This goes on my list of favorite anthropology books! It's an auto-biographical account of someone that ran away from home, sort of on accident, and was adopted into the Lowara tribe of the Rom people. He describes his life and the world that he lived in during that time. It was written in the 1930's and ends with the beginning of WWII. He loves the people deeply, and there are some touching moments between these covers.
Some observations I found interesting:
* The Lowara have really strong chastity/purity-related taboos. For example, anything that touches a woman's skirt is marhime, or ritually impure. There is an episode in the story where girls from a less scrupulous tribe gather strawberries and bring them to a camp shared with the Lowara. At first people are very happy to see the harvest, but then there are whispers that the berries may be marhime, which no one jokes about. Someone questions the girls for a while, and it is found that the girls walked single file through a field of strawberries, meaning that the girls in the back likely picked from plants that were touched by the skirts of the girls in the front. They had to throw all the berries out! Another time, a woman's husband was being badly beaten by a group of drunk men. She kept telling them to stop, but they would not, and as a last resort she ripped off one of her outer skirts and flailed all the men with it. They were shocked and horrified and of course stopped immediately: they were all marhime! They would have to live outside the company until the next tribunal could absolve them.
* The Rom liked being outsiders, and intentionally engaged in behavior that made people want to avoid them, from itching and coughing to encouraging rumors and begging and acting like they had magic powers. Outsiders were called Gaje, and Gaje were to be fooled and used (not violently, but certainly exploitatively). The entire world of the Gaje was essentially public domain, with the Rom holding hunting rights. They did not recognize the authority of Gaje governments (e.g. governments of Germany, France, etc.), and they viewed the focus on writing with disdain. They kept no records, and did their best to obtain legal papers in as many countries as possible to make traveling easier.
* For example, the Rom marry younger than is allowed by Gaje laws, so generally when a baby is born to a new couple, a random pair of people take the baby to a town hall to be registered (need those travel papers!). It might be an 80-year-old lady who clearly couldn't have children, but the bewildered bureaucrat has to give them the papers! There are unfortunate episodes where the authorities found out about a 12- or 14-year-old having a baby, and the girl is apprehended and taken to a reform school of some kind, with the baby taken somewhere else, which is absolutely awful.
* The attitude towards clothing and hair were also fascinating; I think many people have seen pictures of super dirty people outside a wagon, which is an awful image for us. For the people described by the author, shoes, clean clothes and well-kept hair are a sign of superficial Gajo culture and are unbecoming of a Rom. The children wipe food grease in their hair, and no one bothers washing their clothes, simply getting new ones when the old are worn out. This of course will also have the benefit of keeping the Gaje away :D There is an interesting episode where the author and another teenager get a nice new suit in town, and when they return to the camp they get a lot of compliments. The author's (adopted) dad admires the suit and his son, then lovingly grabs one of the lapels and tears it. There's a Romani saying: may you live a long healthy life while your clothes tear and fall apart. Living a vivacious life with your family and kumpania contrasts in their eyes with the fleeting, vain nature of worldly possessions, which must become old and wear out.
* There is another group, members of the Tchurara, who are less scrupulous and treat Gaje with more disdain. There's a very unfortunate period of time in the book where a Tchurara kumpania is traveling ahead of the Lowara kumpania, wantonly stealing and causing property damage wherever they go; this causes the local populace to be very hostile to all of them, and they have a very tough season of traveling, with much difficulty getting food and water.
* The Rom are a diverse people. The Lowara were extremely conservative, highly formal (even if often mock formal), did not play musical instruments, were nomadic, etc. The author's dad uses the Tchurara as an anti-example, and the author meets Kalderasha at some point and finds them uncomfortably different. Groups within groups within groups, as humans always are.
One last note: the author uses the term Gypsy and has no ill-meaning with it. I was told recently by a European that this is a slur, though I've used it for my entire life with no negative connotation, and doing a bit of research I only see (some) people (in the US at least) avoiding the term in the last few years. I assume that there's some lingering memory of animosity among Europeans, while in America they had a fresh start (and are apparently largely assimilated), so the term could not really develop into a slur among us.
The author's dad tells him that Gypsies are in every land, in some places settled and integrated and some even, sadly, *ashamed* of their Gypsy origins. The book is a love letter to his culture, which prided itself on its independence and strictly refused assimilation, espousing an identity as an outsider among Gaje while stubbornly considering *everyone else* the real outsiders. The pose of the boy on the front cover says it all: "This is us. Handle it!"