such a life changing moment.
Really, Anthony's life is the story of RENT itself, in a way. He plays Mark, an emotionally detached film maker and one of the only characters not struggling to find meaning even as they fight AIDS. He's a hypocrite too, "preaching not to be numb, when that's how you thrive." So even though his personal life orients around his mother's cancer and not a friend with AIDS, the association is there. When the show's creator drops dead (quite literally, a weak valve in his heart knocking him to the ground and finishing him off) on opening night, the only way Anthony can even attempt to process his grief and shock is by pouring it in to his performance.
Therefore this book is powerful, particularly if you've ever struggled with any of these issues. Anthony is queer, too, at a time even more hostile to alternative sexualities than now. His alienation is all over the pages of this little book, and anyone who knows the sting of isolation will find something to relate to here. While you won't find many RENT stories, you will find something better: honesty.
December 29, 2013
Anyone who follows my Twitter account knows this book absolutely devastated me. I read it on two legs of a cross-country flight and the people around me were absolutely giving me concerned looks as I teared up and sniffled and once even stopped reading, set the book down and closed my eyes to take deep breaths. It hit home.
So much of Anthony Rapp's life parallels my own. Not perfectly, of course -- I'm not claiming to be the man's twin. There are some obvious differences -- the successful theater career being a biggie. But we're both gay. We both had teen experiences with that that our mothers didn't handle well upon discovery. We both struggled to gain our mother's (and in my case, father's) acceptance. We both lost our mothers to protracted battles with cancer that featured at least one "she's got this beat" rebound. And seeing these parallels woven around the story of RENT's journey from workshop to Pulitzer-winning Broadway hit was kind of surreal for me.
"Seeing your life paralleled in a book isn't enough to give it five stars," you might say. Valid point, to which I'd respond first that there are plenty of technically proficient classics I've read that didn't resonate with me on an emotional level the way this book did (my fall-back example for this is always "The Catcher In The Rye," which left me cold). Outside of that, what works for me about this book is that Rapp writes with open and free emotion; he's not trying to recall these events from a cold disconnected distance, not trying to cast a critical eye on what happened. He wrote this book on the eve of the release of the movie version of RENT, and most likely that's what brought the context so sharply into focus -- maybe, just maybe, this book would not have been so emotional if he'd written it when he's 70 -- but whether Rapp carries these scars and triumphs with him daily or making the movie brought them back to the fore is irrelevant. The story Rapp has to tell is intensely personal for those of us who have dealt with coming out and the loss of a loved one to a horrible disease and just as intensely universal for anyone who has experienced loss and loss.
So much of Anthony Rapp's life parallels my own. Not perfectly, of course -- I'm not claiming to be the man's twin. There are some obvious differences -- the successful theater career being a biggie. But we're both gay. We both had teen experiences with that that our mothers didn't handle well upon discovery. We both struggled to gain our mother's (and in my case, father's) acceptance. We both lost our mothers to protracted battles with cancer that featured at least one "she's got this beat" rebound. And seeing these parallels woven around the story of RENT's journey from workshop to Pulitzer-winning Broadway hit was kind of surreal for me.
"Seeing your life paralleled in a book isn't enough to give it five stars," you might say. Valid point, to which I'd respond first that there are plenty of technically proficient classics I've read that didn't resonate with me on an emotional level the way this book did (my fall-back example for this is always "The Catcher In The Rye," which left me cold). Outside of that, what works for me about this book is that Rapp writes with open and free emotion; he's not trying to recall these events from a cold disconnected distance, not trying to cast a critical eye on what happened. He wrote this book on the eve of the release of the movie version of RENT, and most likely that's what brought the context so sharply into focus -- maybe, just maybe, this book would not have been so emotional if he'd written it when he's 70 -- but whether Rapp carries these scars and triumphs with him daily or making the movie brought them back to the fore is irrelevant. The story Rapp has to tell is intensely personal for those of us who have dealt with coming out and the loss of a loved one to a horrible disease and just as intensely universal for anyone who has experienced loss and loss.
July 26, 2019
I met Anthony at summer camp and we only really chatted once. Even then, I think everyone recognized his incredible talent and so he had a reputation of being one of the kids who was going to make it really big. I also remember both the guys he talked about in the book - Ben was so funny and I remember him always cracking us up. He was always on the edge and even then I worried for him because despite being totally hilarious, he seemed, well... too close to the edge. It was so sad to hear the story of his death to AIDS but also great to hear how he made his own interpretation of his illness. That was powerful. And yet I can't believe he's gone.
His memoir brought back a LOT of memories for me. Navy blue corduroy knickers, "coke dates", making tapes for your friends, waterfights and campfires.... and something I had totally forgotten - star spinning. I remember our cabin had a co-ed camp-out on the boys side of the woods and that night we were all star-spinning. To be young again..... anyways, I digress...
What I really appreciated about this book was Rapp's complete honesty about his feelings and his life experiences. One impression I had of him is that he's not the most open guy with people he doesn't know (apparently even with people he does know) so I give him a ton of credit for writing something like this. It gave me a really good insight into how difficult it is to come-out to your family even in good circumstances and in a semi-understanding family. I guess I understand a little bit better the desire to be fully recognized and embraced in a hetero-centric mid-western environment and maybe how impossible that still is.
So, I think the other reviewers should keep in mind that the book isn't a novel - it's a memoir. I think in a memoir one is not really looking for fancy prose but for insights into a person's life and innermost thoughts. If that's the case I think Anthony delivered the goods.
His memoir brought back a LOT of memories for me. Navy blue corduroy knickers, "coke dates", making tapes for your friends, waterfights and campfires.... and something I had totally forgotten - star spinning. I remember our cabin had a co-ed camp-out on the boys side of the woods and that night we were all star-spinning. To be young again..... anyways, I digress...
What I really appreciated about this book was Rapp's complete honesty about his feelings and his life experiences. One impression I had of him is that he's not the most open guy with people he doesn't know (apparently even with people he does know) so I give him a ton of credit for writing something like this. It gave me a really good insight into how difficult it is to come-out to your family even in good circumstances and in a semi-understanding family. I guess I understand a little bit better the desire to be fully recognized and embraced in a hetero-centric mid-western environment and maybe how impossible that still is.
So, I think the other reviewers should keep in mind that the book isn't a novel - it's a memoir. I think in a memoir one is not really looking for fancy prose but for insights into a person's life and innermost thoughts. If that's the case I think Anthony delivered the goods.
March 25, 2020
I'm trying to find the words for this one. First of all, I love RENT. RENT was a huge part of my coming-of-age, and every time I hear the guitar riffs of the opening number I'm immediately transported back to the early 2000s and my formative years. Also, I'd happily listen to Anthony Rapp read the alphabet for 9 hours straight. No joke -- I'd pay money to listen to him and Leslie Odom, Jr. read nutrition labels.
But this memoir, my goodness. The vulnerability Rapp shares feels sacred. It's breathtaking. I'm not sure I've read a grief experience in a memoir as raw and authentic, and I feel so grateful for his generosity in sharing his pain and growth and life with us. It's a gift.
Should I find myself teaching a death, dying & loss class in my career, this will certainly be on the syllabus.
But this memoir, my goodness. The vulnerability Rapp shares feels sacred. It's breathtaking. I'm not sure I've read a grief experience in a memoir as raw and authentic, and I feel so grateful for his generosity in sharing his pain and growth and life with us. It's a gift.
Should I find myself teaching a death, dying & loss class in my career, this will certainly be on the syllabus.
March 22, 2008
I loved the parts that mention Rent. I cried at the parts where his mother was dying, having lost my own father to cancer. I just didn't understand why there had to be almost explicit sex scenes...To me they just didn't fit into the book & detracted from it.
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
February 26, 2023
This is my second read through and the emotional impact was greater this time around.
Raw emotions all around.
Though, through this reread and having seen Anthony perform his stage adaptation of this, I could hear the songs playing in my head as I read.
Raw emotions all around.
Though, through this reread and having seen Anthony perform his stage adaptation of this, I could hear the songs playing in my head as I read.
August 24, 2015
The American Broadway Musical. In my opinion, it is THE only true art form. If anyone can attest to the veracity of that statement it would have to be me. I have seen more musicals in my life than most people I know, and more Original Casts on Broadway than I'd care to remember! But in all the thousands of hours I've spent in theatres in my life no other musical has had the power to touch me so profoundly as seeing the entire Original Broadway Cast of Rent in the summer of 1996, both in June and August respectively.
This was the second time for me reading Anthony's story. I was fortunate enough to meet him and other members of Rent's company after a few of the shows that first summer (I've since seen Rent a total of eighteen times since then in various locales across the country). When I first saw the show it was less than a year after my mother had lost her battle with cancer. Also, I was in the throes of my first real relationship with another man that summer. I guess you could say that all the elements were there to greatly affect me upon seeing it live for the first time. (Amazingly enough, I can still remember the first time that I saw Rent, it rained like hell that night and I was seated in the Orchestra level in seat M 104!)
I think it's amazing reading this story now, with the remove of almost twenty years (!) since it opened on Broadway, winning thunderous acclaim and legions of screaming, devoted fans (the "Rentheads") - still proudly counting myself as one all these years later, mind you! I can remember vividly just how much this show meant to me (and continues to still impact me years later). I had just finished my Sophomore year in college when I first saw Rent. In essence, Rent had become my entire life that year and its creator Jonathan Larson became somewhat of a deity to me. Larson's unexpected death the night before Rent's January, 1996 Off-Broadway opening I believe surely added to my complete and utter fascination with me feeling that I was in essence truly a part of Broadway History being made. To this day, I consider being able to have seen Rent early in its original Broadway run one of my life's signature achievements! It is truly a moment (and time) that I will NEVER forget!!!
ORIGINALLY PUBLISHED IN 2006.
This was the second time for me reading Anthony's story. I was fortunate enough to meet him and other members of Rent's company after a few of the shows that first summer (I've since seen Rent a total of eighteen times since then in various locales across the country). When I first saw the show it was less than a year after my mother had lost her battle with cancer. Also, I was in the throes of my first real relationship with another man that summer. I guess you could say that all the elements were there to greatly affect me upon seeing it live for the first time. (Amazingly enough, I can still remember the first time that I saw Rent, it rained like hell that night and I was seated in the Orchestra level in seat M 104!)
I think it's amazing reading this story now, with the remove of almost twenty years (!) since it opened on Broadway, winning thunderous acclaim and legions of screaming, devoted fans (the "Rentheads") - still proudly counting myself as one all these years later, mind you! I can remember vividly just how much this show meant to me (and continues to still impact me years later). I had just finished my Sophomore year in college when I first saw Rent. In essence, Rent had become my entire life that year and its creator Jonathan Larson became somewhat of a deity to me. Larson's unexpected death the night before Rent's January, 1996 Off-Broadway opening I believe surely added to my complete and utter fascination with me feeling that I was in essence truly a part of Broadway History being made. To this day, I consider being able to have seen Rent early in its original Broadway run one of my life's signature achievements! It is truly a moment (and time) that I will NEVER forget!!!
ORIGINALLY PUBLISHED IN 2006.
February 11, 2023
With Anthony putting on his Without You stage show again, I thought it was the right time to reread (or rather re-listen, thanks to audiobooks) his memoir again. At the same time, it’s been about nine years since I read this, so I enjoyed it like the first time again.
Anthony does well in telling his story by taking a chunk of a time period that would, typically, only be interesting to a certain group of people (i.e. the Rent era) and making it relatable for anyone. He does this with blunt honesty, and as a reader and an avid fan of his, it’s appreciated. It’s absolutely refreshing to see someone in the spotlight not be afraid to tell the truth when it comes to their life. Through his writing, Anthony rightfully embraces his successes, but he also admits his faults and takes ownership of them. It creates this balance in the words, and THAT is what is able to make the book so relatable.
I truly appreciate how in-depth Anthony gets regarding his grief, specifically after his mother dies. That type of grief and sadness when losing a parent is something you cannot understand unless you’ve gone through it. You overthink every conversation that you had with them. You regret things left unsaid. You regret things that WERE said. I know that Anthony and I have spoken about the matter before, but just him putting the concept out there and letting people know that feeling regret when a parent dies is okay, just lets people know that how they may feel really IS okay.
I’ve been an Anthony Rapp fan for just about half my life, and hold the highest respect for him. His memoir is a beautiful book that will have anyone, Renthead or not, feeling the deepest of emotions. While I severely wish that I could see the show in New York, I am grateful to be able to read the written work he has given us.
Anthony does well in telling his story by taking a chunk of a time period that would, typically, only be interesting to a certain group of people (i.e. the Rent era) and making it relatable for anyone. He does this with blunt honesty, and as a reader and an avid fan of his, it’s appreciated. It’s absolutely refreshing to see someone in the spotlight not be afraid to tell the truth when it comes to their life. Through his writing, Anthony rightfully embraces his successes, but he also admits his faults and takes ownership of them. It creates this balance in the words, and THAT is what is able to make the book so relatable.
I truly appreciate how in-depth Anthony gets regarding his grief, specifically after his mother dies. That type of grief and sadness when losing a parent is something you cannot understand unless you’ve gone through it. You overthink every conversation that you had with them. You regret things left unsaid. You regret things that WERE said. I know that Anthony and I have spoken about the matter before, but just him putting the concept out there and letting people know that feeling regret when a parent dies is okay, just lets people know that how they may feel really IS okay.
I’ve been an Anthony Rapp fan for just about half my life, and hold the highest respect for him. His memoir is a beautiful book that will have anyone, Renthead or not, feeling the deepest of emotions. While I severely wish that I could see the show in New York, I am grateful to be able to read the written work he has given us.
September 16, 2008
Anthony Rapp, may be a good actor, but he is a horrible writer. Wow. I only stuck with it, because I have this sick habit of finishing books that I have started. Sigh. I do want to resee the movie----or the show if it was not done.
April 8, 2021
I loved the parts of this book about Rent, but parts of the book that was about Rapp’s personal life, I really struggled to read. He is incredibly open and honest and it could be hard to read.
July 17, 2019
I read this book as I was losing my grandmother. It really hit home with a lot of the grief stages. Anthony Rapp is an amazing actor, singer, writer, but most importantly, an amazing all around human being. I'm very glad I picked up this book when I did.
August 14, 2008
Well, really this is a 3.5 for me. I found it compelling and quick to read, and yet was bugged both by some of the writing and by Rapp himself.
I guess I picked up this book expecting it to be more about his life as a Rent cast member, and there is certainly some of that. I was gripped mainly by the story of his mother - and was really moved to tears many times. I was quite annoyed by the endless stories of his relationships, because somehow it seemed to me that each one was of the greatest importance - until it ended and he moved on to the next one which was so important. That may have bothered me less if he weren't clearly so co-dependent, and yet for someone supposedly so self-aware, he doesn't seem to realize that. I pretty much lost my patience with him when I learned that he stayed with Todd after what I found to be totally unacceptable behavior after his mother's death. I was already cheering for Anthony to get out of that relationship (and couldn't he find another great guy like the one his mom liked?), and yet it continued. For many years. And pretty much then I decided I coudln't really cheer for Rapp anymore, because I just couldn't understand him at all.
I guess I picked up this book expecting it to be more about his life as a Rent cast member, and there is certainly some of that. I was gripped mainly by the story of his mother - and was really moved to tears many times. I was quite annoyed by the endless stories of his relationships, because somehow it seemed to me that each one was of the greatest importance - until it ended and he moved on to the next one which was so important. That may have bothered me less if he weren't clearly so co-dependent, and yet for someone supposedly so self-aware, he doesn't seem to realize that. I pretty much lost my patience with him when I learned that he stayed with Todd after what I found to be totally unacceptable behavior after his mother's death. I was already cheering for Anthony to get out of that relationship (and couldn't he find another great guy like the one his mom liked?), and yet it continued. For many years. And pretty much then I decided I coudln't really cheer for Rapp anymore, because I just couldn't understand him at all.
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
May 25, 2023
Finished my reread of WITHOUT YOU by Anthony Rapp just in time to see his show in NYC. (Hi, Anthony!).
I first read this book shortly after it's release. My brother (and Renthead mentor) recommended it to me. I haven't read the book in its entirety since high school. Since then, I've also left the Catholic church, lived in the East Village of New York, and grown into my thirties. What a wonderful experience to reflect on this book so many years later. I'm elated to see how Anthony has adapted his memoir for the stage. The tissues are packed!
I first read this book shortly after it's release. My brother (and Renthead mentor) recommended it to me. I haven't read the book in its entirety since high school. Since then, I've also left the Catholic church, lived in the East Village of New York, and grown into my thirties. What a wonderful experience to reflect on this book so many years later. I'm elated to see how Anthony has adapted his memoir for the stage. The tissues are packed!
February 18, 2017
This was raw and visceral and felt jarringly honest. Rapp discusses grief in such a compelling manner, and while the narrative begins and ends with Rent, this memoir is so much more personal than I expected (in a great way).
January 24, 2019
I adored this book, which probably isn't surprising considering I'm such a big fan of both Rent and Anthony Rapp. But even then, this book was better than I was expecting. It was so emotional and took me ages to read because I never felt ready for the heartbreak this book brought. I learned so much about Rent and so much about Anthony Rapp, and I can't remember the last time a book made me cry this much.
I don't think there's enough in this book for people who aren't already fans of Anthony Rapp and/or Rent, but if you are a fan, I highly recommend picking this up.
I don't think there's enough in this book for people who aren't already fans of Anthony Rapp and/or Rent, but if you are a fan, I highly recommend picking this up.
November 11, 2022
Heartwarming. Heartbreaking. Informative. A must read if you are a Renthead. Not told in a linear fashion, in entirety but sometimes.
TW: loss of a parent, grief, cancer
TW: loss of a parent, grief, cancer
March 18, 2025
Beautiful audiobook. Loved it.
September 19, 2019
3.5 stars
September 1, 2015
My Grade = 85% - B
In the last year or so, I have collected a series of autobiographies by (fairly) young entertainers: two by Rob Lowe, and one each by Michael J. Fox, Tina Fey, John Barrowman, and Anthony Rapp (all, of course, from thrift stores).
I donated the first four to my local library, but felt a connection to the other two, so I read them. Not only did I see John Barrowman perform on stage, but I watched him carry on at a Soho pub. I am also a great fan of him in Doctor Who, Torchwood, and Arrow.
Anthony Rapp, of course, is best known as creating the role of Mark Cohen in the Broadway and movie versions of Rent and also as Charlie Brown in the Broadway Revival of You're a Good Man, Charlie Brown! When this book first came out, my local theatre invited him to talk about it and sign copies (and, naturally, to sell the book), so, once again, I felt a personal connection.
I did not know until I read the book, that Mr. Rapp had been performing for years before Rent, most notably in Oliver, Adventures in Babysitting, and Dazed and Confused.
The autobiography begins with Anthony's invitation to join a Theatre Workshop for the creation of Jonathan Larson's Rent, a modern retelling of LaBoheme. Mr. Larson, by the way, died on Preview Night.
I was enthralled with the whole production, beginning with the workshop, its moving to Off-Broadway, then Broadway, and then the movie. I loved everything he told us about the show, the music, the other actors and musicians, and everything connected with the production(s) of Rent. And also his personal relationships.
This book, however, was not just about Rent, but also about his relation with his (first) sick, then dying, and eventually dead mother.
I know that this was very important to him, but it did not interest me in the least. I would have rather read about his interest in show business, his earlier plays and movies, and how all this came about. Some items are mentioned or alluded to, but that was it.
Of course, the title of the book is "Without You, a Memoir of Love, Loss, and the Musical Rent, so I guess that was his purpose, but as an audience member, I was just simply not interested.
In the last year or so, I have collected a series of autobiographies by (fairly) young entertainers: two by Rob Lowe, and one each by Michael J. Fox, Tina Fey, John Barrowman, and Anthony Rapp (all, of course, from thrift stores).
I donated the first four to my local library, but felt a connection to the other two, so I read them. Not only did I see John Barrowman perform on stage, but I watched him carry on at a Soho pub. I am also a great fan of him in Doctor Who, Torchwood, and Arrow.
Anthony Rapp, of course, is best known as creating the role of Mark Cohen in the Broadway and movie versions of Rent and also as Charlie Brown in the Broadway Revival of You're a Good Man, Charlie Brown! When this book first came out, my local theatre invited him to talk about it and sign copies (and, naturally, to sell the book), so, once again, I felt a personal connection.
I did not know until I read the book, that Mr. Rapp had been performing for years before Rent, most notably in Oliver, Adventures in Babysitting, and Dazed and Confused.
The autobiography begins with Anthony's invitation to join a Theatre Workshop for the creation of Jonathan Larson's Rent, a modern retelling of LaBoheme. Mr. Larson, by the way, died on Preview Night.
I was enthralled with the whole production, beginning with the workshop, its moving to Off-Broadway, then Broadway, and then the movie. I loved everything he told us about the show, the music, the other actors and musicians, and everything connected with the production(s) of Rent. And also his personal relationships.
This book, however, was not just about Rent, but also about his relation with his (first) sick, then dying, and eventually dead mother.
I know that this was very important to him, but it did not interest me in the least. I would have rather read about his interest in show business, his earlier plays and movies, and how all this came about. Some items are mentioned or alluded to, but that was it.
Of course, the title of the book is "Without You, a Memoir of Love, Loss, and the Musical Rent, so I guess that was his purpose, but as an audience member, I was just simply not interested.
February 9, 2023
So first a confession. First I have never seen Rent. I don't know any of the songs. I discovered Anthony through Star Trek Discovery and then D&D. I had really wanted to have seen his show in New York but living in London that just wasn't practical but then I was really happy to discover there was also a book! So I bought this immediately.
It was utterly wonderful. Even though I didn't know the play it was fascinating learning about the casting and the progression. The tragedy surrounding it. And the juxtaposition between the very wonderful things of this fantastic queer musical doing so phenomenally well. Tied in with the very real tragedy of his Mom dying of cancer was so strong. Because that's so much of what life is, the ultimately wonderful and the ultimately terrible at the same time. And that produces so many conflicting emotions.
I found myself crying through so many of the pages as I was reading them. I lost my own father in May last year. While we both had several decades on Anthony and his mum, I felt the same emotions and felt like I was reliving my own grief while I shared his with him. His mum was so lovely and so supportive of him. The love she felt came shining through the pages. I also loved how utterly honest he was about the whole thing. What he found hard, how it impacted his relationships. When he didn't behave the best he could have. It wasn't the "perfect family" but it was real. And that added so much to the story.
And then there was the whole aspect of growing up queer in the 80s and 90s which I could also relate to. Even when something as terrible as a parent dying and he still had to watch what he said around certain family members. The struggle to come out to yourself and those around you.
I highly recommend this to people struggling with their own grief. Particularly those who've lost a parent. For by sharing it with someone else it is comforting. I've since found the songs on youtube. And will have to go and listen to them. And see how much I can manage before I start crying again <3
It was utterly wonderful. Even though I didn't know the play it was fascinating learning about the casting and the progression. The tragedy surrounding it. And the juxtaposition between the very wonderful things of this fantastic queer musical doing so phenomenally well. Tied in with the very real tragedy of his Mom dying of cancer was so strong. Because that's so much of what life is, the ultimately wonderful and the ultimately terrible at the same time. And that produces so many conflicting emotions.
I found myself crying through so many of the pages as I was reading them. I lost my own father in May last year. While we both had several decades on Anthony and his mum, I felt the same emotions and felt like I was reliving my own grief while I shared his with him. His mum was so lovely and so supportive of him. The love she felt came shining through the pages. I also loved how utterly honest he was about the whole thing. What he found hard, how it impacted his relationships. When he didn't behave the best he could have. It wasn't the "perfect family" but it was real. And that added so much to the story.
And then there was the whole aspect of growing up queer in the 80s and 90s which I could also relate to. Even when something as terrible as a parent dying and he still had to watch what he said around certain family members. The struggle to come out to yourself and those around you.
I highly recommend this to people struggling with their own grief. Particularly those who've lost a parent. For by sharing it with someone else it is comforting. I've since found the songs on youtube. And will have to go and listen to them. And see how much I can manage before I start crying again <3
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