Finding Love Again: 6 Simple Steps to a New and Happy Relationship

by Terri Orbuch

Based on a groundbreaking 25-year study of marriage, divorce, and new love―finding the right one just became 100% possible. Whether you're divorced or separated, out of a long-term relationship, or newly dating after a long break, Finding Love Again will help you prepare for a healthy and fulfilling new relationship. Brimming with stunning original findings, first-person stories, and eye-opening advice, Finding Love Again shows you simple, practical strategies that have been shown time and again to help singles find someone special. Dr. Terri L. Orbuch, renowned relationship expert and director of a pioneering relationship study, shows Finding Love Again shows proven strategies that can help anyone find love again.

Genres: Relationships, Nonfiction

272 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 2009

Reviews

[Glenda · Rating 2 out of 5]

Was next to another book that I was looking for at the library so I grabbed it up as well.

Nothing particularly new. Easy to read with some interesting reference examples. I was hoping for more information from the studies than was provided in terms of advice.

[Peejay(Pamela) · Rating 2 out of 5]

More applicable to someone who is fresh out of a relationship than to someone like me whose last relationship ended 20 years ago. But I suppose it could be useful for those newly alone.

[CraftyBirdies · Rating 5 out of 5]

Having recently divorced, I read a few books about coping and dating again. I really disliked three books before I got to this one because so many of them were written based on personal experiences and were very specific to certain divorce circumstances. Since every situation is different, I enjoyed reading this book because it applies to a wider audience; it doesn't focus on the narrow scenario of being deserted out of the blue, feeling shocked, and being unable to function on your own because you've never done it before. That was why I disliked the first three books because that scenario didn't apply to me, which made each book essentially useless. I really appreciate the broader approach of this book

The great thing for me about this book was how it helped me think about and process both my divorce and my dating future. I read this before I'm actually ready to date, let alone fall in love, but it had some very helpful tips to get in the right mindset. The part about getting to an emotionally neutral place about your breakup was monumental to me, and it really helped me work on processing those emotions to get me headed in that direction. It also talked about finding things you want to do and any character traits you want to develop, which got me thinking even more.

Quite a few reviewers mentioned it had basic information that repeats other information out there, but I didn't find that to be true. However, that's probably because I haven't dated in so long that it feels newer to me! Sure some of the information about how to be safe on a first date I already knew, but it also felt good to know I had a handle on that part already. I liked that this book was written by a psychologist and based on studies and research while also including specific people's stories as examples. Overall, I would recommend this book to someone who will have to start dating again after a breakup. People should probably read more than one book since different things will speak to different people, but this book has some good activities to get you thinking about processing the breakup, what's important to you in a potential date, and the type of person/date you want to be.

[Bear Smith · Rating 4 out of 5]

I can only imagine the impact this book would have had on me had I read it immediately following the dissolution of my marriage. Reading it now, after years of therapy and focusing on improving myself, the contents of this book were a review of the work that I have already done and lessons that I have already learned. Which shows how truthful and important the contents of Dr. Orbuch's work is - now, 14 years after the publication of this book, it's still the information that therapists are using and teaching.

If I have any complaint about this work, it's that it desperately needs a revision as dating in 2026 looks very, very different from dating in 2012 when this book was published. The paragraphs about online dating in this book are now quaint, as the digital world has expanded so greatly since then.

I still highly recommend the book, though, and am very glad to have read it. There is a mountain of valuable information in this.

[T · Rating 3 out of 5]

good advice, though a lot will be things you’ve heard before. that being said, knowing that the info is based on long-term studies and research definitely helped me to take it more seriously, and replace existing “common wisdom” with things from this book! so far ive followed two activities and one piece of advice from the book, and they’ve all had a really positive impact!

[John Orman · Rating 3 out of 5]

Fairly standard treatment of ways to meet someone new. Describes a 21 day action play to make small changes in habits and attitudes. Somewhat useful, but mainly a lot of common sense about forming relationships.

[Nancy · Rating 3 out of 5]

Some interesting ideas, exercises for understanding each other.

[Jenni · Rating 3 out of 5]

I am not close to being ready for any of this, but it gave me good things to think about.

[Jmp · Rating 3 out of 5]

Just ok.

[Pinar G · Rating 2 out of 5]

Known facts and parts from Men are from Mars, women are from Venus.