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The 5 Love Languages
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- Autor do best-seller As 5 linguagens do amor -VOCÊ SABE SE COMUNICAR COM SEU ADOLESCENTE?Como os adultos, os adolescentes precisam desesperadamente se sentir amados. Contudo, transmitir essa verdade aos filhos pode ser um grande desafio. As pessoas dão e recebem amor de formas distintas e muitas vezes conflitantes, e as falhas de comunicação podem se tornar dramáticas nessa fase tão confusa da vida que é a adolescência. Pesquisas demonstram que os pais exercem a influência mais significativa na vida de seus filhos. A porta dessa influência é o amor, e, de acordo com o dr. Gary Chapman, a chave para abri-la está em aprender a expressar esse amor numa linguagem que faça sentido para seu filho ou sua filha adolescente.Além de contribuir para o aperfeiçoamento da comunicação, As 5 linguagens do amor dos adolescentes discute alternativas para evitar que seu filho entre na onda de violência e imoralidade que tanto ameaça a juventude de hoje.
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580 books3,511 followersGary Demonte Chapman is an American author and radio talk show host. Chapman is most noted for his The Five Love Languages series regarding human relationships.
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December 5, 2009
I think I finished it. You know what? I KNOW I finished it. It doesn't matter if the statement is true because I refuse to pick it up again.
I can't understand why Gary Chapman would want to write another book about Love Languages (For teens this time) when the people who understood his first one (for spouses) would very likely be able to translate it into love for teens. The only logical explanation appears to be:for the money.
In any case, I don't care for this book. I think the paper it was written on could've been put to better use. I was utterly bored by it, and just to "finish" it was a struggle, because frankly, his style of writing needs editing, and I simply felt like I was being lectured throughout the entire book.
Basically, it's the same thing all over again, but he adds in little things he thinks of just before he decides to begin the next chapter like, "Set rules, but not too many." "Don't treat them like children." "Make the rules specific." "Make the consequences clear BEFORE the act is committed".
Those are about the most memorable three lines in the entire book. And I think it would've fared better if he'd written it like it was an instruction manual, as follows:
1) Determine the primary love language of teenager
2) Love teenager in all the languages
3) Set rule book
4) Treat them like adults
5) Give em sufficient space
6) Continue to love them when they make mistakes
7) Do not assault them
8) Do not spoil them
9) Train them well
10) Teach responsibility
11) Do not attempt behavior modification. May result in robot-like drones that may or may not bear resentment towards you.
Voila! The entire essence of the book could've fit onto 1 page and a lot less trees would've died.
Maybe he caught me on an off mood, but this is just not a book I'd recommend to anyone. Pick up the one for spouses and once one get's it all down pat, it will work for teens too. I'm most definitely not going to be reading the Five Love Languages of Children.
I can't understand why Gary Chapman would want to write another book about Love Languages (For teens this time) when the people who understood his first one (for spouses) would very likely be able to translate it into love for teens. The only logical explanation appears to be:for the money.
In any case, I don't care for this book. I think the paper it was written on could've been put to better use. I was utterly bored by it, and just to "finish" it was a struggle, because frankly, his style of writing needs editing, and I simply felt like I was being lectured throughout the entire book.
Basically, it's the same thing all over again, but he adds in little things he thinks of just before he decides to begin the next chapter like, "Set rules, but not too many." "Don't treat them like children." "Make the rules specific." "Make the consequences clear BEFORE the act is committed".
Those are about the most memorable three lines in the entire book. And I think it would've fared better if he'd written it like it was an instruction manual, as follows:
1) Determine the primary love language of teenager
2) Love teenager in all the languages
3) Set rule book
4) Treat them like adults
5) Give em sufficient space
6) Continue to love them when they make mistakes
7) Do not assault them
8) Do not spoil them
9) Train them well
10) Teach responsibility
11) Do not attempt behavior modification. May result in robot-like drones that may or may not bear resentment towards you.
Voila! The entire essence of the book could've fit onto 1 page and a lot less trees would've died.
Maybe he caught me on an off mood, but this is just not a book I'd recommend to anyone. Pick up the one for spouses and once one get's it all down pat, it will work for teens too. I'm most definitely not going to be reading the Five Love Languages of Children.
June 3, 2011
The only reason I caught up to this series is because our bookgroup chose it. I surmised the gist of the method but had avoided it, perceiving it too "hocus/pocus, touchy/feely" for my likes. I intended to skim and quickly return it to the library. Imagine my surprise upon discovering parenting stategies that could have been so meaningful years and children ago. My loss, and my family's loss. Chapman has a gift for serving it straight up in a way that is neither belittling or naive. I credit him for his experience and ablility to sort complex issues into realistic application. I enjoyed the book's concrete examples and suggestions vs. abstract theories. With children ages 20, 18, 17 and 12 I walked away from this book a better parent, but not as effective as I could have been reading it a decade ago.
December 29, 2022
Despre limbajele iubirii e posibil să mai fi auzit în relațiile de cuplu, cred că pentru asta au și fost definite. Aceste limbaje reprezintă modul în care o persoană înțelege că este iubită. Aceste limbaje sunt: cuvintele (declarațiile de iubire, de ex), timpul, cadourile, serviciile și atingerile.
Ideea principală a acestor limbaje e că partenerul/partenera trebuie să-ți „vorbească” în aceste limbaje, altfel n-o să te simți iubit(ă). Degeaba îți aduce cineva cadouri, dacă limbajul tău este timpul. Degeaba te giugiulește cineva toată ziua, dacă limbajul tău e reprezentat de servicii. Degeaba îți face cineva declarații înfocate, dacă tu vrei atingeri. Și așa mai departe.
Aceste limbaje ale iubirii sunt valabile și la adolescenți în aproximativ aceeași formă (și sunt împărțite și în dialecte, uneori). Chapman detaliază pentru fiecare limbaj metoda cea mai bună de a-l ”vorbi” astfel încât adolescentul nostru să se simtă iubit, înțeles și acceptat.
”Cauza răzvrătirii adolescenților nu este impunerea autorității, ci exercitarea arbitrară a puterii, fără prea multe explicații în ceea ce privește regulile și fără niciun fel de implicare a acestora în luarea deciziilor.”
Cartea conține multe sfaturi foarte bune și un test la final, pe care să-l dați adolescentului să-l completeze. Eu așa am aflat că limbajul fiicei mele este reprezentat de cuvinte, nu de timp, așa cum credeam eu.
Ideea principală a acestor limbaje e că partenerul/partenera trebuie să-ți „vorbească” în aceste limbaje, altfel n-o să te simți iubit(ă). Degeaba îți aduce cineva cadouri, dacă limbajul tău este timpul. Degeaba te giugiulește cineva toată ziua, dacă limbajul tău e reprezentat de servicii. Degeaba îți face cineva declarații înfocate, dacă tu vrei atingeri. Și așa mai departe.
Aceste limbaje ale iubirii sunt valabile și la adolescenți în aproximativ aceeași formă (și sunt împărțite și în dialecte, uneori). Chapman detaliază pentru fiecare limbaj metoda cea mai bună de a-l ”vorbi” astfel încât adolescentul nostru să se simtă iubit, înțeles și acceptat.
”Cauza răzvrătirii adolescenților nu este impunerea autorității, ci exercitarea arbitrară a puterii, fără prea multe explicații în ceea ce privește regulile și fără niciun fel de implicare a acestora în luarea deciziilor.”
Cartea conține multe sfaturi foarte bune și un test la final, pe care să-l dați adolescentului să-l completeze. Eu așa am aflat că limbajul fiicei mele este reprezentat de cuvinte, nu de timp, așa cum credeam eu.
April 14, 2014
I was concerned that this book would get a little repetitive if it was only about love languages (which is a brilliant and useful concept). However, it was an all around great book about parenting teens. The author talked about changing the way we parent teens, setting boundaries, dealing with anger, listening, maintaining a good relationship, etc. And of course, the love language concept is a very important component of loving your teen well. If you can only read one book about parenting your teenager, I recommend this one!
October 15, 2013
I liked the book, The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate, so I bought this - I am going to have a teenager soon. And I am extremely disappointed in my purchase. I found this to be vaguely racist and homophobic, and also just poorly written.
September 12, 2012
The author has been a marriage/family counselor for over 30 years who addresses relationship issues from a Christian worldview. His main premise, that we all need unconditional love and that we all have a certain "love language" as part of our personality by which we most like to give and receive love. The trick is to discover your teen's primary love language and to express it as often as possible. I always wondered why my mother never gave me hugs and kisses, but lost buttons would magically appear re-sewn onto my clothing and the best portions of meat would show up on my plate (Acts of Service). I used to wonder why my father-in-law seems so materialistic, giving us lots of gifts all the time (Giving of Gifts). I used to wonder why my former boyfriend always had to hold my hand *all* the time (Physical Touch). I wonder why I feel closest to my husband after doing something fun on a nice date (Quality Time). You get the picture. The last of the 5 love languages is Words of Affirmation. This idea of the 5 love languages has hit the secular counseling circles and is in our best interest to learn something about it to improve our relationships.
October 14, 2017
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After finishing the audiobook above, I moved on the the version of love languages specific to teens. At times, it was insightful and made me think of what love language was important to each of my children.
This book may have had some great messages but I did not relate to the religious messaging and did not think the examples were representative of the issues that today’s teens experience. The tone seemed to express homophobic views as he talked about “immorality” and because of this, it will be the last time I read or listen to a book by this author.
After finishing the audiobook above, I moved on the the version of love languages specific to teens. At times, it was insightful and made me think of what love language was important to each of my children.
This book may have had some great messages but I did not relate to the religious messaging and did not think the examples were representative of the issues that today’s teens experience. The tone seemed to express homophobic views as he talked about “immorality” and because of this, it will be the last time I read or listen to a book by this author.
March 23, 2018
I had read the Love Languages of Marriage and the Love Language of Children several years ago. Now, in the season of parenting a 16 year old and a 14 year old, I thought I could use both a refresher course on the Love Languages and some new skills to help me improve in connecting and communicating with my teens.
This book was not simply a refresher course. It offers a lot of material not found in the book for children.
What was particularly helpful for me about this edition was the concept that although the Love Languages of children do not change, the dialects with which we speak these languages do need to change.
Dr. Chapman offers helpful suggestions of what these new dialects could look like, in each chapter devoted the 5 love languages.
He also teaches that the expressions of love appreciated in childhood are often rejected in the teen years, not because the teen no longer want or need our love, but because they are reminders of childhood dependence.
Teens who developmentally desire independence and self-identity still need love communicated in large quantities in their primary language as well as in the other four languages. They simply need this love communicated in new dialects, ones that communicate we see them as they are today and are supportive of them in their journey to adulthood. This was something I needed to hear.
There are chapters that address communication with teens and anger, love and responsibility love and independence and love and failure. Dr. Chapman emphasizes how to express love for your teens while helping them navigate the consequences that come with their choices. All excellent reads.
There is also a chapter with suggestions specifically for Single parents and Blended Families.
Overall, I appreciate that Dr. Chapman affirms that being a teen and being the parent of a teen is hard at times and that he offers a plethora of encouragement and practical suggestions for parents who are looking to love well.
March 2, 2016
**true rating 3.5
The first '5 Love Languages' book I've read: very practical but a bit redundant. Chapman speaks from his own experience and other parents he has counseled--he knows his stuff. However, Chapman strongly appeals to one specific sect of families: suburban, Christian, middle-class, white families. This is understandable. Chapman is not a minority, therefore he has no expertise to speak into the complicated minority parent-teenager struggle. I've personally read this to understand how to love better as a youth pastor--some things were very valuable.
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The first '5 Love Languages' book I've read: very practical but a bit redundant. Chapman speaks from his own experience and other parents he has counseled--he knows his stuff. However, Chapman strongly appeals to one specific sect of families: suburban, Christian, middle-class, white families. This is understandable. Chapman is not a minority, therefore he has no expertise to speak into the complicated minority parent-teenager struggle. I've personally read this to understand how to love better as a youth pastor--some things were very valuable.
cf. www.sooholee.wordpress.com
February 27, 2014
This book found me at the library. When I say that, what I mean is that I work at the library and every so often a book will cross my path and speak to me and tell me to read it. This was one of those books.
My kids and I are going through a big change in our lives right now, and one of my priorities is to really connect with them and show them how important they are to me. After reading this book and having my kids all take the online assessment, I really feel like I have a better sense of how to do that.
The book was a very quick read~ a little over 24 hours for me~ and I feel like the information I've gathered is going to help me in a multitude of ways once I put it into action. The result of a little reading and some energy directed in the right way will be solid relationships with four of the people that matter most to me in life.
My kids and I are going through a big change in our lives right now, and one of my priorities is to really connect with them and show them how important they are to me. After reading this book and having my kids all take the online assessment, I really feel like I have a better sense of how to do that.
The book was a very quick read~ a little over 24 hours for me~ and I feel like the information I've gathered is going to help me in a multitude of ways once I put it into action. The result of a little reading and some energy directed in the right way will be solid relationships with four of the people that matter most to me in life.
January 12, 2016
UGGGGHHHHHH....I've heard of the 5 love languages and I thought I've got a teenager, why not give it a try? A painful read...then I see it's the 4th edition. This guy has had one idea and has milked it for 20 or more years. I'm a Christian and I still found his leanings toward the Christian way, heavy handed. Not only has he milked the concept for every age group (upon further study) he also says the same thing about in five different chapters. What I learned. Not much but I did spend some time talking with my smart daughter who already knew what her "love language" is....and I'll just talk her advice and not read anything else by this guy.
July 27, 2012
Loved this book. If you have teens, you need this book. I read the first Love Languages and found it extremely helpful. This is basically the same but it goes into more detail of how to navigate the languages for the unique needs of your teen. For example, if your child's language is physical touch, how do you show that appropriately to your teenager. It helps you understand how best to show that love and then when to back off. I am planning on reading it again so the messages can really sink in.
August 22, 2010
I think this was a really helpful book to read - to try to understand my teenager a little better. I say try, because it's a constant battle. What I didn't like about the book is that most of the things that we battle over - the author relates it to their trying to be in control of their lives, and define themselves as their own person. While I value that, there are times when they still need to do things with their family, or what we ask - just because we ask them to.
April 2, 2020
Although there are some interesting insights at times, and some techniques that I can see how can be helpful in finding a connection to our teenagers, the homophobia is unbearable as well as the clear campaign to be a traditional Christian family as the ultimate goal.
Word of advice for adoptive parents: don't even try! Our families are not even considered and some chapters might actually stir our own fears without giving us any useful advice.
Word of advice for adoptive parents: don't even try! Our families are not even considered and some chapters might actually stir our own fears without giving us any useful advice.
September 1, 2023
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November 19, 2017
Couldn’t do it. Did not expect this book to be religious!
March 23, 2024
I don't really buy into the whole idea that everyone has one primary love language, but this has been the best parenting of teens books that I've read to date. It can be so hard to show love to someone who thinks they know everything and you and your husband are just crazy idiots. Not only did this book help with this, but it also helped with everything else that goes along with parenting a teenager. It's not perfect (cheesy examples) and has some parts that are skimmable, but if I highly recommend it to all parents navigating the teen years. I borrowed it from the library, but actually bought a hard copy for my husband to read.
March 31, 2017
Initially, I was skeptical. Having read Chapman's primary "5 Love Languages", I thought that this might be an attempt to repackage the same material and sell another book. I was wrong.
In this book, Chapman does indeed re-introduce the concept of the 5 Love Languages, but through the lens of teenagers, the material is quite different. As usual, the author creates a wonderful mix of resonant wisdom, poignant stories to illustrate his points, and gentle encouragement for those parents who have turned to this book for help. Personally, I found a lot of great suggestions on how to better demonstrate love for my teen and I'd be surprised if any/every parent couldn't do the same.
I recommend this book to anyone who's been mystified by the sudden changes in their teen's attitude or demeanor. Yes, some of the issues belong to them, but it's possible that many of them stem from an empty love tank and a sense of neglect. This book is challenging, but very worthwhile. Thanks for taking the time to read my review!
In this book, Chapman does indeed re-introduce the concept of the 5 Love Languages, but through the lens of teenagers, the material is quite different. As usual, the author creates a wonderful mix of resonant wisdom, poignant stories to illustrate his points, and gentle encouragement for those parents who have turned to this book for help. Personally, I found a lot of great suggestions on how to better demonstrate love for my teen and I'd be surprised if any/every parent couldn't do the same.
I recommend this book to anyone who's been mystified by the sudden changes in their teen's attitude or demeanor. Yes, some of the issues belong to them, but it's possible that many of them stem from an empty love tank and a sense of neglect. This book is challenging, but very worthwhile. Thanks for taking the time to read my review!
August 11, 2018
As someone who very much appreciates Gary Chapman's 5 Love Languages tool, I was looking forward to seeing how he applies it to parenting teenagers. This book is full of some really good advice, and I would certainly recommend it. There are a couple of things that weaken the overall impact of the book, however. First of all, though Chapman is a Christian (an associate pastor), this book is not explicitly Christian. He talks about religious traditions and faith traditions, but the author doesn't ground his ideas and principles firmly in the Triune God of Scripture. Thus his approach is incomplete. Second, he assumes a situation in which kids are in public schools and a culture in which dating, rather than courtship, is the norm. While this is, indeed, the situation for most people who will read this book, the application is limited for homeschoolers. As I said though, overall the book is good, and there's a great deal of material packed in here on which to ruminate.
October 31, 2013
Most people associate the "love languages" books with trying to make sense of a spouse's needs within the context of marriage, but the "teenagers" version is equally useful, if not as well known. Lots of great parenting material in here, but the most useful part is the love languages test, which a teenager can take to reveal what their needs are to themselves and to their parent/guardian. This is really valuable info for a parent who feels they don't know how to relate to their teenager... The book is further divided by "language," so once a parent knows their teen's love language they can learn concrete ways to relate to them better. Good stuff.
July 12, 2011
Not sure if the premise is correct about the five languages of love and their consequences in parenting, but the author does give some fairly obvious observations about how and why to foster the independence of a teenager. The religious referrals are particularly suspect in that their inclusion in essentially a how-to book from a psychologist (scientist) makes me question the science behind his advice. Yet, some things in this book are useful. Apparently, I need all the help I can get.
October 11, 2016
The counselor at my 7th grader's school recommended this as a guide to parent teenagers. This would probably be better suited for parents who are more religious. After reading this book, I would opt to recommend "How to talk so your teenager will listen, and how to listen so your teenager will talk."
June 24, 2018
Chapman provides helpful insight into parenting teenagers. It helped me identify my children's love languages and understand why they do some of the things they do. It was a worthwhile read.
April 18, 2020
It was really good but I would suggest not letting your teens read it.... Just saying.
August 21, 2024
Not only does this give very concrete examples of how to love your teenagers in their specific love language, it also walks through how to love teens in the tumultuous years. I found it very helpful for dealing with all sorts of issues we are struggling with as parents of teens.
December 18, 2016
I first encountered Chapman's 5 Love Languages a few years ago through internet quizzes and articles and then his book. I found the concept intriguing, and laid out so clearly that anyone can read it and put the ideas into practice right away. It was obvious that he came from a Christian point of view, which didn't bother me, although I am not a Christian, and I could see his Conservative stance at work as well, which I mostly ignored (his couple example where the wife was being physically abused yet he encouraged her to stay in the marriage and change her husband was quite disturbing, although in this rare case, successful).
I picked up the 5 Love Languages of Teenagers because my daughter is turning 12 soon and I thought it might be helpful. And it is. I appreciated the translation from adult partners to parent/child. She took the quiz in the back, got some unexpected results, and we talked a bit about what it meant.
The problem is politics. Here the Christian point of view has expanded such that Chapman addresses every reader as if s/he too were a Christian. In the section about teens questioning their parents' religion (a fine section to include...it's not religion I object to), he mentions how a teen may wish to "no longer go to Mass, the synagogue, Sunday school, or the mosque." And this is the only indication in the entire book that Chapman even acknowledges that there are religions besides Christianity. All other examples say "church" and that's that.
Then there is his idea of the horrors that today's teens may encounter. Things like living in a world where "homosexual relationships are being promoted as alternative lifestyles. Indeed, the words bisexual and transgender are common vocabulary for the modern teen." And things like meeting people who don't keep strictly to traditional male/female roles (I find it interesting that he has several examples of mothers who work, either in a duel working couple or as a single parent, but not a single hint of a family where a mother works and a father stays at home). And divorce is right up there with the evils of abuse and illegal drug use.
That being said, Chapman does a fine job of giving advice for families who are single parent, shared custody, or that include stepparents. There is a large section of the book dedicated to that. Where he falters is with his section on sexual abuse. I'm glad he addresses it, and physical abuse as well, but his approach leaves much to be desired.
Like with his beliefs on martial abuse in his earlier book, he puts all the responsibility on the wife (there is zero understanding of the concept that a woman might abuse or that a man might sexually abuse boys in his family, regardless of his own sexual orientation—the two being completely separate). It is her responsibility not just to protect her teenager but to change the husband so that he realizes what he is doing is wrong and stops. Yes, he addresses the husband directly in the book, but rightly realizes the futility of that. Only later in the book is there a hint that being married to someone who rapes your children might actually destroy the marriage, you know, if you fail at your appointed task of stopping him.
I gritted my teeth at the politics, religious assumptions (as well as the push for religion in general), and horrible advice for abusive families, and managed to finish the book. There's a lot of good in there. He has a clear vision of love and caring and how to express it to others in a way they will want to receive. That vision alone is worth reading the book for, though I knocked off points for the rest.
I picked up the 5 Love Languages of Teenagers because my daughter is turning 12 soon and I thought it might be helpful. And it is. I appreciated the translation from adult partners to parent/child. She took the quiz in the back, got some unexpected results, and we talked a bit about what it meant.
The problem is politics. Here the Christian point of view has expanded such that Chapman addresses every reader as if s/he too were a Christian. In the section about teens questioning their parents' religion (a fine section to include...it's not religion I object to), he mentions how a teen may wish to "no longer go to Mass, the synagogue, Sunday school, or the mosque." And this is the only indication in the entire book that Chapman even acknowledges that there are religions besides Christianity. All other examples say "church" and that's that.
Then there is his idea of the horrors that today's teens may encounter. Things like living in a world where "homosexual relationships are being promoted as alternative lifestyles. Indeed, the words bisexual and transgender are common vocabulary for the modern teen." And things like meeting people who don't keep strictly to traditional male/female roles (I find it interesting that he has several examples of mothers who work, either in a duel working couple or as a single parent, but not a single hint of a family where a mother works and a father stays at home). And divorce is right up there with the evils of abuse and illegal drug use.
That being said, Chapman does a fine job of giving advice for families who are single parent, shared custody, or that include stepparents. There is a large section of the book dedicated to that. Where he falters is with his section on sexual abuse. I'm glad he addresses it, and physical abuse as well, but his approach leaves much to be desired.
Like with his beliefs on martial abuse in his earlier book, he puts all the responsibility on the wife (there is zero understanding of the concept that a woman might abuse or that a man might sexually abuse boys in his family, regardless of his own sexual orientation—the two being completely separate). It is her responsibility not just to protect her teenager but to change the husband so that he realizes what he is doing is wrong and stops. Yes, he addresses the husband directly in the book, but rightly realizes the futility of that. Only later in the book is there a hint that being married to someone who rapes your children might actually destroy the marriage, you know, if you fail at your appointed task of stopping him.
I gritted my teeth at the politics, religious assumptions (as well as the push for religion in general), and horrible advice for abusive families, and managed to finish the book. There's a lot of good in there. He has a clear vision of love and caring and how to express it to others in a way they will want to receive. That vision alone is worth reading the book for, though I knocked off points for the rest.
December 31, 2021
Really great advice on how to connect with and show love to your kids, honoring their unique personalities and preferences during these transitional teenage years. I currently have 2 teens and 1 preteen, and in these last few weeks as I've been listening to this book I think I have been able to understand them better.
The book goes through the Five Love Languages and how to recognize them and apply them to your teenagers. That was only the first half of the book, though, and I wondered what would be in the rest of the book. The second half talks about common challenges and topics with raising teens and advice on how to parent through those issues in general, and in using the Five Love Languages. I found I even learned from the chapters that didn't specifically apply to my children (for example the chapters on single parenthood and blended families).
A common theme in this book is how to teach your kids using the double-sided coin of freedom and responsibility.
This audiobook is in high demand through my library system on Libby. I put it on hold June 2020 and finally got it 15 months and 3 days later, in September 2021. When it became available I dropped everything else I was reading so I could read the entire book in my allotted time. I knew I wouldn't get it for another year+ if I needed to check it out again. I finished it 3 minutes before it was automatically returned! 😆
The book goes through the Five Love Languages and how to recognize them and apply them to your teenagers. That was only the first half of the book, though, and I wondered what would be in the rest of the book. The second half talks about common challenges and topics with raising teens and advice on how to parent through those issues in general, and in using the Five Love Languages. I found I even learned from the chapters that didn't specifically apply to my children (for example the chapters on single parenthood and blended families).
A common theme in this book is how to teach your kids using the double-sided coin of freedom and responsibility.
This audiobook is in high demand through my library system on Libby. I put it on hold June 2020 and finally got it 15 months and 3 days later, in September 2021. When it became available I dropped everything else I was reading so I could read the entire book in my allotted time. I knew I wouldn't get it for another year+ if I needed to check it out again. I finished it 3 minutes before it was automatically returned! 😆
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August 30, 2008This is a great review for parents of teenagers. It talks about the different methods that we can express love to our teenagers, when and how to utilize them, and how the five love languages apply to kids when they become teenagers versus when they were children.
I highly recommend this book for all parents-- and read it BEFORE they become teenagers so that you are prepared to grow and 'change' with them! Of course, I highly recommend the book The Five Love Languages of Children for all parents of children.
I highly recommend this book for all parents-- and read it BEFORE they become teenagers so that you are prepared to grow and 'change' with them! Of course, I highly recommend the book The Five Love Languages of Children for all parents of children.
August 28, 2017
This book has been one of the most useful parenting books I have ever read. Rather than methodology, it focuses on how to love your teen in a way that they will receive it. It builds on the premise that if a person feels emotional love from those closest to him or her, it will radically impact relationships and choices for the good.
I actually got quite a lot of encouragement and conviction out of these pages, but no condemnation. No promises or guarantees implying that my teens will "turn out right" in the end if I just follow some formula. It's a practical how-to guide on loving another person.
I needed every word.
I actually got quite a lot of encouragement and conviction out of these pages, but no condemnation. No promises or guarantees implying that my teens will "turn out right" in the end if I just follow some formula. It's a practical how-to guide on loving another person.
I needed every word.
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