Oof.
5% in and I am already considering dnf.
"Most of these women want a Dominant. They want to be able to rely on safe words. I don’t provide that. It’s something I’m not interested in. I want a woman's complete trust. Or at least her utter reliance on me, and total obedience."
Can we say toxic? Red flags? Abusive? Yes. Yes, we can. Maybe he has some character growth to go through, I certainly hope so. As a member of the bdsm community for over a decade, reading this made me physically ill. Anyone with this mindset in real life should not be trusted as a person to share any kind of dynamic with. No.
I'll continue and hope he grows up and sees how wrong this mindset is. If not I'll already say not to read it for any realistic expectations of a healthy bdsm dynamic.
Sure, there are dynamics that have no use for safe words because they have been together for so long and have the comfort to not use them anymore, but they still HAVE them. Any new dynamic should always have safe words and if anyone tells you different, don't walk, you fucking run from that inexperienced and dangerous idiot.
Also, I will say if this does not change in any way the author should have a warning in the book stating that this is not a depiction of a healthy BDSM relationship. This is conducive to an abusive one.
7% in...
"It’s been a long time since a Slave has arrived. Someone who’s capable of trusting so wholeheartedly that they’re willing to give herself completely over to a Master."
THAT IS EVERY SINGLE DYNAMIC. PERIOD. AND ALL DYNAMICS SHOULD HAVE SAFE WORDS. Just because they are a Master doesn't make them fuckkng special or different to other shared dynamics within the bdsm community. All partners should trust and be willing. You are literally trusting someone with your body and your consent. I would dare say a rope bunny has way more faith in their partner that ties them than a slave does to a Master that whips them.
Seriously. Does this author know anything about dynamics? I want to scream at this fucking book. It is glaringly obvious the author doesn't have the knowledge needed for this kind of book. You can't make up your own ideals and boundaries to something that is real and quite serious, like bdsm. No. You either show people that think safe words are beneath them ARE FUCKING CRAZY or you don't write something you know nothing about. End of.
And he wants to take a girl that was abused, mentally and physically scarred, and get her into a M/s dynamic without safe words??? What the absolute fucking hell is this???
11% in
"I don’t want a safe word, I don’t want negotiation and compromise. I demand complete submission, and nothing less. It’s fucked up, but I want it."
WELL, AT LEAST YOU ADMIT YOURE A FUCKED UP HUMAN. BECAUSE THIS IS ABUSIVE AND TOXIC. Jesus.
This girl was kidnapped and kept for four years and now she wants to be in bdsm dynamic to basically relive her abuse but on her terms. I completely understand that, but with her inner dialogue and how she clearly states she isn't healed from it, she needs therapy not kinky sex. It is one thing to engage in a dynamic, fully aware of why but healed and in a healthy mindset for it, versus, entering a dynamic with no idea why. YOU DON'T DO THIS.
This whole review is going to turn into a rant of how wrong the bdsm community is portrayed which is shitty when I enjoyed the first book.
15% in
"I’ve hacked into the support group that I know Katia is an active member in. Extremely active. She comes on daily, and is one of only a handful of users in here."
"I’ve created my own account and made a false identity. I didn’t provide any major details, but most of the profiles here are lacking. I know it’s wrong, but I want to get to know her."
Well, if that's not stalker behavior and incredibly invasive I don't know what is. And I am supposed to like this guy, right? He isn't the bad guy? Are we sure? How manipulative. Disgusting.
Okay no. I'M DONE.
He decides to pull her into a private chat on her SUPPORT GROUP and talk to her about the abuse she went through with the guy that apparently broke her jaw, arm twice and etc... she states that she knew she was safe with him because she knew she wouldn't die in his hands. And now she wants another Master to dominate her.
AND HE IS GETTING TURNED ON. HIS DICK IS LITERALLY GETTING HARD AS SHE IS TELLING HIM WHAT SHE WENT THROUGH.
I will be dnfing.